Why You Shouldn’t Worry About How to Reach Your Big Goals
- Brainz Magazine
- Apr 14
- 6 min read
Written by Andrew Murphy, Mindset Self-worth Coach
Dru Murphy is a certified mindset self-worth coach who has been helping people all over the globe change the way they see themselves and gain a deeper sense of self-worth and confidence for more than 5 years. His simple but effective coaching style is what makes clients comfortable enough to be open and trust him fully as their coach.
Most people don't fail because they're incapable; they fail because they never start. One of the main reasons is that the moment they think of their C goal, their brain immediately starts to question the reasoning and logic of that goal. So many questions arise that bring about doubt, fear, and a lack of confidence in one's self-worth. Questions like: "But how would I ever do that?" "How do I obtain the resources needed to reach this goal?" "How can I even get started from where I am currently?" and so on.
When the answers to these questions do not come quickly enough or clearly enough, they start shrinking the goal down to something smaller, safer, uninspiring, less challenging, and within their comfort zone.
Listen, we all have done this at some point in our lives when we are setting goals, especially when they are C goals. But there is a way to fix that mindset and manage those emotions that paralyze us and keep us aiming low or not aiming at all.
In this article, I will show you the importance of shifting your mindset and understanding a truth that high achievers, visionaries, and goal-setters alike have practiced for generations.
Listen to me, you don’t need to know how. You just need to decide and take action on what and why.
Let's break this down, starting with understanding the types of goals we set.
A, B, and C goals: What’s the difference?
Here is a simple yet powerful framework that helps us distinguish between goals that grow us and those that just keep us busy.
A goal
The A goal is a goal that you’ve already achieved or know how to do. It's familiar, safe, and requires no real growth.
Example: “I want to travel.”
B goal
The B goal is one that you think you can achieve. It only requires some planning and effort, and you only take the steps that are based on your current skill level, options, and resources.
Example: “I want to travel to Spain.”
C goal
The C goal is a huge, desire-driven vision — something that excites you and scares you.
You have no clue how to achieve it, and that’s the point. You are not yet the person you need to become in order to reach this goal.
Example: “I want to travel to Barcelona, Spain, and live there for one year to learn Spanish.”
But here is the problem: most people never go after their C goal because they get stuck on the how!
"How" is the wrong question — At first
When you come up with a C goal and immediately demand to know how to make it happen, two things occur:
You dilute the goal by thinking about it through the lens of your current limitations, past experiences, skills, and beliefs.
You start to shrink the goal to fit your perceived capabilities, and you base its achievability on thoughts from within your comfort zone.
The result? You never commit.
You never grow.
You never find out what you’re really capable of.
And this leads to frustration, depression, anger, anxiety, etc.
Here is a simple but often overlooked truth:
If you already knew how to achieve your goal, it wouldn’t be a C goal. It would just be a task.
Your real job: Decide the what and remember the why
Forget the how for now.
The first step to achieving any meaningful goal is to decide what you want and then get deeply connected to why you want it.
The what provides direction, keeps you focused, and helps you maintain discipline when the road gets tough.
The why gives you emotional power, resiliency, and the motivation to stay consistent.
When your goal matters to you to the point that you can relate to it on a soul level, when it becomes parallel to your identity and is your purpose as well as your future, you begin to unlock energy and creativity you didn’t know you had.
“When the why is strong enough, the how reveals itself.” — Jim Rohn
Decision creates momentum
When you have made a powerful, committed decision, that is the moment things begin to change. Not because the outside world immediately shifts, but because you do.
Your thinking becomes more focused, and all of the other mental clutter starts to disappear, allowing your mind to be free, and you develop more of a growth mindset.
Your perspective changes because your brain starts filtering for opportunities and resources aligned with the goal.
You begin to act in ways that match your desired identity, not your current situation. In other words, you start to become the person you need to be in order to achieve that goal.
Without decision and action, your dream remains wishful thinking.
With decision and action, it becomes a destiny waiting to unfold.
Let the how reveal itself step by step
When you finally commit to your C goal, you don’t need a 20-step plan. You only need to ask: What’s the next step I can take?
As you move forward, you are able to see the path more clearly. Just like when you are driving and the road is foggy, you only need to see the next 200 feet. That’s enough to keep going.
This is how real success is built—not with perfect blueprints, but with faithful and consistent forward movement.
Use faith, not force
Big goals require big belief, not burnout.
You’re not just working toward something, you’re becoming someone new in the process. Remember that.
Here’s what that looks like:
Visualize your goal daily. Don’t just say it, see it.
Affirm it out loud as if it’s already happening.
Take small, courageous actions even when you feel uncertain. Small action is better than no action.
Faith keeps your energy high.
Force leads to burnout, second-guessing, quitting, and frustration.
Trust and know that the right people, tools, and ideas will appear as you evolve.
You don’t need to know how, you need to become the who
The most powerful mindset shift you can make is this:
Stop asking, “How will I do this?” and start asking, “Who do I need to become to do this?”
Your goal isn’t just about achievement, it’s about transformation.
Each step you take brings you closer not only to the goal but to a new version of yourself who does know how.
That version of you is wiser, braver, and more resourceful. And guess what? They’re waiting on the other side of your decision.
Final thoughts
When setting your C goal, remember you don't have to have it all figured out at once. Let go of the need to control everything and every step. If you don't, it will only lead to frustration when things don't go exactly as planned, and your goal will either shrink, or you may give up altogether because you find yourself overwhelmed.
You don’t need a detailed plan. It's enough to just have a plan. You will gain more clarity as you continue to move forward and allow the process to run its course.
All you need is a clear decision, a powerful reason, and the courage to take the next step.
Remember, thoughts don't become things unless you take action. Also, keep in mind that this will take time, so be kind to yourself and celebrate those wins, whether large or small. That will keep you motivated to continue, even when you face setbacks and struggles.
That’s how every extraordinary achievement begins—not with knowing how, but with daring to say, “I will. I just don’t know how yet.”
Ready to commit to your C goal?
Say it out loud. Write it down. Take the first step and trust that the rest will unfold.
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Andrew Murphy, Mindset Self-worth Coach
Dru Murphy is a certified ACT/CBT mindset self-worth coach. He is the owner and founder of Level Up Coaching & Consulting.
He specializes in helping clients with developing a deeper sense of self-worth and a better understanding of who they are and want to become.
Dru's unique and effective coaching style is what sets him apart from other coaches.
Not only will he support and guide his clients along their personal development journey, but he will also hold them accountable and demand discipline.
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