What CEOs Need to Know About Depression
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 13
- 4 min read
Psychologist Helping Professionals & Parents Resolve Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, Trauma, and Live a Fulfilled & Bold Life | Author of the Bestseller Book, “You Are Not-Depressed. You Are Un-Finished.” | Keynoter & Podcaster
Your most expensive risk may be the one you don’t name. I’m in a therapy session with a CEO. Confident voice. Polished story. Composed presence. From the outside, it may appear that nothing is happening. If you look deeper, you realize that something has gone dim. Not dramatic. Not messy. Not obvious. Just diminished. Less vibrancy. Less patience. Less depth. Less expression. Less joy.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard a CEO say, “I’m depressed.” It feels too foreign. Too “not me.”
Instead, they might say:
“I feel nothing.”
“I’ve done so much. Is this it?”
“I’m fine, but something is off.”
“I can’t turn my mind off.”
“I feel alone, boxed in.”
Here are five questions that often come up when I support CEOs who are privately struggling:
1. How does depression show up in CEOs?
Studies show that over 50% of executives privately grapple with depression (compared to 25% of the general population). The personas of success, strength, and status mask their inner reality. They are often unaware that they're depressed.
Why the disconnect? Depression in leadership rarely looks like sadness, exhaustion, or apathy.
That’s why leaders, boards of directors, HR, families, colleagues, and even clinicians overlook it.
Obvious clues are missed. A CEO’s feedback may reflect inflexibility, outbursts, arrogance, stubbornness, risky behaviors, or changes in style or performance. Leadership coaching and HR support generate only minimal change.
It’s not a skill or motivation issue. It’s often depression.
Depression deceives. High achievers don’t collapse from depression. They over-function.
Depression becomes:
More meetings.
More control (analyses, reviews).
More productivity.
More perfectionism.
More “I’ll deliver.”
More drive, tension.
From the outside, admired. From the inside, exhausted.
To CEOs, depression could feel like:
Efficiency without energy.
Winning without feeling.
Success without aliveness.
Solid KPIs. Inner world quietly darkening.
2. Am I depressed?
I offer you a mirror. Ask yourself honestly, "Have these been true lately?"
I’m less warm. Still “nice,” but less present. I talk with people, but feel hollow, removed. I’m less tolerant. Small mistakes feel huge. My reactions are sharper, snappier. I’m less creative. Brainstorming and deliberations feel exhausting. I feel more threat-focused. Less imaginative. I’m more controlling. I ask for redos of the plans. I micromanage. Call it “high standards.” I’m more detached. I cancel dinners. Avoid calls. Don’t want anything that requires feelings or a close connection.
Do you feel a thought keeps whispering, “This is just who I am now”?
If so, hear me. That thought is often part of the depression disguise.
3. So what if I am depressed?
Depression does not mean:
You’re weak
You’re broken
You’re stuck
It often means something simpler. And more serious. It means you are emotionally starved. You’re running on empty.
Learn more about your essential emotional needs here, “Depression is Not a Disease. It’s Fuel.”
Depression is a painful nudge that says:
“Too much.”
“Deserve better.”
“No more.”
“Help!”
It may signal:
grief you never had time to feel.
pressure that your nervous system can’t absorb anymore.
loneliness, a broken heart masked by your busy schedule.
a life that looks successful, but no longer feels like yours.
Depression can be a problem. Depression is also data. Use it.
4. What is the true cost of my depression?
This is where many CEOs underestimate the risk. Because depression doesn’t only affect mood. It affects leaders' behavior and their teams and operations.
The hidden costs often look like:
An engagement tax: People stop bringing you the truth. They see you as too moody, distracted, or dismissive.
A trust tax: Candor drops. Agreement rises.
A performance tax: Less risk-taking, lower critical thinking. Less innovation. More playing not to lose.
A relational tax: At work or home, you’re there, but not really there.
A physical tax: Sleep disruption, aches and pains, hypertension, gut issues, reliance on alcohol/food/work, or crashes.
Here’s the line I wish every CEO would remember. Your company can survive your exhaustion. But it may struggle if you’re emotionally and intellectually withdrawn.
Your emotional health is not a luxury. It’s a business strategy. A parenting strategy. A marriage strategy. A life strategy.
5. What works?
Stop viewing depression as a willpower issue. Depression doesn’t respond to pressure. What you suppress will resurface. Depression responds to emotional restoration and living your truth.
Real change
Does this post feel uncomfortably familiar? If so, you don’t have to keep “powering through” privately.
Contact me if you want real change. I provide reliable therapy and coaching for leaders navigating depression, anxiety, and burnout. Learn more here: Therapy & Testimonials
Option 1: Complimentary Leader Consult (30min)
Think of this as a private diagnostic. We’ll quickly clarify:
What’s actually happening beneath the surface of success for you
What it’s costing you (your style, creativity, relationships, health)
The fastest, most reliable path back to aliveness and growth
Option 2: Executive Team Briefing (60–90min)
"Depression Skill Building for Leadership Team: What It Looks Like, Implications, and Reliable Solutions"
Your leaders could be misreading depression as “poor attitude,” “disengagement,” or “lack of resilience.” If so, your team is already paying for it in lower trust, innovation, or performance. Invite me in for a candid, inspiring, and practical briefing that helps your team:
Recognize the high-functioning depression signs early
Respond skillfully and directly
Boost energy, motivation, and performance
Depression is not the end. It’s the beginning.
Read more from Dr. Ardeshir Mehran
Dr. Ardeshir Mehran, High-Achievers Depression & Anxiety Disruptor
Dr. Ardeshir Mehran is disrupting the mental health field. His mission is to help heal depression and to ease he emotional suffering of people across the world. Everyone else portrays depression as an immovable cause, a mood disorder that must be treated. Dr. Mehran busts this myth and focuses attention on the real culprit, the unfulfilled life we must lead when we deny our birthrights. He is the developer of The Bill of Emotional Rights©, based on 30 years of research, coaching, and clinical work. Ardeshir is a psychologist, trauma therapist, and behavioral researcher. He has a Ph.D. and a Master's from Columbia University, New York City. He lives in Northern California with his wife, son, and Lucy (the family’s golden retriever).
