Written by Michelle Gines, Founder of Purpose Publishing Michelle “MG” Gines is a strategist, publisher, and executive advisor who helps leaders transform ideas into books, brands, and platforms. She brings two decades of digital strategy and purpose-driven leadership to authors, entrepreneurs, and organizations ready to elevate their impact. There comes a point where you stop questioning your experience but start questioning your visibility. You know what you know. You've done the work. And yet, the recognition does not seem to match the depth. This is where many capable professionals get stuck, not because they lack authority, but because they have not translated it into something others can see, name, and trust. What does thought leadership actually look like? Thought leadership is often misunderstood as visibility, popularity, or content volume. It is none of those things on its own. At its core, thought leadership is the ability to articulate lived experience in a way that creates clarity for others. It is not just knowing, it is being able to name what others feel but cannot yet express. It is not just doing, it is about being able to extract insights from what you have done and make them transferable. Thought leadership is not just about visibility, but about how your ideas create clarity for others, a distinction often emphasized in discussions on thought leadership in university publications. This is where many experienced professionals miss the mark. They assume their body of work should speak for itself. But experience, on its own, is silent. Authority is not built on what you have done, it is built on what you can clearly communicate about what you have done. Why experience alone is not enough You can have decades of experience and still feel overlooked, not because your work lacks value, but because it lacks translation. In many cases, high-level professionals operate with an internal depth that has never been externalized. Their insights live in conversations, decisions, and instincts, but not in structured language. So, the outside world sees capability but not clarity. And without clarity, there is no reference point for recognition. This is the quiet gap between being experienced and being known. What “proof” of thought leadership actually looks like Proof is not a title. It is not a job role. And it is not how long you have been doing something. Proof shows up in three consistent ways. First, your ideas are repeatable. You can explain what you know more than one way, in more than one setting, without losing clarity. Second, your perspective is recognizable. People begin to associate certain insights, language, or frameworks with you. Third, your work creates movement. Someone reads, hears, or engages with your thinking and sees something differently. This is when thought leadership becomes visible, not when you declare it, but when others can point to it. There is much to share, and according to an article in Forbes, if you're a leader, you should be. Why you may not be getting recognized yet If you feel like you should be further along in recognition, there are a few common reasons: You have not named your perspective: Many professionals have insight, but no clear language for it. Without naming it, others cannot hold onto it. You are speaking at the level of information, not interpretation: Information is everywhere. Interpretation is what creates authority. Your value is not in what you know, but in how you see. You are waiting for validation before you express: Recognition is often the result of articulation, not the prerequisite for it. You are visible, but not distinct: If your message sounds like everyone else's, your experience becomes harder to identify. None of these is an outright failure. They are signals that your next level requires intentional expression. Practical ways to start building proof of your thought leadership Name your core idea: If you cannot summarize your perspective in one or two sentences, it is not yet transferable. Create a repeatable point of view: Turn your experience into a framework, model, or lens others can reference. Write before you feel ready: Clarity is created through expression, not before it. Capture your thinking in real time: Document insights after meetings, decisions, or patterns you notice. Audit your current visibility: Does your LinkedIn, content, or messaging reflect your depth, or just your responsibilities? Test resonance, not perfection: Pay attention to what people repeat back to you. That is where your authority is landing. Build in public, refine in private: You do not need a finished system to begin sharing your thinking. A practical reframe for this season If you are in a place where you know you have more to offer, but it is not yet reflected externally, this is not a visibility problem. It is an articulation problem. You are not starting from scratch. You are organizing what already exists. This requires a different kind of leadership, one that is less about execution and more about expression, less about proving, more about positioning. And more importantly, less about volume and more about precision. What is this season really asking of you? For professionals who are ready, this is often the moment when identity begins to shift. You are no longer just the one who delivers. You are the one who defines. This can feel unfamiliar. It asks you to step out of execution and into authorship. To trust your perspective enough to give it structure. Bravery here is not loud, it is clear. It is the decision to stop waiting for recognition and start creating reference points for it. Closing perspective You do not become a thought leader when someone calls you one. You become one when your thinking can stand on its own, be recognized, and create impact without explanation. The proof is not outside of you. It is in how clearly you are willing to express what you already carry. Recognition follows clarity. Here to help If you are ready to turn your experience into a clear, recognizable authority, this is the work I do inside the CLIMB framework. It is designed to help you extract, structure, and articulate your thinking so others can see, understand, and trust it. If that is the next level you are stepping into, you are welcome to book a strategy call . Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Michelle Gines Michelle Gines, Founder of Purpose Publishing Michelle 'MG' Gines is an author, publisher, and executive strategist known for helping leaders turn their expertise into books, businesses, and platforms that create lasting influence. As the founder of Purpose Publishing and Expertise Unleashed, she has guided hundreds of authors from idea to implementation, building pathways that amplify both message and momentum. She also serves as a corporate digital strategies leader in the healthcare payer space, where she designs experiences for millions across the U.S. MG blends clarity, compassion, and conviction with a faith-forward perspective that inspires transformation and purposeful growth. Her work equips high-achieving professionals to unlock their voice, elevate their brilliance, and lead.

