I’m No Longer On Call – Letting Go of the Pressure to Always Be Available
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 11
- 3 min read
Written by Aisha Saintiche, Certified Health Coach
With over fifteen years of experience in Mental Health, Accessibility and Diversity and Inclusion, Aisha has used her experience as a strategic advisor and health coach to understand the complexity and intersectionality of the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual barriers that keep people from achieving their optimized health and wellness.
Because I’m not Wi-Fi and I’m not here to serve 24/7, let’s talk about a habit that many of us wear like a badge of honour: constant availability.
We’re the first to respond, the last to log off, and the ones who never let a call go unanswered, because somewhere along the way, we learned that being accessible equals being valuable.
But here’s the truth I’ve had to sit with (usually after mentally spiraling at 9:43 p.m. while debating whether to reply to that one email): Always being available isn’t a sign of commitment. It’s a setup for burnout.
Why I’m letting go of the “always on” energy
I’m not a machine. I’m a human being.
With a body that needs rest.
With relationships that need presence.
With a mind that needs space to think, not just react.
So I’ve decided: I’m letting go of the pressure to answer the call, respond to the message, and show up immediately just because I can.
Letting go doesn’t mean I don’t care.
It means I’ve stopped confusing urgency with importance. Let me say that louder for the people in the back: “I’ve stopped confusing urgency with importance.”
And friend, it’s been freeing.
Clearly, I am still a work in progress (because perfection doesn’t exist and every once in a while, you need to body check people with your boundaries lol).
5 tips + tricks that helped me break the “always on” habit
1. Create a “digital sunset”
Pick a time to unplug. Now, I haven’t mastered this because the internet be winning sometimes, but I try hard to shut down by 9:30 p.m. That’s when my devices go on “Do Not Disturb,” and I go on “Reconnect with Myself” mode.
Tip: Use that time to journal, stretch, or stare at the ceiling in peace. Zero productivity required.
2. Automate your boundaries
I’ll be adding a line in my email signature:
"Please note: I respond to emails within 24–48 hours unless it’s an emergency (and even then, define emergency)."
Set the tone without apology.
Tip: Use auto-reply texts for after-hours. Protect your peace like it’s priceless, because it is.
3. Practice the pause
Just because you see the message doesn’t mean you have to respond right now.
Read it. Breathe. Respond when your energy aligns, not when your anxiety spikes.
Mantra: “I am not a 911 operator. I am allowed to take a beat.”
4. Build a “boundary buffer”
Schedule gaps between meetings. Block “quiet time” on your calendar. You don’t need to be available just because your schedule looks empty.
Tip: Use that time to check in with yourself. Refill your water. Stretch. Exist.
5. Reprogram the guilt
At first, I felt bad, like I was letting people down or missing something. But I had to remind myself:
Being constantly available to others means being less available to yourself.
And I’m not willing to abandon myself to meet expectations I never agreed to.
Tip: Reframe: Saying “not right now” isn’t rejection, it’s self-respect.
What I’ve gained from letting go
Clarity: When you’re not constantly reacting, you can actually think. (Revolutionary, I know.)
Energy: My burnout levels dropped. My creativity returned.
Presence: I’m more present with my family, my clients, and myself.
And best of all?
I’ve stopped living in response mode and started living in alignment mode.
Final thought, and important things to remember
You are not Wi-Fi.
You are not a hotline.
You are not obligated to be available 24/7 to prove your worth.
So go ahead and let the text sit.
Let the email wait.
Let the pressure melt.
You are allowed to be unavailable, unbothered, and unapologetic.
And guess what?
You’ll still be enough.
Here's to protecting your peace and answering the call when it serves you.
Aisha Saintiche, Certified Health Coach
Aisha Saintiche is a certified Health Coach and the founder and owner of MetoMoi Health. With over fifteen years of experience in Mental Health, Accessibility and Diversity and Inclusion, Aisha has used her experience as a strategic advisor and health coach to understand the complexity and intersectionality of the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual barriers that keep people from achieving their optimized health and wellness.
