A Conversation on Contact vs. Connection
- Brainz Magazine
- Jul 8
- 4 min read
Written by Dr. Sunil Prakash, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Certified Trainer of Clinical Hypnotherapy
Dr. Sunil Prakash is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Trainer. He is the CEO of the California Hypnosis Institute Gurgaon, an online and offline learning platform. An author of The Mental Vault and a presenter at various international conventions and meetings.
The clouds had just lifted over the forest-cloaked valley. The air was crisp, and the silence was so still that even the rustle of dry leaves sounded like a whisper of truth. Priya Arora, an emerging star in broadcast journalism, finally secured the interview she had pursued for three years. Her subject was Swami Raghunath, a reclusive, gentle-spoken spiritual teacher known for his clarity on modern confusion. Camera crews were left behind. The ashram had one rule: "No gadgets, only presence."Priya, notebook in hand, sat across from Swamiji under a sprawling peepal tree.
The interview begins
Priya: “Swamiji, thank you for your time. Let me dive straight into what I believe the audience needs. In today’s hyperconnected world, people are in constant contact. Messages, likes, forwards. But, they still report feeling lonely. Why is that?”
Swamiji (smiling gently): “Because, my child, contact is mechanical. Connection is emotional. One touches the device; the other touches the heart.”
Priya (scribbling): “May I ask for an example? Something real. Something every day.”
Swamiji: “Of course. Let me tell you a story. Not of saints, but of a chaiwala and his customer.”
The story within the story, “Chai and the Carpenter”
For over a decade, every morning at 8:15, a middle-aged carpenter named Ramesh would stop at the same tea stall in Rishikesh. He would hand over a 10-rupee coin, take his cutting chai, nod politely at the vendor, and move on.
Every single day same time, same exchange, same nod.
One morning, he didn’t come.
The chaiwala, Sunil, thought maybe the weather had delayed him. But the next day, again, no Ramesh.
On the third day, Sunil found out Ramesh had passed away in a road accident. That morning, he kept a cup of chai ready at 8:15 anyway. No one claimed it.
That day, Sunil cried.
The customer was never his friend on Facebook, never invited to his home, never exchanged phone numbers. But in ten years of nods, glances, and warm tea shared across silent mornings, they had built a connection.
Back to the interview
Swamiji (pausing): “That is the connection. No emojis were needed. No internet was used. Yet it created emotion. Contact is pressing the bell. Connection is opening the door.”
Priya: “That’s beautiful. So, in modern relationships, have we replaced connection with contact?”
Swamiji: “Worse. We often confuse one for the other. We think we are close because we’re in touch. But ‘touch’ does not mean we’ve touched each other’s essence.”
Digging deeper
Priya (leaning in): “So how does one move from contact to connection?”
Swamiji: “Three ways:
Presence over performance: Be there, without acting like you are.
Listening without waiting to reply: Connection is born in the silence between words.
Feeling before fixing: People don’t always want advice. They want acknowledgment.”
Priya (nodding): “Powerful. So, it’s not about how many we reach, but how deeply.”
Swamiji (smiling wider): “Exactly. A Wi-Fi signal can give you contact. But only compassion gives you connection.”
The final question
Priya: “May I ask something personal? Have you ever felt lonely in your silence?”
Swamiji chuckled.
Swamiji: “I have been alone, but never lonely. Because connection is not always with people, I feel connected with trees, with the breeze, even with the pause between two breaths. When you are truly connected, even to yourself, loneliness fades like fog in the morning sun.”
Reflections by the reporter
As Priya walked back down the forest path, away from the ashram and into the world of buzz and deadlines, she didn’t switch her phone on immediately.
For the first time in years, she noticed her own breathing.
That night, she wrote the title of her episode as:
“Between Signal and Silence: Are You in Contact, or in Connection?”
Moral takeaway (for the reader)
Contact is a number. Connection is a feeling.
You can message someone 20 times a day and still not connect.
But you can meet someone once in silence and never forget how they made you feel.
In a world where we are wired to everyone, we must ask: Who do I truly feel warm with? Who feels me, not just sees me?
Connection is not about availability. It’s about vulnerability.
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Dr. Sunil Prakash, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Certified Trainer of Clinical Hypnotherapy
In 2008, Dr Sunil Prakash had a life-changing encounter while attending a Psychotherapy conference in the USA. He met a Clinical Hypnotherapist who introduced him to the remarkable effectiveness of Hypnotherapy as a healing modality. Inspired by this newfound knowledge, he determined to pursue his passion for healing and teaching. Dr Sunil Prakash spent little time completing his Hypnotherapist course and Trainer's program from CHI USA. Within a year, he started his hypnotherapy academy. Since 2009, he has been successfully running the California Hypnosis Institute Gurgaon in India, where he practices and teaches Clinical Hypnotherapy.
