What Goes Into the Making of a Positive Person
- Brainz Magazine
- Feb 14
- 6 min read
Written by Chiral Yadava, Life Transformation Coach
Chiral is an accomplished life transformation coach, author of the inspirational book 'Chiral: A Soldier' released in 2022, an award-winning storyteller, and an unshakeable optimist. She is committed to unlocking people’s fullest potential and helping them discover the keys to lasting happiness and fulfillment.
To me, a positive person is someone who looks at the brighter side of things, no matter how tough the situation may be. They always find something good in every challenge and remain hopeful for the best. Have you ever met someone who instantly made you feel good and filled you with positive energy? That’s the power of a positive person. Their energy is contagious, and they leave you feeling uplifted.
By reading this article, you’ve already taken your first step toward positivity, opening your mind to change.
How to become a positive person
We don’t become positive overnight; it’s a practice. It starts with small daily habits and gradually extends to more complex situations in life.
At first, it may seem difficult, but over time, positivity becomes second nature, a habit deeply embedded in our mindset. Life is beautiful, but it also has a way of testing us. When challenges arise, our positivity will be pushed to its limits. However, once positivity becomes a part of our DNA, no test feels impossible.
My journey towards positivity
I was raised single-handedly by my mother, along with my two siblings, as my father, an Army officer, was often posted in high-risk locations.
From an early age, I developed a deep sense of gratitude for what I had and learned to live in the moment. No matter what happened, my mother always showed us the positive side of things. As kids, we sometimes challenged her and even resisted the idea of seeing the good in difficult situations. But over time, we realised that choosing positivity led to happiness. That’s when I thought, Why not embrace it completely?
It became an everyday practice, thinking, speaking, and acting with positivity. Eventually, it became the environment in which I grew up. Finding the positive side of any situation became a part of me.
When I moved away from home in my 20s to pursue my master’s degree in another city, it was a real test of how well I had absorbed this mindset. To my surprise, I adjusted effortlessly because positivity had become my habit. Wherever I went, I spread positivity, reinforcing the message that positivity leads to happiness. It all starts with making a choice: to reject negativity and embrace the good.
Positivity became my strength
Staying positive became my biggest source of happiness and strength.
I had an arranged marriage at the age of 25. But sometimes, things don’t go as planned. My marriage lasted only two years. I still remember calling my mom and saying, "I’ve tried everything possible to make it work, but it’s not working out."
Her response? "It’s okay. Things happen. Focus on what you want to do next."
That one sentence changed everything for me. It reminded me that life goes on and that I had the power to shape my future.
I decided to focus on my career while continuing to live in Singapore and build my own empire. Well, not an empire, but I did buy a beautiful home in an incredible place in India.
It wasn’t easy, and it did feel lonely with my entire family back in India, but I was happy. I told myself, So what if I am alone? At least I am at peace. I gave myself a few years to heal from the inside before I was ready to settle down again.
I got an opportunity to travel to Australia for work, and Australia became my home. There, I finally found the love of my life.
A few years later, two adorable little bunnies entered my life, not actual bunnies, but my two very cute cats. They were "touch-me-not," non-cuddly cats, but they made their way straight into my heart. They became my biggest healers as I was coping with the loss of my three babies. It was heartbreaking, but I was grateful for the time I spent with them and the moments I cherished while they were in my tummy.
The feeling of becoming a mother is the best feeling, hearing that little heartbeat for the first time is indescribable. Those memories will stay with me for the rest of my life.
Positivity and perseverance brought happiness back into my life. We were blessed with our bundle of joy, our baby girl.
Life kept testing us, just as it tests everyone. But sitting in the "positivity boat" always helped me sail through the storms.
As I write this, I have a smile on my face, thinking of something that happened two years ago. My mom had traveled to Australia for my book launch. Just a day after the event, we were all enjoying a delicious meal at home when she suddenly said, "Look!" I turned and saw that her front tooth had come out. She smiled and said, "It’s okay. Thank God your book launch event is over!"
It amazes me how my mom finds positivity in any situation. Even with a broken tooth, she gave me a big smile and showed gratitude.
As a kid, I once asked my mom if she was scared of what would happen if something happened to Dad. He was always in a very high-risk area. She said, "I was a bit scared, but I never allowed it to take center stage in my heart." She told me she lived each day as it came, didn’t worry too much about the future, and always remained positive.
Surrounding yourself with positive people is such a powerful way to cultivate positivity within yourself. And making a continuous effort to stay positive makes all the difference.
The power of learning from others
It is very important to learn from others who are positive and embrace positivity. It is not always easy to be positive, but ultimately, it leads to your own happiness.
I remember coming back from college after a long day, and my mom asked me to drop off dinner for one of my dad’s friends who was fighting for his life in the hospital. I was so exhausted, but I had to go. I literally dragged myself there. As I walked through the corridor of the intensive care unit, I imagined knocking on the door and seeing my uncle lying on the hospital bed with a sad look.
As I got closer, I heard some noise from inside. I knocked, and a voice called out, "Come in." What I saw blew me away. My uncle was watching TV and smiling. He was happy to see me and asked me to sit for a few minutes. He spoke to me about my college and life as if everything was completely normal. He said he wanted to make the most of the days he had left.
I had such a great time with him. I arrived exhausted but left feeling energised, refreshed, and happy.
As I waved goodbye and walked back, I was amazed at how someone going through one of the toughest phases of life could be so cheerful, spreading happiness despite his own pain. That day, I promised myself to choose happiness, no matter what.
Being positive, being happy, is a choice we make. We can’t control situations, but we can definitely choose how we react to them.
Another incident that touched my heart happened when I drove my mom to one of my aunt’s houses. Mom asked me to drop her off and wait for a few minutes before taking her back. I waited for over 30 minutes, but she didn’t return. Concerned, I went inside and saw a huge crowd. Somehow, I made my way through and found my mom sitting beside my aunt.
My aunt had an accident in the kitchen and had suffered severe burns. Despite her pain, she was telling my mom how grateful she was that her kids were not home and were safe. She even said, “At least my face was unharmed.”
Oh god, I was in tears. I literally fell to my knees hearing those words. She must have been in unbearable pain, yet she chose gratitude.
The choice is yours
No one’s life is easy. We are all tested at some point and pushed to our limits. It can feel like we’re hanging upside down, ready to fall off a deep cliff with no harness or safety belt.
We need to make a choice: stay positive and hang in there, or give up.
Join me on the path to being positive and happier
If you want to be a positive person, start today. Start small. Practice seeing the good in everyday moments, and soon it will become second nature.
The more you embrace positivity, the more happiness will flow into your life. Positivity is a choice that can transform your life.
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Chiral Yadava, Life Transformation Coach
Chiral, an accomplished Life Transformation Coach, embarked on her coaching journey long before the term existed in her dictionary. With roots in an Indian Army family and training in the National Cadet Corps, she strongly believes that destiny is in our hands and that we can shape it as we wish. With 15 years of HR expertise in global firms, having transformed and touched numerous lives over the years, and her inspirational autobiography "Chiral: A Soldier" released in 2022, she's on a passionate quest to empower individuals to seize life's boundless opportunities, for we only have one shot at making it count.
