Written by Connie Ng, Special Guest Writer and Executive Contributor What if your chronic skin issues, gut imbalances, or respiratory symptoms weren’t just physical problems, but emotional messages your body has been trying to communicate? In this powerful article, Connie Ng shares her unexpected journey from salt therapy clinic owner to holistic mental health practitioner, revealing how Traditional Chinese Medicine’s Five Elements can decode the emotional roots of illness and guide deep, lasting healing. How I discovered holistic mental health (without meaning to) Becoming a Holistic Counsellor wasn’t part of the original plan, nor was spending my life decoding the emotional root causes of illness. In fact, I stumbled into it, somewhat unknowingly, when I opened a Salt Therapy Clinic. But that’s exactly where the path led when I began listening to the body. At the time, I thought I was simply helping people breathe better, heal their skin, and maybe relax a little. After all, halotherapy, or salt therapy, had helped me personally. Years prior, it had given me incredible relief from my own chronic eczema and relentless sinusitis. Sitting in that salt room, with its walls crusted in pure mineral salt and the air rich in negative ions from pharmaceutical-grade salt spitting into space from the halo-generator, I had felt something shift. Not just in my body, but in my nervous system. I could breathe. I could rest. I could feel myself coming back online. When I opened my own salt therapy space, I thought I was creating a physical healing sanctuary. But the more I listened to my clients’ stories, the more I started to hear something deeper – a pattern. It wasn’t just itchy skin, or tight lungs, or digestive issues. There was always something underneath. Grief that hadn’t been spoken. Stress that had calcified into muscle pain. Unresolved trauma that seemed to live in the breath, in the gut, in the skin. As an intuitive, I began to feel it in the room – what wasn’t being said. And as I reflected on my journey, decades of eczema flare-ups, years of struggling to breathe through blocked sinuses, anxious nights, sleepless childhood summers, I realized something profound: My physical symptoms weren’t the beginning of the story. They were the body’s response to everything I hadn’t emotionally processed. And that’s when things began to shift. I had started out addressing the body, but the root cause, often, was in the mind, and in the emotions that were trapped there. So I trained in holistic counselling. I studied the mind-body connection. And eventually, I returned to one of the most powerful systems I had personally healed through – ancient wisdom embedded in my Chinese roots: Traditional Chinese Medicine, and specifically, the Five Elements framework. The five elements framework: Your emotions have organ systems The Five Elements, Earth, Metal, Water, Wood, and Fire – map the interconnected relationships between our organs, emotions, and energetic states. When one element is out of balance, it affects the whole system – physically, emotionally, and energetically. Each element governs specific organs and is associated with key emotional themes: Earth (Spleen & stomach): Worry, overthinking, anxiety, self-doubt, boundaries, nourishment Metal (Lungs & large intestine): Grief, perfectionism, letting go, unresolved sadness Water (Kidneys & bladder): Fear, depletion, ancestral trauma, survival mode Wood (Liver & gallbladder): Anger, frustration, stagnation, ambition Fire (Heart & small intestine): Joy, impatience, insomnia, emotional overflow What I love about this system is that it gives language to the invisible connections so many people feel but don’t know how to explain. It bridges the emotional with the physical. And when we look through this lens, symptoms are no longer “random,” they are precise signals of what needs attention. The Five Elements also follow two energetic cycles: the generative (creation) cycle and the control (regulation) cycle, which explain how emotions and organ systems influence one another. For instance, fear from the Water element can suppress joy from the Fire element, which may explain how trepidation can dull a person’s capacity for lightness and connection. Just like how an excess of water can put out a fire, fear can extinguish joy. Meanwhile, frustration and anger from the Wood element can over-fuel the Fire element, leading to heightened impatience, emotional volatility, or burnout, just as adding more wood makes the fire burn brighter and fiercer. When you understand these emotional dynamics as energetic patterns, not personal flaws, you begin to see how rebalancing one element can positively affect another. When symptoms speak: What your body is trying to say (through your skin and beyond) Most people understand that physical illness can impact mental health. But few consider the inverse, that our emotional and psychological states, especially what remains unspoken or unresolved, can shape, fuel, and even manifest as chronic physical symptoms. In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), the body is seen as a dynamic ecosystem, and the skin, in particular, as a diagnostic surface. When an imbalance exists within the organs or emotional field, it eventually rises to the surface. The skin doesn’t just react, it communicates. In my clinical experience, chronic skin conditions often reflect deep-seated emotional patterns –unprocessed grief, buried shame, self-worth wounds, and energetic stagnation. But the messages behind these symptoms aren’t one-size-fits-all. Each condition reveals a unique energetic and emotional signature – one that, when decoded, can lead to profound healing. The Chinese word for illness reveals a deeper truth Interestingly, even the Chinese language hints at this body–mind connection. The word for illness, “病” (bìng), meaning “sickness,” combines the radical 疒with the character 丙. Beyond being a phonetic marker, 丙 is cosmologically linked to the Fire element and, by extension, the Heart (心) in the Five Elements system. This points to something subtle yet powerful: embedded within the word for illness is the heart, the seat of emotion, spirit, and consciousness. Traditional Chinese Medicine has long recognized that emotional disturbance lies at the root of many physical ailments. One of its most revered texts, the Huangdi Neijing (also known as The Yellow Emperor’s Inner Classic), is considered the foundational scripture of Chinese medicine. Dating back over 2,000 years, this ancient medical classic outlines a holistic understanding of the body as an integrated network of energy, emotion, and organ function. In the Huangdi Neijing, the Heart is described as the sovereign ruler of the body: “The Heart is the sovereign; from it the spirit emerges. If the sovereign is disturbed, the whole system falls into disharmony.” In Chinese thought, the Heart (心) is not just a physical organ but the home of the mind, emotions, and memory. When emotional pain is unprocessed, it doesn't disappear – it lodges in the body. This is often seen as “heart-fire,” a condition that, if left unresolved, can contribute to physical disease. The Huangdi Neijing emphasizes the cultivation of “恬淡虚无” – a calm and undisturbed heart-mind – as essential for health. Conversely, a heart burdened by fear, grief, or lingering sorrow becomes fertile ground for dysfunction and disease. The ancient phrase “病由心生” (“disease arises from the heart-mind”) encapsulates this wisdom, one now echoed by modern neuroscience and trauma research. Our bodies remember what our minds try to suppress. Emotional wounds, unmetabolized grief, and identity-level pain often express themselves somatically. When the skin speaks: Clinical insights into eczema and psoriasis Having explored the deeper meaning of illness from a Traditional Chinese Medicine perspective, let’s now bring theory into practice. The skin, as an external expression of internal disharmony, often reveals powerful messages – if we know how to interpret them. What follows are some of my most striking clinical observations working with clients suffering from eczema and psoriasis – conditions that frequently reflect the energetic interplay between the Five Elements, unresolved emotional patterns, and the body’s attempt to restore internal balance. Eczema & asthma: the metal-wood interplay Eczema is often associated with itching, restlessness, and inflammatory flare-ups, especially in children. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, this commonly reflects an imbalance in the Wood element, which governs the liver and expresses emotions like anger and frustration. The liver is also responsible for keeping qi flowing smoothly – when stagnation occurs, heat builds, which may emerge through itchy, reactive skin. Yet many eczema sufferers also present with asthma, and almost always describe it as genetic. Upon deeper exploration, I’ve often uncovered a pattern of grief or depression running through the family line, sometimes tracing back to wartime survival, poverty, or other ancestral hardship. This ties directly into the Metal element, which governs the lungs and large intestine and is emotionally associated with grief, sorrow, self-judgment, and rigidity. From this lens, asthma may very well be “genetic”, but not merely biologically. In the words of Dr. Gabor Maté, “Trauma is multigenerational. We pass on to our offspring what we haven't resolved in ourselves.” Emerging research supports the idea of intergenerational trauma, where unprocessed emotional experiences lead to epigenetic changes, altering how certain genes are expressed in future generations. So if a grandmother survived trauma in silence, the granddaughter may inherit not just her eye colour, but also her lung vulnerability, her un-cried tears. In this way, eczema may not just be a “skin condition.” It may be the body’s cry for emotional release, first through constriction of the lungs (asthma), and later through inflammation of the skin. Psoriasis: A sacred shield of protection Psoriasis reveals a different terrain. It is often linked to digestive dysfunction in both Traditional Chinese Medicine and naturopathic frameworks. The Earth element, which governs the spleen and stomach, holds emotions like worry, anxiety, and self-doubt. When Earth is weakened through poor diet, overthinking, or emotional depletion, dampness and heat accumulate, disrupting the skin’s natural balance. But in more complex cases of chronic psoriasis, I often explore the energetic patterns associated with the liver (Wood) and kidneys (Water). The liver stores anger, and the kidneys house fear – both of which are commonly repressed in those with unresolved trauma. Many of my psoriasis clients have lived through severe emotional trauma, including domestic violence, mental or physical assault, or childhood or sexual abuse. And time and again, I’ve seen the same pattern: “Unsightly,” scaly plaques that seem to repel contact. Skin that looks angry… but also armoured. What if the body is not betraying us, but protecting us? What if psoriasis is a primitive biological shield, forged by the subconscious to say: “Stay back. Don’t touch me. I am not safe.” The Five Elements allow us to map the emotional signatures behind these organ imbalances. But layered with the lens of trauma-informed care, we begin to see that the skin may be saying what the psyche cannot yet voice. If you’d like to explore how the emotions associated with your skin, gut, or lungs might be contributing to chronic symptoms, I encourage you to read my previous articles in Brainz: What Do Your Skin, Gut, and Lungs Have in Common? More Than You Think Can Your Emotions Be Causing Your Skin, Gut And Respiratory Issues? Tried Everything? What If Your Skin Isn’t the Problem—But the Messenger? Ready to go deeper? If this article stirred something in you – if your symptoms have been whispering messages that you’re ready to understand, I invite you to join me for my upcoming RELEASE Program, starting late August 2025. This 4-week transformational journey is designed specifically for women with chronic skin, gut, or respiratory conditions who are ready to: Decode the deeper emotional roots behind their symptoms Rebalance their body using the Five Elements framework Learn practical vibrational healing tools for long-term relief Learn more and join the waitlist here or connect with me on Instagram at @connieng.coach. The body remembers what the mind tries to forget Holistic mental health isn’t just about mindset. It’s about embodiment. It’s about energy. It’s about learning to listen to the body as a wise, encoded map of everything we’ve experienced – emotionally, energetically, ancestrally. The body doesn’t lie. It whispers, it tightens, it flares, it freezes. And when we finally start to listen, it begins to heal. True mental wellness doesn’t come from fixing thoughts. It comes from honouring the emotional truth embedded in our symptoms. Because the body speaks. And it’s been trying to tell us everything. Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Connie Ng Connie Ng, Special Guest Writer and Executive Contributor Connie Ng is a Multi-Disciplined Holistic Practitioner, Five Elements Coach, and founder of The Salt Therapy Clinic & Sanctuary in Canberra, Australia. After overcoming 35 years of chronic eczema, she now empowers others to decode the emotional and energetic root causes of persistent health issues—particularly skin, gut, and respiratory conditions. Drawing from Traditional Chinese Medicine, vibrational medicine, and modern trauma-informed coaching, Connie’s work bridges ancient healing systems with cutting-edge insights into the mind-body connection. She is the creator of The RELEASE Method™, a transformative 4-week healing program that helps women calm inflammation, restore emotional balance, and reconnect with their body’s innate wisdom. 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Written by Diana C. Stephens, Career Transition Coach Diana Stephens, founder of Mindful Job Alignment, combines mindfulness with the traditional side of job search. She works with individuals who are unhappily employed or laid off with panic and anxiety, helps them conquer their fears, and learn how to find a job quickly! Changing careers or searching for a new opportunity can be one of life’s most stressful experiences. Faced with uncertainty, many professionals immediately update their resumes, revise their LinkedIn profiles, and begin applying for positions. While those steps are important, they often happen before something even more essential: reconnecting with ourselves. Mindfulness offers a different approach. Rather than reacting from anxiety or urgency, it invites us to pause, reflect, and move forward with greater intention. When we become more present, we make clearer decisions, communicate our value more effectively, and align our careers with who we are becoming, not just where we have been. Here are eight ways mindfulness can transform the way you navigate your next career transition. 1. Begin with presence, not pressure Before opening your resume or searching another job board, take a moment to slow down. Career transitions often create a sense of urgency that pushes us into action before we have gained clarity. Creating a quiet space, taking a few intentional breaths, or simply removing distractions allows you to approach the process with a calmer, more focused mind. The quality of your thinking improves when you are no longer operating under pressure. 