How To Have It All ‒ 4 Ways You Can Start Today
- Apr 14, 2022
- 3 min read
Updated: Jan 24, 2024
Written by: Sara Mueller, Executive Contributor
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I believe we can have it all. It’s my life’s work to help ambitious leaders realize this possibility and create more balance and impact at both work and home. In order to have it all, however, you must embrace these four steps below.
1. Believe that having it all is possible.
Having it all is possible for everyone, including you! But first, you must believe that it’s true. When you believe in something and focus on that goal, the reticular activating system in your brain stem goes to work behind the scenes to solve problems, identify opportunities, and make your “all” a reality.
It doesn’t matter where you live, how old you are, where you went to school, what your parents did or didn’t do, what career you have, or how many children you parent. A life of balance, fulfillment, and purpose is available to you.
How do I know? Because I repeatedly help my clients create a balanced life they love. I witness their transformations over and over again. Sometimes they are skeptical. Sometimes they think it sounds too good to be true. But always, they have hope. When there’s hope and the right action, there comes change.
2. Define what your “all” is.
Many of my clients block their ability to have it all because they aren’t taking action toward what they really want for themselves. They’ve fallen prey to our culture’s expectations of them or what family, friends, and society suggests “success” is. In addition, they’ve been so busy fulfilling their many roles of parent, spouse, leader, board member, etc. that they no longer know what it is they truly want for their lives. Once I help them separate their authentic selves from external influences, the “all” becomes quite clear.
3. Recognize you can have it all but you can’t do it all.
My clients are high achievers. They’ve worked hard, planned, and made things happen. But that hustle and grind that brings about early success are not sustainable for the long term. To have it all, you must strengthen your partnership with your spouse, ask for help from your team and community, and straight-up delete those things from your to-do list that doesn’t contribute to your top goals or bring you joy.
You can have it all, but you can’t do it all, all by yourself.
4. Break the emotional and behavioral patterns that are getting in your way.
You, like every other human on this planet, have one specific false belief about yourself that was created in your childhood and is the culprit of your unhappiness. It has thread itself through every aspect of your life and has you replaying the same emotional and relationship patterns over and over again in both your personal and professional life. It hinders the way you manage your team, how you parent, the abundance of your bank account, and even the way you have sex.
Until you identify this one false belief and learn how to break the emotional and behavioral patterns you’ve been repeating for decades, having it all will not be within your reach.
Ready to put these steps into action? Book a free coaching consult with me to find out if we’re a good fit for each other.
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Sara Mueller, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Sara Mueller believes we CAN have it all. She helps leaders develop emotional intelligence, resilience, and high performance so they can balance an impactful career AND a meaningful family life. After being burnt out in her career and hitting rock bottom in her marriage, Sara realized that her limiting beliefs and unproductive patterns were blocking joy and success in all areas of her life. So, she underwent an intense journey of self-discovery learning how to own her authentic power, presence, and purpose. She now teaches the key learnings of her transformation in her Self-Mastery Method coaching and leadership programs. Prior to becoming a Success Mentor, Sara spent nearly two decades developing optimization training programs for Fortune Global 500 executives while also teaching mindfulness and yoga to people from all walks of life. She’s a certified Conscious Parenting Coach and is regularly regarded as “life-changing,” “eye-opening,” and “one of the most engaging facilitators I’ve ever seen” by her beloved clients.
