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INFP Leaders – You Don’t Need To “Do” To Be Worthy

  • Nov 10, 2023
  • 3 min read

Written by: Amelia Harshfield, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Executive Contributor Amelia Harshfield

INFPs can question their worth by looking at what they have not yet achieved. They can feel inferior to people who have done more than them. They can minimize or not notice what they have already accomplished. They may think they will be good enough when they hit a certain outcome or attain a status. They might regularly be striving forward hoping that it makes them feel something meaningful inside.

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What INFPs need to understand is that while hitting big milestones can add experience and knowledge, being truly worthy comes from other aspects of who they are. INFPs have an extraverted thinking part that believes that if it does all these grand things then people will consider them masterful. This part can also believe that if they do not hit this point then they will be insignificant to others.


They may find that many people who have attained great things still question their worth. They doubt themselves, and they find that those triumphs sadly do not make them feel valuable suddenly. That longing does not go away after hitting certain goals, no matter who they are or what they have managed.


For INFPs to find their true worth, they need to look within rather than find that from achieving things. They need to examine and understand what being worthy means to them. They can look at what character attributes people have when they are good enough. They can investigate how people behave when they are good enough. They can explore what people say and how they feel about themselves when they are good enough. Then they can look at themselves and see how they line up with their version of value. Are they meeting those standards? If not what needs to change to get there?


They also can notice when they are questioning their value. They may find these instances may not be them not feeling worthy, but rather their extraverted thinking part being afraid that they haven’t done enough. And if they are good at listening to this part of their fears and not taking it personally, they can see those doubts maybe just a fear and not a fact of how life is always going to be. Then it is up to them to know how to soothe that fear effectively.


For more examples of how to use their Myers Briggs type to find the freedom of knowing your worth, there are many videos on my YouTube channel explaining more of this. You can find this link here.


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Amelia Harshfield Brainz Magazine

Amelia Harshfield, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Amelia Harshfield is fascinated and motivated by what impact makers can achieve as they become more resilient. With a solid education and a master’s degree in economics, she has been creating passive income in Real Estate investing for over 5 years. Her key foundational work is The Overcoming Anxiety Method™, a powerful 4-step formula for playing a bigger game without being crushed by fear. This process is paramount to finding an authentic version of freedom and wealth. Mentoring and educating high-level operators is her passion, her work has been featured in magazines, podcasts, conferences, and she has been a trainer on Sir Richard Branson's Necker Island.

 
 

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