2. Listen to the story you are telling yourself Long before a recruiter reads your resume, you have already been telling yourself a story about your career. If that story is filled with self-doubt, comparison, or disappointment, those emotions often find their way into the language you use to describe your experience. Mindfulness helps us recognize those internal narratives without allowing them to define us. When we become aware of limiting thoughts, we can replace them with a more balanced and authentic perspective on the value we bring. 3. Reflect before you rewrite Many professionals begin editing bullet points before they have taken the time to remember the accomplishments that truly shaped their careers. Instead of focusing immediately on formatting, pause and reflect on the moments that made you proud. Consider the challenges you solved, the people you helped, the projects you improved, and the positive outcomes you created. Your greatest accomplishments rarely begin as polished resume statements. They begin as meaningful stories that deserve to be remembered before they are written. 4. Lead with contribution, not responsibility Strong resumes do not simply describe job duties. They demonstrate impact. Employers already understand the responsibilities associated with a position. What they are looking for is evidence of the difference you made. Mindfulness encourages us to shift our focus from activity to contribution. Instead of asking, “What was I responsible for?” begin asking, “How did I improve this organization?” That subtle change in perspective often produces far more compelling examples of your professional value. 5. Communicate with clarity Clear communication reflects clear thinking. Whether you are writing a resume, updating your LinkedIn profile, or preparing for an interview, simplicity creates confidence. Organized content, logical structure, and concise language demonstrate respect for your reader’s time while making it easier for your accomplishments to stand out. Clarity is not about saying less. It is about making what matters most impossible to miss. 6. Align your experience with each opportunity One of the biggest mistakes professionals make is sending the same resume to every employer. Mindfulness encourages us to pause before clicking “Apply” and ask a different question: “What does this organization truly need, and how does my experience meet that need?” This intentional approach transforms tailoring from a mechanical exercise into one of thoughtful alignment. Rather than trying to be everything to everyone, you highlight the experiences that genuinely fit the opportunity. 7. Balance strategy with authenticity Today’s hiring process requires an understanding of applicant tracking systems, keywords, and digital optimization. Those tools matter, but they should never replace authenticity. The goal is not simply to satisfy an algorithm. It is to ensure that technology helps employers discover the real person behind the resume. When strategic optimization is balanced with genuine storytelling, your professional brand becomes both searchable and memorable. 8. View your career story as an ongoing journey Too many people think of their resumes as documents they update only when they are forced to search for another job. Instead, consider your resume a living record of your professional growth. Every project, volunteer experience, certification, leadership opportunity, and lesson learned becomes another chapter in your evolving career story. Career alignment is not something we achieve once and then forget. It is an ongoing practice of learning, growing, and becoming more intentional about how our work reflects our values, strengths, and purpose. Final thoughts Mindfulness will not eliminate the uncertainty that often accompanies career transitions, but it can change the way you move through them. By slowing down, reflecting intentionally, and recognizing your own value, you begin making decisions from clarity instead of fear. When that happens, your resume becomes more than a job search document. It becomes a reflection of your professional identity, your contributions, and the future you are intentionally creating. Career transitions do not begin when you submit an application. They begin when you recognize your own value and choose to move forward with confidence and purpose. Follow me on LinkedIn and visit my website for more info! Read more from Diana C. Stephens Diana C. Stephens, Career Transition Coach Diana Stephens is an advocate for combining stress-relieving mindfulness techniques with the traditional aspects of job search, such as résumés and networking. Having been a casualty of five corporate layoffs in ten years, she knows very well the life disruption caused by a job transition. Her quest to feel more spiritually resilient through the chaos led her to complete a PhD in Holistic Coaching. She founded Mindful Job Alignment based on her dissertation, "A Mindful Approach to Job Search." Her mission is to ensure your job search does not need to hurt.

Written by Ida Fanelli, Certified Aesthetician, Reflexologist & IPL & Dolphin MPS Technician Ida is a certified aesthetician (graduate of Marvel School of Beauty), offering home-based services since 1994. Ida provides various holistic services. She graduated from Zanqara’s Holistica Skin Care’s Dermatologist course in 1994, which required her to understand homeopathic remedies. Green LED light therapy, also called photobiomodulation, uses light in the 495 to 570 nanometer range. This type of green light sits between red and violet on the spectrum, so it looks bright to us. Because it does not penetrate deeply into the skin, it is especially useful for targeted cosmetic treatments. A note on professional aesthetic practice As an aesthetician, I specialize in gentle treatments that enhance your natural beauty. My main goal is to brighten your complexion, calm your skin, and smooth its texture using safe and effective methods. Supporting topical skin recovery During warmer months, green LED light can help calm your skin and protect healing areas from sun-related discoloration. By soothing and supporting your skin’s natural renewal, it helps your complexion stay balanced and healthy. Note: This treatment is only for external cosmetic care and should never be used on deep or open wounds. Calming redness and surface flushing Green LED light is great for reducing visible redness and surface flushing. This gentle approach assists in evening out your complexion, making it a good, noninvasive option for sensitive skin that needs relief from irritation. Refreshing the eye area The skin under your eyes is delicate and thin. Green LED light therapy gently treats this area to help reduce the appearance of dark shadows, puffiness, and discoloration, so you look brighter and more rested. Green LED light therapy works well on the skin’s surface to help reduce uneven pigmentation. With regular use, it can help fade sun spots, age spots, and dark marks from past blemishes. LED results appear gradually, so you’ll need to use it regularly for several weeks to see a fresher, more even skin tone. To keep your skin bright and protect it from UV damage, use a daily broad-spectrum sunscreen. Gentle, regular exfoliation also helps remove dull surface cells, revealing brighter skin underneath. Freckles Freckles are harmless spots caused by uneven genetic pigmentation. Green LED light therapy can help lighten their appearance, but it will not remove them completely. The green light glow: Breakout solutions Green light is close to blue light on the spectrum and shares some of its purifying qualities. This can help calm blemishes, reduce irritation, and manage frequent breakouts. Smoothing skin texture In body care and contouring, green light can temporarily enhance your skin’s surface texture. It helps targeted areas look smoother, firmer, and more refined. Precautions and proper usage Low-level green LED light is gentle and noninvasive, but it is important to use it in moderation. Treating one area too frequently can cause uneven lightening, known as hypopigmentation. Always follow the recommended treatment times to maintain an even, balanced skin tone. Important safety considerations Some forms of widespread skin discoloration can be related to your health or diet. If you notice sudden or unusual changes in your skin tone, always check with your healthcare provider. If your concerns are only cosmetic or caused by regular sun exposure, green LED light therapy can be a safe and effective part of your skincare routine. In a professional clinic or advanced medical spa, light technology can go further with intense pulsed light, or IPL. While basic LED therapy delivers gentle, gradual results, IPL uses a wider and more intense light to target deeper concerns, such as pronounced sun spots and widespread facial redness, often with little downtime. For deeper skin remodelling, fractional lasers are a more intensive option. Lasers use a single, focused wavelength and are often chosen to reduce stubborn age spots and uneven texture in fewer sessions, although recovery takes longer. Because these high-intensity devices penetrate deeper into the skin, a trained professional must conduct a full medical intake and skin assessment to ensure the treatment is safe and effective. Most manufacturers require you to wear goggles that block light during LED light therapy. Some medications can make your eyes more sensitive to light, so if you have an eye condition, get medical clearance before using light therapies. Some foods, topical products, and medications can make your skin more sensitive to light. These include certain antidepressants, antibiotics, and acne treatments containing retinoic acid or Retin A. Do not use home LED masks or undergo light therapies while using these products. Always check a complete list of photosensitive contraindications before your session. Here is a related article that lists photosensitive foods and products. Conclusion Green light therapy is a popular and growing option in the beauty industry. As with any beauty tool, it is important to follow safety guidelines and instructions. Green LED remains one of the safest and most effective ways to achieve a fresher, calmer, and more even complexion. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Ida Fanelli Ida Fanelli, Certified Aesthetician, Reflexologist & IPL & Dolphin MPS Technician Ida is a dedicated wellness professional and certified aesthetician (Marvel School of Beauty), providing personalized, home-based services since 1994. A certified reflexologist since 1993 (D'Arcy Lane Institute), she has integrated energy therapies and Ion Cleanse foot wellness sessions since 1998. In 2012, she became a certified Sharplight IPL Technician for skin rejuvenation and pigmentation correction, and in 2019 earned a specialized certification from the Center for Pain and Stress Research, using the Dolphin Neurostim system for Microcurrent Point Stimulation to support scar tissue release, skin rejuvenation, and pigmentation lightening. Ida is deeply committed to continuing education in complementary health to provide accessible, high-quality care. She also brings 12 years of experience as a hospital laboratory technologist in Microbiology and Biochemistry to her meticulous practice. 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Written by William Davis, Leadership Blueprint Consultant William Davis is a leadership expert, speaker, and mentor dedicated to helping executives, managers, and aspiring leaders develop the skills to lead confidently and successfully. Leadership starts at home. Early in my career, I was eager to prove myself. I wanted people to look at me and see someone they could count on, someone who was special. I wanted to be the guy they asked when they needed someone to carry more. I wanted to stand out from the crowd. I wanted the leaders above me to know I was serious about my work. I was committed, and I was ready for what was next, regardless of the cost. Ambition is a good thing, but ambition without perspective can become poisonous, especially for young men who have wives and children at home. The company you work for will demand every hour you’re willing to give. They’ll praise your sacrifice, reward your availability, and convince you that you’re important because you’re always saying yes. But your family incurs a cost every time you say yes to your job and no to them. Your wife can feel isolated as you pursue approval from a group of people who can replace you tomorrow if they want. Your kids can grow up knowing only your back as you leave for work each day or, in my case, the airport. You cannot get back those years when they crawled into your lap, wanting you to read the next book or give them another hug. I know that all too well and would trade anything to have those opportunities back. You can convince yourself you’re providing for your family while slowly becoming absent from the lives of those you say you’re doing it all for. I’ve been there. In fact, I believed this very thing for years. I believed that, to be a good leader at work, I had to show up early and leave late. I had to carry the workload of others. I had to push myself harder than everyone else, and I had to prove to my bosses that I could be counted on no matter what. But true leadership isn’t about proving yourself to your colleagues. It’s not about how much of yourself you can give to your company. True leadership is measured by whether your loved ones receive the best version of you. Your family is your number one priority. Nothing you do for work matters if you come home to a family that resents your time away. No title is worth earning if you become a stranger to the people who need you most. There is no promotion worth the death of your family’s spirit as they slowly come to expect your absence or your wife resigns herself to being married to someone who never shows up. Sure, your job is important. Your responsibility to your company is important, and seeking excellence should never be compromised. But your family comes first. If you’re a young man trying to find your way in the world of business, I’ve walked enough of this road to give you some advice: Be ambitious. Work hard. Continue to grow and become a great leader. Just make sure you lead just as well at home. Leadership at work will never trump leadership at home when it comes to your family. One day, the meetings will end. The titles won’t matter anymore, and the company you gave your blood, sweat, and tears to will move on to the next guy it can exploit. But when that day comes, your family will be there to answer one question: “How did you lead them?” It won’t be about how many people were wowed by your work. It will be, “Did the people who mattered most to you know they mattered most?” That, my friend, is what leadership is, and it all starts at home. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from William Davis William Davis, Leadership Blueprint Consultant William Davis is an expert in the leadership arena with an impressive 38-year career in senior positions within corporate America. Throughout the decades, William has honed a multifaceted understanding of leadership dynamics, management, and organizational development. Bridging various industries, his tenure is marked by a consistent track record of loyalty, support, guidance, and empathy for his teams. This style allowed him and his teams to successfully deliver numerous large-scale projects that delivered significant stakeholder value. He advocates for ethical leadership practices and treatment of teammates, believing that these elements are pivotal to nurturing future leaders and staying ahead in a rapidly evolving business landscape.

