How Self-doubt Keeps You Stuck and Why You Need to Overcome it
- May 14, 2021
- 3 min read
Updated: May 17, 2021
Written by: Viviana Di Leo, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Raise your hand if you have never doubt yourself.
I am sure every single person, including me, has doubted at some point in life. Questioning whether it is good enough or capable enough or how to do some things if never been done before.
Self-doubt occurs when we feel doubt or uncertainty over our ability and actions. This involves lack of confidence, forms of self-sabotage, lack of self-love, and even lack of self-worth sometimes.
Many times, in my sessions, I realize it’s because people tend to anticipate, they act like they have that crystal ball telling the future, and it is not a bright one. It's full of negative scenarios.
A certain level of self-doubt is good because it indicates that you understand what you need to improve or make you cautious and not that impulsive. However, persistent fear and self-doubt can hugely affect your life in a bad way.
What is creating this self-doubt?
Negative Self-talk
You do not have kind words towards yourself; you repeat to yourself you can’t, you don’t trust you are capable, you feel not good enough.
Your Past Triggers You
This is when every situation brings you back to a moment you could not speak up, or you were told you were not good, or people say you are wrong. Know your brain doesn’t understand if something happened 10 minutes ago or 10 years ago. If you keep repeating that story to yourself, your body feels the same emotions over again.
Comparing Yourself to Others
It is one of the main reasons people suffer from self-doubt, and in the world of social media, this is getting worse. More people comparing chapter 10 of someone’s life with chapter 1 of your life.
When talking about self-doubt, we need to address self-love and self-worth, which is a process if you haven’t loved and accepted yourself in years.
When you love yourself, you feel peaceful, and it helps you move forward and avoid getting stuck.
You might be asking yourself, how do I do this? When do I start?
Trust me, you will know.
Maybe you feel exhausted from hearing the same things from yourself over and over again.
If you want to improve your life, know that you have to decide and make a choice, the choice of saying goodbye to living in the constant unhealthy relationship with yourself and your inner critic.
Closing this chapter in your life might bring feelings of sadness and loss, but you decide to close it, and if that bringing that power means an impact on your present and your future, would you be willing to start making progress in your life.
Know it takes your commitment and your willingness to start and keep it going. Others can guide you. Until you don’t build a strong foundation (confidence), you will seek external validation.
So, how do I know I released self-doubt?
You feel peace of mind.
If a situation triggers doubt, you are aware and can shift the way you face it.
You stop doing and redoing things with no ends.
You live a more conscious and aware life feeling more fulfilled.
You stop wanting to find the mistakes behind something that did not work.
You can spend a long time wondering what it would look like to live without that inner critic voice or sabotaging everything you do. You can spend a long time blaming yourself or the other person, situation. Or...
You can choose differently. Choose your peace of mind.
Choose to release those patterns and deciding how you want to live from now on. It is super rewarding to see my clients close those subconscious patterns and finally feel free, peaceful, and enjoy life.
Every day you have the opportunity to write a new chapter starting fresh.
Will you start a new chapter today?
Viviana Di Leo, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Viviana Di Leo is a Certified Peacefulness & Fulfilment Coach. She helps women on their self-healing journey to live a more peaceful and fulfilled life. She's an Expert in Biodecoding & Emotions.
