top of page

Debrief & Declare – The Keys to Closing Your Gap

  • Dec 5, 2025
  • 4 min read

As an Empress, an Entrepreneur, and A Master Leader in the work of Transformation, Paula guarantees a new idea leading to a new game. New game = New results!

Executive Contributor Paula Margulis

Embark on the transformative journey of closing the gap between your current life and your aspirations. This article guides you through a process of self-assessment, debriefing your current state, and taking aligned action to move forward. With clarity and intention, you can begin to close your gap and create the life you’ve always desired. It’s time to declare your path and take the necessary steps toward a 10/10 life.


Close-up of black and white ruler showing "INCH 1" mark with detailed lines and numbers, set against a plain background.

Here we are, Article 7. Seven weeks into the journey of you. We’re in the middle of the ride now, and you’ve already traveled so far. Let’s recap the stops we’ve made together:


  1. You are your most important relationship, priority, and investment.

  2. You identified your current state of being aligned? centered? experiencing homeostasis?

  3. You acknowledged your point of view and interpretations of your past and present.

  4. You clarified your vision of the future.

  5. You discovered and acknowledged The Gap.

  6. You assessed and qualified that gap.

 

Which brings us to today: How do you close your gap?

 

Phewwwwww. Some ride. How are you feeling so far? What’s bubbling up for you? What are you noticing? What revelations have surfaced?


By now, if you’ve given yourself permission to truly reflect, you’re holding quantifiable data, a snapshot of your life that shows you exactly where you stand and exactly where your opportunities live. You’ve seen the metaphorical “floor,” and you can now see the pathways to creating the life you desire.


Let’s make this clear.

 

If you indulged the prompts and gifted yourself the space to assess, here’s what’s available:

 

  • You can see how you’ve been showing up for yourself. In the last article, you ranked your relationship with yourself. If it wasn’t a 10/10, then that's beautiful, which means there’s room to grow. That’s your opportunity.

  • You can see how you’re showing up for others. You ranked this as well. If it wasn’t a 10/10, we get to identify what’s not working and transform it into aligned action.

  • You assessed your money game. You now understand your baseline, the floor, and today, we’ll explore the opportunities to elevate it.

  • You assessed your career and your health. You now know where you stand today and where you want to be.

 

You’re holding so much data.


This is the sexy part of the transformation, the debrief. You get to metabolize last month’s experience.


So did you show up for yourself? Did you take on the challenge?


How did assessing and qualifying your life feel?


What came up sadness, anger, clarity, joy, empowerment?

 

What was revealed? Big gaps? Small gaps?


Were you exactly where you assumed you were? Were you nowhere near where you hoped to be?

Or were you floating somewhere in the middle, unsure?

 

Here’s an invitation: journal your debrief.


A conversation with yourself is one of the most powerful tools you will ever have. It strengthens your relationship with you, your awareness, your compassion, your emotional intelligence and it lays the foundation for clarity, growth, development, and creation.


Now that we’ve debriefed, it’s time to declare. Declare what you’re creating. Declare your movement.


Declare your alignment toward closing the gap. Here’s an example:


Let’s say you ranked your relationship with yourself as a 6/10. That’s a meaningful gap. You already defined what a 10/10 life-by-your-design looks like. Now, you close the gap through aligned action, one action at a time. One inch at a time.


A declaration might look like:


  • Example 1: I declare to journal once a week on Wednesday afternoons until March 31st, 2026.

  • Example 2: I declare to hire a life coach to support my growth and evolution by December 31st, 2025.

 

Can you quantum leap your gap? Absolutely, with committed action.

 

But think of it like football: a game of inches.


The slow, steady inches accumulate into massive wins.

 

  • Slow and steady does win the race.

  • You have your whole life to create.

  • Presence slows life down.

  • The average Western life expectancy is 100 years, act like it.

  • Choosing presence is choosing peace, serenity, and power.


I invite you to show up for yourself with love, grace, patience, understanding, compassion, empathy, empowerment, and self-discipline.


This is the recipe for closing your gap.


As long as you choose powerfully, deliberately, and consistently, you will be successful.

 

If you’re ready to close your gap with intention, clarity, and aligned action, and you want support in creating your 10/10 life, I’m here. Reach out, and let’s navigate your next step together.



Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info!

Read more from Paula Margulis

Paula Margulis, Master Leader in the work of Transformation

As the CEO of PawlaNation Inc., which was founded in 2018, a Business Marketing graduate and licensed Realtor since 2011, Paula is a seasoned full-time Sales Representative with EXP Realty. She continuously chooses to expand and build her empire, which includes Chief Networking Officer of Total Knockout Referrals, Founder & CEO of PawlaNation Leadership, Foundation & Sanctuary. For the past 12 years, she has been choosing her personal development in a committed and rigorous manner, leading herself to her personal power, potential, authenticity, vulnerability, peace, and serenity, all the way being guided by a powerful vision and mission; to empower humanity with their humanity.

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

Article Image

10 Ways to 5X Your Business by the End of 2026

You don’t need to become less human to become more successful. You need to become better at being human because your business can only expand to the degree that you can hold the...

Article Image

There's Nothing Wrong With You, You've Just Been Stuck in Survival Mode

You've done the work. You've gone to therapy, read the books, followed the frameworks, and still, self-sabotage shows up right when you're closest to the goal: the video you don't post, the book you...

Article Image

Who Am I When I’m No Longer Needed in the Same Way?

A month ago, my husband and I travelled to spend time with our adult children. Like many parents, I had quietly imagined what those few days would look like. Long conversations. Family bonding.

Article Image

The Three T’s of Relationships and How to Audit Your Inner Circle and Protect Your Peace

Many relationships collapse under the weight of a beautiful yet deeply misunderstood ideal: unconditional love. We are often conditioned to believe that true devotion means staying "no matter what."

Article Image

Five Ways Your Brain Can Learn Something New

When I was diagnosed with autoimmune disease at seventeen, nobody spoke to me about my brain. They spoke about my eyes, my immune system, and medication. They explained that my body was attacking itself...

Article Image

Why Your Business Stalls When You Work Harder

You have followed the plan and made the right moves, perhaps hiring more staff, adding a marketing channel, or implementing a new system that promised to save you time. Initially, these changes seemed effective.

5 Reasons the Teen Years Are the Greatest Opportunity Your Child Has to Shape Who They Become

10 Evidence-Based Nutritional Supports for Women

Why Kobido is the Future of Natural Facial Rejuvenation

What Happens When These 4 Pressures Take Command

The Difference Between Rest and Retreat

11 Ways the Performing Arts Build Confidence and Practical Life Skills in Young People

The Practice of Returning and Why Yoga and Meditation Are More Than Wellness

Why One Diet Doesn't Work for Everyone

You Are Functioning, But Are You Actually Okay?

bottom of page