Written by Andy Hall, Executive Leadership & Business Coach Andy Hall is an executive coach, leadership development specialist and founder of Andy Hall Coaching. Through Leader As A Coach, he helps organizations retain their best people by developing leaders who build trust, ownership and performance every day. Employee turnover is often treated as a recruitment, pay, or HR problem, but one of the biggest influences on whether good people stay is the quality of leadership they experience every day. The conversations leaders have with their teams either build trust, ownership, and commitment or slowly weaken them. In this article, we explore seven practical ways leaders can reduce employee turnover by changing the way they listen, ask questions, give feedback, and help people grow. Why is employee turnover often a leadership issue? When someone leaves an organization, the reason is rarely simple. Salary and working conditions matter; of course they do. However, in my experience, they are rarely the first crack in the relationship between an employee and an organization. They often become the reason people finally act, but poor everyday leadership is often the reason they started looking. People do not experience a company through its values statement, strategy document, or website; they experience it through their leader. They experience it in meetings, one-to-ones, feedback conversations, missed check-ins, unclear expectations, rushed decisions, and moments when they either feel trusted or controlled. This is why employee turnover should not be seen only as an HR issue. HR can support retention strategies, but leaders shape the day-to-day environment that makes people want to stay, grow, contribute, or eventually leave. The good news is that leaders do not need to become professional coaches to make a difference. They need to become more intentional about the way they lead conversations. What makes good people want to stay? Good people always stay where they feel valued, trusted, challenged, supported, and clear about how their work matters. They stay where they can grow. They stay where expectations are honest, and they stay where feedback helps them improve rather than making them feel small. They also stay where their leader creates ownership rather than dependency. Many leaders unintentionally train their teams to wait for answers. They solve too quickly, rescue too often, and carry too much of the thinking themselves. While that may seem helpful in the short term, it can create frustration on both sides. The leader becomes overloaded, and the team becomes less confident. Reducing turnover is not about one big speech or one perfect engagement initiative. It is about the consistent leadership behaviors that shape how people feel at work every day. 7 ways leaders can reduce employee turnover through better conversations 1. Ask before you tell One of the simplest changes a leader can make is to ask before giving advice. Many leaders move straight into instruction because they want to help, fix, or save time. The intention may be positive, but the impact is that people stop thinking for themselves. Before offering an answer, ask a question: “What do you think is really going on?” or “What options have you already considered?” This small pause sends a powerful message. It tells the person that their thinking matters and that they may already have more insight than they realize. Over time, this builds confidence, ownership, and engagement. 2. Listen first to understand, not just to respond Many workplace conversations are fast, distracted, and transactional. The leader may hear the words but miss the concern, emotion, hesitation, or idea underneath them. Listening well is one of the fastest ways to build trust. It helps people feel respected and valued. It also helps leaders understand what is really happening before jumping to conclusions. Good listening means slowing down, staying curious, summarizing what you heard, and resisting the urge to interrupt too quickly. People are more likely to stay engaged when they believe their voice genuinely matters. 3. Create clarity before accountability Accountability often breaks down because expectations were never clear in the first place. Leaders may assume people understand what success looks like, only to become frustrated later when the outcome is different from what they expected. Before holding someone accountable, leaders need to create clarity. What is the goal? What does success look like? What is the timeline? Who owns what? What support is available? What will happen next? Clarity reduces confusion, rework, and resentment. It also makes accountability feel fair rather than personal. 4. Give feedback before frustration builds Feedback should not be saved for annual reviews, formal meetings, or moments when something has gone wrong. When feedback is delayed, it often becomes heavier, more emotional, and harder to receive. Leaders who know how to give feedback and do it regularly create healthier teams. They recognize what is working, correct small issues early, and make development feel normal. The best feedback is timely, specific, and given with the intention of helping someone grow. When people know where they stand, they are less likely to feel blindsided, ignored, or undervalued. 5. Stop rescuing and start developing Rescuing feels helpful, but it can quietly create dependency. When a leader constantly takes over, solves the problem, or gives the answer, the team may become less confident and less willing to take ownership. A significantly better leadership approach is to help people think. Instead of saying, “Here’s what you need to do,” try asking, “What do you recommend?” or “What would you do if I were not available?” This does not mean leaders never give direction; sometimes they must. However, if every problem becomes the leader’s problem, the team does not grow. Development happens when people are trusted to think, decide, and learn for themselves in a safe environment. 6. Build trust through consistency Trust is rarely built through one dramatic moment. It is built through repeated behavior. Leaders build trust when they do what they say they will do, follow through on commitments, communicate honestly, and treat people consistently. They damage trust when they repeatedly cancel check-ins and one-to-one meetings, avoid hard conversations, change expectations without explanation, or react defensively when people are honest. People always stay longer in environments where leadership feels steady and fair. Consistency creates safety, and safety creates stronger contributions. 7. Help people feel seen, challenged, and supported Your people do not want to be ignored! They also do not want to be left alone without challenge or direction. Strong leaders find the balance between “high support and high challenge.” To help someone feel supported, notice their effort, strengths, concerns, and potential. To help them feel challenged, hold them to a standard that helps them grow. This combination matters. Support without challenge becomes too comfortable, and challenge without support becomes pressure and stress. When leaders create the right combination of both, people are more likely to grow, contribute, and stay. Start changing the conversations that shape retention today Reducing employee turnover does not begin with a slogan, a survey, or another initiative that sits separately from everyday work. It begins with the conversations leaders are having right now. Every conversation with your people either creates more trust or less trust, more ownership or more dependency, and more commitment or more distance. Organizations that want to keep good people need to equip their leaders to lead differently. They need to do this not only through better processes, which I know are important, but also through significantly better conversational behavior. At Andy Hall Coaching, our Leader As A Coach approach helps organizations strengthen leadership behavior, improve everyday conversations, and create cultures where people feel trusted, valued, challenged, and supported. If your organization wants to stop losing good people because of poor leadership, start by changing the way your leaders lead every day. Follow me on Facebook, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Andy Hall Andy Hall, Executive Leadership & Business Coach Andy Hall is an executive coach, leadership development specialist and founder of Andy Hall Coaching. He helps organizations reduce employee turnover, improve performance and strengthen trust by changing the everyday leadership behaviors that shape how people feel, contribute and stay. After more than two decades in senior corporate leadership roles across the UK and US, Andy created Leader As A Coach to help leaders stop creating dependency and start building ownership. His work focuses on practical conversations that improve accountability, engagement, confidence and results. Andy believes retention is not just an HR challenge, it is a leadership behavior challenge.

