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How To Stop Shoulding Yourself

  • Writer: Brainz Magazine
    Brainz Magazine
  • Feb 23, 2023
  • 3 min read

Updated: Mar 8, 2023

Written by: Victoria Hart, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

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Do you feel overwhelmed and find yourself living based on what you think you’re supposed to be or do? What would life look like if your only responsibility was to honour yourself?

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Most days, Virginia felt anxious.


“Today is a good day,” she told me. “But I'm unclear how tomorrow will be.”


At the time, she was looking for work and trying to tackle a gazillion things in a day. On days when she accomplished a lot she felt good about herself, yet on days when she hadn't been particularly productive, she felt bad about herself. More often than not, she had difficulty focusing as she strived for perfection.


If we can't accept our own perfect imperfections, how can we accept or be accepted by others as they are?


Rather than tending to the present moment, she would worry about what came next and this kept her in a cycle of guilt and shame on days when procrastination won.


Virginia shared an outline of the many things she thought she should be doing in a day.


“How often are you shoulding yourself?” I asked.


The truth was that she was comfortable procrastinating, yet the reality was that her savings were diminishing and she felt alone.


Yet, she isn't alone. Many people are currently questioning their lives and finding it difficult to see a clear path to their desires.


We should ourselves when we feel obligated, which often results in frustration and a lack of motivation. The more we tell ourselves that we should be doing or being more, the more it leaves us feeling like we can never be, do or have enough.


Here are some tips for your personal freedom:

  • Be present and explore your thoughts and feelings as information

  • Focus on what matters to you, rather than what you think you should be doing

  • Learn to listen to your body for guidance on the next steps to take

Shoulding ourselves means we're not accepting reality. We wish things were different than what they are. Our thoughts tell us that something is missing from our lives and so we constantly seek an ideal.


Through our work together, Virginia is discovering that when she stops trying to ‘figure it out' and instead honours what feels good in the moment, the path becomes clearer. She is pleased with her daily accomplishments (however big or small), feels more relaxed, and she has been offered a job!


Are you ready to tap into your inner guidance and create a good day every day?


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Victoria Hart, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Victoria Hart, is a Visionary Soul Coach, Energy Healer and New Earth Leader. She has been exploring the metaphysical and mystical world for as long as she can remember and has studied with some great Masters in cutting edge and revolutionary therapies, inviting exponential breakthrough results. Victoria has an innate ability to get to the heart of the matter and brings wisdom, inspiration and humility to empower people to break the looping cycles of programmed reality and consciously create a new life story. Her mission is to create balance and harmony between humanity and nature by realising her true potential and power and teaching others to do the same.

 
 

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

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