The Epidemic Of Loneliness And Ways To Treat Yourself To Love

Written by Jamille Edwards, Counselor, Educator, Consultant, Author, and Public Speaker

Jamille Edwards founded Golden Century Wellness—a sanctuary for those ready and willing to invest in their well-being. Through her work, Jamille aims not only to heal but to empower individuals to transcend societal stigmas and realize their fullest potential.

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Loneliness is currently the newest epidemic. Loneliness can cause a person to think, feel, and behave in a way that does not align with the true version of oneself. Lonely people tend to fill that void by getting in a relationship, with the intent of marriage. While therapy is not the cure for loneliness, it can allow a person to learn more about themselves, define what they are looking for in a relationship, help their communication skills and relationship skills, and address intimacy concerns.

While people in the 21st century use dating applications to find and interact with others in hopes of having a romantic relationship, they also search for help by engaging in the latest dating trends and often find comfort in ideologies that suit their needs. Although there are people addicted to their phones, possibly addicted to being on dating apps, or addicted to being on social media, there are also loving and kind people looking for love. And have no idea where to start.

Some people are in love with the idea of being in a relationship. Others know that they find purpose and love having someone in their life, which are good things to know. The challenge has become the fact that a relationship involves two people, and most people are searching for something outside themselves for fulfillment. This behavioral pattern continues to attract unhealthy internalized and external factors and experiences. People looking for love should know how to love themselves first, but defining this is subjective. So, since this is the case, working on yourself first in the relationship is a pattern often supported in therapy. A second source of support is for two or more people in a relationship to have a non-biased, non-judgmental point of view. Ways to improve relationships have been broken down into two layers.

Relationship with self-love

• Do work on your past trauma

• Improve your finances

• Engage in healthy self-talk

• Create a healthy mindset

• Know about energy (be comfortable with defining this for yourself!)

• Define areas of change

• Master the art of self-reflection

• Have the skill to take responsibility for your actions

• Display good character

• Be honest about when you are ready for a relationship

• Reassess the social media content you are listening to

• Learn to let go

• Have a concrete version of your self-identity

• Study resources related to emotional intelligence

• Be able to regulate your mood

Relationship with someone special

• Communicate the type of relationship you are looking for

• Create an open space

• Engage in new types of behavioral patterns

• Minimize comparing others

• Manage your time wisely

• Have good intentions

• Be Honest

• List relevant topics to address

• Know how to comprise

• Keep personal matters private

• Practice mindfulness

• Engage in open discussions

• Process experiences

• Have clarifying moments

• Consider future goals

• Know how to be present

• Maintain your self-identity

With so much potential and the possibility of finding love, commitments and marriage are also an investment. Global changes briefly impacted how people were able to connect and date. Now there are new ways to meet people virtually then hopefully in person. People can engage with people from other parts of the world. Meeting people in a public place, at work, or through family and friends is still a useful and successful benefit to dating. As traditional methods and modern tools can complement each other, relationships and being in love are an investment that takes time and energy. That energy is an ongoing journey to finding self-love and knowing oneself to have a relationship that follows.

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Jamille Edwards, Counselor, Educator, Consultant, Author, and Public Speaker

Jamille Edwards has invested a decade of her life exploring the intricacies of psychology, counseling, and spiritual practices. With a wealth of knowledge under her belt, she founded Golden Century Wellness—a platform that offers a diverse range of services aimed at promoting mental and emotional well-being. From personalized counseling and empowering coaching sessions to enlightening workshops, insightful articles, and impactful books, Jamille's mission is to guide individuals on their journey toward self-discovery, healing, and personal growth. Through her expertise and compassionate approach, she seeks to empower others to unlock their true potential and lead fulfilling lives.