Gaelle Mokoy is a Marketing and Branding Coach and Strategic Consultant who helps entrepreneurs turn unclear ideas into focused brands, practical marketing plans, and consistent action. Drawing on more than a decade of experience across the public, private, and development sectors, she combines structured strategy with a clear understanding of the personal barriers that can make visibility difficult. In this interview, Gaelle explains why clarity, integrity, and self-trust matter in business, how her programmes support marketing execution and intentional visibility, and what entrepreneurs can do to build momentum without chasing trends or performing for approval. Gaelle Mokoy, Marketing and Branding Coach Introduce yourself! Please tell us about yourself and your life, so we can get to know you better. I’m Gaelle Mokoy, a Marketing & Branding Coach, Strategic Consultant, and a woman who proudly wears many hats. With over a decade of experience across the public, private, and development sectors, I bring a tri-sector lens to business growth. But more than that, I bring lived experience. I’m a first-generation Congolese-British woman who has built not only businesses but systems around visibility, purpose, and self-trust. I’m equal parts strategist and soul-led guide. That duality is what makes my work deeply transformational. What’s your purpose, mission, and driving force for all the work you do? My mission is simple: to help entrepreneurs stop hiding behind performance, perfectionism, and fear and to finally build the brand, business, and life they were born for. I’m here to make sure no entrepreneur ever feels like they have to choose between being strategic or soulful, visible or authentic. I help you build with both. That’s the work that drives me. Is there a core value that you are most passionate about? Integrity, both inward and outward. In a world obsessed with optics, I value alignment over applause. I believe your message should match your method, and your strategy should honour your story. Are there additional qualities that contribute to success? Absolutely. Emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the willingness to take imperfect yet calculated action are key for me. You can have the best branding in the world, but if you’re afraid to be seen or speak up, it won’t matter. Success isn’t about perfection – it’s about showing up consistently with clarity and courage. What is your business name, and how do you help your clients? My business is called Gaelle Mokoy Coaching. I help entrepreneurs, especially women, clarify their brand, refine their messaging, and develop marketing strategies that actually convert. I don’t just teach visibility, I coach you through the inner work that makes it sustainable. What kind of audience do you target your business towards? I work with coaches, consultants, creatives, and service providers who are in one of three stages: starting and unsure how to show up, growing but not seeing results, or pivoting after realising that their old strategy no longer aligns. My clients are purpose-led, values-driven, and ready to turn clarity into action. What services or products does Gaelle Mokoy Coaching offer? At present, I offer three programmes, each designed to solve a specific problem I see repeatedly among early-stage entrepreneurs and professionals. MAP: Marketing Accountability Programme. Supports business owners who know what they want to build but struggle to execute consistently. It provides structure, accountability, and guidance to help clients stay focused, make decisions, and maintain momentum in their marketing. This programme is not about information overload. It is about translating strategy into weekly action and removing the isolation that often causes people to stall. PMAP: Project Management Accelerator Programme. Applies project management principles to business goals and complex workloads. It is designed for professionals and founders who feel overwhelmed by competing priorities or large ambitions. Clients use PMAP to create realistic plans, improve decision-making, and deliver work with clarity and control rather than chaos. The Consistency Framework for Intentional Visibility. Supports individuals who want to show up consistently on social media without forcing confidence or performing for algorithms. It provides a clear structure for 100 days of intentional content based on defined pillars and repeatable actions. The focus is not on virality, but on trust, confidence, and sustained presence. How the programmes connect. Each offer addresses a different stage of development, but they work together. MAP supports marketing execution, PMAP supports structured delivery, and the Consistency Framework supports visibility and discipline. All three are grounded in the same aim: helping capable people build momentum through clarity, structure, and consistent action. What are the criteria for a client to work with you? You need to be ready to take ownership of your brand, not just aesthetically, but internally. My clients are people who care about how they show up, who want to do business with integrity, and who are willing to blend strategy with soul. If you’re looking for a cookie-cutter, overnight success blueprint, I’m not your coach. But if you’re ready for honest support and a customised strategy, we’ll work well together. Is there a common challenge that your customers face? Yes – a lot of my clients come to me feeling invisible or overwhelmed. That leaves them vulnerable to a lot of stress and potential burnout if they continue in that direction. They have a great offer but aren’t sure how to position it or communicate it clearly. They often feel like they’re doing “all the things” but not seeing results. I help them cut through the noise, simplify their strategy, and show up with confidence and clarity. What sets Gaelle Mokoy Coaching apart from other services in the industry? It’s the blend of deep strategy and soul-level transformation. I don’t just give you a plan, I help you embody it. My background across sectors allows me to bring structure and insight that’s rarely offered in coaching spaces, while my lived experience ensures it’s culturally conscious, emotionally intelligent, and rooted in reality. For readers inspired by this conversation and eager to start their journey, what first steps would you recommend? Start by getting clear on who you are and what you want to be known for. Don’t rush to build a brand based on trends; build one based on truth. Your truth. Ask yourself: “If I could only speak to one person, what would I say to them?” From there, begin showing up with value and consistency. When you’re ready to go deeper, get support. You don’t have to build this alone. Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Gaelle Mokoy

Written by Donna Wilding, Life & Business Coach Donna Wilding is a former corporate advertising executive turned life and business coach who helps female entrepreneurs build strategic, soul-led businesses by working with the innate intelligence of their ideas, alongside her signature past life regression experience and heart-forward coaching techniques. I think we were taught marketing backward. We learned to optimize before we learned to express, to perfect before we share, and to consider the audience before we consider our personal truth. I think that is why so much of the marketing we see feels strangely lifeless, even when it is technically “good.” So, what happens in this distortion? The language you use gets cleaner, but it also gets flatter, and the edges that made your work feel alive get softened into something more digestible and more in line with what you have been told “works.” It may check all the marketing boxes, but it rarely creates the kind of resonance that actually builds a reputation. I did not realize it at the time, but one of my earliest lessons in marketing happened long before I ever owned a business. It happened while I was studying fine art. Take, for example, an image I took of a dear friend at university. She was lying on a church’s front table, completely exposed. At the time, I was not thinking about how this would be received. I was not asking if it was appropriate, marketable, or palatable. I was following an instinct deep within that knew the female body was often still invisible in its humanity and highly visible in its form. This was one of my attempts to change the narrative, to put it in a place of worship. But to do it, we had to sneak in, stay quiet, and sweat through all the feelings as I put my camera lens through the mail slot, listening for the door. There was risk in it, and if I am honest, that is the part I want you to see. Because in the years after that image, I started editing the risk out and considering the audience before the truth of the message. I softened the edges before anyone could push back, translating what I felt into something easier to agree with. Something more acceptable, more explainable, and more palatable. In turn, my art became more predictable and “safer,” but also less alive. I began to hate the process but could not quite put my finger on why. This is exactly what I see happening in marketing all the time. When marketing feels flat We are taught to understand our audience so well that we can anticipate their desires and speak directly to them. There is intelligence in this. Understanding human behavior matters, and knowing how people make decisions matters. But when thinking outside of yourself becomes the dominant orientation, your truth and perspective, the very things that make your work feel alive, start to slip through the cracks. You feel it. I know I do. When this happens, my marketing no longer feels like an extension of my soul-led work. Instead, it feels like I am working at a soulless office job that I need to convince myself to wake up for, even though I work for myself, from home, and love what I do. I have come to realize that when my marketing is at its best, it is always because I have uncovered and shared some key truths within my personal process. It is when I stop singing, “Cause I’m a hustler, baby!” under my breath and step into what is alive for me. It just so happens that this is when more people start leaning in too. Of course they do. They want to feel me talking to them. Interestingly, consumer research supports this, showing that people do not make decisions based on information alone. Emotion shapes what we notice, what we trust, what we remember and, ultimately, the decisions we make.[1] If emotion alters the decision-making process, then my job is not simply to explain my work. It is to stay connected to the artful, emotional reality of my own existence and learn how to share it effectively. That type of sharing creates an experience. It offers a glimpse of what is possible. It allows someone to imagine themselves on the other side of their own transformation because, for a moment, they have already begun to feel it. They no longer have to wonder, “What if this were true?” They have felt the healing, the freedom, and the future they are longing for. Once you have felt that, it is rather difficult to turn away from it. In spiritual traditions, we might call this a transmission. It is the experience of leaving an interaction with a new state of being, not just a new idea. It is the possibility that becomes tangible because you have seen it and felt it in another person. That is what I believe great marketing does. It does not simply communicate an idea. It transmits the feeling of an experience. So, when I am marketing, I do not necessarily begin with the audience. I begin with my life by asking, “Am I living in a way that continues to embody what I am inviting others into?” If the answer is yes, I do not have to manufacture content. I simply have to pay attention to the stories that are already happening. From there, my job is to capture the words, images, and stories that help another person feel a glimpse of that transformation for themselves. Suddenly, a lot of classic marketing advice starts to make even more sense: storytelling, the Hero’s Journey, behind-the-scenes moments, and client transformations. They're all attempts to do the same thing: Turn lived experience into something another human being can step inside and feel. I believe that is what great art does, and it is what great marketing does too. It does not have to be perfect. It just has to feel alive. The effects of authentic marketing Marketing in this way does ask something of you, though. It challenges your willingness to be seen without the usual layers of protection. In full transparency, this type of authenticity will draw the right people closer and create friction with the wrong ones. This is not a loss, but instead the gathering of a more aligned community that is more likely to buy from you. Ironically, sometimes the people who turn their backs are the very ones who come back. You have opened up a new perspective they have not previously considered, and as challenging as that was for them, they want more. This is the sweet spot because you have become unforgettable. The alternative to creating this more honest, authentic, and possibly more polarizing approach is becoming so broadly acceptable that nobody feels deeply moved. Being universally palatable is surprisingly expensive. Leads are indifferent, conversions are strained, and it creates a business that may work but never feels fully aligned or in flow, cue burnout down the road. Let us be honest. Indifference has never built a movement, a community, or a memorable business. If your marketing feels stuck, start here If you are feeling stuck or like your words are not quite landing in the way you know they could, ask yourself: Am I living in a way that reflects the transformation I am inviting others into? Where is life already handing me stories that I have been too busy to notice? What feels true but slightly risky to name out loud? What am I not saying? Start there, then give it language and structure so it can move. But do not strip it of the very artful thing that made it worth saying in the first place. Follow me on Instagram and visit my website for more info! Read more from Donna Wilding Donna Wilding, Life & Business Coach Donna Wilding is a life and business coach and former corporate advertising executive who walked away from conventional success to build a more honest way of working and living. She supports women in creating businesses that are both profitable and deeply aligned, combining strategic clarity with past life regression and energetic work. At the core of her approach is the belief that every idea has its own guiding intelligence, and that business becomes easier when you learn to work with it. With over a decade of experience in transformational practices, Donna’s work bridges the worlds of strategy and soul. Reference: [1] Harvard Business Review, The New Science of Customer Emotions

Written by Dr. Mansi S. Rai, Public Sector Finance Researcher Dr. Mansi S. Rai is a public-sector finance researcher, author, and educator whose work spans digital taxation, economic policy, and public storytelling. She also shares insights on finance, career, and personal growth through her growing YouTube platform. Every generation is remembered for the question it was forced to answer. The Industrial Revolution asked, "How do we produce more?" The Information Age asked, "How do we connect the world?" The age of artificial intelligence asks something far more uncomfortable. Can humanity still think? Not calculate. Not search. Not retrieve information. Think. For centuries, knowledge was scarce. Books were treasures. Libraries were sanctuaries. Learning demanded patience. Finding a single answer could consume weeks. Today, the opposite is true. We do not live in an age of information scarcity. We live in an age of information excess. Every answer is one search away. Every fact is one prompt away. Every opinion is one click away. Yet, despite knowing more than any civilisation before us, we often understand less. Because somewhere along the way, we made a dangerous mistake. We confused access with understanding. We confused information with wisdom. Most importantly: We confused searching with research. They are not the same. Searching retrieves. Research reveals. Searching collects. Research connects. Searching repeats. Research questions. Searching tells us what. Research asks why. Searching finds information. Research discovers meaning. Artificial intelligence has mastered searching. Humanity must not abandon research. History has never rewarded the fastest searcher. It has rewarded the deepest thinker. Every breakthrough began with a question no one else thought to ask. Gravity existed long before Newton. Evolution existed long before Darwin. Radioactivity existed long before Curie. The discoveries were never hidden in the information. They were hiding in the interpretation. That is the difference. Artificial intelligence can retrieve knowledge. It cannot decide what knowledge matters. It can generate possibilities. It cannot determine purpose. It can produce answers. It cannot decide which questions deserve to be asked. That responsibility still belongs to us. Perhaps the greatest illusion of our time is believing that because information has become free, understanding has become automatic. It has not. Understanding is still earned. It is earned through curiosity. Through doubt. Through failure. Through reading beyond the headline. Through questioning our own conclusions. Through returning to the same idea until we see something we missed before. That is research. Not the first search. The second. The third. The hundredth. Research is the discipline of refusing to stop at the first answer. Imagine an advanced civilisation observing humanity. They would not be impressed that we can retrieve billions of documents in seconds. Any sufficiently advanced machine can do that. They would ask something far more profound. What did humanity do with everything it knew? Did we become wiser? Or merely faster? Technology has always amplified human ability. Artificial intelligence is no different. It will amplify brilliant thinking. It will also amplify shallow thinking. The future, therefore, does not belong to those who possess the most information. Information has become abundant. The future belongs to those who possess something far rarer. Judgment. Discernment. Originality. Wisdom. The greatest risk of artificial intelligence is not that machines will begin thinking like humans. It is that humans will become satisfied thinking like machines. Artificial intelligence should never replace thought. It should liberate thought. If machines can perform the search, humanity must perform the understanding. Because civilisations are not remembered for the information they collected. They are remembered for the ideas they created. The future will not be written by those who search the fastest. It will be written by those who think the deepest. Because research has never been the search for information. It has always been the pursuit of understanding. “The greatest discovery of the AI era will not be a machine that thinks like a human. It will be a human who remembers how to think beyond the machine.” Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Dr. Mansi S. Rai Dr. Mansi S. Rai, Public Sector Finance Researcher Dr.Mansi S. Rai is a public service finance researcher, author, and speaker whose work focuses on digital taxation, financial governance, and the transformation of modern economic systems. Her research, published on platforms such as SSRN, explores how emerging technologies reshape nexus, apportionment, and public sector compliance. Dr. Rai is also an educator and storyteller through her YouTube channels, where she shares insights on finance, career developments, international student pathways, and personal growth. With an academic background in finance and accountancy, she is dedicated to making complex economic and policy concepts accessible to ga lobal audience. Her mission is to empower individuals with clarity and knowledge.

