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Leadership Traps – 5 Defense Mechanisms That Weaken Success

Trevor Bird's mission is to help people lead themselves and have them lead others. He is an Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner and a passionate advocate for self-leadership. As the founder of Making Sense of Inner Conflict, he offers executive and personal development coaching, workshops, and IFS courses for professionals.

 
Executive Contributor Trevor Bird

Have you ever wondered why some leaders struggle to maintain lasting success despite their best efforts? The answer often lies in the silent, unseen battle of defensive parts within every leader.


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At one point or another, you’ve likely started a sentence with “a part of me feels that.” This reference is trying to make sense of a part of you that is in conflict with another part. That’s assuming we are made up of various parts, each one striving toward their own goal. The problem for leaders is when conflicting individual parts influence decision-making. These parts are reactive and often seek

short-term comfort, perpetuating more problems.


Think of it this way: you are the chair of your own personal board of directors. Each member is an independent high performer with different roles and responsibilities. The chair’s role is to lead toward a unified direction, but can only do so wisely by listening to all the members rather than making a decision based on a single individual.


The five defenses of leaders

Recognizing and addressing the internal conflicts that weaken leadership efforts catalyzes growth. Here, we explore five common defensive parts that derail leadership and how to resolve the inner conflict.


1. Rationalizing

When leaders “explain” the situation to justify their actions, it stops the dialogue. This part addresses discomfort by offering thoughtful explanations and stops meaningful conversation in the same stroke.


The impact: Instead of learning from their mistakes, leaders move to protect their actions and ultimately limit genuine communication and growth within themselves and those they work with.


As a leader: Ask yourself, “What concern do I have if I don’t explain myself?”


2. Projecting

Going on the attack never works. Instead, it indicates insecurity. This part attempts to protect the leader by diverting attention away from their actions. The workplace is more complex than ever, and accusations will not increase leadership performance or anyone else's.


The impact: It shields the leader from feeling vulnerable but erodes trust within the workplace.


As a leader: Do a YOU-turn and reflect, “Why am I so triggered?”


3. Denying

Leadership means facing the facts and moving on—not refusing to accept them. This part strives to keep the leader safe by convincing them that everything is fine when it’s not.


The impact: Denial protects a leader's shame and delays necessary interventions to address issues head-on.


As a leader: Reflect on the thought, “What would become real for me if I accepted this?”


4. Displacing

Leaders are hired because of their capability to withstand and progress. This part of a leader redirects stress and frustration onto their team

because they are trying to manage the pressure from the upper levels of the workplace ladder.


The impact: Displacement harms team morale for the short-term satisfaction of targeting others.


As a leader: What boundaries are needed to encourage self-care?


5. Repressing

Leadership is lonely. This part buries uncomfortable emotions and thoughts to maintain the leader's facade. Ironically, emotional fatigue will take over, leading to burnout over time.


The impact: Repression prevents leaders from resolving their underlying issues, compromising health and weakening decision-making capabilities.


As a leader: Where can you voice the challenges you face without judgement outside of work?


The work of self leadership

Leadership success hinges on more than achieving goals/objectives—it requires navigating inner conflicts that no one sees. The persistent pressure to lead brings the inner conflicts of these parts to the surface. It's unrealistic to always be the one with the answers without doing the extra credit work within yourself.


The continuous journey to decode defensive parts means an ongoing willingness to face uncomfortable truths in the name of progress. That is where authentic leadership lives, not just from a paid role and title within a business.


Remember, it is your job to lead—not just your team but yourself by making sense of your inner conflicts.


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Trevor Bird, Executive & Personal Development Coach

As the founder of Making Sense of Inner Conflict, Trevor Bird advocates for self-leadership, supporting high-performing individuals to understand their identities and the origins of their behavioral patterns. Leadership responsibilities and external validation left him isolated and confronted. He now applies his experiences to help others navigate their internal world. As an Executive and Personal Development Coach and a certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner, Trevor provides tools for tuning into internal experiences and making clear, non-reactive decisions. His work has one goal: to develop awareness of who you are so you can lead yourself and others from a place of authenticity, confidence, and fulfillment.


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