Written by Howaida Abdalla, Life Coach Howaida Abdalla is a survivor of Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and a life coach who has experience when it comes to trauma that a survivor goes through and the journey it takes to heal. She helps women to reconnect and love themselves again. She is a founder of "The Growth Hub Coaching and "Women Empowerment edition: Impact for change" Podcast. Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is often discussed in statistics, policies, and headlines. But behind every number is a human being, someone who has lived with pain, confusion, resilience, and strength. Too often, survivors are spoken about rather than truly listened to. This article centers survivor voices and reflects what many FGM survivors consistently say they want from families, communities, professionals, and society. 1. To be believed without question Many survivors grow up in silence. When they finally speak, they are often met with doubt, minimization, or discomfort. Survivors want: To be believed the first time they speak Not to be asked to “prove” their pain Not to have their experience compared to others Not to be told, “It wasn’t that bad” Validation is not a gift. It is a basic human response. Being believed says, your story matters. Your pain is real. You are not exaggerating. 2. Safe, compassionate healthcare For many survivors, medical spaces are frightening. Examinations can retraumatize. Professionals may lack training. Some dismiss symptoms. Survivors want healthcare that is: Trauma-informed Gentle and patient Knowledgeable about FGM Respectful of boundaries Willing to listen They want doctors and nurses who explain procedures, ask for consent, and understand that fear is not “overreaction”, it is memory stored in the body. Healthcare should be a place of healing, not another site of harm. 3. Respect, not pity Survivors do not want to be reduced to victims. They do not want: Pitying looks Shocked reactions Invasive questions Sensationalized stories They want respect. They are more than what happened to them. They are students, mothers, professionals, artists, leaders, and dreamers. They carry pain, yes, but also courage, wisdom, and strength. Respect means seeing the whole person. 4. Space to speak in their own time Some survivors speak early. Others take decades. Some never speak publicly at all. All of these choices are valid. Survivors want: No pressure to disclose No expectation to “share for awareness” No judgment for silence No guilt for choosing privacy Healing does not follow a schedule. Silence can be survival. Speech can be healing. Both deserve honor. 5. Community support without betrayal Many survivors love their families and cultures deeply, even when those same systems harmed them. They want support that: Does not shame their community Does not force them to choose between truth and belonging Does not isolate them Does not label their culture as “barbaric” Survivors want change without humiliation. They want protection for girls and dignity for their people. 6. Honest education and prevention Survivors want future generations to be free. They want: Age-appropriate education Honest conversations in schools Community-led awareness Culturally sensitive campaigns Men and boys included in prevention They do not want FGM discussed only in whispers or emergencies They want it named, challenged, and ended, with care. 7. Access to mental health support FGM affects more than the body. It lives in memory, relationships, self-image, and intimacy. Survivors want access to: Therapists trained in trauma and FGM Free or affordable services Confidential support Culturally competent care They want their anxiety, depression, dissociation, and shame taken seriously, not dismissed as “cultural adjustment.” Healing is not weakness. It is work. 8. Support around intimacy and relationships Many survivors struggle in silence with: Pain during sex Fear of touch Difficulty trusting Confusion about pleasure Shame around their bodies They want safe spaces to talk about these realities without embarrassment. They want professionals who understand that intimacy after trauma is complex. They want partners who are patient, informed, and kind. They want to believe that joy is still possible. 9. Inclusion in policy and decision-making Too many policies about FGM are created without survivors at the table. Survivors want: To be consulted To be paid for their expertise To lead programs To shape research To influence laws They are not just “service users.” They are experts by experience. Nothing about survivors should be decided without survivors. 10. Recognition of their strength Survivors carry stories of survival that rarely make headlines. They survived: Physical pain Emotional isolation Cultural pressure Silence Stigma They rebuilt lives. They learned new languages for their bodies. They taught themselves safety. They chose to keep living, loving, and hoping. They want that strength recognized, not erased by tragedy. Above all, survivors want to be seen as human Not as case studies. Not as campaigns. Not as “those women.” As human beings. With complexity. With dignity. With agency. With dreams. They want a world where girls are protected, where survivors are supported, and where healing is possible. They want a future where no one has to write articles like this. Until then, they ask for one thing first: Listen. Not to respond. Not to fix. Not to debate. To truly listen. Follow me on Facebook or Instagram for more info! Read more from Howaida Abdalla Howaida Abdalla, Life Coach Howaida Abdalla is a life coach who helps women (survivors) of Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) to reconnect & love themselves again. She was seven years old when the FGM procedure was done on her, which left her lost and disconnected not only from people, but also from herself. She has since dedicated her life to helping other survivors reconnect and love themselves. She is a founder of "The Growth Hub Coaching , " where she helps & coaches survivors. Her Mission: To hep, To inspire & To empower.