Written by Rebecca Rae-Hodgson, Chronically Resilient Occupational Therapist Rebecca is a neurodivergent and chronically ill Occupational Therapist who supports other neurodivergent and chronically ill health professionals to understand themselves so they can thrive. She also develops and delivers trainings, and creates graphics and resources through her online persona, The Chronically Resilient OT. The journey of building a business does not have to be a relentless climb. True sustainability comes from designing a business that honours your unique capacity, values, and life circumstances. It is not easy, but it is possible. I hope my personal and professional experience building a private practice as a neurodivergent and chronically ill Occupational Therapist can help others see what might be possible for them too. This blog post describes three key pillars for building a sustainable business that works for you. It offers insights and actionable steps for fellow neurodivergent and/or chronically ill health professionals, particularly sole traders or those who are self-employed and navigating similar challenges. My journey: From burnout to a redesigned business After qualifying as an Occupational Therapist six years ago, I worked part-time in a couple of roles but found that traditional employment did not provide the flexibility I needed to accommodate my disabilities and work sustainably. This led me to start my private practice, Chronic Resilience: Lived Experience Occupational Therapy, three and a half years ago, where I initially focused on providing telehealth and in-person support for neurodivergent and chronically ill adults. I started slowly, alongside a part-time employed role, building my business until I was able to leave the employed role and focus solely on the business. I was having an amazing time supporting clients, creating graphics and worksheets, writing blogs, developing and delivering training, presenting at conferences, and doing things that I love. However, even while doing what was lighting me up, I kept finding myself in a state of autistic burnout and experiencing chronic illness flares, as I was constantly working beyond my capacity. Seeing even six clients a week was pushing me beyond what was sustainable. I now realise my capacity is more realistically closer to seeing two to four people a week alongside some project work. A significant change in my business was necessary for me to continue working at all. This necessity sparked a major business pivot. At the start of 2026, I transitioned away from one-to-one client work to focus on supervision, mentoring, and training for other health professionals. The idea was to create a ripple effect. By focusing on supporting other health professionals, I could indirectly have an impact on their caseloads and make a bigger difference while working within my energy limits. Three key pillars for a sustainable business When reflecting on what has been crucial for this successful pivot, I came up with the following three pillars: Key pillar 1: Designing for your real capacity Understanding and respecting your genuine capacity is the foundation of a sustainable business. It's about moving beyond what you think you should be doing and honestly assessing what you can do, allowing for fluctuations in energy and capacity. Of course, this is not an easy thing to do! One of the challenges is that my desire to take on new and exciting projects clashes with my limited energy reserves. I see clients two days a week and no more than two clients on any one day. Project work happens flexibly as capacity allows. The mental load of seemingly simple tasks, like context switching between different emails, is significant and must be factored into my workday, along with many other factors. This is further complicated by capacity that fluctuates unpredictably, so you may need different levels and kinds of support on different days. So, what are some potential action points to help you design for your real capacity? Honour your limits: Acknowledge that your capacity is not static. It fluctuates. The goal is not to force yourself to do more, but to build a business that can adapt to these fluctuations. Reframe your ideas of productivity, celebrate the wins, and try to apply some self-compassion. What you are doing is difficult! Embrace “OTing yourself”: Apply the principles of occupational therapy to your own life and business. Consider the person, you, the occupation, what you do, and the environment, where you do it. What are your energy levels? What are your support needs? How can you modify the environment, such as your business structure, work tasks, or physical environment, to fit and support you? Make the invisible visible: Be open about the hidden costs of your work. Have an email signature or automatic reply that makes your response times clear. Presenting at a conference might look impressive, but it comes with a significant cost in terms of preparation and recovery time. Sharing these realities helps to normalise the need for rest and realistic expectations. I have written about and created resources around the planning, doing, and recovery stages of attending something like a conference and how complex this actually is. Making this side of things more visible is so important, as what people often see is just the highlights, not the substantial effort and recovery required. Key pillar 2: The power of authenticity and saying no One of the most profound transformations in my journey, and a core value of mine, has been embracing authenticity. This means showing up as myself, not a persona, and making unapologetic choices that serve my wellbeing. For me to be able to support others, I need to support myself. As the saying goes, you cannot pour from an empty cup! Being selective about what I say yes to and becoming more confident in saying no is an ongoing learning process, and I am getting better at it. Realistically, I just don’t have the resources to do everything, so I need to make sure that what I do say yes to is values-aligned and within my capacity. Clients and supervisees have shared that the most valuable aspect of our work together is the feeling of being seen, understood, and not judged. This comes from being authentic and having a shared lived experience, the understanding that struggling does not equate to being lazy or weak, but is a result of navigating systems not designed for brains and bodies that work differently. Potential action points that support authenticity and saying no: Define your “no”: Sustainability often means saying no. No to ways of working that lead to burnout. No to expectations, both internal and external, that don't serve you. No to forcing yourself into systems that don't fit. For example, I removed my phone number from my website because unscheduled calls are disruptive for me. Email is my preferred method of contact, and I only had my phone number listed because I thought it was the “professional” thing to do. Remember that “no” can also be a complete sentence, and you don’t need to justify or overexplain. Create your schedule around what actually works for you: Are you a morning person, or do you work best later in the day? Can you set your hours around supporting these patterns? For me, I don’t see clients before 11 a.m., as I take a long time to get going in the morning. Find your people: Create or find a community where you can be your authentic self. For neurodivergent and chronically ill health professionals, this is particularly vital. Supervision can be a space not just for clinical questions, but for being truly honest about the challenges of staying well in this work. Peer support and/or peer supervision can be hugely useful as well. You might also find a support or peer group outside of being a health professional, for example, one based on a special interest. Share your story when useful: Your lived experience is a powerful tool. Sharing parts of your journey, where appropriate, can validate others’ experiences and foster a profound sense of connection and self-compassion. The goal of sharing is to support others’ self-understanding and ability to advocate for their needs. Key pillar 3: Financial stability and confident decision-making Financial pressures can make it feel impossible to make necessary changes. For me, gaining access to a disability pension provided the financial safety net I needed to pause most of my income-generating activities for three months and restructure my business. While I acknowledge the privilege of having access to this financial support, financial planning is a critical component for any business owner. Potential action points that support financial stability and decision-making: Know your numbers: You don't need to be an accountant, but understanding your income, expenses, and what you need to earn to feel secure is crucial. This knowledge empowers you to make decisions with confidence. It can also help you determine what to say yes and no to. Explore diverse income streams: Relying solely on one-to-one client work can be precarious, especially with fluctuating capacity. Consider creating products or services that are not directly tied to your time, such as: Digital resources: Downloadable PDFs and graphics can create a small income stream that helps cover business overheads. On-demand training: Creating prerecorded courses requires a significant upfront investment of time and energy but can provide a scalable income source over the long term. I currently have two on-demand training courses that are live, where I have used recordings from live training sessions. Hybrid models: Combine on-demand learning with live group sessions. This allows clients to learn at their own pace and uses your valuable live energy for higher impact activities like Q&A and application discussions. This is a goal of mine for the future and not something I have done yet! Support: Knowing what support you need in business is important too. Maybe it’s a virtual assistant, a partner who cooks for you, a bookkeeper, a support worker, or a fellow neurodivergent business owner you can call on as needed. Maybe it’s not a person, but a tool, system, or piece of equipment. Whoever or whatever it is, find the support that works for you. Building a sustainable business is an ongoing experiment. It requires continuous reflection, tweaking, and the courage to design a way of working that is not just successful on the outside, but genuinely life-giving on the inside. If you’d like support figuring out how to make your business work for you, you can find out more about me and contact me through my website. Follow me on Facebook, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Rebecca Rae-Hodgson Rebecca Rae-Hodgson, Chronically Resilient Occupational Therapist Rebecca, otherwise known as The Chronically Resilient OT, is a neurodivergent and chronically ill Occupational Therapist, her core value in private practice is Making a Difference. She combines her clinical knowledge and lived experience to support others through mentoring, supervision, blogs, worksheets and trainings and is passionate about educating health professionals to improve support for a larger number of people. Current special interest areas are neurodiversity affirming practice, the wellbeing of neurodivergent health professionals, values exploration and sensory processing. She lives in New Zealand and loves board games, books and gentle nature walks.

