Self-Forgiveness As A Personal Practice
- Apr 3, 2023
- 3 min read
Written by: Lisa Tahir, Executive Contributor
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Self-Forgiveness is a beautiful practice that moves through us. We must feel into the experience of forgiveness. This process is not something that can just be learned by reading a book or following instructions. We usually find that forgiveness comes as a series of thought actions while viscerally connecting with an intention to see things differently. In a moment of convergence, a simultaneous illumination of mind and energy may be sparked.
This convergence awakens enlightenment and can break us open to see where we need to forgive. In this we become the wounded healer who is self-healing. Extrapolated from Joseph Campbell’s The Power of Myth, apology is a loving act of creation that “opens doors where there were only walls.” I encourage you to go to the depths of your inner wounding with empathy and self-forgiveness accompanying you. This opens you to the transformational process of evolution through compassion.
Unconditional Love
Healing through the progressive action of self-forgiveness is an embodiment of unconditional love, which also may be experienced as gratitude in the sharing of a particular moment with our inner self. It can happen while watching a beautiful sunset, being with an infant or playing with a child, spending time with an elder that we respect, witnessing an eclipse, petting a pet, hearing beautiful music, feeling into a piece art, looking deeply into the eyes of another during sexual intimacy, or while looking deeply into your own eyes with compassion. There are as many expressions of unconditional love as there are people. When we permit ourselves to connect with the frequency of unconditional love (of which there is an infinite source) we start to engage with life, ourselves and other people in a different way. Loving ourselves regardless of the outer conditions of our lives is what we are activating by practicing regular and radical self-forgiveness.
Commitment
I encourage you to make a contract with yourself right now. Commit to being better at keeping your agreements that you have made with yourself- to care and nurture yourself. Allow yourself to change your mind when necessary, and letting the other persons who are involved know that you have changed your thinking on the matter. Try this for a month with even the smallest commitment you make. Employ a supportive and coaching style of self-talk to accompany you, and make a commitment to release the thought pattern of wounding yourself with self-criticism. Creating supportive "I" statements can help you ground into a new belief that you want to create for yourself. Write down and carry in your purse or wallet this statement, and notice what happens after 30 days of engaging with it: "I am worthy of my own forgiveness."
To learn more about these themes go here to find "The Chiron Effect: Healing Our Core Wounds through Astrology, Empathy, and Self-Forgiveness."
Lisa Tahir, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Lisa Tahir, is an inspirational podcast host of All Things Therapy, where she seeks to "Change Consciousness One Conversation at a Time.' Her book, "The Chiron Effect: Healing Our Core Wounds through Astrology, Empathy, and Self-Forgiveness," has been acclaimed and endorsed by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Tahir draws her strength through combining the psychological with the spiritual, and as a licensed therapist seeks to help others in visualizing and creating their very best lives no matter what has been true in the past.