In education, big ideas are everywhere – but real results are rare. Charles Foust has spent over two decades proving what it takes to turn strategy into meaningful, system-wide impact. How Charles Foust built a career in education leadership What does it look like when big ideas actually work in real systems? For Charles Foust, it looks like measurable growth, stronger schools, and leaders who know how to execute. Over more than 20 years in public education, Foust has built a career on turning strategy into outcomes. He has led large school districts, managed complex systems, and helped move underperforming schools into stronger positions. “Transformation is not an event,” Foust says. “It’s a process that requires focus every day. Early life and education background Foust grew up in Sedalia, North Carolina. His early life was shaped by discipline and consistency. His mother stayed at home. His father worked long hours as a truck driver. Those experiences shaped how he approached work later in life. He pursued education with intent. He earned a degree in Elementary Education from North Carolina A&T State University. He later added two master’s degrees and a doctorate in Professional Leadership. “I’ve always believed that if you want to lead well, you have to keep learning,” he says. That mindset would carry through every stage of his career. From classroom to principal: Early career lessons Foust began in the classroom. That experience gave him a clear view of how schools operate on the ground. He moved into school leadership and took on one of his first major challenges at Fondren Middle School in Houston ISD. The school needed direction. Foust focused on structure, expectations, and consistency. “We didn’t try to fix everything at once,” he says. “We focused on a few things and executed them well.” Within the first year, the school earned state distinctions. Over time, it became an authorized International Baccalaureate Middle Years Programme school. That experience helped shape his leadership approach. “You learn quickly that systems matter,” he says. “Individual effort is not enough without the right structure.” Leading at scale: District leadership roles Foust later stepped into district leadership. He worked in Houston ISD and Union County Public Schools, where he managed large teams and supported multiple campuses. He coached leaders across more than 50 schools. He also helped design systems that focused on performance and accountability. At this level, the work shifted. “It becomes less about one school and more about how the entire system operates,” he says. That shift prepared him for superintendent roles. Superintendent success in Kansas and North Carolina Foust’s leadership became more visible when he took on superintendent roles in Kansas City Kansas Public Schools and New Hanover County Schools. In Kansas, he led a turnaround effort. Several schools achieved double-digit academic growth in a single year. The district moved away from being one of the lowest-performing in the state. “We focused on clarity,” Foust says. “A few high-impact priorities. No distractions.” The district also earned federal recognition for closing the achievement gap. In North Carolina, his work followed a similar pattern. At New Hanover County Schools, he focused on alignment across the system. He helped secure funding to raise teacher salaries. He also led the effort to win a multi-million-dollar literacy grant. The funding placed a literacy facilitator in every elementary school. The results were clear. Student proficiency increased from 50 percent to 61.1 percent. The district ranked among the top 10 in the state. At the same time, 90 percent of schools met or exceeded growth targets. “Results come from alignment,” Foust says. “People, resources, and strategy have to move in the same direction.” Leadership style: Turning ideas into systems Foust is known for bringing ideas to life in practical ways. His approach is not abstract. He focuses on building systems that people can follow. He also invests time in developing leaders. He meets regularly with assistant principals and leadership teams to prepare them for larger roles. “You can’t scale success without building people,” he says. His leadership style combines clear expectations with consistent support. It is not about quick wins. It is about building something that lasts. Executive leadership coach: What he focuses on today Today, Foust works as an Executive Leadership Coach. He supports school and district leaders across different regions. He helps them improve performance, strengthen systems, and make better decisions. “I’ve been in those roles,” he says. “I understand the pressure and the responsibility.” His work now focuses on helping others apply the same principles that shaped his career. Lessons from Charles Foust’s career Looking back, Foust sees a consistent pattern. Focus matters. Clarity matters. Execution matters. “Too many systems try to do too much at once,” he says. “That’s where things break down.” Instead, he believes in staying disciplined and aligned. His career shows what can happen when ideas are not just discussed, but implemented. And in education, that difference matters. “Leadership is about improving lives,” Foust says. “If the system improves, the outcomes follow.”