Written by Daryl Henderson, Transformational Facilitator & Creative Visionary Daryl Henderson is a master coach, facilitator, and artist known for blending spiritual traditions, shadow work, and leadership training. He is the co-founder of Odyssey of Man, the creator of True North Coaching, and the founder of One11, a health & wellness brand. When I say the words "spiritual path," what comes up for you? In my experience, most people picture the spiritual path as a meditation cushion, a retreat in the mountains, maybe a ceremony in the jungles of Costa Rica. I've spent years doing all of those, and honestly, I am not knocking any of them. But one of the most surprising things that has shown me more angles and depth of my shadow, faster than any retreat ever did, is running a business. If you have the courage to step out into the world and take the enormous risk, against seemingly impossible odds, to start a business, every wound you have not looked at will eventually show up in your pricing, your marketing, or your first hire. This article is about why all of that is actually the best news you have ever gotten. What does entrepreneurship have to do with spirituality? Let me tell you about an email I almost could not send. I was a few years into my photography career, putting together a quote for a job with a global brand that was bigger than anything I had done before. I knew what my work was worth and had done the math, checked all the day rates, and had even talked to friends in the biz who had worked on campaigns at that level. I sat there at my kitchen table, cursor blinking, and watched myself delete the real number and type a smaller one. Then a smaller one than that. Nobody was in the room with me. There was no client pushing back on my numbers in that moment, no negotiation, no pressure. Just me, alone, lowering my own price because somewhere in my body the real number felt dangerous. Like asking for it would finally expose me as the fraud I secretly suspected I was, and then my reputation would be ruined, and I'd end up back where I started, waiting tables at 21, trying to make ends meet. I realize this all sounds a bit dramatic, but that's often how we can spiral when our dark side starts playing off all the years of not feeling worthy. Anywho, I sent the smaller number. I got the job. I spent the entire shoot quietly resenting a client who had done absolutely nothing wrong. It all went great, and I left that project feeling like it was more of a failure than a success. Here is what I did not understand at the time. That moment at the kitchen table had nothing to do with pricing strategy. It was one of my childhood wounds that no meditation retreat had ever surfaced because, when we're sitting on the cushion, eyes closed, diving into the inner realms, there is nothing at stake. The business put a number on my sense of what I thought I deserved and then made me look at it. That is the heart of this article. Spiritual work, at least the real and earnest kind, is the practice of meeting the parts of yourself you have been avoiding. Most of us go looking for those parts in calm, controlled, candlelit settings. Meanwhile, the business is over here putting them on the table every single day, with money attached. Don't think you have anything you're avoiding? Think again. Why does your business trigger you more than your meditation practice? Because the stakes are real, and your nervous system knows it. On the cushion, you can watch your thoughts drift by like clouds. It's lovely sometimes and challenging other times, but there are no real world stakes in those moments. It's about awareness, and whilst meditation can, and does, create profound and lasting realizations and breakthroughs, they still need to be implemented in your everyday 3D reality. In your business, it looks more like the invoice is late, the new product launch falls flat, or the client just asked for a discount in a tone that vaguely reminds you of your mom or dad telling you you can't always get what you want. There is no way to observe that from a safe distance. The tension is in your jaw, your heartbeat elevating before you have finished reading the email. I wrote before about how smart, successful people tend to process their entire emotional life from the neck up, and how that is precisely what keeps them stuck. You can read that full piece on why successful people feel empty at the top. The short version is that intelligence is a beautiful tool, and it also just happens to be a world-class hiding place. Business is one of the few arenas where hiding stops working because the market does not care about your story. It gives you feedback and data that your ego cannot argue with. The launch either converted or it did not. The client either came back or they did not. You either sent the real number that you know your work is worth, or you sent the smaller one that felt like a safe bet to get the job. To be clear, there's nothing wrong with any of this, and you don't have to do anything about it. That's up to you. But if you've gotten this far in this article, I'd wager your curiosity is piqued and you want to know more. Great. Let's go deeper. Researchers have started catching up to what many founders have known for a long time. Fast Company published a piece asking whether entrepreneurship can be a spiritual practice, drawing on analysis of hundreds of founder interviews. The findings are striking. Nearly forty percent of founders described their company as an expression of their true self, and many described building it as a process of personal transformation, even of healing. The business was never just the business. It was a vehicle for their own development and growth. How does a business become a mirror? Slowly, then all at once, and usually in the areas you least expect. The pattern works like this. Whatever you have exiled into what the poet Robert Bly called "the bag," all the parts of yourself you learned early on were unacceptable, do not sit quietly in there. They leak. They leak most reliably under pressure, visibility, and risk, which happen to be the three main ingredients of running a company. So the entrepreneur who cannot delegate is rarely dealing with a time management problem. Most likely, somewhere along the line, needing help got wired to being weak, or trusting people got wired to getting hurt. The founder who keeps discounting is not confused about the market rate. The one who builds forever but never launches is not a perfectionist. They are usually someone for whom being seen was, at some point, unsafe. Therefore, they do all the things that look like they're building the business, but when it comes down to it, they're still playing in their own safe little sandbox, hoping no one will notice. Rarely does this show up on a strategy call with a new client. But it will surely show up on the profit and loss statement. Yet, most business advice treats these as tactical problems. Logistics that have simple, formulaic solutions. For example, need help with sales? Hire a closer. Want to increase profits? Raise your rates. Want to incentivize new customers? Ship faster. I have watched people take that advice for years, and the pattern just changes costumes because the pattern was never in the business plan. It was in the body of the person holding it. Isn't business the opposite of spiritual? I understand the objection and, in fact, thought the same thing for many years. Commerce feels like the grubby end of human activity, and spirituality is supposed to be above all that. That split is exactly the problem. The wisdom traditions I have spent time with do not carve life into sacred and secular the way we do. In the Lakota phrase Mitakuye Oyasin, "all my relations," everything is related, which includes your vendors, your clients, and yes, your bank account. Meaning everything is inherently connected. The Toltecs did not have a category for work stress that was somehow separate from the dream you are living. The idea that your spiritual life happens on a cushion for twenty minutes and the other twenty three and a half hours are just logistics is a very modern, very Western invention, and it is exactly the kind of thinking that lets someone meditate for a decade while treating their employees terribly. If a practice only works in silence, with your eyes closed, in a room you control, it is not much of a practice. Shaman Durek once told me that if you can't sit and meditate in the middle of a busy street, then you don't have any idea what you're doing. The business is where your actual state of consciousness gets audited. Anyone can be enlightened alone on a mountain. Try staying open-hearted through a payroll crisis. One caution before we go further because there is a trap on this road. The spiritual entrepreneur world has gotten very good at using the language of alignment and flow to avoid the uncomfortable parts of both business and healing. If every hard decision gets outsourced to the universe, that is not alignment. That is still avoidance masquerading as awareness, and it's the same move I broke down in my piece on the difference between shadow work and spiritual bypassing. The business as spiritual path does not mean bypassing the spreadsheets and all the minutiae that come with starting, building, and running a company. It means letting the spreadsheet show you where the work is. Seven places your business is showing you your shadow These are some signposts I watch for in myself and in the founders and creatives I work with. You may not relate to all seven, but pay attention if one of them stings a little, or a lot, when you read it. Your pricing reveals what you believe you are worth Not what you say you are worth. What you believe, in the body, underneath the confident, polished website copy. If there is a number you know is right and cannot bring yourself to send, you have found the edge of your worthiness wound. The discount you keep offering is a story about you, not about the market. Your marketing reveals your relationship with being seen Some people cannot post at all. Others cannot stop posting and feel sick when the likes are low. Same wound, opposite strategies. If visibility were neutral for you, marketing would feel like a simple description of your offering. For most of us, it feels like being exposed, and the difference between those two words is your history. Your sales calls reveal how you handle rejection A no from a stranger should weigh almost nothing. If it ruins your afternoon, the no is landing somewhere old. Watch what you do after a rejection, whether you reach for your phone, the snacks in the fridge, or a new plan that has to be started at midnight, and you will learn more about your attachment patterns than most books will teach you. Your first hire reveals your relationship with control Delegation is an act of trust, and trust has a biography. If you would rather do everything yourself, badly and at midnight, than watch someone else do it differently, the business is showing you what it cost you, somewhere back there, to depend on people. Your money patterns reveal your inherited beliefs The feast and famine cycle, the hoarding, the strange guilt when a big payment lands. Money is never just money. It is the place where your family's unspoken fears about survival, safety, and deserving get passed down like heirlooms you didn't ask for. Your response to criticism reveals the state of your ego A bad review, public and permanent, is one of the great modern shadow practices. Notice whether you can take in the two percent that is true while letting go of the rest, or whether you compose rebuttals in the shower for a week. The first is integration. The second is homework. Your success reveals your capacity to receive This is the one nobody warns you about. Some people can grind forever but cannot let the win land. If you hit the goal and immediately move the goalposts, if celebration feels vaguely embarrassing, you may have joy sitting in your shadow. Yes, joy can be exiled too, usually because at some point your shine made someone you loved uncomfortable. What do you actually do with what the mirror shows you? Not what you think. The instinct of every smart founder is to analyze it, and analysis is the neck up version of the work. When one of these moments hits, the practice is embarrassingly simple and genuinely crunchy. Stop. Ask yourself the question I ask every client, where do you feel that in your body? The tight jaw before the negotiation. The shallow breath while you hover over the send button. The heat in your chest when the refund request comes in. Stay with the sensation instead of the story about the sensation. Sixty seconds of actually feeling it will do more than sixty minutes of journaling about it. Then, when the wave has passed, you can look at what it was protecting. Underneath the pricing flinch, there is usually a very young belief about what you are allowed to ask for. Underneath the control, there is usually an old disappointment or hurt. You do not need to fix these. You feel them, in layers, one by one, over time, ideally with skilled support, and as they move through, the business decisions that used to take you three anxious weeks start taking twenty calm minutes. That is the strange economics of inner work. It looks like a detour, and it turns out to be the shortcut. Can a business actually change you? It changed me, and I have watched it change others. I want to share a little about how it can change you because this is where people get sold nonsense left and right. The business will not heal you by succeeding. I built two companies by my mid-thirties and was more defensive, more validation-hungry, and further from myself at the finish line than at the start because I was using the companies the way other people use whiskey. Achievement is a remarkably respectable anesthetic. I have written about where that road ends, and what the wellness industry gets wrong about the way back, in my piece on the death of pop spirituality. The business changes you when you let it be a mirror instead of a scoreboard. Same company, same problems, completely different path. On the scoreboard path, every trigger is an obstacle to push through, and you arrive at the top empty, on the verge of burnout, and wondering why you started down this road in the first place. On the mirror path, every trigger is information about "the bag" you have been dragging behind you since childhood, and the company becomes, without exaggeration, one of the most honest teachers you will ever have. It will find your wounds with a precision no facilitator can match because it has something no facilitator has. Your rent money. Grandma said these words to me in the middle of a deep challenge, and I never forgot them. She looked at me and said, "Never waste a good crisis." A business is a machine for generating good crises. Most founders waste every single one of them. The invitation You do not need to add a spiritual practice on top of your business. You need to notice that the practice has been running you the entire time. The next time your company puts something uncomfortable on the table, an invoice you are scared to send, a hire you keep postponing, a launch you keep polishing before launching, with the deadline already past, try treating it as a question about you rather than a problem about it. That single shift is the difference between building a company that costs you yourself and building one that introduces you to yourself. This is the work I do with founders, artists, and leaders who are ready to stop performing and start feeling, and it is not for everyone. If you want the version where you manifest your way past the hard parts, I am honestly not your guy. If you are ready to let your business show you what it has been trying to show you for years, you can reach out about working together, or simply reply and tell me which of the seven mirrors stung the most. I read everything. Follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Daryl Henderson Daryl Henderson, Transformational Facilitator & Creative Visionary Daryl Henderson is a master coach, facilitator, and artist with over two decades of experience blending creativity, men’s work, and spiritual practices. He has photographed top brands and artists worldwide, including Nike and Michael Kors, and documented indigenous and peace gatherings across the globe. Drawing on this experience, Daryl guides high performers, artists, and businesses to express their stories through soul-aligned photography, branding, and personal transformation. He is the co-founder of Odyssey of Man, the creator of True North Coaching, and the founder of One11, a health and wellness brand. His work is playful, transformative, and designed to unlock authentic expression.

