4 Basic Steps To Become Your Future Healed Self

Written by: Azadeh Aslanzadeh Azari, Executive Contributor

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This step can only be fulfilled when you are not in the same environment that makes you suffer! You need space to digest and grief or whatever you need before your healing journey can start!

We can all feel overwhelmed by the plethora of advice around how to heal; however, with these words from someone experienced in the field, you will learn the essentials.

These steps are so straightforward I hope that future generations are taught this at school, for our world to be a better one.

Step 1

Is acknowledging, acknowledging where you are, who you are, and what you are. Be your own best friend, who understands yourself, and make a big effort to love yourself and be gentle and kind towards yourself! When you start to acknowledge yourself, you start life long loving and caring relationship with yourself. Where you teach yourself how others should treat you too!

Step 2

Forgiving yourself, acknowledging the hardship it takes to forgiving yourself, forgiving yourself for every wrong and saying, every time you had shamed yourself, and your body and all the things you have said to yourself. Forgiving yourself for every time you have done someone wrong or said something hurtful. Forgiving yourself for every time you were silent instead of using your words and standing up.

Forgiving yourself is can take years, so be gentle, be kind. To forgive how much nonsense you have told yourself and made yourself feel miserable, it's quite 180 mindset change. So be gentle with yourself, and healing has no time frame. It happens as long you keep working on yourself. And acknowledging yourself.

Step 3

Forgiving others. If you feel you are not there yet, then go back to step 2, and acknowledge yourself for you can't let go and forgive others yet.

Remember also forgiveness has nothing to do with others, as long you keep blaming and hating, you keep pouring toxicity into your own body and mind and waiting for some miracle to happen. If you wait for someone to come and apologize, will it do any different? When harm is already done? Maybe it does or it doesn't, but again, forgiveness has nothing to do with others. It's for your own sake, for your peace of mind. To let the bitter feeling of someone, to let go of this someone, and become free for yourself. Free your mind and heart. It may take years before you can forgive someone and it's okay too. The forgiveness journey has no time limit, it's your healing journey, you decide when the time is right to let go. The feeling you feel after you have forgiven someone is unbelievable. You understand people do what they do from where they are. Even tho you may never have harmed anyone the way they did. It doesn't mean others have that gift of emphaty as you do! It doesn't mean you want to share your life with them again or something. No not at all. It means they don't rent space in your mind and body anymore. You set yourself free by lettingthem go out of your system for good.

Step 4

Letting go, how do you let go? When you learn to forgive, letting go will come naturally after some time. You don't want to keep them in your heart and mind anymore after you have learned the art of forgiveness. Acknowledge this holy moment of letting someone go, you may even feel grief because of the pain, the bitterness that have shaped you for so long, and you may be scared of who you will become! It is common to "lose yourself" in the process of letting go. I will call it "Reset" you reset to blossom into something new! Someone much stronger and wiser, you get a deeper understanding of life.

Make your letting go process a ceremony, you can decide for yourself how this ceremony should be, do you want to celebrate yourself? The person you were before letting someone go, and the one you have become? Or do you want to write a letter to that person and burn it up? It's all up to you as long you feel peace in your heart and are ready to acknowledge yourself for how brave you have been to let go of something that has been part of you for maybe many years.

Azadeh Aslanzadeh Azari, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Azadeh Supervisor and Healer offers an inspiring and unique approach to healing. For over 10 years, she has dedicated her expertise to supporting and empowering women who have been traumatized in their lives. With her distinctive combination of compassionate listening, mindset coaching and empowering tools she helps women on their path to release trauma, build resilience and reclaim their life. Her vision is to help mothers heal from trauma wounds so that they can raise empowered children – creating happier homes for generations to come. Utilizing her personalized approach for every woman, Azadeh provides a safe space for healing where personal growth, self-discovery, and transformation are all possible.