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Self-Love Sharing – Pretending To Love

  • Mar 21, 2024
  • 3 min read

Updated: Sep 27, 2024

Karamjeet Kaur, Self-Love Specialist Author, Coach, B.Msc (Metaphysical Science), MBA (HRM), PhD Scholar in Management (Self Love), Pursuing Doctorate Program in Metaphysics Science, Certified HRDF Trainer, Certified MBSR Teacher, Change Consultant, Entrepreneur, Co-Founder of Global Homeopathic Centre SB and Founder of Self Love Training Academy.

Executive Contributor Karamjeet Kaur

Today I am going to share about pretending to love and connect to loved ones or anyone around us. We have been living as a norm to pretend to love, pretend to share, pretend to be there, and lastly pretend to be our true selves.


Woman looking her self in the mirror

Honestly, I am unable to pretend to be another person who may need to please other people but never to myself. It makes me against my first principle which is honesty. I do have some ties that made me walk in a pretentious moment but I keep loving myself in forgiving those pretentious ties.

 

How many of you daily pretend to be yourself?

 

I believe most people pretend to be themself for 2 reasons:

 

  1. fear of being recognized, accepted, loved and rejected

  2. fear being themself where they need to pretend to be another self so their existence can be approved.

 

I understand most "pretend" to be themself because they believe it's easy to be approved in whatever position of relationship they are in. Lying to be who we are to ourselves and other people is against the law of the universe. This pretend drama has played an important role for many decades because of the need to survive in the world in that pretend context.

 

No one wants to face embarrassment in life because at times in being true self, the self tends to make mistakes as one finds the self is not good enough.

 

Let me tell you the truth behind pretend drama. The truth is that 90 per cent of personality find themself not good enough as being themself. Therefore, they learned to pretend by overlapping their true nature because of their base of not being good enough.

 

If we continue to pretend to act to accept or love someone in life, it means we are creating a double layer of inner pretend truth of life is love. So, this makes it harder to find or align true love.

 

This practice of pretending has been going on for years, years especially family ties which love becomes so untrue. Love that begins in the family is supposed to be raw, truthful and unconditional. Sadly, it has become based on television, movies and drama relationships.

 

This unconditional love energy affects not only everyone's lives but also the energy of the environment and receiving abundance.

 

My sharing is to cease the pretend concept of accepting something that never aligned. First of all, love is learning to love the self so one can learn the meaning of empathy, understanding and acceptance of others. Learning true love is about being true love that opens the realm of being free in any relationship that the self is connected to.

 

Create true love relationships with self, family, friends and community by loving the true nature of self. The true nature of self is not based on fear of making mistakes or failure but on accepting it as part of the expansion and development of self to greater self-connection.

 

The more we pretend to be ourselves, the more we ignite false love, doubt, distrust and pain in our living lives. Believe that being honest and being self is the first-hand nature of our birth that we can never turn it around.

 

The taste of true love begins "tasting" with acceptance of the true core meaning of the relationship. Love yourself with others truly.


Karamjeet Kaur, Self Love Specialist Author, Coach & Entrepreneur

Karamjeet Kaur, Self-Love Specialist Author, Coach, B.Msc (Metaphysical Science), MBA (HRM), PhD Scholar in Management (Self Love), Pursuing Doctorate Program in Metaphysics Science, Certified HRDF Trainer, Certified MBSR Teacher, Change Consultant, Entrepreneur, Co-Founder of Global Homeopathic Centre SB and Founder of Self Love Training Academy. Karamjeet is a survivor of sexual abuses and suicide attempts. Karamjeet has been transforming herself and people around her with Self Love work last 20 years. Karamjeet has written 7 books on self-love and self-help. She has now produce courses on Executive Degree on Self Love Empowerment and Empowering Abundance Mindset.

 
 

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

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