Written by Aide Roxanna Reyes, CEO & Founder, Mental Health Counselor Aide Reyes, LLC Aide Roxanna Reyes is a Licensed Mental Health Clinician, LMHC-D, MSEd. She is the Founder and CEO of Mental Health Counselor Aide Reyes, LLC. Aide Roxanna Reyes is the author of the book "I Am Who I Think I Am" and the host of the podcast Mental Health Counselor Aide Reyes. The subconscious mind influences beliefs, emotions, habits, behaviors, and mental health outcomes. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, one of the most common questions I hear from clients is, “Why do I keep repeating the same patterns even when I want to change?” Many individuals struggle with anxiety, low self-esteem, self-doubt, perfectionism, unhealthy relationships, emotional distress, and self-sabotaging behaviors despite genuinely wanting a different outcome. They read books, attend workshops, set goals, and make promises to themselves, yet often find themselves returning to familiar emotional and behavioral patterns. The answer is often found beneath conscious awareness. While most people focus on changing behaviors, true transformation frequently requires addressing the subconscious beliefs driving those behaviors. The subconscious mind functions like an internal operating system. It stores beliefs, emotional memories, habits, experiences, and learned patterns that influence how individuals think, feel, and behave. These internal programs often operate automatically, outside conscious awareness. From a mental health perspective, understanding the subconscious mind is essential because it plays a significant role in emotional wellness, self-esteem, resilience, coping abilities, relationships, and overall psychological functioning. When subconscious beliefs are healthy and empowering, they support confidence, emotional regulation, and personal growth. However, when they are rooted in fear, shame, criticism, rejection, trauma, or limiting beliefs, they can contribute to anxiety, depression, chronic stress, and emotional suffering. Healing often begins when individuals become aware of the subconscious narratives influencing their lives and intentionally replace them with healthier, more adaptive beliefs. What is the subconscious mind? The subconscious mind stores learned beliefs, habits, emotional experiences, and automatic responses. It refers to the portion of mental processing that operates below conscious awareness. Unlike the conscious mind, which is responsible for logic, decision making, and analytical thinking, the subconscious mind continuously processes information automatically. The subconscious mind stores learned beliefs, habits, emotional experiences, long-term memories, automatic responses, self-image, personal identity, relationship patterns, and emotional triggers. Think of the subconscious mind as the foundation of a house. Most people notice the visible structure above ground, yet the stability of the house depends upon what lies underneath. Similarly, individuals often focus on visible behaviors without recognizing the subconscious beliefs supporting those behaviors. For example, a person may consciously desire a healthy relationship while subconsciously believing, “I am not worthy of love.” A person may want career success while subconsciously believing, “I am not capable.” A person may desire confidence while subconsciously believing, “I am not good enough.” These hidden beliefs often create internal resistance that interferes with personal growth and emotional well-being. The subconscious mind learns through repetition, emotional experiences, and conditioning. Over time, repeated thoughts and experiences become familiar mental programs that influence daily life. Conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind These three levels of mental processing influence perception, behavior, and emotional wellness. Understanding the three levels of mental processing helps explain why change sometimes feels difficult. The conscious mind The conscious mind represents active awareness. It is responsible for logic, critical thinking, planning, reasoning, decision making, and goal setting. Examples include, “I want to lose weight,” “I want to feel more confident,” “I want healthier relationships,” and “I want to stop overthinking.” The conscious mind sets intentions and goals. However, it represents only a small percentage of overall mental processing. The subconscious mind The subconscious mind stores beliefs, habits, conditioning, emotional memories, and learned behaviors. It operates automatically and influences daily decisions without requiring conscious effort. Many of the behaviors individuals engage in every day are driven by subconscious programming. Examples include automatic emotional reactions, relationship choices, self-talk patterns, habitual behaviors, and self-esteem beliefs. The subconscious mind often accepts repeated messages as truth. This is why the words individuals repeatedly tell themselves matter. The unconscious mind The unconscious mind contains deeper psychological processes, including survival instincts, automatic bodily functions, primitive emotional responses, repressed memories, and deep emotional material. From a trauma informed perspective, unconscious processes can influence emotional reactions even when individuals do not consciously understand why they are reacting. This helps explain why trauma survivors may experience strong emotional responses to situations that appear harmless to others. The nervous system remembers experiences even when the conscious mind cannot fully recall them. Neuroscience and neuroplasticity The brain can change throughout life through neuroplasticity, allowing healthier beliefs and habits to develop. Modern neuroscience has transformed our understanding of how the brain learns, adapts, and changes. For decades, researchers believed the brain became relatively fixed after childhood. Today, neuroscience has demonstrated that the brain remains adaptable throughout life through a process known as neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to create new neural pathways, strengthen existing pathways, adapt to new experiences, learn new behaviors, and modify thought patterns. This discovery is profoundly hopeful from a mental health perspective. It means that individuals are not permanently defined by past experiences, unhealthy habits, limiting beliefs, or emotional struggles. The brain can change. Healing is possible. Growth is possible. Transformation is possible. Neural pathways and habit formation Neural pathways function similarly to trails through a forest. The more frequently a trail is used, the more visible it becomes. Likewise, the more frequently a thought is repeated, the stronger the neural pathway becomes. For example, the repeated thought, “I always fail,” can, over time, cause the brain to begin strengthening neural pathways associated with failure. Eventually, the thought becomes automatic. Automatic thought becomes a belief. Belief influences emotions. Emotions influence behaviors. The behaviors reinforce the belief. This cycle can continue for years unless interrupted. The encouraging reality is that healthier thoughts can also create stronger neural pathways. For example, the repeated thought, “I am capable of learning and growing,” with consistent repetition and evidence, can gradually become more automatic than negative ones. This principle forms the foundation of many evidence-based therapeutic approaches. The reticular activating system (RAS) The brain also contains a network called the reticular activating system (RAS). The RAS functions as a filter that helps determine which information receives attention. If someone believes, “I am a failure,” the brain often becomes more likely to notice evidence that supports that belief. Conversely, if someone develops the belief, “I am capable and resilient,” the brain becomes more likely to notice opportunities, strengths, and successes. This does not mean individuals should ignore reality. Rather, it highlights how beliefs influence perception. Statistics and self-talk Research supports the role of repeated thoughts and self-talk in shaping emotional and behavioral outcomes. Psychology and neuroscience research continue to demonstrate the significant influence of subconscious processes on human behavior. Research has shown that a substantial portion of daily mental processing occurs automatically outside conscious awareness. Repeated thoughts strengthen neural pathways through neuroplasticity. Negative self-talk has been associated with increased symptoms of anxiety, depression, and chronic stress. Positive self-affirmation practices have been linked to improvements in resilience, emotional regulation, and self-worth. Cognitive restructuring interventions have demonstrated effectiveness in reducing emotional distress and improving psychological well-being. Why self-talk matters Many individuals underestimate the impact of internal dialogue. The brain is constantly listening to the messages individuals tell themselves. Consider the difference between “I am a failure” and “I made a mistake, but I can learn from it.” The first statement promotes shame. The second promotes growth. Repeated self-talk gradually becomes subconscious programming. This is one reason why therapists often encourage clients to monitor their internal dialogue. The words individuals repeatedly use become familiar. What becomes familiar often becomes believed. “The subconscious mind learns through repetition. The thoughts we repeatedly think, the words we repeatedly speak, and the beliefs we repeatedly reinforce often become the reality through which we view ourselves and the world. Therefore, we are co-creators in this world.” – Aide Roxanna Reyes, LMHC-D, MSEd CBT and the subconscious mind One of the most effective evidence-based approaches for addressing limiting beliefs is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT helps identify automatic thoughts, challenge cognitive distortions, and develop healthier beliefs. CBT is based on the understanding that our thoughts influence our emotions, and our emotions influence our behaviors. Many automatic thoughts originate from subconscious beliefs that have developed over time. These beliefs often operate beneath conscious awareness and can significantly influence how individuals perceive themselves, others, and the world around them. For example, a core belief such as “I am not good enough” may create the automatic thought, “I will probably fail.” This can lead to anxiety, avoidance, missed opportunities, and reinforcement of the original belief. This cycle can continue for years unless the underlying belief is identified and challenged. CBT helps individuals recognize automatic thoughts, identify cognitive distortions, challenge inaccurate beliefs, replace negative self-talk, and develop healthier thinking patterns. Common cognitive distortions Common cognitive distortions include all-or-nothing thinking, such as “If I am not perfect, I am a failure”, catastrophizing, such as “Everything is going to go wrong”, mind reading, such as “They must think poorly of me”, personalization, such as “Everything is my fault”, and overgeneralization, such as “I failed once, therefore, I will always fail.” As individuals learn to challenge distorted thinking, they create opportunities for healthier emotional responses and behavioral choices. Research has consistently demonstrated that CBT is effective in treating anxiety, depression, trauma-related symptoms, and self-esteem difficulties. RTT and hypnotherapy RTT and hypnotherapy explore subconscious beliefs and support emotional healing and personal growth. Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) and hypnotherapy focus on accessing the subconscious mind to identify and transform limiting beliefs. Many subconscious beliefs originate during childhood, when individuals are highly impressionable. During these developmental years, children often interpret experiences without the cognitive maturity necessary to fully understand them. For example, a child who experiences repeated criticism may conclude, “I am not smart enough,” “I am not worthy,” or “I will never succeed.” These beliefs may continue influencing adulthood long after the original experiences have ended. How RTT works RTT integrates psychotherapy, cognitive reframing, neuroscience principles, guided relaxation, and subconscious exploration. The goal is to identify the origins of limiting beliefs and replace them with healthier, more adaptive perspectives. Hypnotherapy and mental health Hypnotherapy involves a focused state of attention and relaxation that can help individuals access deeper levels of awareness. Contrary to popular misconceptions, hypnotherapy is not mind control. Individuals remain aware and in control throughout the process. Clinical hypnotherapy may help support anxiety reduction, confidence building, stress management, habit change, emotional healing, and self esteem improvement. When integrated with evidence based mental health treatment, hypnotherapy can be a valuable therapeutic tool. “Many emotional struggles are not rooted in a lack of ability. They are rooted in subconscious beliefs that no longer serve us and must be changed to reprogram the subconscious mind.” – Aide Roxanna Reyes, LMHC, D, MSEd Linguistics and internal dialogue Language shapes perception, self concept, and emotional experiences. It is one of the most powerful influences on the subconscious mind. The words individuals repeatedly use shape their perceptions, beliefs, expectations, and emotional experiences. The brain listens to the language individuals use, both externally and internally. Consider the difference between “I always mess everything up” and “I made a mistake, and I can learn from it.” The first statement reinforces shame, while the second reinforces growth. The power of internal dialogue Internal dialogue influences self esteem, confidence, motivation, resilience, and emotional regulation. When negative self talk becomes repetitive, it can become subconscious programming. Examples include “I am not capable,” “I am a burden,” “I will never succeed,” and “Nobody cares about me.” Over time, these statements may become accepted as truth. Reframing language Instead of saying, “I am broken,” consider saying, “I am healing.” Instead of saying, “I cannot do this,” consider saying, “I am learning.” Instead of saying, “I always fail,” consider saying, “I am growing through this experience.” Small shifts in language can produce significant changes in emotional well being over time. Childhood programming and trauma Early experiences often contribute to lifelong beliefs and behavioral patterns. Many subconscious beliefs develop during childhood. Children learn about themselves and the world through interactions with parents, caregivers, teachers, peers, community influences, and cultural messages. Children are highly suggestible and often absorb messages without questioning them. Positive childhood programming: A child who is repeatedly told, “You are loved,” “You are capable,” and “You are important” is more likely to develop confidence and resilience. Negative childhood programming: A child who is repeatedly exposed to criticism, rejection, neglect, emotional invalidation, or bullying may develop beliefs such as “I am not good enough,” “I do not matter,” “I am unlovable,” or “The world is unsafe.” These beliefs can persist into adulthood and influence relationships, career choices, emotional health, and self worth. Trauma and the nervous system Trauma affects both the brain and the nervous system. Traumatic experiences can contribute to hypervigilance, anxiety, emotional dysregulation, relationship difficulties, and negative beliefs about oneself. The brain’s primary goal is survival. As a result, traumatic