Understanding Negative Projection – Why We Project Onto Others and How to Stop
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 28, 2025
- 4 min read
Updated: Jul 29, 2025
Written by Maxine Smith, Life Coach
Maxine Smith is a renowned career coach and mentor, best known for her impactful work within the corporate world. As the founder of Spirit Soul Solutions, an online coaching platform, she offers a wide range of life coaching services aimed at personal and professional development.
Explore how to release the grip of negativity, dismantle projections cast by others, and reclaim your authentic self. This guide empowers you to rise above the noise, embrace your inner truth, and stride boldly toward the future that was always meant for you.
1. The weight of our words: Understanding negative projection
Imagine you’re standing at the edge of a vast field, about to admire a spectacular sunset, radiant hues stretching across the sky like a canvas meant just for you. But as you reach for the moment, someone beside you hands you tinted glasses. Not on purpose, just out of habit. Their lenses are smudged with past disappointments, filtered through caution, scepticism, maybe even pain.
So now, instead of marvelling at the gold and coral sky that could ignite your soul, you’re squinting through shades of grey, trying to recapture what you almost saw. You begin to second-guess the beauty, question the stillness, and wonder if it’s that special.
This is what happens when someone’s personal lens unconsciously colours your unique experience. They’re not trying to take away your joy, but unless you’re aware of those “glasses,” you might not notice how the view has shifted.
Ask yourself these three powerful questions
Whose lenses might you be seeing this through?
What perspectives or past experiences could be colouring this moment?
If you took off those glasses, how would the experience look different?
2. Unravelling the influence: Choosing what serves you best
Every person you meet walks through life wearing invisible layers woven from beliefs, experiences, family dynamics, and cultural influences. These layers shape how they interpret the world, react to challenges, and connect with others. And while their outlook may be rich in wisdom or rooted in pain, it isn’t yours to carry unless you choose to.
As you journey through life, you'll encounter contrasting ways of thinking. Some may feel familiar, others uncomfortable. You’ll notice how people’s backgrounds subtly, or loudly, influence how they speak, advise, and even judge. But here’s the quiet truth: you are not obligated to absorb someone else’s lens.
Growth begins when you realise that your beliefs aren’t set in stone. They’re fluid, ready to evolve the moment you step outside the known and stretch into the possibilities beyond your comfort zone. Exposure to diverse cultures, fresh perspectives, and new experiences doesn’t just expand your mind; it creates the space for alignment.
Conduct introspection
What values feel true to you?
What mindsets energise your path forward?
What beliefs will you leave behind because they no longer serve your becoming?
When you consciously choose the attitudes and insights that uplift and empower you, you begin sculpting a mindset anchored in growth, not in fear or imitation.
3. Escaping the cycle: Breaking free from negative projection
In the quiet moments between doubt and decision, many of us carry stories that were never truly ours. Passed down through voices of authority, environments we once needed to survive, or cultural expectations that shaped our self-image, these projections embed themselves as invisible scripts.
Negative projection is the unconscious cycle of absorbing others' fears, judgments, and limitations as if they were truths. Over time, this distortion clouds our clarity, dims our confidence, and disrupts our potential.
This journey is an invitation to pause, peel back those layers, and ask: "What do I believe because it’s mine, and what have I accepted because it was offered?"
By recognizing the cycle, reframing those beliefs, and replacing them with authentic self-awareness, we begin to reclaim the path to self-leadership and liberation.
If you’re ready to redefine your narrative, reconnect to your truth, and rise in your power, this guide is your mirror, map, and momentum.
Awareness journaling: Identify borrowed beliefs
Invite reflection by asking:
“Where did this belief originate?”
“Does this reflect who I truly am or who someone told me to be?”This helps separate internal truth from external projection.
Tip: Set aside 10 minutes once a week for this mindful practice.
Reframe your inner dialogue
Challenge automatic negative thoughts by replacing them with affirming truths:
Instead of “I’m not good enough,” try “I am learning, growing, and worthy of what I seek.”
Pocket practice: Keep a list of replacement phrases on your phone or mirror.
Create a personal ritual for reconnection
Design a simple activity that anchors you in self-authenticity:
Morning mantra
Walk in nature
Candle-lit journaling with intention
Benefit: Builds emotional clarity and strengthens your voice.
Consume with awareness
Observe how media, relationships, and environments shape self-perception. Ask:
“Does this uplift my authentic self or fuel doubt?”
Mini action: Unfollow three social accounts that trigger comparison or projection-based thinking.
Affirm your chosen identity daily
Use “I am” statements to ground your truth:
“I am confident.”
“I am worthy of respect.”
“I am free from others’ expectations.”
Routine builder: Say them aloud each morning or record them in a voice note to replay.
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Maxine Smith, Life Coach
Maxine Smith is the inspiring leader of Spirit Soul Solutions, an online coaching platform. Her own career challenges and the search for a place where she could thrive and grow led her to this path. Maxine's work is deeply rooted in transforming limiting beliefs and changing patterns that no longer serve her in all areas of life. She believes in continuous self-improvement and views herself as a work in progress, constantly evolving to help others do the same.
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