The Space Between Words – Discovering the Depth of What We Don’t Say
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 7
- 3 min read
Updated: Aug 8
Written by Del Vachya, Visionary Guide
Del Vachya is a visionary guide specializing in self-mastery and mindset. Growing up with speech difficulties and navigating unsupportive environments, she learned to negotiate in a world where connection and understanding were limited. These challenges became the foundation for her ability to transform obstacles into great opportunities for personal growth. She is the author of The Mastery Prism Blueprint and creator of The Noble Summit, where she connects visionary leaders to inspire and create meaningful change.
Have you noticed how much life lives in the silence? That breath before you speak. The heavy air that settles between two people. Those pauses carry more than quiet. They hold emotion, energy, and all the things we don’t always know how to say.
We’re taught to think communication is about what we say – the clear, spoken parts. But over time, I’ve learned it’s just as much about what we don’t say.
When I was younger, I didn’t speak much. I struggled to turn feelings into sentences, and I worried I’d be misunderstood. I didn’t yet have the language for what I was feeling, and the fear of being dismissed felt heavier than the silence itself. Sometimes, I simply couldn’t speak.
For many people on the autism spectrum, speaking less isn’t about lacking thoughts or feelings. It’s because putting them into words can feel overwhelming.
The constant back-and-forth of conversation, the noise of the world – sometimes silence just feels safer.
That’s when I began to listen differently. Not only to words, but to the energy between them. To the emotions people carry and to the things they haven’t yet found a way to say.
It’s in the silence between sentences where so much connection lives, where empathy grows, and where we meet not just a person’s words, but their heart.
Sometimes, when someone is deeply grounded – calm in their own presence and unhurried to fill the air with talk – the quiet between you begins to feel alive. You notice your own thoughts more clearly. Emotions you didn’t expect start to surface.
For some, this can be very comforting.
For others, it’s almost too much, like the silence is holding up a mirror they’re not ready to face. That’s when people often prefer to have others around. Not because the silence is empty, but because it’s so full – full of presence, awareness, and truth.
I’m reminded of how many people on the autism spectrum develop a remarkable way of connecting.
In fact, many develop a truly telepathic way of sensing – a form of deep knowing that transcends language. They feel emotions, intentions, and truths that others often miss.
This isn’t about labels or diagnoses. To me, it’s about being deeply attuned to your inner world.
I do believe without a doubt we all have this capacity. However, the noise of the world, the chatter, expectations, and judgments – often drowns out this inner frequency. Yet, when we slow down and listen – really listen – we may find that the deepest conversations don’t need words at all.
When we quiet the noise and turn inward, we return to a beautiful, ancient way of being. It’s here that healing begins – for ourselves and for those around us.
What I’ve come to realize is that the most profound understanding often comes not from explaining, but from simply being present – fully and openly – with another soul.
That kind of awareness changes how you show up in the world; It shifts you from wanting to be heard to wanting to listen.
When we start noticing what’s happening in the silent moments, something changes. We begin to understand others – and ourselves – in a deeper way.
If you’ve ever felt unheard, or found that your words don’t come out right, remember: You don’t have to explain everything.
You don’t have to be loud to be seen.
Sometimes, the deepest conversations happen without words.
And the most profound love is found in that silent moment… when people simply feel each other.
If something in these words resonated with you, I invite you to connect with me on social media. You’re welcome to send me a message and share your thoughts.
I’d love to hear from you.
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Del Vachya, Visionary Guide
Del Vachya is a visionary guide specializing in self-mastery and mindset. Growing up with speech difficulties and navigating unsupportive environments, she learned to negotiate in a world where connection and understanding were limited. These challenges became the foundation for her ability to transform obstacles into great opportunities for personal growth. She is the author of The Mastery Prism Blueprint and creator of The Noble Summit, where she connects visionary leaders to inspire and create meaningful change.
