How To Get What You Want!
- Jun 12, 2022
- 3 min read
Updated: Jun 13, 2022
Written by: Majbrit Bøttger, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
What's the #1 thing everybody wants? Can you answer that?
I believe the answer simply is MORE.
We all want more personal freedom, more financial freedom, more love, more connection, more meaning more of all the good stuff in life, am I right?!
Over the past couple of years, the world has been turned upside down and created a lot of frustration and anxiety. People lost focus and lived from day to day in confusion and disbelief.
So how do we get to a place where we feel alive and joyful every day?
CREATE YOUR VISION
First and foremost, you need to (re) create your vision. If you don't have a vision and something to guide you will end up dabbling around and your life will be based on coincidences. You will never feel that you have accomplished something that matters and thus won't feel the satisfaction and meaningfulness in your everyday life.
Imagine one year from today you and your best friend, sitting on a beach in Hawaii watching the sun go down while listening to the waves rolling in and the whisper from the wind in the palm tree leaves, now what would have had to happen for you to be able to say: "this has been the best year of my life". Not an easy question to answer, I know.
To help get clarity on your vision ask yourself what matters most to you. Ask yourself where you are right now, where you want to go and what you want to accomplish. That is your extrinsic value. Now, ask yourself who you are and who you want to become, what kind of role model you want to be, and what you want your legacy to be, that's your intrinsic value.
MAKE A DECISION
Once you know who you want to be and where you want to go it's time to make a decision. Way too many people struggle with this part and start the sentence "Yeah, but what if" followed by a negative statement; what if it goes wrong, what if I can't, what if I look like a fool, what if I fail you get the picture.
Now, try and flip it and ask: what if it goes great, what if I'm great at this, what if I become a great role model, what if I SHINE.
Don't limit yourself by a fear that is only in your head because trust me you are your own biggest obstacle. Sorry, but somebody had to say it.
I get it decision-making is challenging. Making a choice also means leaving all the other choices behind (for now). But what is the alternative to staying where you are??
It's your time and the world needs people like you to step up and lead right now.
As Wayne Gretzky said you miss 100% of the shots you never take!
STAY FOCUSED
Now that you have chosen what the next right step is for you, you have to dig up the courage to stay focused. Don't let yourself get distracted by "shiny new". Focus on why this is important for you and who will be affected by your engagement.
If you let yourself be distracted only one thing will come from it, you will add frustration to yourself and everyone around you. Concentrating on 20 things is like taking one ingredient from 20 different dishes and trying to make one dish. It's a mess!
You must be consistent. You didn't learn how to ride a bike on your first try either. Try again and every time you do you will get a little or a lot better.
You got this!
Majbrit Bøttger, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Majbrit Bøttger is one out of only 200 elite Certified High-Performance Coaches (CHPC) in the world. A series of incidents left her burned out and stressed and she was forced to reinvent her life. That is why she chose to get certified. It took her life to a whole new level and she have for more than a decade been dedicated to help others reach the same level of joy and meaningfulness in their lives by improving life areas such as clarity, energy, courage, productivity and influence. She is the founder and CEO of High Performance Living and have helped people all across the world living their dream life.