experiences may create protective beliefs that continue operating long after the danger has passed. Trauma informed therapy helps individuals identify these beliefs and develop healthier perspectives that support healing. Mental health implications Limiting beliefs can contribute to anxiety, depression, low self esteem, and relationship difficulties. Subconscious beliefs influence nearly every aspect of psychological functioning. Anxiety: Individuals who subconsciously believe, “I am not safe” or “Something bad will happen,” may experience chronic worry and hypervigilance. Depression: Individuals who believe, “I am worthless” or “Nothing will ever change,” may experience hopelessness and emotional withdrawal. Low self esteem: Individuals who internalize beliefs such as “I am not enough” or “I am not important” often struggle with confidence and self worth. Relationship challenges: Beliefs such as “People always leave” or “I cannot trust others” can create difficulties with intimacy, vulnerability, and healthy boundaries. Self sabotage: Many individuals unconsciously sabotage opportunities because success conflicts with their existing beliefs. For example, a person who subconsciously believes, “I do not deserve success,” may procrastinate, avoid opportunities, or engage in behaviors that prevent growth. The good news The encouraging reality is that beliefs can change. Through therapy, self awareness, positive self talk, mindfulness, emotional healing, CBT, RTT, hypnotherapy, and consistent practice, individuals can develop healthier beliefs that support emotional wellness and personal growth. “The subconscious mind learns through repetition. What we repeatedly think, speak, and believe often becomes the reality through which we view ourselves and the world. Therefore, we have the capacity to create our reality and the life we want for ourselves.” – Aide Roxanna Reyes, LMHC D, MSEd 15 practical ways to reprogram the subconscious mind Affirmations, mindfulness, gratitude, therapy, journaling, and repetition can support change. Reprogramming the subconscious mind is not about denying reality or pretending challenges do not exist. Instead, it involves intentionally developing healthier beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors that support emotional wellness and personal growth. Practice positive affirmations daily: Repeated affirmations can help strengthen healthier neural pathways and reinforce empowering beliefs. Monitor your self talk: Pay attention to the way you speak to yourself. Replace harsh criticism with self compassion. Challenge limiting beliefs: Ask yourself, “Is this belief true?” “What evidence supports it?” and “What evidence challenges it?” Engage in cognitive restructuring: Learn to identify and replace distorted thinking patterns. Practice gratitude: Gratitude shifts attention from scarcity to abundance and can improve emotional well being. Journal consistently: Writing can reveal subconscious beliefs and recurring emotional patterns. Use visualization: Visualize yourself successfully achieving your goals and overcoming challenges. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness helps individuals observe their thoughts without becoming overwhelmed by them. Surround yourself with positive influences: Healthy environments support healthy thinking. Read empowering material: What you repeatedly expose your mind to influences subconscious programming. Engage in therapy: Professional support can help uncover and transform limiting beliefs. Develop healthy coping skills: Learn strategies that promote emotional regulation and resilience. Establish healthy boundaries: Boundaries communicate self respect and support emotional wellness. Celebrate progress: Acknowledge growth rather than focusing exclusively on imperfections. Be consistent: The subconscious mind learns through repetition. Lasting change requires practice. “The goal is not perfection. The goal is progress and consistency in obtaining the outcome we want.” – Aide Roxanna Reyes, LMHC D, MSEd Biblical perspective Scripture emphasizes the importance of thoughts, beliefs, and words. Long before neuroscience identified the relationship between thoughts, beliefs, and behavior, Scripture emphasized the importance of the mind. Proverbs 23:7 states, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” This verse highlights how beliefs influence identity and behavior. Romans 12:2 states, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Transformation begins with changing thought patterns. Philippians 4:8 states, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, think about such things.” The Bible encourages an intentional focus on healthy and uplifting thoughts. Proverbs 18:21 states, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Words influence beliefs, relationships, and emotional well being. Joshua 1:8 states, “Meditate on it day and night.” Repetition influences learning and transformation. Second Timothy 1:7 states, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” This verse reminds individuals that fear does not have to define their lives. Isaiah 26:3 states, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast.” Mental focus influences emotional stability. From both psychological and biblical perspectives, the mind matters. Brainz expert insights Healing begins when awareness meets intentional change. “Many emotional struggles are not rooted in a lack of ability. They are rooted in subconscious beliefs that no longer serve us.” “The subconscious mind believes what it hears repeatedly. The words we consistently tell ourselves become the lens through which we view ourselves and the world.” “Healing begins when awareness meets intentional change.” “Neuroplasticity gives us hope. The brain can change, new neural pathways can develop, and healthier beliefs can be learned.” “The goal of healing is not becoming a different person. The goal is becoming the healthiest version of who you already are.” I Am Who I Think I Am A positive affirmation book promoting confidence, resilience, and healthy self belief. One of the most powerful ways to influence subconscious programming is through intentional exposure to healthy messages, affirmations, and empowering beliefs. This understanding inspired me to write I Am Who I Think I Am. This children’s affirmation book was designed to help children develop confidence, self esteem, emotional resilience, positive self talk, gratitude, and healthy beliefs about themselves. It includes positive affirmations, poems, self reflection activities, writing exercises, and confidence building messages. While written for children, many adults have also found the book meaningful as they engage in inner child healing and personal growth. The messages we repeatedly tell ourselves matter. Positive beliefs begin with positive words. Mental Health Counselor Aide Reyes, LLC Providing counseling, psychoeducation, and CBT informed and trauma informed services. At Mental Health Counselor Aide Reyes, LLC, our mission is to help individuals heal, grow, and become the healthiest versions of themselves. Services include individual counseling, anxiety treatment, trauma informed therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, emotional regulation skills, self esteem counseling, positive psychology interventions, and bilingual mental health services. We believe healing is possible. Through psychoeducation, therapy, neuroscience informed approaches, mindfulness, and emotional support, individuals can strengthen their mental health and improve their quality of life. Final closing thought The subconscious mind is one of the most powerful influences on mental health and human behavior. While many individuals attempt to change through willpower alone, lasting transformation often requires identifying and changing the beliefs operating beneath conscious awareness. The encouraging reality is that the brain can change. Thoughts can change. Beliefs can change. Habits can change. Lives can change. Through self awareness, evidence based therapeutic interventions, positive self talk, healthy coping skills, faith, and intentional practice, individuals can develop healthier beliefs that support emotional wellness, resilience, and personal growth. Your mind is listening to the story you tell yourself every day. Make sure it is a story that supports healing, hope, growth, and possibility. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Aide Roxanna Reyes Aide Roxanna Reyes, CEO & Founder, Mental Health Counselor Aide Reyes, LLC Aide Roxanna Reyes is a licensed mental health counselor who has implemented RTT in her therapy sessions to help her patients reprogram their thinking and heal their childhood traumas and adult traumas. Aide Roxanna Reyes helps her patients heal from their traumas, reprogram their thinking, and help them create their best versions of themselves by using CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy), hypnotherapy, etc.

Written by Ladys Patino, Book Reviewer and Writer Ladys Patino is a distinguished writer and book critic with a specialization in organizational behavior, management, leadership, and community dynamics. The best memoirs do more than tell a life story. They hand us a mirror and a map at the same time, showing us how one person faced injustice, fear, or their own inner demons and came out the other side with something to teach the rest of us. The five books on this list span the fight for civil rights, the front lines of hunger activism, the hidden machinery of global power, the weight of immigrant expectations, and the quiet struggle of living with a misunderstood condition. Each author turns personal pain into purpose. Whether you are looking to understand history, question the world around you, or simply find the courage to become more fully yourself, these stories will move you and stay with you. Walking with the wind A memoir of the movement by John Lewis with Michael D'Orso This award-winning national bestseller is one of the most important firsthand records we have of the American civil rights movement. In 1957, a teenager named John Lewis left an Alabama cotton farm for Nashville and threw himself into the struggle to end segregation. As chairman of the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee, he was arrested more than forty times, beaten, and nearly killed, his skull was fractured by state troopers on the Selma bridge during what became known as Bloody Sunday. Yet through it all, Lewis never abandoned his belief in nonviolence. Written with warmth and honesty, his story takes readers behind the scenes of the sit ins, the Freedom Rides, and the great marches, revealing both the triumphs and the infighting. More than a history lesson, it is a testament to what moral courage and quiet determination can accomplish. For anyone who wants to understand how ordinary people changed a nation, this is essential reading. Soup street A memoir by Food Not Bombs cofounder Keith McHenry Keith McHenry has spent his life doing something that sounds simple but has landed him in jail hundreds of times, feeding hungry people in public for free. In this vivid memoir, the cofounder of Food Not Bombs traces the journey that turned him into a lifelong activist, including a childhood spent in America's wild landscapes, life on the front lines of protest, and even surviving torture. McHenry writes with grit and grace about his outrage at injustice, the birth of a global movement, and the strength it takes to keep going in the face of police beatings and constant arrest. His story is packed with adventures, including traveling with punk bands across Mexico, speaking on the radio in Nigeria, and riding trains through the war-torn Balkans, but its heart is a steady belief that sharing food is a radical act of compassion. For activists and anyone who has ever wanted to stand up for what is right, this book is both an inspiration and a recipe for resistance. Confessions of an economic hit man Third edition by John Perkins John Perkins once had a job most people never knew existed. As a highly paid consultant, he helped convince developing nations to accept massive loans for projects that enriched American corporations and trapped entire countries in debt they could never repay. In this updated third edition of his landmark bestseller, Perkins confesses how the system works from the inside, tracing his own path from ambitious recruit to guilt-ridden whistleblower. He reveals the tactics used to bend nations to the will of a global empire, and in this new edition, he exposes how these same strategies have spread and evolved, with a hard look at China's growing use of them around the world. Part memoir, part exposé, the book is a disturbing and eye-opening account of greed, power, and corruption on a global scale. For readers who want to understand the hidden forces shaping our world, Perkins offers a rare insider's view and a call for each of us to help build something better. Desi 2.0 My family's American dream and the cost of never being enough by Sonny Garg Sonny Garg did everything the American Dream asked of him. Raised with the crushing expectations placed on many children of South Asian immigrants, he excelled, progressing from the University of Chicago and Harvard to a White House fellowship and a top executive role at a Fortune 125 company. But as his achievements piled up, so did an inner emptiness. Garg came to see achievement as an addiction, with each success becoming a desperate attempt to prove he deserved love, while his relationships and health quietly fell apart. Brutally honest and warmly funny, this memoir follows his reckoning and the hard work of dismantling his childhood programming to build what he calls his “Minimally Viable Me.” Along the way, he discovers that his worth was never something he had to earn. Desi 2.0 speaks to anyone who has felt trapped by inherited expectations or climbed the ladder of success only to wonder why the view from the top felt so hollow. It is a powerful invitation to rethink what it really means to thrive. A schizoid at Smith How overparenting leads to underachieving by Blair Sorrel For most of her life, Blair Sorrel could not understand why things that came easily to others felt impossible for her. Despite the promise she showed at Smith College, she struggled with employment, relationships, and a deep sense of isolation until a clinician finally named what she had been living with, schizoid personality disorder. In this candid and often wry memoir, Sorrel shares her journey through decades of rejection, loneliness, and hard-won self-understanding. Because so little is known about this condition, and because those who have it rarely speak out, she decided to tell her story to help other silent sufferers, along with the therapists, teachers, and families trying to understand them. Drawing a thread from her upbringing to her later struggles, she also raises hard questions about how overparenting can shape a life. Honest and illuminating, this book sheds light on an overlooked condition and makes a moving case for greater compassion toward anyone who feels different. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Ladys Patino Ladys Patino, Book Reviewer and Writer Ladys Patino is a distinguished writer and book critic with a specialization in organizational behavior, management, leadership, and community dynamics. Her expertise lies in dissecting and evaluating literature that delves into the intricacies of organizational structures, the nuances of leadership styles, and the complexities of community interactions. Patino's reviews and writings offer insightful perspectives on how these themes play out in various settings, providing valuable analysis for those interested in understanding and improving the functioning of groups, businesses, and societies.