If You Only Feel Healthy on Holiday, It’s Not Time You’re Missing – It’s Permission
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 23
- 4 min read
Bronwen Sciortino is an International Author and Simplicity Expert who spent almost two decades as an award-winning executive before experiencing a life-changing event that forced her to stop and ask the question, ‘What if there’s a better way to live?
The first few nights of a holiday rarely feel restful. You toss and turn, half-awake, your mind replaying what might be falling apart while you’re gone. Did you hand that project over properly? Will the team cope? Will the emails pile up faster than you can delete them when you’re back?
It takes days, sometimes more, before your shoulders finally drop, before your body starts to believe it’s allowed to exhale.
Only then do you remember what real sleep feels like, the kind that doesn’t come from exhaustion but from ease.
No alarm. No responsibilities. No one needs something from you every five minutes. And for a fleeting moment, you think: This is how life should feel.
But then you go home. And just like that, the version of you who breathes deeply and laughs easily disappears, replaced by the one who survives on caffeine, deadlines, and good intentions.
The trap of ‘‘when I have time’’
We tell ourselves the same story every year:
“I’ll start looking after myself when things calm down.”
“When I’m on leave.”
“When life gives me a break.”
But life rarely does. And even when it does, even when we get that week in the sun, we still carry the tension with us. The guilt of switching off. The anxiety of what might be waiting when we switch back on.
The truth is, we don’t have a time problem. We have a permission problem. We’ve built lives so full that slowing down feels rebellious. We treat well-being like a luxury item, something to be unwrapped on special occasions instead of lived every day.
Holiday mode isn’t magic, it’s memory
Here’s what most people miss: ‘‘Holiday mode’’ isn’t something that exists out there on a beach or in a mountain cabin. It’s what happens when you stop rushing long enough to meet yourself again.
When your nervous system finally stops scanning for threats, when your mind stops rehearsing the next move, and when you remember what it feels like to be fully here, not half a step ahead of your own life.
That clarity, that calm, that steadiness, it’s not created by a destination. It’s revealed by stillness. And yet, we come home and abandon it like it only belongs to the version of us who wear linen and read novels.
The cycle that keeps you tired
If you only allow yourself to rest when the world stops demanding from you, your body learns one thing: rest is unsafe unless everything else is handled.
That’s why the first few nights of a break feel so uneasy. Your system doesn’t trust that stillness won’t cost you something.
So, you push, crash, recover, repeat. You come back from holidays vowing to “keep the balance this time.” But the emails creep in, the meetings multiply, and suddenly “next break” becomes the new finish line.
It’s not laziness. It’s conditioning. You’ve been trained to equate your worth with your output, and as long as that belief runs the show, no amount of leave will heal the exhaustion.
What actually works
Start by shrinking the gap between ‘‘holiday you’’ and ‘‘everyday you.’’ Bring one thing back, not as a task, but as a truth. For example:
If you love how slow mornings feel, start your day five minutes earlier and don’t touch your phone.
If you eat mindfully on holidays, close your laptop when you eat at your desk.
If you walk every day when you’re away, take a 10-minute lap around the block between calls.
Micro-moments matter because they retrain your body to trust that care isn’t conditional, and you start to live in a way that doesn’t need rescuing.
The real goal
You don’t need a holiday to feel human again, you need a rhythm that honours your humanity daily. Because the truth is, the version of you who laughs freely, sleeps deeply, and feels light they aren’t only available on vacation. They’re waiting under the layers of ‘shoulds’ and schedules.
And when you stop postponing your health until the world gives you permission, something powerful happens: your life starts to feel like the break you’ve been craving.
If you only feel healthy on holiday, it’s not time you’re missing, it’s permission, and permission is something you can give yourself right now.
Bronwen Sciortino is a Simplicity Expert, Professional Speaker, and internationally renowned author. You can follow her on her website, Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn.
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Bronwen Sciortino, International Author & Simplicity Expert
Bronwen Sciortino is an International Author and Simplicity Expert who spent almost two decades as an award-winning executive before experiencing a life-changing event that forced her to stop and ask the question, ‘What if there’s a better way to live?’ Embarking on a journey to answer this question, Bronwen developed a whole new way of living, one that teaches you to challenge the status quo and include the power of questions in everyday life. Gaining international critical acclaim and 5-star awards for her books and online programs,
Bronwen spends every day teaching people that there is an easy, practical, and simple pathway to creating a healthy, happy, and highly successful life. Sourced globally for media comment as an expert and working with corporate programs, conference platforms, retreats, professional mentoring, and in the online environment, Bronwen teaches people how easy it is to live life very differently.
