The Power Of Resonance
- Brainz Magazine
- Jun 24, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Jun 28, 2024
Written by David Bingley, Leadership, Mindset & Empowerment Coaching
David Bingley is Certified Professional Co-Active Coach and a Professional Certified Coach with over 2,000 hours of 1:1 Coaching experience. He is an expert in Leadership, Mindset and Empowerment Coaching, working on the mindful practice of mental and emotional fitness and self-awareness.
A brilliant client came into a coaching session with me recently, and they were in a perfect place. All was going well!
Because of their level of engagement and commitment to their growth and the value they felt they derived from coaching, they felt compelled to ask me my opinion of "where they could do better."
Of course, as a coach, it is not my responsibility to do that. I do call out saboteurs and limiting beliefs as they arise.
I asked them to talk about what they thought about what they were doing that was going so well.
For context, they were working on implementing mindset, strategy, and structure changes in the various teams they manage.
They started by letting me know what they had done. The actions they had implemented since our last session. What was going well, and how did they feel about it?
Their energy was high when talking about their successes, flow, and momentum, but then they had a slight wobble, and the seeds of doubt came in. They wanted to ask what areas they could work on to improve themselves.
Embodying the Co-Active approach and perspective, Everybody is Naturally Creative, Resourceful, and Whole (NCRW). (First, as the coach, I hold myself NCRW, and then my client.)
I asked them again to focus on what they thought they were doing well.
As we explored that in detail, their energy and resonance on the subject increased. Their Intentions, Actions, and Behaviors were fully aligned. They were in the flow, which I mirrored back for recognition and acknowledgment.
Their instinct was to let this subject go as if the box was checked and explore another area to improve. By exploring further and deepening their learning, perspective, and understanding of their experience, we could identify the qualities of their actions and outcomes, which allowed for more growth and broader perspectives.
For example, they had influenced, inspired, and empowered one of their teams, which had a ripple effect on other teams in her organization. The perspective of holding their teams naturally creative, resourceful, and whole allowed for more fruitful and productive meetings and made for a motivated team who felt seen, heard, recognized, and respected.
The teams had heightened Engagement, Empowerment, Collaboration, and Cohesion. They were motivated, excited, and efficient.
The teams had Direction, Purpose, and Focus. They were influenced and inspired by my clients' Intentions, Actions, and Behaviors. My client's clear messaging and leadership were evident.
Exploring and identifying these qualities and actions led me to ask where else they could do this and what they could do more of.
This allowed for a more forward-focused flow on what is possible, raising the energy and inspiring more areas of engagement with the same thing.
By the end of our conversation, they recognized what else is possible. By exploring what is working well and why then using that knowledge to explore where else can I do this opened a lot of resonance, excitement and motivation for them.
When we work from a positive and forward-focused perspective, there are always many possibilities, as there are from unpacking weaknesses to improve.
In-Vision it!
Take small steps to live large
David Bingley, Leadership, Mindset & Empowerment Coaching
David Bingley is Certified Professional Co-Active Coach and a Professional Certified Coach with over 2,000 hours of 1:1 Coaching experience. He is an expert in Leadership, Mindset and Empowerment Coaching, working on the mindful practice of mental and emotional fitness and self-awareness. By exploring perspectives to define purpose and direction (our vision, mission and ambition for ourself and the world) to how we frame ourself and embrace our values so our intentions and actions are aligned. David founded In-Vision Coaching as a platform to assist people to empower themselves, take control of their life using the strategies, frameworks and structures he developed to fine tune for peak performance. You may work with David in 1:1 coaching, team coaching or specialist workshops, taking small steps to… Live Large!
