4 Steps To Define Authentic Confidence Your Way
- Dec 8, 2021
- 5 min read
Written by: Jane Christine, Executive Contributor
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It’s a funny thing “confidence”, everyone wants it BUT its definition is different for everyone. How many times have you thought “If I just had more confidence, I’d be able to close more sales, reach more people, make a bigger positive impact on the world, reach my highest potential, speak my truth and live the life of my dreams?”
You’re not alone, we all want more confidence in different areas of our lives. But for us Highly Sensitive people often our healing and helping nature can block us from confidently pitching our offers/services, closing sales, and expanding our businesses. We put ourselves in our audience’s shoes and we don’t want to come across salesy, pushy, or arrogant. So, what do you do, you hesitate, do behind the scenes tasks that don’t generate income, you try all the strategies and follow what worked for others, you doubt your abilities and get scared by thinking what if you can’t live up to your promises?
“But the only way to unleash your authentic confidence is to define what it means to you, personally.”
Of course, it makes sense why your confidence is rocked, why you haven’t been able to tap into your highest self and why you still worry about what others might think or say. But the only way to unleash your authentic confidence is to define what it means to you, personally. Keep reading for my 4-step method to define what authentic confidence is.
I think after the last couple of years, most of us are done with second guessing ourselves, perfectionism, feeling like an imposter, procrastinating, doubting your abilities, saying yes to things that don’t light you up, listening to your inner critic, done with thinking you’re not good enough and don’t deserve success, overthinking and are tired of feeling overwhelmed. Are you ready to leave that all in 2021?!
If you answered NO, ask yourself “Why do I want to keep struggling when there are experts that can help me change all that?”. If you answered YES, then read on…
Before we can get you to ooze authentic confidence, first we must know where you are going. Through our different experiences in life, you see the world in a different way to me, to your parents, to everyone. Think about it, we can be at the same restaurant table experiencing it in a completely unique way. I have a different view, I can hear various sounds that echo around the room, I might have a distinct meal that’s dancing on my taste buds, perhaps the air-conditioning is blowing on my neck. We are in the same room BUT have distinct memories and emotions. The same goes with authentic confidence.
How you view someone that is confident will differ from that of others. So, your unique mind has a unique way of registering if someone is oozing confidence or not. And this is a perfect place to start!
Define Your Authentic Confidence In 4 Steps
1. How Do You Know Someone Is Confident?
I want you to ask yourself how do you know someone is confident? What specific things does that person do to indicate they are confident? We’re talking about tangible things that you can say if some does or doesn’t do.
2. Think Of A Confident Person
Now, think of a person on the world stage, not in your industry as we don’t want to start the comparing game here, just a leader that you really love. Write down all the words that come to mind when you think of that person.
3. Words Into Actions
Take those words, and list all the ways you can create that feeling. What actions can you take to cultivate this word into reality for yourself? For example, say your word is “inspirational” what action can you do that creates someone to feel inspired? Talk about your own story, show them what is possible?
4. What’s Your Definition?
I can’t tell you how many clients first come to me saying that want more confidence but when I ask them to define it, they come up blank. So, now you’ve identified how to know if someone is confident, you’ve got someone in mind and have a list of words, feelings, & emotions that represent confidence to you, and you’ve detailed what actions can cultivate these feelings. Here’s the time to truly define what authentic confidence is – your way!!!
Here’s my definition: “Confidence is a psychological trait, somewhere between cognitive ability and personality traits that provide us with great power. Authentic confidence is being comfortable and embracing all parts of yourself including your insecurities. Finding strength in your vulnerability and take steps to action your desires not worrying about what others might think or say. You know intuitively the right decisions to make and your abilities to learn everything you need to ensure you get where you want to go. Basically, it's turning heads because you ooze self-worth & capability.”
This is only the first part to Authentic Confidence To Sell, my new workshop coming to you in January 2022. If you’re ready to unleash your authentic confidence, book out your offers, open up opportunities, attract abundance, reach your highest potential and make an intuitive decisions on your own terms, check out my website or Instagram account below.
You’ve got to define where you’re going before you can get there!
Jane Christine, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Jane Christine is a certified Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, and author. Originally from Australia working in the corporate world until she questioned her life's purpose. Jane believed there had to be more to life, so she sold everything she owned and set off for a nomadic lifestyle traveling around the world searching for answers and a place to call home, which she finally found in Spain. Her search and transformation took her to over 37 countries. Life experiences and her own personal growth guided her to become a certified Life Coach. Her travels inspired her quest to learn about the world around us and why we do what we do. Since 2012, Jane Christine has been studying how our pasts shape us, the effects of societal standards, and the impact of values. With Neuro-Linguistics Programming techniques and through the power of transformation, learn how to; bridge the gap, define self-worth, set tangible goals, find comfort through change, and how 1% micro-changes can alter lives. Jane Christine is the author of "How You Know Already: Questions to ask yourself to find the answers within," as she believes we are all unique, and so are each of our paths to follow. She is dedicated to her clients and supporting their growth and journey. Her motto: Design your life, don't just live it!
