How Not To Transfer Emotions From Work To Our Personal Life And Vice Versa
- Brainz Magazine
- Oct 1, 2021
- 4 min read
Written by: Katarzyna Dorosz, Executive Contributor
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During the last interview, I had a lot of questions for you about relationships and their relevance to work.
1. Do you think personal relationships affect work and vice versa?
Of course. Relationships at home closely influence the quality of our work and will both reflect and alter the emotions that emanate from home We move between home and work daily. So it's important to balance the two.
I frequently lecture on this topic. When we learn to be happy in a relationship or family, it makes us more fulfilled as either employers or employees. And vice versa. If we have a job that is our passion and it gives us pleasure, then we are fulfilled and that contentment enriches our home existence subliminally.
Undoubtedly, our self-esteem increases. Feeling confident, creative, successful, is fulfilling and enriches harmonies in us, thus we build better relationships in personal and business partnerships.
So work fulfillment and love (relationships) all influence each other.
2. Will you give us any tips on how to build a good long-term relationship that lasts?
I can refer your readers to one of my books, “Your Guide to Positive Living - The Power of Peace After 50", in which I describe in one chapter THE NEED FOR LOVE AND THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE.
Gary Chapman, an American therapist and author of numerous books on relationships, shares his theory that strategies to meet the need for love can be divided into five groups, which he called the five languages of love.
These are:
1. Words of appreciation and support
This is simply expressing love in words. It can be manifested by talking about what we like about the other person or why we enjoy being with them. It also includes verbal appreciation and celebration of their successes together.
2. Time spent together
This is termed "quality time" that is devoted to being with another person and includes listening to what is important to them, sharing their passions or sharing activities that make them happy (going to the cinema or a dance, hiking in the mountains, or just sharing a drink in a cafe).
3. Gifts
It is a pleasure to give presents to loved ones, but also to receive them. Remember that this is not about trading expensive material objects. The most important thing is the message the gift delivers: “I want to make you happy ", "I know you and I know what is important to you and what makes you happy".
4. Life enriching activities
These are various things, big and small around the house even, that can be done for another person, e.g. brewing tea and bringing it to a partner in bed, or doing some sort of chore for them. It's all about giving unilaterally and sharing love.
5. Touch
This is physical tenderness, such as hugging, stroking hair, holding hands, dancing, sexual activities.
Why am I quoting Chapman's concepts here?
Recognizing which language of love we use and which our loved ones appreciate is the basis of building enduring relationships. Imagine your primary love language you appreciate is touch, so you use it yourself, for example by hugging your friends as a greeting.
However, your friends don't know they are important to you! Why? Their language of love is "Time dedicated to being together", which is why they arrange walks or talks with you at every opportunity.
However, you are not the person who initiates subsequent meetings yourself even though you enjoy them. You see how much anxiety and misunderstanding this can introduce to your relationships? We must think of others and we will also be benefited.
If you know each other's languages of love, you will, for example, be able to write down in your calendar, an aide-memoire to call and suggest a get-together, and your friends and partner will remember that when in your life something good happens, the greatest sign of love for you will be a hug, not "Congratulations!" or even flowers!
Katarzyna Dorosz, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Katarzyna Dorosz is a leader in the field of brain performance, mental performance, and improving memory and quality of work. She is a world-renowned expert for senior and mature individuals who also conducts research on longevity. She is also a lecturer and author of several books. Katarzyna works with many prestigious American universities about attaining meaningful longevity in life and how to maintain brain function. She also supports women around the world through motivational lectures. Her attitude and stubborn pursuit of purpose show how important changes and progress in life are. She is also the author of the TV Show "Te Power of Life". During lectures, she uses the "Educational kinesiology and Emotional intelligence" and developed her own methods of exercises that provide excellent memory, concentration exercises as well as relaxation, and a set of physical exercises to improve the condition (adjusted to the age and flexibility of the body). In business training, Katarzyna uses the popular Japanese Kaizen method, i.e. a philosophy based on changing lifestyle - an endless process of improving and improving the quality of the company.
