Why Curiosity is the Secret to Self-Growth + 5 Ways to Ask Powerful Questions
- Brainz Magazine
- Jun 10
- 4 min read
Updated: Jun 11
Written by Rasha AlShaar, Mind-Body Coach, PCC
Rasha AlShaar, PCC, is a Mind-Body Coach with an integrative approach to healing and self-development. By merging modalities that range from mindset and somatic tools, she's on a mission to facilitate full-body healing and head-to-toe awakenings to help people embody their authentic truth and innate power.
“There are no stupid questions” is a sweet quote, but let’s be real, some questions are a little stupid. They’re the ones asked to put you down, keep you in the same limiting patterns, tend to be super surface-level or confusing, or are straight-up unanswerable. You know, the ones that loop and loop in your mind in hopes you finally land on “the” answer that will make all your problems go away?
The problem was never your inability to find “the” answer, it’s the way you’ve been going about asking that’s been the problem all along. Reconnecting with your childlike curiosity is essential for approaching life with the openness needed to ask powerful questions that lead to the meaningful insight you’ve been looking for all along.
It starts with childlike curiosity
Ever since I was a kid, I was the classic “good girl.” Not in the obedient, rule-following way, but in the “I’ll listen, but I’ll ask a million questions first” way. Mama would give me advice, and I’d challenge it. Not to rebel, but to understand. It sounded something like, “Okay, I won’t sleep over … but why?” I didn’t accept things at face value. I built my own logic, rooted in this simple curiosity. Turns out mama was often right, but so was little me’s need to question, investigate, and make sense of things for herself.
That same curiosity never left me. It actually became the foundation of my work: guiding people past an obstacle or toward a goal through insightful dialogue, embodied experience, and tangible action.
But what is curiosity, really?
Curiosity is simply a strong desire to know, explore, and understand. But it often gets a bad rap. We’ve all heard the saying, “Curiosity killed the cat,” but what people tend to forget is that’s only half the story, because “satisfaction brought it back.” When embraced with pure intention, childlike curiosity becomes a great catalyst for your journey of self-growth and healing.
Why curiosity is cool
The reward of living life this way is endless. You naturally begin to:
Notice your thoughts and patterns without rushing to fix them.
Think more creatively beyond the “right” way.
Solve problems with more perspective and clarity.
Create stronger and more genuine connections.
Build more presence and empathy because you’re listening to understand.
And simply enjoy the pleasure of possibility!
But that sense of wonder alone can only take you so far, like intention without direction. To truly transform and uncover real insight, you need to pair that childlike curiosity with powerful questions.
The power of powerful questions
“The quality of your life depends on the quality of your questions” isn’t just a catchy quote by Tony Robbins; this one’s grounded in science.
A 2017 article in Government Executive explains that asking insightful questions literally rewires your brain. Such questions promote neuroplasticity, enabling you to break out of mental ruts and generate fresh insights and creative solutions. Meanwhile, a study published in Frontiers in Psychology shows that self-questioning activates the prefrontal cortex, boosting emotional regulation and decision-making aligned with your core values.
How better questions make you better
In short, better questions make you better at being you and doing what’s best for you by helping you:
Break free from thought loops and mental spirals.
Make clear, values-aligned decisions.
Access deeper truths that go beyond surface-level inquiries.
Tap into self-generated motivation rooted in your “why.”
Create emotional honesty with yourself and others.
5 ways to ask better questions
Asking yourself powerful questions from a curious place for your self-growth’s sake doesn’t have to be hard. Here are 5 simple ways to start asking better questions:
Keep it simple & open-ended: Don’t ask yes/no questions. Do keep your questions clear and inviting.
Be kind: Don’t diagnose or judge yourself. Do ask yourself with compassion, simply to understand.
Focus on reflection: Don’t stay on the surface or ignore your feelings. Do stay open and keep exploring.
Choose empowering: Don’t ask questions that trap you or put you down. Do focus on your agency and possibilities.
Stay present & action-oriented: Don’t overthink what you “should’ve” done in the past. Do focus on what small step you can take today.
That's true transformation
It all starts with a nudge. A butterfly in your tummy. A thought you can’t shake. A dream that keeps knocking. Instead of ignoring it, just get curious about it. Then start asking better questions about it—ones that are inviting, compassionate, thought-provoking, supportive, and proactive.
That's true transformation: not chasing better answers, but learning to ask better questions. That’s your self-work, and the heart of mine.
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Rasha AlShaar, Mind-Body Coach, PCC
With over a decade of experience in healing practices and self-growth tools, Rasha AlShaar founded her coaching practice in 2020, shaping her integrative approach through ongoing personal growth and rigorous training, blending subconscious, emotional, somatic, behavioral, and energetic modalities to best serve her clients.
Rooted in her curiosity, driven by her commitment to service, and grounded in her PCC accreditation from the International Coaching Federation with 700+ hours of 1:1 coaching experience, Rasha is on a mission to help others on their transformative journeys as a Mind-Body Coach, guiding them to reconnect with their inherent wisdom and worth through insightful dialogue, embodied experience, and tangible action steps.
