Embracing Truth And Overcoming Self-Deception – My Journey With "Am I Lying To Myself?
Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally recognized marriage and family therapist with decades of experience in private practice and media. She is an expert in love and relationship intimacy, authoring her latest book, "Am I Lying to Myself? How To Overcome Denial and See The Truth", published in 2023.
As a psychotherapist and relationship expert, my mission has always been to help individuals and couples navigate the complexities of love, connection, and self-awareness. In my latest book, "Am I lying to myself?, how to overcome denial and see the truth," I explore the powerful yet often unnoticed role of self-deception in our lives. Throughout my career, I’ve seen how denial can hinder personal growth and create distance in relationships. Facing the truth is never easy, but it’s crucial for building stronger emotional bonds and living authentically.
In this book, I help readers identify where they might be avoiding reality—whether it’s refusing to admit their own faults, overlooking red flags in relationships, or staying stuck in unhealthy patterns. I believe that by recognizing these behaviors, we can begin the journey toward healing and improvement. The goal is to cultivate self-compassion, transparency, and honesty, which I’ve found to be essential for meaningful relationships and true happiness.
Denial and self-deception play a significant role in our daily lives and can manifest in various forms
Here are a few examples
Relationship denial: Ignoring signs of trouble in a relationship, such as frequent arguments or lack of communication, and convincing yourself that everything is fine.
Health denial: Downplaying symptoms of illness or refusing to acknowledge unhealthy habits like overeating, smoking, or lack of exercise.
Career denial: Staying in a job that no longer fulfills you or meets your needs, convincing yourself it’s too risky to make a change.
These examples illustrate how denial can prevent us from addressing critical areas of our lives and hinder personal growth. Recognizing it is the first step to confronting reality and making positive changes.
One of the biggest challenges people face is the fear of confronting uncomfortable truths. It’s much easier to live in denial than to face the pain that honesty might bring. But through my work, I’ve witnessed countless transformations—people who, once they broke free from denial, were able to experience deeper love, greater self-respect, and a clearer sense of direction. In the end, it’s about empowering individuals to embrace their truth and lead lives of authenticity and fulfillment.
I invite readers to join me in this exploration, not just to question their relationships with others but also to turn the spotlight inward. The more willing we are to face ourselves, the more rewarding our connections with others will become. I hope this book inspires people to start looking within and ask, “Am I lying to myself?”—and from there, begin the journey toward a more truthful, connected life.
Dr. Jane Greer is a Family and Marriage Therapist, Psychotherapist, and author of “Am I lying to myself?, How To Overcome Denial and See The Truth.”
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Dr. Jane Greer, Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, Radio Host
As a marriage and family therapist who has spent decades working with clients in her private practice and through her media work, Dr. Jane Greer has become a nationally recognized expert and authority in love and relationship intimacy.
