Written by: Rossella Tocco, Executive Contributor
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Then you don't know what happened next. As a child, you ate from hunger, and then someone made you stop crying, rewarding you with candy or showing you how good you were by giving you the chocolate you deserved.
Late in life, you used food to keep you company, and then you continued doing that without understanding its damage today.
You have learned that if they reward you with food or punish you by taking your dinner, you can do it alone today.
Do you know where the real problem hides?
The idea that it would be impossible for you to lose weight and remain thin is, in your opinion, proved by years of failure. That idea is, by far, the biggest problem to solve.
For me, sometimes, it was not easy. Do you know the most difficult step we are going to solve? Go beyond our thoughts.
When you believe it is impossible to remain at the right weight, nothing is going to work. The fact that you are not thin does not mean that you cannot become one. It just means that up until now, you have not known how to do it. You always used the diet system that always gave the same result.
But to give yourself a real chance, you need to put aside thinking that it is difficult or not. You must go beyond what you believe about yourself, which is scary.
The problem is that change is fear
You cannot change your body if you do not change your current ways of thinking. Change inside first, then later (and as an automatic consequence), you change outside. Thinking that dieting is the key is one of the biggest lies.
You need to eat better, of course. But you cannot get there by putting impossible impositions on yourself from one day to the next and then thinking you have failed.
To lose weight, you need to change your mindset; everything starts from there. The fact is that changing your thinking is scary, which is why people prefer to change their diet by collecting failures rather than going to the root of the problem.
Job is to make you accountable for certain things and explain how to get out, to change them when it is not easy
But one day, like today, you will open your eyes and understand that you are not the dustbin. There was a habit that can be now changed, by finding the right path in which power and control come back to you without using willpower and changing how you talk and what you visualize, which is the amazing discovery that I see every day in the people who today follow this coaching path with me.
We already have inside each one of us all we need to change the habits that today are no longer useful and to become as free as we deserve.
Rossella Tocco, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
After graduating in law, Rossella continued to deal with people and practiced as a civil lawyer for 13 years. She attended postgraduate specialization courses in Coaching at the International University Center of Arezzo, she became a Practitioner, Master and NLP Trainer, also working internationally as a Coach and Trainer. She is accredited by ICF as a Master Certified Coach.
