Unmasking the Legacy of Institutional Child Sexual Abuse
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 14, 2025
- 5 min read
Written by John Comerford, Author/Motivational Speaker
John Comerford is the author of Tarzan Loves Jane and Battle Armour ( 25 Tools for Men's Mental Health). John is also one of the authors of the number one Amazon best-selling book series, Start Over.
For decades, I lived as a sleeper, moving through life on autopilot, haunted by memories I tried desperately to bury. Like so many men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse, I became an expert at silence, numbing my pain, and hiding my truth behind a mask of normalcy. But the cost of that silence was high: fractured relationships, a constant sense of unease, and a mental health crisis that nearly claimed my life.
In 2017, the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse laid bare a national tragedy: thousands of Australian children, especially boys, were sexually abused by teachers, priests, and trusted adults within institutions meant to protect them. The shockwaves of these revelations still reverberate, but the actual depth of the crisis is only now coming into focus because for many male survivors, the most devastating effects of abuse remain hidden for decades. This is the “sleeper effect”: the long, silent tail of trauma that explodes into men’s lives years, even generations, after the abuse itself.
The Royal Commission heard from over 8,000 survivors; 64.3% were male. The average age of men who spoke at the Royal Commission was between 50 and 59 years old, with 29.3% of survivors who attended private sessions falling into this age group. Shockingly, about 10% of survivors at private sessions were disclosing for the first time, and most of these first-time disclosures were made by men. Many men were well into adulthood, often middle-aged or older, before they spoke about their experiences, highlighting the profound “sleeper effect” of trauma and the long delays in disclosure. Many never speak at all. In Australia, 1 in 5 men were sexually abused as a child, yes, 1 in 5. For countless men, the pain of childhood sexual abuse is locked away, buried beneath layers of shame, fear, and silence.
The sleeper effect: Trauma that waits in the shadows
The sleeper effect is a devastating psychological phenomenon where the impact of childhood sexual abuse lies dormant, sometimes for decades, before erupting into a man’s life with overwhelming force. Unlike physical wounds, trauma from abuse often remains hidden, surfacing later through depression, anxiety, relationship breakdowns, substance abuse, and even suicidal thoughts.
For male survivors, the sleeper effect can mean years of functioning on the surface while internally battling shame, guilt, and a sense of isolation. Many men describe living with “major isolation, major depression, major anger, sadness, shame, guilt, scared, I always felt I was to blame”. These emotions are compounded by society’s expectations of masculinity and silence, making it even harder for men to seek help.
The sleeper effect doesn’t just impact mental health; it can disrupt every aspect of life. Men may struggle with chronic sleep disturbances, physical health problems, substance abuse, and difficulties with intimacy and trust. The trauma can manifest as flashbacks, emotional numbness, and a persistent sense of being unsafe, even in adulthood.
Many survivors report that the abuse “never really goes away,” and its effects can resurface unexpectedly, triggered by life events such as parenthood, illness, or retirement.
Research shows that men who experienced childhood sexual abuse are four times more likely to receive a clinical mental health diagnosis and ten times more likely to develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) than their peers. The sleeper effect is not just a delay; it’s a ticking time bomb that can shatter lives long after the original trauma.
The emotional cost of abuse: Why silence is not strength
The brain is hardwired to resist change and uncertainty, interpreting both as threats. The amygdala, the brain’s alarm system, floods the body with stress hormones, making it even harder to break the silence and seek help. Unprocessed trauma leads to emotional overwhelm, manifesting as anxiety, depression, sleep disturbances, and even physical pain. For men, the pressure to “stay strong” and “move on” only deepens the isolation.
But vulnerability is not weakness. It is the gateway to healing. When we allow ourselves to be seen, we create space for genuine connection and empathy. The shame and fear that keep us silent are not our fault; they are the result of trauma, not a reflection of our worth.
The power of reaching out
Breaking the silence is the first, most courageous step. It is also the hardest. But you are not alone. Across Australia and the world, there are organisations dedicated to supporting men who have experienced sexual abuse:
SAMSN (Survivors & Mates Support Network): Australia’s leading not-for-profit for male survivors, created for survivors by survivors. Co-founded by Craig Hughes-Cashmore, who serves as CEO, SAMSN offers free, ongoing support groups, counselling, workshops, and a peer support phone line.
Male survivor (USA): Provides online forums, resources, and in-person events for male survivors and their supporters.
1 in 6 (USA): Offers support, resources, and online groups for men who have experienced sexual abuse.
Survivors UK (UK/Europe): Supports male and non-binary survivors with counselling, advocacy, and a national online helpline.
Male Survivors Partnership (UK): A network offering online counselling and group therapy for male survivors.
Safe Line (UK): Provides a national male survivor helpline, counselling, and advocacy.
These organisations exist because breaking the silence is possible and because healing begins when we reach out.
Final thoughts: An invitation to wake
If you are reading this as a survivor, know that you are not alone. The patterns in your brain, the struggles with sleep, memory, and emotion, are not signs of weakness; they are evidence of your brain’s attempt to protect you. But you do not have to remain a sleeper. The act of speaking up, of reaching out, is the first step toward waking. The science is precise. The stories are real. The need is urgent. It is time to wake up the sleepers.
Read more from John Comerford
John Comerford, Author/Motivational Speaker
John Comerford is a leading advocate for men’s mental health and trauma recovery.
A survivor of childhood sexual assault, he spent 40 years suffering in silence.
After a suicide attempt, John began the journey to confront his past and rebuild.
His book "Tarzan Loves Jane", a dark romantic comedy, is based on his true story.
He later created "Battle Armour: 25 Tools for Men’s Mental Health" to give back.
Today, he speaks, writes, and leads with one clear message to all men: Speak up.
His mission: No man suffers in silence.
