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Thinking Small is a Disservice to The World

  • Aug 23, 2025
  • 4 min read

Updated: Aug 25, 2025

Bri is a multi-disciplinary visionary. As a leader in FieldSpeak Mentor Services, she invites you to engage with living on life’s boldest, rawest terms. Her art and visual expression walks the same path: electric and devoted to revealing what’s real.

Executive Contributor Bri Boros

We live in a time of profound transition, where the old frameworks of success, desire, and personal striving feel too small for the vastness of what life is asking of us. This article explores the hidden trap of chasing “what we want” and invites us to remember truth: our greatest service lies well beyond striving for personal gain, in aligning with the intelligence of life itself, where contribution, connection, and presence lead the way.


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A call to expand beyond the illusion of personal wants


We are standing at a pivotal moment in human history. You feel it. I feel it.


What used to work no longer does.


Structures that once gave us stability now feel tight, outdated, and brittle. Even our desires, what we thought we wanted, feel off. Like trying to fit into clothes that no longer match who we are becoming.

 

And yet, society, business promises still tell us:


“Get clear on what you want.”

“Manifest your dream life.”

“Go from where you are to where you want to be.”


What if that framework is too constricting?

 

The hidden trap of “what we want”


We learnt to chase what we want: more success, more money, more recognition, more status, more validation, more security. We chased to avoid the fear of not being enough. To prove something: to our families. To our industries. To society. That we are capable, complete, worthy by ourselves, beneath it all lives a game of measurement and control. An anxious search for proof that we matter. A battle to maintain a sense of separate enoughness. In that state, we begin to shrink. We filter life through the lens of scarcity, competition, and self-centered striving. And in doing so, we lose sight of what’s real.


Real values.

Real connection.

Real contribution.


Nature and the absence of “wants”


There is no small framework of wants and enoughness in nature. A tree does not want to be taller, nor does the river desire to flow faster. The hawk does not aspire to be the eagle; the stone feels no shame for being still. In the wild, nothing strives to be anything other than what it is here for. The flower blooms, the bee moves as the flower moves, as the sun warms, as the wind carries, as the soil holds. There are no traces of separateness. It’s all happening together in a sacred interdependence. Each being simply is.


Responding.

Belonging.

Participating.


Being true to nature is real service to the world. This might be the wisdom that we are being asked to remember.

 

The contrast between how we live and how life lives is striking


That contrast, that gap, might seem frightening, especially when we’re stuck in the low-energy end of the spectrum.


From that place, the mind scrambles:


  • How do I let go of wanting?

  • How do I fix myself?

  • How do I get there?


The quality of these questions keeps us bound to the very loop we’re trying to escape.

 

A different energy, a different view


Now imagine standing on the other side, in the fullness of your true nature, expanded and aligned. To perceive this, we must access a higher energy source with an expanded awareness. In contrast, we’re met with something humbling: the realization of how small we are as compared to the vastness of life itself. The realization of not being enough is a portal into something intelligent and alive. Being part of a magnificent tapestry. Our wants soften. Our striving quiets. What we are called for becomes clear and takes the lead. From this profound awareness, different kinds of questions emerge.

 

  • What is the unique way I am being asked to contribute in life?

  • How can I serve something larger than myself?

  • How can I contribute in a way that truly matters and makes a difference?

 

These are the questions of someone who has remembered even for a moment who they are. In that presence, all those earlier questions dissolve, become pixelated, irrelevant. Something reorganizes.

 

The whisper of the new


Thinking small isn’t about having modest goals. It’s about filtering life through a narrow lens of an observer, where personal desire is disconnected from the collective heartbeat, from truly caring for others, from the natural wisdom of the whole.

 

There is something vast moving through our reality right now. It’s dissolving what no longer serves.

Disrupting everything to wake up to the nature of creation.

 

And maybe, just maybe, the path forward isn’t something to be achieved, especially not separately. It is something to be remembered. A sacred participation with something far more mysterious and seductive that wants to come through us. A surrender to the intelligence that’s been guiding life all along, and bringing with us as many people as we can.


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Bri Boros, FieldSpeak Mentor

Bri is a multi-disciplinary visionary, a leader in FieldSpeak Mentor Services. She shows up before the résumé ever does. She takes a worldview that pulses with life, charges it with the synergy of shared vision, fuels it with raw passion, and lets adventure lead the way. She’s here to move hearts, to remind others to access their flame, to live a life so full, so fierce, it honors every wild moment of the ride we are all on together.

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

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