Written by Joann Malanga, Soul Integration Coach, Alchemist, Energy Healing
Staying empowered on the path of spirituality and doing the inner work to live a better life where you are thriving! I will hold energy for you so that you dissolve the root of suffering and pain of where it all started. We will bring the trauma and stories to life and revive the wisdom. There has never been a better time to do this inner work!
We are going to talk about how the Universal Laws can actually help us grow, pause, and pivot into a new way of being in our relationships. When I first heard of the Law of Karma, the Law of Resonance in Relationships, and the Law of Mirroring, I was fascinated! Why, you are probably asking? It was because it felt too close to home. It felt like I was experiencing everything I was reading. Are you ready to explore these and see how they relate to your experiences?
The law of karma (cause and effect)
Meaning: Every action, thought, or emotion you put out into the world will eventually come back to you, whether positive or negative.
How does this pertain to relationships?
If you act with kindness, love, and honesty, you’ll attract people who mirror these qualities.
Unresolved past relationship patterns may show up again until you heal and choose differently.
Something you may have experienced in a past relationship may be happening in your current one. The person may even have the exact same qualities – just a different face and body.
Some of your family members may resemble or act like someone you know in your friend circle, which can trigger you repeatedly. This energy may be showing up to teach you something you didn’t learn in a previous situation.
Your friends may have just the right dose of medicine for you to heal. What does that mean? Look at moments when you have given unconditional love without expecting anything in return and wanted to repay it. But that person rejected it. However, later, you had an opportunity to provide it to someone who truly needed and deserved it.
Reflection and spiritual journal tip:
Ask yourself: What energy am I contributing to this relationship? Being aware of your actions can break toxic cycles and create healthier connections.
The law of resonance
Meaning: The energy you radiate determines what you attract. Similar frequencies naturally come together. Ever heard the saying, “Like attracts like”?
In relationships:
If you radiate love, self-respect, and trust, you’ll attract people who reflect those same qualities.
If you have old childhood wounds from your father being emotionally unavailable, you may attract emotionally unavailable men or women as an adult.
If you feel angry or hateful and go out into the world emotionally unregulated, you will witness this reflected back to you – angry people, car crashes, people yelling, disgruntled store clerks, etc. They mirror what you feel within.
Negative emotions like insecurity or resentment can draw in partners who trigger these feelings, allowing them to surface and be healed.
A partner may reflect qualities in you that you don’t like or recognize in yourself. Sometimes, on a deeper level, your partner may mirror patterns you had with your siblings growing up. The more curious you become about what triggers you or “flickers all the lights” on your emotional dashboard – lights that shouldn’t be turning on – then you’ll know there’s something to explore.
Reflection and spiritual journal tip:
Ask yourself: Am I aligned with the kind of relationship I desire? Practice gratitude and self-love to raise your vibration and attract soulful connections.
The law of mirrors
Meaning: The people and situations in your life reflect aspects of yourself, both light and shadow. They help you see yourself, as if looking in a mirror.
In relationships:
If someone’s behavior bothers you, it may reflect something within yourself that needs healing—something that has been suppressed for some time. The only way it is coming to your attention is through this person’s behavior triggering you. The next time this happens, ask yourself: What am I seeing?
Positive traits you admire in others may reflect your untapped potential.
The Law of Mirrors may also show up in workplace relationships. Look at the colleagues whose personalities you can’t stand. Now, look at the ones you admire. Where do you see yourself in them?
Reflection and spiritual journal tip:
Ask yourself:
What is this relationship teaching me about myself?
What don’t I like seeing about me?
What do I want to become?
What do I have to do to become that version of me?
Use relationships as opportunities for self-awareness and growth. Move past what the ego tells you. Your heart will share the truth if you are open. Journal about it.
These three spiritual laws work together in relationships, guiding your emotional and energetic exchanges. Take a look at some exercises and affirmations based on these principles.
Here are some inner work exercises based on the Law of Karma, Law of Resonance, and Law of Mirror to help you deepen self-awareness and transform your relationships:
1. Law of karma exercise: Clearing emotional debts
Purpose: Break old cycles and create healthy relational patterns.
Exercise: "Release & forgive journal"
Write down past relationships where you feel unresolved emotions (hurt, betrayal, anger). Be honest with yourself and say everything to release an energy that is still dormant in the body.
For each one, reflect on:
How did I contribute to the situation, even unknowingly?
What life lesson can I take from this?
What was my intention?
What was I really feelings and was I being my most authentic self?
Write a forgiveness letter (you don’t have to send it):
Forgive the person, forgive yourself, and release the emotional charge.
