What Do I Want To Teach My Kids In 2023? Teaching My Kids That It's OK To Fail
Written by: Priyanka Tiku Gupta, Executive Contributor
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“Growing up in a first-world country like Singapore is tough for our kids! That sounds counter-intuitive. We work hard as parents to provide our kids with an environment where they are blessed and fortunate to have everything they want at their fingertips. On reflection, have we, as parents, conditioned them to believe that life is always an upward trend? I am not suggesting we dampen their self-esteem or power to dream big.
On the contrary, we should continue motivating them to succeed in living their passion. However, are we preparing them well enough to react to unforeseen circumstances? What happens if they don’t achieve their goals? What happens if they don’t secure top positions at school or in extracurricular activities? What happens when things don’t go planned?
My goal in 2023 is to complement teaching my kids to continue pursuing high-performing goals and to have a toolkit to manage unforeseen change and “failure.” I plan on doing this by implementing my ‘3As Framework’, with tips on how we, as parents, can support our kids (and ourselves – the advice is universal!):
Attitude
Remind yourself that nothing in life is a failure, and it’s only feedback. Find joy in the current situation, be grateful for the experience and talk to your kids about how some of your life’s challenging stories have shaped you into who you are today. Gratitude is a quick way to change the vibration of how we are feeling in the situation and brings a sense of calm and clarity in the chaos of the challenge.
Acceptance
Embrace and normalize high-charge emotions such as anger, sadness, and guilt. It’s better in than out; let’s not label feeling these emotions as less strong and resilient. Allowing yourself to feel and release helps to lower the negative charge of emotions associated with the situation. Helping your kids express their feelings reduces the possibility of their subconscious mind making limiting beliefs and promises to themselves that tend to impact them as adults subconsciously.
Action
Accept the current reality. Talk about what you and your kids have learned from this situation, about yourselves and the situation itself. If one thing could have been done differently, what would that be and why? This helps instill a growth and learning mindset in our children and teaches them courage and confidence when faced with challenges as adults.”
Priyanka Tiku Gupta, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Priyanka Tiku Gupta is a multifaceted, internationally certified performance coach, an emotional wellness practitioner, and a founder of her wellness organization PTG Wellness. After 20 years of media and marketing experience, she took her 1st ever career break. Being ambitious, she pursued her passion for empowering people in her break, leading her to her personal development journey. She is now on a mission to drive the belief that life doesn't happen to us and that we can create the life we desire. She believes we all have this inner critical voice, yet there is a way to change that voice to your best friend.
She has 500+ hours of coaching and healing over 75 clients across Asia, the UK, Europe, Australia & the Middle East. She strives to take her clients on a transformational journey where they learn how to unleash their true potential by tapping into their inside voice as their unique superpower.
