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Transform Your Relationships by Cultivating Inner Validation Through Akashic Records

May 7, 2024
2 min read

Patty is a transformational energy healer, author and spiritual teacher of the Akashic Records. A diagnosis of breast cancer in 2007 launched her self-healing path to soul empowerment and alignment,

Executive Contributor Patty Oliver

Relationships, particularly romantic ones, often demand the most attention and effort in our lives. It’s where we forge some of our strongest emotional bonds, for better or worse.


Calm relaxed couple meditating together at home.

In my work as an energy healer specializing in Akashic Records, I've noticed recurring patterns for my clients in their romantic relationships. These patterns, like self-doubt and victimization, tend to originate early in life and persist into adulthood by projecting unmet needs and expectations onto our partners. If left unresolved, these projections can become karmic cycles that will repeat across lifetimes until we break free.


My role is to help clients identify and clear these negative patterns, guiding them to make new conscious choices and create positive energetic shifts to align with their soul blueprint. Everything is energy, and we have the power to change our energy anytime we choose.


Shift from external to internal validation

One crucial shift I emphasize with my clients is to stop seeking external validation from others. Instead, I help them find it within themselves. When we love and validate ourselves, we develop self-confidence and self-worth. Over time, this helps us attract healthier relationships. Otherwise, we may attract those who reinforce our limiting belief that we need external approval, leading to unsatisfactory dynamics.


By cultivating self-love and internal validation, you become your own best companion. You'll no longer settle for less than you deserve or fear being alone.


5 actions you can take right now to make the shift


  • Understand that others, including parents, can only love us from where they are on their own healing journey. By releasing the need for their approval, we can start nurturing self-approval instead.

  • Honor your authenticity instead of conforming to family expectations. Embrace your uniqueness, even if it means diverging from familial norms.

  • Spend time alone to explore your interests and preferences. Knowing yourself allows you to seek compatible partners rather than relying on someone to "complete" you.

  • Prioritize self-care and ditch negative habits. Nourish your body, mind, and soul, and surround yourself with supportive relationships that align with your goals.

  • Foster an empowered mindset by reframing negative thoughts into actionable steps towards your aspirations.


Akashic records for energy healing and transformation

Your Akashic Record is the record of your soul, and it holds the key to your personal transformation by helping you identify the root cause of your fears, anxieties and limiting beliefs. I created an online course that teaches you how to access your own Akashic Record for insight, guidance and clearing karma. It’s called “Live a Soul-Powered Life,” because when you rise above ego and let your soul take the lead, your authenticity will pave the way for abundance and more aligned relationships.I also offer one-on-one private soul coaching through Akashic Records.


Patty Oliver, Energy Healer, Author, Spiritual Advisor

Patty is a transformational energy healer, author and spiritual teacher of the Akashic Records. A diagnosis of breast cancer in 2007 launched her self-healing path to soul empowerment and alignment, which she now passionately shares with others through soul coaching and spiritual online courses.

 
 

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