Real Leaders Bleed – Stop Lying About Your Success
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 10
- 3 min read
Fahd Khater, a marketing visionary and Guinness World Record holder, has reshaped the global advertising landscape with innovative strategies and award-winning campaigns. Renowned author and industry leader Fahd Khater distills decades of expertise into actionable insights, empowering professionals in marketing and client management worldwide.
Let’s cut the nonsense. Every day, we scroll through curated lives. Everyone’s a founder, a thought leader, a coach, a visionary. Yet somehow, nobody seems to be a human being anymore. We all wear the same digital mask: successful, driven, radiant, unshakably positive.
But let me ask you something raw: what are you hiding behind that success story?
Leadership isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being honest.
We’ve been sold a dangerous myth that positivity alone builds greatness. That if we just say enough affirmations, fake enough confidence, or post enough highlight reels, we’ll finally become the person we pretend to be.Newsflash: you don’t grow by pretending to win. You grow by owning your losses.
But look around, honesty is the one thing most leaders are terrified of. We're too busy crafting personas, editing our truth, and stacking wins like poker chips in a game nobody asked us to play.
Let me be clear: the world doesn't need another inspirational post. It needs your truth.
Angry truth: Leadership has become a lie
I’m tired. Tired of keynote speakers selling “resilience” while hiding breakdowns. Tired of CEOs posting team selfies and culture quotes while they burn out their people behind closed doors. Tired of leaders using words like “authentic” as branding tools while never telling a real story.
Where’s the leadership in that?
If you're scared to say “I failed,” then you're not leading; you’re pretending. And this culture of pretence is rotting our companies from the inside.
You want to be respected? Then tell your team about the campaign that tanked. About the pitch that got laughed out of the room. About the hire, you misjudged. Stop acting like you've figured it all out, you haven’t.
And that’s okay. Nobody has. But the moment we pretend otherwise, we breed teams that lie, perform, and fear making mistakes. We kill growth. We kill trust. We kill creativity.
Let that sink in.
Rebellious truth: Burn the leadership playbook
Screw the LinkedIn-approved version of leadership.
You don’t need another framework or 5-step strategy to “unlock your potential.” You need a f***ing breakdown. You need to strip off the armour, look your ego in the face, and say:
“I don’t have it all together.”
“I make bad calls sometimes.”
“I’m still figuring this out.”
That’s not weak. That’s the most dangerous, rebellious, powerful thing you can do in a room full of people pretending they’re fine.
Because real leaders don’t perform, they reveal.
They don’t hide the cost of the climb. They talk about the toll. The sleepless nights. The regret. The imposter syndrome that didn’t go away just because they got the title.
Be the leader who rips up the rulebook and tells the truth.
So here’s the deal
Next time you stand in front of the mirror, don’t whisper affirmations. Ask yourself this:
Why am I trying so hard to be enough if I already am?
Maybe you're not trying to convince the world. Maybe you're trying to convince yourself. Maybe it’s time to stop.
Leadership isn’t in the wins. It’s in how you carry the losses. It’s in what you do after the pitch falls apart. After the press turns cold. After the team doubts you. That’s when your real voice comes out.
So speak from there.
The real shift
You don’t need to be more positive.
You need to be more honest.
Stop performing. Stop preaching. Start confessing.
Because here’s the truth no one tells you:
When you accept your failures, your shame, your missteps, you become unstoppable.
Not because you’re flawless.But because you’re finally real.And that? That’s the kind of leader the world is dying to follow.
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Fahd Khater, Published Author, Entrepreneur & Speaker
Born in Lebanon in 1978, I am a Notre Dame University alumnus with a bachelor’s in Mass Communication (Radio/TV). With 20+ years in the agency world, I’ve led impactful campaigns in 70+ countries, earning awards & setting a Guinness record. Now an author & speaker, I share insights to guide leaders.
