Are You Being Responsible in the Most Irresponsible Way Possible?
- Brainz Magazine
- 6 hours ago
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Written by Oliver Dolby, The Soul Doctor
Oliver Dolby is a London-based healer and teacher of the Egyptian Lineage of Isis of Light. Creator of the Etheric Trauma Release Method, he helps clients release emotional blockages, restore balance, and awaken their inner vitality through energy and spiritual practice.
Responsibility is often praised, but at what cost? This article explores how over-responsibility leads to burnout, self-abandonment, and energetic depletion, and why true responsibility begins with honouring your body, boundaries, and soul.
A soul doctor perspective
Responsibility is often worn as a badge of honour. It sounds noble, mature, and admirable. Yet behind the scenes, many spiritually aware, hard-working people are quietly burning out in its name. Here is the paradox, you can look responsible on the outside while being deeply irresponsible with your energy, body, emotions, and soul on the inside. If that feels familiar, this is for you.
Responsibility, misunderstood
For many people, responsibility has come to mean taking everything on. Do it all. Do it immediately. Do it even when your body is exhausted, and do not complain. This is not responsibility. It is self-abandonment disguised as virtue.
We live in a culture that rewards overgiving and glorifies self-sacrifice. Rest is viewed with suspicion, while burnout is praised as dedication. Collapse earns admiration, and pause invites judgement. Meanwhile, your soul quietly waves a warning flag.
The trap of over-responsibility
Being the reliable one feels good until it becomes your identity. People trust you. They lean on you. They come to you because you always hold things together. While everyone else feels supported, your nervous system becomes overloaded and your energy steadily drains away. Over-responsibility may look impressive, but it comes at a hidden cost.
There is also a persistent myth that pushing harder will help you catch up. In reality, the more misaligned you are, the less life force flows through you. Clarity fades, creativity dries up, and effort turns into grind. Pushing through is not noble. It is simply exhausting.
When the body speaks
The body always whispers before it shouts. It may show up as a tight jaw, a heavy sigh, or a craving for rest or escape. Ignored long enough, those whispers become fatigue, brain fog, emotional volatility, or the urge to withdraw completely. This is not a weakness. It is wisdom demanding attention.
Many people continue saying yes while their energy screams no, volunteering themselves out of kindness, obligation, or the need to be seen as capable. Over time, generosity turns into depletion. This is not service. It is self-abandonment.
The burnout cycle
The pattern is familiar. Overcommit. Overwork. Overwhelm. Collapse. Repeat. Eventually, the body forces a stop through illness or shutdown. True responsibility was never meant to look like this.
True responsibility starts with you
There is a simple spiritual law. Giving without receiving drains you. Receiving without giving stagnates you. Receiving first, then giving, creates expansion. Your cup must be filled before you pour. Trying to serve from an empty cup helps no one, including you.
Rest, embodiment, and alignment
Rest is not laziness or selfishness. Rest is sacred. It brings your spirit back into your body, restores intuition, and re-regulates your nervous system. Your body is not an obstacle to your spiritual life. It is the oracle through which your soul speaks.
Common signs of misalignment include guilt for resting, pushing through exhaustion, ignoring hunger or emotional needs, and believing your worth is tied to productivity. These are not motivation signals. They are warning signs.
When you slow down enough to feel your body, your soul settles back in. Energy realigns. Clarity returns. Effort becomes lighter. This is embodiment, and it is powerful.
Rewriting responsibility
Healthy responsibility includes boundaries. Boundaries are not walls that shut people out. They are structures that protect your energy. You are not meant to be available to everyone or responsible for everything.
Self-sacrifice may look heroic, but sustainable effort is far more powerful. And the spiritual upgrade many resist most, receiving before giving, is often the one that changes everything. Giving to yourself first is not selfish. It is spiritual intelligence.
The sacred power of saying no
Saying no is one of the most spiritual skills you can learn. No is not rejection. No is redirection. Every no to what drains you is a yes to your wellbeing, clarity, and higher path. A clear no teaches others how to treat you far better than an exhausted yes ever could. Saying no is not the end of generosity. It is the beginning of integrity and a powerful act of self-love.
Giving from overflow
When your cup is full, everything you give carries more presence, more love, and more impact. The world does not need the overworked version of you. It needs the aligned one.
Conclusion
True responsibility is not about grinding yourself into dust. It is about honouring your energy, listening to your body, and choosing alignment over obligation. You are not here to deplete yourself. You are here to be a vessel of light. And a vessel shines brightest when it is whole.
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Oliver Dolby, The Soul Doctor
For over 25 years, Oliver Dolby has guided others through profound journeys of healing and awakening. Creator of the Etheric Trauma Release Method and teacher of the Egyptian Lineage of Isis of Light and Magick Series, he helps people reconnect with their vitality, peace, and inner power. His work bridges ancient wisdom with modern transformation.