What does it take to turn ideas into systems that actually work? For Jeremy Packman, the answer is not innovation for its own sake. It is structure. Mr. Packman is a long time school administrator in California. He has spent 25 years in public education, including 14 years in leadership roles. His career has moved from the classroom to complex administrative work, with a focus on student services and MTSS. His work is not flashy. It is operational. But over time, it has shaped how schools function day to day. Early career: From AmeriCorps to the classroom Jeremy Packman did not start off in school administration. He started on the ground. After college, he moved to California to volunteer for a year of AmeriCorps service. He worked with the Bay Area Youth Agency Consortium (BAYAC), tutoring students in literacy at an elementary school in the canal district of San Rafael, an area supporting low income families in need of extra resources. “That year made it real,” he says. “Education felt meaningful. It was a different world from the one in which I was raised. It opened my eyes to the inequities of the system, and fueled my drive to institute change”. So, he stayed in California and entered the classroom. He began as a substitute teacher in Berkeley. Within a few months, he was asked to take on a long-term role teaching computer classes at Willard Middle School. Soon after, he became a full-time history teacher in East Oakland, where he taught American and World History for eight years. That period shaped his view of systems. “You see very quickly where things break down,” he says. “Not because people don’t care, but because the structure isn’t there.” Moving into leadership: Systems over intent Mr. Packman’s transition into leadership started with extended learning programs. He oversaw after-school initiatives and managed grant reporting. It was his first exposure to system-level thinking. From there, he moved into Assistant Principal roles, then later became a Principal. The shift was clear. “As a teacher, you focus on your classroom,” he says. “As an administrator, you’re responsible for how the whole system holds together.” He began focusing on areas that required precision – student services, special education, and compliance. “Timelines, documentation, service alignment, parent rights – those fundamentals do not change,” he says. “When systems are clear, families feel informed. When systems are unclear, tension rises.” His work became less about ideas and more about execution. Leading through uncertainty: Lessons from COVID One of the defining moments in Packman’s career came when he served as a principal during COVID-19 closures and reopenings. The environment was unstable. Policies changed quickly. Expectations shifted. “When uncertainty is high, communication should be predictable,” he says. But that was not always possible. “With COVID, there was a lot of uncertainty. Plans were constantly shifting. Even when communication was frequent, it was anything but predictable.” That experience reinforced a key lesson: structure and clear communication matter most when conditions are unstable. It also shaped how he approaches leadership today. “You can’t control everything,” he says. “But you can control how clearly you communicate and how consistent your systems are.” Multi-tier system and supports: Where ideas meet reality Over time, Packman focused more on creating more efficient systems to provide equitable supports and achieve stronger outcomes. Within a school setting, regardless of its ranking or designation, a very complex society exists that is full of wide educational gaps and behavioral inconsistencies, often impacting marginalized populations in negative ways. “Due to the variety of student needs that present daily, it is not always possible to meet all students where they are. This is frustrating for teachers and administrators alike” Packman shared. In his experience, it is pivotal that all teachers apply consistently rigorous tier one instruction, assess their students regularly, and share data with their administrative team. School administrators should then meet with their “Coordination of Services Team (COST), to discuss how to apply additional supports (tier 2 or 3) for each student, both within and outside of the classroom. “If this is not documented, reviewed, assessed, and revised, we will continue to run into the same concerning patterns” Packman said. In his experience, he has seen the importance of teacher/staff voice and general buy-in for implementing any new approach with fidelity, especially when it differs from a teacher’s usual approach. “Change is a major cause of anxiety for some people, so patience is also pivotal.” The personal side of leadership Packman’s approach is shaped by more than professional experience. He speaks openly about the loss of his brother, Josh, who passed away from cancer. “There’s no way to overcome the loss of family,” he says. That experience shifted how he views pressure and priorities. It reinforced the importance of patience. Perspective. Staying steady in difficult situations. “Perseverance. Patience. Growth mindset,” he says. “Not as slogans. As operating principles.” What comes next: Systems, technology, and scale After 25 years in public education, Jeremy Packman is thinking about what comes next. He is exploring opportunities in education technology. The focus is not on disruption. It is for improvement. “There’s a lot of fragmentation in how systems are managed,” he says. “There’s room to make things more aligned.” He is interested in tools that improve tracking, reduce errors, and make processes clearer for both educators and families. Technology, in his view, should support systems – not replace them. Why Structure, Not Strategy, Drives Results Jeremy Packman’s career is built on a simple idea: good systems make hard work more effective. He has applied that idea in classrooms, school leadership roles, and complex student service environments. The result is not a dramatic change overnight. It is a steady improvement over time. “If services don’t match what’s written, the system isn’t working,” he says. “Clarity protects students.” It is a practical philosophy. And in education, practical tends to last.