When writing the letter- use “I feel… when you…. And that why I……” You get the point. Sometimes we need to write several letters to get the emotions out. I always recommend using a #2 pencil. There is something about the lead and the fact that the pencil has an eraser to write a new story once you purge.
Love yourself through this.
Forgive yourself as you did the best you could at the time.Be honest with yourself and make better decisions next time.
Affirmation: “I release the past with compassion and create loving, respectful relationships.”
2. Law of resonance exercise: Raising your love frequency
Exercise: "Self-love frequency ritual"
Stand in front of a mirror and place your hand over your heart.
Say: “I am love worthy of deep, soulful love through all relationships.”
List 3 qualities you desire in a partner (e.g., kindness, loyalty, affection).
Ask yourself: Am I showing these qualities to myself and others? What can I do to feel loved? Is there anything that I do to not respect myself? What do I love and honor about myself?
Take one small action each day that reflects those qualities toward yourself or someone close.
Affirmation: “I radiate love, joy, and respect, attracting relationships that mirror my highest self.”
3. Law of mirror exercise: Self-reflection and shadow healing
Purpose: Identify and heal subconscious patterns. parental, spouse, friends…etc.
Exercise: "Power-up trigger reflection worksheet" that will change your life!
When you feel triggered by your partner or someone close:
Write down what happened (be specific).
Identify what emotion it triggered in you (anger, jealousy, insecurity).
Ask: Is this emotion linked to an experience or unmet need in my life? What is the unmet need? Is there a connection to the unmet need when I was a child? Ex.:emotionally unavailable father? Aggressive father?
What new, healthier response can I choose in the future?
Do I need to share this with the person? Or is writing a letter to the person better just to get my feelings out on the paper?
Am I complete? If the answer is no- please go deeper. Explore what’s there.
Affirmation: “I embrace my reflections as tools for self-awareness and growth.”
Bonus: weekly relationship check-in for yourself! It will support your growth with yourself and others..
Set aside 15-20 minutes weekly to reflect on your relationships using these prompts:
What went well in my relationships this week?
Where did I feel most triggered, and what lesson might be there?
How can I show up with more love and understanding moving forward?
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Joann Malanga, Soul Integration Coach, Alchemist, Energy Healing
Joann worked in the Healthcare Operations for 30 years, which pushed her into her own awakening 15 years ago. On her journey of self-discovery of dark and light – she found the only way out of the dark was through facing herself and the many lives she had within herself.
She is certainly a spiritual powerhouse with abilities beyond this world. She is an experienced healer with 30 years of practice in the field. Her intuitive abilities encompass clairvoyance, clairsentience, shamanic healing, and alchemy. Joann offers Soul Integration Coaching, specializing in shadow work integration and hands-on healing.
To assist in the process of ascension, Joann helps you utilize the power of self-awareness and incorporate angelic light. Her Soul purpose as a Soul Integration Coach and Healer is driven by the desire to support others on their spiritual journeys.
When you seek a healing session from her, expect to receive clarity, inner guidance and cut through any bullshit. She supports cutting cords, removing any implants, attachments, and trauma cording, or any programming that are ready to go. The cutting through dense energy is absolutely necessary and helps you uproot emotions that have been dormant and suppressed. She believes that every individual possesses their own wellspring of intuition, and her role is to empower you to access that innate wisdom and become your own medicine. As a servant in her soul style, she is dedicated to serving your highest good and working with all of your 12 bodies and allowing the Rays of light to come through a gentle cleansing of your 12 bodies and clearing karma.
Direct, sassy, and fun, she is committed to cutting through illusions and presenting you with the unfiltered truth. With her Coaching skills and leadership qualities, she will guide you and serve as a way-shower on your path – grit and grind girl who will also help you flow with the energy of the divine feminine healing and attract what your soul needs. Her personality embodies authenticity and humor, creating a nurturing and supportive environment for your spiritual growth.
What sets her apart are her unique insights and her deep ability to hold sacred space of integrating spirituality into our three-dimensional lives while lifting your consciousness. Joann is passionate about helping others weave their spiritual journeys into their everyday existence. With her keen self-awareness, strong intuition, and servant leadership skills, she is able to relate on profound levels with all people, at any age, and every religion and every ethnic background. Her ancient wisdom of healing can uproot many traumas that we suppress from childhood all too often causing physical /mental manifestation of pain. She shows you ways to unfold everyday life, as opposed to resisting it. She carries the energy to support you to move your consciousness to the next level as she has.
During her sessions, you can expect a professional and nurturing atmosphere. Her goal is to help you uncover your own truths, overcome obstacles, and embrace your highest potential. She will help you extract, and clear away energy in the way of living your highest potential, along with mother love guidance to light the way. Together, you will clear the old and will create a life filled with purpose, alignment, and joy.
