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Forgiveness - A Powerful Tool

Written by: Dr. Allen Lycka, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


Forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools to heal ourselves and our relationships. It is the process of letting go of resentment, anger, and blame towards someone who has harmed us and choosing to extend compassion and understanding instead.

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The benefits of forgiveness are numerous. It can help us let go of the past and move on with our lives, free from negative emotions. It can also improve physical and mental health, reduce stress and anxiety, and even lower our risk of heart disease.

The most crucial benefit of forgiveness is that it allows us to restore our relationships with others. We open the door to communication, understanding, and reconciliation when we forgive. We can reconnect with the people we care about and build stronger, more loving relationships.

Forgiveness is not always easy, however. It can be challenging to let go of the hurt and anger we feel toward someone who has harmed us. And it can be even harder to forgive ourselves when we have made mistakes or hurt others.

But the good news is that forgiveness is a skill that can be learned and practiced. Here are a few tips to help you on your journey to forgiveness:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings. It's important to recognize and acknowledge the hurt, anger, and other negative emotions towards the person or situation you want to forgive. This will help you to understand and process your feelings and to begin the process of letting go.

  2. Practice empathy. Try to understand the other person's perspective and feelings. This does not mean you have to excuse or justify their behavior, but it can help you understand why they may have acted the way they did.

  3. Let go of blame. Forgiveness is not about placing accountability or responsibility on anyone. It's about letting go of the need to assign blame and instead focusing on healing and moving forward.

  4. Practice self-compassion. Be kind and understanding with yourself as you work through the process of forgiveness. Remember that forgiving others and yourself takes time and patience.

  5. Take action. Forgiveness is not just a feeling; it's also an action. Take steps to restore the relationship or make amends, if possible. If not, do something positive for yourself or others as a way to move forward.

Forgiveness is a journey, and it can take time and practice. Therefore, it's essential to be patient with yourself and remember that forgiveness is not a one-time event but a process that can be worked on daily.

It's also important to remember that forgiveness is complex and may not always be possible. Sometimes, the person who harmed us may not be willing or able to make amends. And sometimes, the hurt may be too great to forgive.

But even in those cases, it is still possible to let go of the anger and resentment we feel and focuses on healing and moving forward. And when forgiveness is possible, it can bring about a sense of peace, understanding, and reconciliation that is genuinely transformative.

In the end, forgiveness is a powerful tool that can help us to heal ourselves and our relationships. It is the key to unlocking the door to a more fulfilling and meaningful life. So, I invite you to begin your journey toward forgiveness today and to experience the many benefits it has to offer.

Dr. Allen Lycka is the host and executive director rector of the syndicated radio show How to Live a Fantastic Life on AmFM 24/7 with 4.3 million listeners a month. He is also a three 3x international best-selling author including the renowned "How to Live A Fantastic Life" with an intro by NYT's best-selling author Jack Canfield of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame. You can find more at and his community here.

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Dr. Allen Lycka, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Dr. Allen Lycka is acknowledged as one of the leading cosmetic dermatologists in the world. In 2003, Dr. Lycka was diagnosed with ALS and given six months to live. After fighting the diagnosis, he is here today as a result of his courage and tenacity. Having been given a “golden ticket” Dr. Lycka used his experience to co-author the books The Secrets To Living A Fantastic Life with Harriet Tinka, Pillars of Success with 1 New York Times Best Selling Author Jack Canfield and bLU volume 1 with Corey Poirier. He is the host and executive director of How To Live a Fantastic Life show with 4 million listeners per episode. He is a sought-after speaker.



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