How to Deal with Uncomfortable Emotions and Create Emotional Freedom
- Brainz Magazine
- 4 days ago
- 5 min read
A former lawyer turned mystic, Jessica Falcon is an International Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert. She guides you to embody your power, reclaim your sovereignty, and experience true freedom. Tune into her Soul Sovereignty & Sexuality Podcast.
How comfortable do you feel with anger? Do you suppress it and tell yourself everything is okay? Do you fling it onto other people and make them responsible for how you feel? Do you try to get other people to "make you feel better"?
What is your response to loss? Do you latch onto the person or thing you are afraid to lose because you do not want to feel the sadness of their absence? What about feelings of resentment or bitterness? Are they expressed to others or stuffed down deep inside because you are "not supposed to feel that way"?
If you desire emotional freedom, suppressing your emotions or pretending they do not exist is the least helpful thing you can do. I know we are led to believe that it is weak to feel (especially men). Or that we are "too sensitive" if we care.
Worse is the response of others who tell you, "Don't worry, it will all be okay," or, "You shouldn't feel that way." Yes, it may all be okay in the long run. Everything, and by that, I mean everything, is always happening for us, not against us. However, your emotion is there for a reason.
Before we continue, I must make it clear that your emotion is not your truth. It is not who you are. It does not belong to you. Rather, your emotion is a guidepost to your truth.
Emotions are energy in motion. That is it. Energy coursing through you. When they are suppressed, the energy gets lodged and can, over time, become stuck. It creates dissociation, feelings of depression, and ultimately dis-ease.
Every emotion is connected to a thought. Each thought is rooted in a belief. Your emotions are guiding you to see your underlying beliefs. When you follow them consciously, you get to see the belief and decide:
Is this my truth?
Is this what I choose to believe?
If not, what is my truth and the corresponding new belief?
In order to do this, you first have to acknowledge the emotion's presence. It is there whether you like it or not. Even if you do not "agree" with it rationally, you are still having the experience of it. Ignoring it simply exacerbates the emotion.
Have you ever been woken up in the middle of the night with a strong emotion? If so, you know that simply trying to go back to sleep is fruitless. The only way out is through. Personally, I pick up a pen and my journal when this happens. Our subconscious mind can become stronger at night because we are not distracted by all the external things. That is why the sleepless nights happen for a lot of people.
The first step in dealing with an uncomfortable emotion is to:
Acknowledge its presence, and then
Accept its existence, no matter how much you wish it was not there.
It is there. Look at it. Face it. Become really curious about your emotions. Ask it questions:
Why are you here?
What are you trying to show me?
What do I need to see?
Then, listen. Sometimes the answer comes right away. Other times it arrives in the middle of a shower or while you are walking down the street. Your job is not to demand an immediate response but to create internal receptivity. Sometimes, we never get the answer because we refuse to let it be known. The truth might feel scary.
For example, if you wake up feeling anger and resentment toward your partner, the emotions are likely alerting you to a boundary. A truth you need to speak. A conversation you need to have.
If you subconsciously fear conflict or upsetting your partner, you may hold on to the (somewhat suppressed) anger and never own up to the fact that you have to voice your no in order for the anger to leave. The suppressed anger may show up as stomachaches, jaw tension, or stiffness. It is still talking to you, but you are not listening.
The more willingness you have to see the wisdom of the anger and resentment, the quicker and easier it will be to align to your truth and create emotional freedom. In the process, you get to look at why you are so afraid of conflict or see your unhealthy, codependent attachments.
It might help to ask yourself: Where is this emotion in my body? Put your hands there. Breathe into it. Give it space to move. This is the kind of work I do with my 1:1 private coaching clients. We gently go into the emotion, which is going into the energy, to allow it room to communicate what it needs to say to you. Sometimes, this results in a powerful revelation, a new choice in life, or even past-life healing.
The more open your heart is, the easier it will be to see:
The root of the emotion, and
The wisdom it offers you.
Curiosity is key. One of the main reasons that emotions get suppressed or remain stagnant in the body is because people:
Identify with them (This is who I am)
Attach to them (I cannot let this go)
Judge them (it is wrong to feel this way)
You are not the emotion itself but rather the one observing the emotion. If you are not willing to let go of the emotion, it will never leave you. If you keep judging the emotion, it won't talk to you.
See the emotion as separate from you and as a gift. Then watch how this transforms your relationship in dealing with uncomfortable emotions. Do not let it rule you. Become your own master. This is the key to sovereignty.
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Jessica Falcon, Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert
A former lawyer turned mystic, Jessica Falcon is an International Soul Embodiment Guide & Relationship Expert. She guides you to embody your power, reclaim your sovereignty, and experience true freedom.
Jessica spent years researching religious history, ancient civilizations, and mythology to get to the root of unequal power dynamics in relationships. She has identified the core beliefs and wounds that must be confronted to experience shared power and freedom in relationships.
She leads retreats, workshops, and online portals of transformation to help you embody your divinity, activate your sexual life force energy, and revolutionize your relationships. Tune into her Soul Sovereignty & Sexuality Podcast on all major platforms.
