Holidays Without Loved Ones –Embracing Solitude And Self-Care In The Season Of Joy
- Brainz Magazine
- Dec 14, 2023
- 3 min read
Written by: Patricia Baronowski-Schneider, Special Guest Writer and Executive Contributor
The festive music echoes through supermarket aisles. Colorful lights begin adorning neighborhood houses. Peppermint and cinnamon scents permeate coffee shops. The holiday season brings a wave of yuletide cheer. Yet, the most beautiful time can also be the loneliest for those missing a loved one this year. The absence of familiar faces can cast a shadow over the festive lights, yet there's a different kind of warmth and peace available for those spending the holidays alone - a chance to embrace solitude and engage in self-care.
When everyone around you immerses in traditions, sadness, and isolation may flood. Images portrayed in movies and commercials of picture-perfect gatherings only amplify the feeling that you're grieving alone on the sidelines. However, support exists to nurture you through this season of nostalgia. You maintain the power to redefine meanings and create sustaining new rituals.
The key is permitting yourself to do what feels comforting without judgment. Listen to your inner voice. If more classic holiday pursuits like gift shopping spark sadness, try volunteering instead. If beloved songs make the loss feel raw, play different playlists. This season is about self-care.
Self-care is paramount. It's about nurturing your emotional and mental well-being. Mindfulness practices, like meditation or journaling, can provide solace and clarity. They allow space to process emotions and cultivate a sense of inner calm amidst the holiday bustle. Creative outlets, be it painting, writing, or cooking, can also be therapeutic, expressing feelings that might be hard to verbalize.
While the impulse may be to paper over grief, stifling emotions often backfires long-term. Allow yourself to process and express. Keep devices or journals nearby to capture memories that bubble up. Some find comfort in re-reading old notes, cards, or emails from lost loved ones. Share reflections with support groups, understanding relatives or friends, or counselors. Cry when mourning washes over.
These feelings don't just switch off because the calendar changed. I suggest mindfulness practices like breathing exercises or yoga to cope with grief waves. Creative pursuits like painting, photography, or writing also help many constructively channel emotions.
Most importantly, embrace your solitude. Loneliness may persist amidst the commotion; however, reframing thoughts can transform the solo experience. Enjoy your favorite foods without compromising. Venture down nostalgia lanes. Play comforting songs loudly—light candles in tribute. Share aloud what you'd say to those absent. Not every moment may overflow with merriment, but self-compassion enables peace amid the grief.
Reconciliation takes time, support, and gentleness. You honor past bonds through cherishing memories. And by carefully nurturing your spirit this season, spring's longer light awaits, filled with promise for forging new happiness.
In this season of joy, let's redefine what happiness looks like. It's not always about laughter and company; sometimes, it's in the quiet, reflective moments we spend in solitude, finding peace in our presence and cherishing the memories of those no longer with us.
Patricia Baronowski-Schneider, Special Guest Writer and Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Patricia Baronowski-Schneider. I’m the founder of Pristine Advisers, since 2010. I have been in the IR/PR industry for over 35 years. I am a 3 x’s international best-selling published author and have also been featured in various books about IR/PR and Business. I’m a member of the Farmingdale Chamber of Commerce, have been featured in and on the cover of multiple magazines and newspapers and won many awards for my work. I help companies around the world to be in front of the audiences that matter most to their business. Check out my YouTube Channel – Been There/Done That where I offer free advice on trending topics. You can also check out my Podcast “Successful Minds with Patty B”.
