How Healing Trauma, Abuse, Abandonment, And Neglect Stops Unnecessary Suffering In Relationships
- Nov 21, 2022
- 3 min read
Updated: Feb 9, 2024
Written by: Ocean Eagle, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
It’s my belief we cannot do the deeper parts of our healing work together. But we can be a witness for one another. That's why when I do couple/partner breathwork sessions, it's simply about being a witness, holding space and creating safety for the other person to journey to the deeper parts of themselves. It's not about saving them. It's not about fixing them. It's about letting them feel safe to vulnerably access the depths of their wounds while feeling energetically held.
The Seat of the Observer…
Partners need to be still and quiet while watching their partner, lover, child, and friend transform and heal on their own. Witnessing their strength as they call their power back from their wounds and old story is a blessing creating an opportunity for compassion without feeling the need to fix. Only when one has witnessed the healing and likewise offered the same gift to their partner, is one ready to enter into a sacred, lasting union with another in my opinion. Trying to work out our trauma, abuse, abandonment, and neglect within a relationship is very, very difficult and rarely successful. When I do work with couples, partners, friends, and family, it's not about bringing them back together. It's about each party, each individual, doing their work and going to the deeper parts of themselves in front of the other person while giving their partner a whole new perspective. They see them in a different light. They touch them in a different way than they've ever touched them before while assisting the activation of their chakras and renewed Inner Chi.
The integration is the key…
After a three-day intensive, couples may need to spend time apart. They may need to reevaluate why they got in that relationship. They may need to reevaluate whether or not they want to go forward. They may come to the realization that it is better for both parties to love each other from a distance. There are no guarantees in life or in the outcome from healing the child within. When you do inner work to try to save a relationship, I ask if the relationship worth saving and are both parties all in and committed. What are each person’s reasons for wanting to “Make it Work”? What Fears are driving the effort! What fears do I have about leaving this relationship? Is it money? Is it financial? Is it security? Is it the children? Is it, how am I going to make it?
Learn to make choices grounded in your Truth…
Those are concerns of the 3d world that cannot come into the equation when we're doing our work. If you only have one partner in the relationship willing to do what’s necessary to heal, it simply won't work. Each individual has to want to do their own work to change within and then go look in the mirror and see if who they truly are, is ready for a relationship. When we're trying to come back to wholeness, we have to be willing to go live in a box or in a cave if that means we get to be sovereign and finally come to the realization that we are enough and we can be alone without dying if necessary.
One’s true happiness cannot be the burden of our mate! We must create it from a place deep within our being where only the courageous are willing to venture!
Your journey to wholeness, peace and happiness can begin whenever you want!
To discuss working with me, email me directly at oceaneagle018@gmail.com or visit my website, www.OceanEagle.org, for upcoming Retreats and Events in Phoenix, San Diego, Los Angeles, and Dallas in January and February 2023.
Ocean Eagle, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Ocean is an International 1 Best Selling Co-Author of "Cracking the Rich Code, Vol 2, Best selling author of "The Gift of Inspirations" w/ foreword by original Shark of Shark Tank, Kevin Harrington, Founder of Activation Breathwork, Mentor/Coach, & Inspirational Speaker!
