A Few Simple ways to Live a Happier more Fulfilling Life
- Apr 19
- 6 min read
Updated: Apr 20
Lisa Tibando had devoted decades to the healing arts, specializing in guiding others through empowered self-care and personalized transformation by blending ancient wisdom and modern science. Her practice blends deep spiritual insight with a highly educated foundation in anatomy and physiology, reflecting an unwavering commitment to holistic health.
Most of us are looking for less stress, less disturbance and less conflict in our lives, whether that’s with ourselves or with others and our circumstances. Often, when we are experiencing these stressors and disturbances, we feel alone in our experience, we sense something is wrong with us or with them and we resist the experience by going into “solve it” mode.
When we experience this reflexive resistance reaction to stress, our primitive brains come online, which tells us it's time to fight, flight, or fix. We get stuck in a stress response, the fight-or-flight of our nervous system, and our lives become all about survival mode. We cannot be happily thriving when we are simply surviving.
These modes of being (resisting, fighting, running, or fixing) keep our attention on the problem instead of moving into a healthy solution. We end up not only feeling the stress, but then adding to it by putting all of our attention on it, and then we create suffering in our lives.
If we are resisting the stressor, our behaviours involve ignoring, denying, and distracting. We attempt to push the experience away, push it away and remove it from our life, whether that’s a person, place, or thing.
If we are fighting the stressor, we get angry, punishing, controlling, and manipulative to try and make the person, place, or thing change to accommodate our individual preferences.
If we are running from the disturbances we experience, we engage in avoiding, compensating, and grasping to override the stressor by seeking something more pleasurable instead of dealing with what’s being presented in a healthy, helpful way.
If none of these survival mechanisms work, we fall into attempts to fix what’s disturbing us and causing us stress by asserting our will upon it. We get focused on the stressor as something that’s broken or wrong, and we become self-righteous, thinking we know best. We end up spending all of our attention and energy on fixing the problem, so our life revolves around the disturbing person, place, or thing.
The issue in all of this is that we are focused on the experience as being wrong, as something that shouldn’t be happening, when the reality is, it is happening. In all of this, we are resisting reality itself, which can only lead to suffering.
Sound familiar to you? Can you see the insanity in this way of living? We have all experienced this in some small or big way in our lives. You are not alone. No one is immune from this human experience.
Would you like a new way of experiencing the things that are not measuring up to your satisfaction? Would you like to be able to have a happier life by figuring out what’s wrong?
Well, nothing is wrong with you, and nothing is wrong with them. Stop trying to change, fix, run from, and avoid what is in your life. Stop perceiving these disturbances as wrong, bad, and in need of changing before you can be happy.
Instead, choose happiness. Change your viewpoint. Change your belief. Change your interpretation. Recognize that when you change you, the whole world around you changes too.
When we turn our thoughts to inquiry, questioning, and investigation, we shift our brain processes out of survival mode. We expand our perceptions, and we see things differently. We can shift from amygdala brain survival mode to prefrontal cortex thrive mode, where creativity, connection, and calm come online, simply by changing our thoughts to investigative curiosity.
To live a happier life, it’s vital to hold the belief that things are always working in our favor, whether it feels like it or not. Many of us know the experience of hindsight, where we see that something horrible in the moment turned out to be a great gift later on. This holds true with all things. Knowing this “benevolence of the universe” happening in our life experiences helps us trust that even when things feel bad, seem wrong, or we think we’ve ended up somewhere we are not supposed to be, we can trust that there is a higher good at play serving us in our evolution.
So when you come up against that disturbing circumstance in your life and you pause for a second to get curious, the road to happiness starts to unfold before your eyes. Instead of having a reflex reaction to fight, run, or fix, you can stop and ask:
How is this situation with this person, place, or thing possibly serving me?
What opportunity is this situation presenting?
What good is being birthed in this moment?
Could this be an opportunity for me to do something different, to see the good, to be more loving, compassionate, gentle, assertive, forgiving, or understanding?
In that questioning, we shift from the survival mode of the brain into the creative, thriving mechanisms of our brain. We find solutions. We see opportunity. We become empowered and feel safe. We can then utilize all of life as a learning and growing opportunity, whether those moments come from an argument with a partner, a traffic jam, a cancelled appointment, a snowstorm, or a loss.
In this kind of thought processing, we can also find gratitude. We end up investing our thought life in gratitude and happiness instead of stress and struggle. We find solutions. We stop living in the problem and start living in the solution. Slowly but surely, we get on a new path of living where happiness is a choice. We find fulfilment.
All of this might sound too simple to be true. I invite you to simply give it a try. What have you got to lose? I am certainly not saying to spiritually bypass your feelings. Our feelings are just as real as the facts of reality and what is. Our feelings need to be felt and dealt with. We can have our cake and eat it too. This has been my experience. We can feel the hurt, the anger, the annoyance, the disgust, but we cannot stay there if we want to live happy, fulfilling lives.
The feelings are a sign telling us to pause, to stop, to feel it, and get curious about why this experience is showing up to help us evolve.
It’s time to take back our power. It’s time to see how staying in these feelings of stress has kept us stuck in an unhealthy loop, and now is the time to choose to be free. Choose to see an opportunity to heal, to grow, and to create change for the better.
Change the experience on the inside to a helpful and productive one and watch your external experiences do the same by mirroring your energetic intention to live in creatorship of a fulfilling, happier life that serves the road of goodness and love.
This isn’t an overnight matter. It takes practice and commitment. There are so many healthy, new habits we can adopt to help us reclaim our power to choose, to create with love, and to take care of ourselves so we can be better in our lives with people, places, and things. We are not victims of our lives, we are co-creators.
I have been on this healing journey for decades now, and I want to spread the love and healing far and wide. Please join me in self-care practices that take us closer to health and happiness, body, mind, and soul.
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Lisa Tibando, Business Owner, RMT, Bioenergetics Facilitator
Lisa Tibando is a leader in self-awareness, self-care, and self-love. After overcoming a history of multiple childhood and adolescent traumas, she embarked on a profound healing journey that transformed her life, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Today, Lisa is dedicated to guiding others through their own healing, drawing from both personal experience and decades of study. Her deep compassion and intuitive understanding create a safe, empowering space for individuals to reconnect with themselves and embrace the transformative power of self-healing.
