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Prepare for a Guilty Conscience

Apr 14, 2021
3 min read

Written by: Henrik Pettersson, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

A thousand years ago, the Catholic Church prepared the people with seven sins to control them; pride, jealousy, lust, wrath, greed, gluttony, and laziness.


Conscience issues that would steer the people in the right direction.

Our view of conscience today is more about feelings of guilt, which overrides the will and ability to take action. It's unfinished projects that grow into sourdough. We are careless with the economy, ignore a healthy diet and regular exercise. We don’t do enough for the family, and don’t take environmental issues seriously. And so on.


Feelings of guilt that eventually suffocate the ability to take action.


That makes us overinterpret other people's disapproval. Stress puts us at a disadvantage, which makes us believe that it is better to help others than live our lives. A think tank that drains you of the energy you so desperately need to fix your own projects.


Tips that Balance a Bad Conscience


Step 1. Conscientious choices.


What will your choice result in? Will the consequences be pleasant or anxious? Will anyone be hurt? Will you be beaten, or will you be forced to regret your decision? How will it affect your relationships?


Keep in mind that feelings of guilt that remain over 24 hours need to be addressed.


Step 2. Accept what happened.


Accept that you can’t get it undone and release it as soon as you can. Don’t poison your life, don’t dwell on your mistakes. Understand that perfection doesn’t exist.


Instead, adopt a learning mindset. Hold the line for what you know is right and proper, stay in the boat, and continue rowing at the pace you can. No matter how much it blows - continue in the right direction.


Step 3. Forgive.


Feelings of guilt often come from selfish decisions. One way to punish yourself is to avoid doing what should be done. Instead, embrace courage and take action.


An emotional maturity that gives better self-confidence in the long run.


Therefore, it is important to ask the one you hurt for forgiveness. Because even if the other person doesn’t accept your apology, it is for your own sake. You must do it for your own self-confidence.


Step 4. Only for today.


Three words to release the bad conscience and program you for a more balanced life. Does it take time? Yes. Is it worth it? Every day of the week. Ask yourself what you can do to become worthy of your attitude and behavior.


Step 5. Start today!


"The depressed live in the past, the anxious live in the future, only the balanced life in the present." What Lao Tsu wrote down 2,500 years ago also applies during the IT age.


Take control of your emotions today. There’s nothing to wait for!


Step 6. Turn the situation around.


Retrieve positive things from negative events. For example, if you have overdrawn your account, you see it as a lesson. If you made sure to avoid the training, see it as a start to the important inner conversation. If you backed down from a challenge, ask yourself what might be the benefit of it and come back fully charged with adrenaline.


Step 7. Divide.


When trying to handle several sourdoughs at the same time: separate the different problems. Dividing both objects and projects into their components is the basis for solving problems successfully; If you can’t solve the problem, divide it and clear the parts separately.


In summary


It’s about taking out the compass direction for the good conscience while avoiding what hurts you.


Feeling guilty does not help the person you hurt. It doesn't make you a better person, at the same time as it risks passivating you.


Hold the line no matter how much it blows, stay in the boat, and keep the pace you can. It is guaranteed to increase your ability to deliver strong results.


Henrik Pettersson, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Since 2004, Henrik has been working as a coach, educator, and motivational speaker around Europe. Life is about growth. The challenge to growth is to gain boldness to handle our fears and vulnerability. To strengthen your spine - to be able to manage your challenges towards stronger results. Life’s tough at times, and the formula for gaining more boldness, and dig deep into, is Faith – Energy – Focus. His new book is built on the three pillars above and is called: program yourself to success. Henrik is frequently hired by large companies like Volvo, H&M, and Avis.

 
 

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