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3 Things You Need To Live The Life You Want

Written by: Lyn Ray, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


From my personal and professional experience as a Life & Wellbeing Coach, I have concluded there are three things that we need to live the life we want.

The first is clarity. This can put clients into a spin. Often, they are not sure what they want. But this does not need to be complicated. What are the things you love to do? What are the things that interest you? What are the things that you are energised doing? These questions bring clues about the things that are important to you. You do not need to have a definitive plan of what you want, you just need to get clear on the things that interest and excite you right now.

This leads me to the second, which is you need to take action. You will never think your way to a better life. That’s why many people feel stuck. They are waiting for the perfect time to start. That time never comes. You need to make a solemn promise to yourself that you are going to change your life and start. Take action, no matter how small. From that small action, you will gain greater clarity, and your motivation and momentum will grow.

For example, if you would like to retrain as a teacher, first you may look at colleges or universities that offer teacher training to understand the entry qualifications. From there you may realise you need to get some further qualifications. Then you look at how to get these. Next, you may sign yourself up for a night class to get the qualification you need. You are breaking it down into smaller actions that prevent it from becoming overwhelming.

In taking this action, you are also giving the Reticular Activating System (RAS), the part of the brain that filters the information that enters your conscious brain, clear instructions about the information you want to see. This will help you to see opportunities going forward that you previously would have overlooked.

The third thing you need is self-belief. This builds as you get clearer on what you want, and you start taking action. You start to see yourself in a different way. Your confidence grows. Self-belief is like a muscle the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

Clarity, action and self-belief when used together are a powerful combination, and they become inextricably linked. Action without clarity and you can be a busy fool. Clarity without action and you remain frustrated. Combine both with self-belief and you have the tools to build a fantastic life. The life you deserve and want to lead.

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Lyn Ray, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Lyn Ray is a Transformational Coach who specialises in helping busy people become happier, healthier and more fulfilled. For most of her adult life, Lyn struggled to find balance, either overworking at the expense of other areas of her life or sacrificing her career to enable her to be there for her family. This led to feelings of anxiety, frustration and a lack of fulfilment. After becoming increasingly interested in personal development, the lightbulb moment came when Lyn recognised that she was discounting her own abilities and the opportunities open to her. She retrained as a Transformational Coach and now works with clients to enable them to recognise the unique strengths & skills they have, the opportunities open to them, the limiting beliefs that hold them back and to build positive beliefs and habits to enable them to live the life they want.



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