How to Detach from Toxic People and Reclaim Your Energy
- Brainz Magazine
- May 28
- 3 min read
Written by Maria Mulone, Life Coach & Hypnotherapy
Maria Mulone is a Certified Life Coach and Registered Hypnotherapist. Her focus is on guiding individuals toward transformative growth and helping them discover their own potential.
We’ve all heard it: “You become like the five people you spend the most time with.” So what happens when one (or more) of those people is draining your spirit, clouding your clarity, or constantly pulling you into a cycle of negativity? That’s when it’s time to lovingly and firmly detach.
Detachment isn’t cold. It’s courageous. It’s not rejection; it’s redirection toward your healing, peace, and personal power.
Let’s walk through this process together:
1. Recognize the signs of toxicity
The first step is awareness. Toxic people often display patterns like:
Constant criticism or belittling
Emotional manipulation or guilt-tripping
One-sided relationships (you give, they take)
Boundary-breaking behaviour
Making you feel anxious, drained, or unworthy
If a relationship feels more like a battlefield than a sanctuary, that’s your cue. Trust your intuition, it’s usually right!
2. Release the guilt
Here’s the truth: choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you self-aware.
So many kind-hearted people stay stuck because they feel guilty for pulling away. But remember, your energy is sacred. You’re not responsible for fixing others, especially at the expense of your own well-being.
You can love someone and still choose to love yourself more!
3. Set firm (but loving) boundaries
Boundaries are not walls; they are bridges to mutual respect. Clearly and calmly express what is and isn’t okay for you.
You might say:
“I’m no longer available for conversations that leave me feeling drained.”
“I need some space to focus on my mental health right now.”
“I love you, but I won’t tolerate disrespect.”
Then, follow through. Your consistency will teach people how to treat you or reveal who no longer belongs in your inner circle.
4. Minimize contact, digitally and physically
This is where the practical meets the powerful. Reduce or eliminate communication when needed. That may mean unfollowing on social media, not replying to texts right away, or taking a break from in-person interactions.
Detachment is a detox. It creates space for clarity and emotional freedom.
5. Fill the void with supportive energy
Detaching can feel lonely at first, especially if the person was deeply woven into your daily life. That’s okay; it’s a transition.
Things you can do for yourself:
Surround yourself with uplifting, aligned people
Journal your thoughts to process emotions
Practice daily positive affirmations
Engage in activities that light you up and make you feel whole
6. Forgive, but don’t forget the lesson
Forgiveness isn’t about excusing harmful behaviour, it’s about freeing yourself from the grip of resentment. You can forgive someone while still maintaining a healthy distance.
Let the experience teach you how to honour your boundaries, trust your gut, and choose relationships that feel like sunlight, not storm clouds.
Your peace is the priority
Detaching from toxic people is not a one-time event, it’s a powerful act of self-love and continuous alignment. You deserve relationships that elevate, not deplete you, ones that feel safe, supportive, and soul-nourishing.
So as you step forward, do so with love for yourself and for your future. You are not walking away from them, you’re walking back home to you.
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Maria Mulone, Life Coach & Hypnotherapy
Maria is a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist. She thrives by helping people boost their self-esteem and unleash their inner power, helping them achieve their goals. She has always felt the urge to help others and discovered throughout her life that the only way to build a beautiful life is to start with self-love.
