How to Create Loving Relationship with Time
- May 31, 2021
- 4 min read
Written by: Agnese Rudzate, Executive Contributor
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It feels like a love-hate relationship when it comes to time. Sometimes we have more than enough, other times we get bored of how much time we have. Not knowing what to do with it exactly makes us lost. Sometimes we don't have enough time, and we wish there could be more than 24/7.
Sometimes we squeeze every precious minute out of the day. Other times we go with the flow and allow ourselves to be guided. There are at least two sides to every relationship. Let’s look at your relationship with time and try to figure out how to make it be the happiest ever after.
There is no right or wrong. Whatever you feel, think, and do about the time, is your choice. No one else, certainly not time, can make you feel the way that is not serving you. No one else can make you do the things you don't want because you have the choice. And let me remind you that there’s always a choice (thinking that you don't have a choice is also a choice).
It’s all up to you how you want this relationship to evolve. You can take charge and full power over your time, actions, thoughts. You can shame, blame, point fingers, and slave for time. Your choice.
Time is on your side. What we are forgetting is that time can and will work in our favor if only we allow it to. So often, we want to push hard and squeeze every possible activity in the day. We get frustrated when time runs out on us. But that’s not times fault. Time is consistent. We're not.
Taking ownership of our part in this “relationship” is your way of stepping into the power of leading, not slaving. If you choose to continue the battle with time, time will always win. You might think that you’re winning for some time. But eventually, your body and mind will not be able to take more. More of stress, anxiety, never-ending to-do lists, multitasking, and just doing, doing, doing.
There are 3 possible scenarios in the battle with time:
1. You lose, meaning you burn out. We can only go as far. Our brain, body, mind needs rest, regeneration, and loving care. By constantly trying to keep up with the to-do list, catch up with deadlines, you're on a short way to exhaustion and burnout. Without the ability to serve your people, make an impact, and lead by example.
2. You win, meaning you thrive in time freedom. This is the best possible outcome for you to create. I say “create” because you are the creator of your plan, schedule, calendar. No one else.
Taking full responsibility for the 24 hours that you have. It allows you to fill time with meaningful, strategically important, soul-filling tasks. And as a bonus - it feels effortless to complete the tasks. If that sounds like something you can’t imagine having, it’s exactly what I do in my “Less is More” mentorship. Within 3 months, you will be fully in charge of your time and thriving effortlessly.
3. You keep battling forever, meaning you have peak moments and then hard falls. It is not sustainable to keep battling with time. It leaves you exhausted (like all the time!). It gives an illusion of things falling into place during your peak periods. But as with role coasters, you can't stay up forever. You must come down. And that’s the hard part where you go back to old habits of slaving for time.
Accountability is a huge factor in keeping ourselves in check. It helps us stay in charge and power over everything that goes into our calendar. So I would like to give you a couple of possible solutions if you're not ready to commit to 3-month mentorship fully. If you are struggling with time, it's not too late. Start from where you are and stay committed to time freedom. You will thrive and have to most loving and fulfilling relationships.
Here you have 2 ideas to consider:
1. Why battle if you both can win? You see, time is on your side - it keeps you going, accountable, on track. It does you a huge favor by continuing to go even when you think you can’t anymore. It shows you an example of the never-ending flow and rhythm that’s in you as well. It gives a perspective of continuous cycles that come and go. It teaches you to move on and keep going.
2. Alignment when prioritizing is the key. No everything is important. Not every project, meeting, appearance is aligned with your vision. Getting clear on priorities helps to declutter the unimportant actions and create alignment with a plan to level up.
Stop battling with time. It will only get you as far as burnout, exhausting, stress. It can truly be a love-filled relationship where you both do your own thing and work as a team. Time is on your side. Allow yourself to learn from it. Embrace the time you have and make to most out of it without falling into the trap of “busy.” Here’s to you loving the time and time loving you.
Agnese Rudzate, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Agnese Rudzate is a Business Productivity Coach and Time-management expert with a professional background in Quality Management and Empowerment Coaching. She has turned her lifelong passion for organizing into her mission, helping women gain the confidence, clarity, and time freedom they deserve by providing action steps, tools, and customized strategies. Agnese is a firm believer that anyone can achieve business or personal goals through a deeply focused effort based on her coaching. Through structure, systems, and processes that bring results, Agnese teaches her clients to manage their business with ease, create time freedom, and scale profits.