Written by Linda Grizely, Guest Writer If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why am I so bad with money?”, you’re not alone.The problem isn’t your discipline, your budget, or your plan. The problem is that most financial advice ignores you. It leaves out what’s driving your decisions, your experiences, your emotions, and everything you’ve learned about money along the way. And until you understand that, nothing you try is going to feel like it works. Why do so many capable people still feel bad about money? You’re smart. You’re capable. You’ve read the articles, built a budget, created a plan, and maybe even worked with a professional. And yet… you still feel behind. You make mistakes. You feel guilt or shame. You open your bank app… and immediately feel that pit in your stomach. That feeling, the sense that you’re doing something wrong with money, is more common than you think. You probably also find yourself thinking, “I should have figured this out by now”. But here’s the thing, it’s not because you don’t know enough.  It’s because most financial advice is built on the assumption that if you just follow the right system or rules, you’ll succeed. But money doesn’t live on a spreadsheet or in an app.  It lives in your life. The real problem with traditional budgeting advice Most financial advice focuses on what you should do: Spend less  Save more  Stick to the plan  And while those things aren’t wrong, they’re incomplete. Because they ignore the most important variable: you. Money is deeply emotional , and most traditional advice doesn't account for that. Your decisions are shaped by things like: How money was talked about (or not talked about) growing up  Past financial experiences, both good and bad The season of life you’re in right now Your responsibilities, stress levels, and priorities  So, of course it didn’t work. And it’s not because you failed. It’s because the system you’re using didn’t account for the human behind it. Why your financial behavior makes sense Your financial behavior isn’t irrational. It makes sense in the context of your life. In fact, research in behavioral finance  shows that emotions and past experiences are among the biggest drivers of our financial decisions. If you overspend sometimes, there’s a reason.If you avoid looking at your numbers, there’s a reason.If you save but still feel anxious, there’s a reason. If you can’t seem to “get a handle on things” there’s a reason. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, those behaviors aren’t flaws. They’re signals. They tell you: What you value  What you fear  What you’ve experienced  What you’re trying to protect  And until you understand those signals, no budget will fix the problem. Why confidence comes from self-awareness, not perfection One of the biggest misconceptions about money is this: confidence comes from doing everything correctly. It doesn’t. Confidence comes from understanding your own decision-making. Building lasting financial confidence  starts with understanding why you make the choices you do. When you start to understand: Why you spend the way you do  Why you hesitate in certain situations  Why some goals feel easy and others feel impossible  Something begins to shift. You stop second-guessing yourself. And that’s where real confidence begins. A more human way to approach your money Instead of asking: “What should I be doing?” Start asking: “What version of that fits my life?” This shift relieves the pressure and changes how decisions feel.  Because now you’re building an approach that: Reflects your priorities  Respects your reality  Supports your real life and not an ideal version of it  This is where structure becomes helpful again. Not as something perfect for a robot, but as something that works with you instead of against you. What to do instead of forcing another budget If you’ve tried budgeting and it hasn’t worked, don’t double down on stricter rules. You don’t need to get everything perfect, you just need to approach it differently. Start here instead: 1. Get honest about your current situation Not what you think it should look like, but what it truly looks like. 2. Notice your patterns without judgment Where do you feel confident?  Where do you feel stuck?  What emotions do you have around money? 3. Identify what matters to you Not what matters to everyone else.  Not what social media says. What matters to you. 4. Build from there Once your financial decisions start to reflect your real life, things begin to feel easier to manage. You’re not bad with money, you’ve just been given the wrong framework Most people don’t need more information. They need a different perspective. One that acknowledges: Money is emotional  Decisions are personal  And “doing it right” looks different for everyone  When you stop trying to force someone else’s system onto your life, something shifts. You feel clearer, more in control, more confident. You stop avoiding your numbers. You trust yourself more. Not because everything is perfect, but because it finally makes sense. Ready to understand your relationship with money on a deeper level? Take a closer look at how you relate to money. Not with judgment. Just with awareness. Because when you understand this, everything else starts to make sense. You're not starting from scratch. You're starting from where you are. The first step is knowing your Money Personality and recognizing the patterns, values, and emotions driving your financial decisions. Discover yours here with this free quiz. Follow me on Facebook , LinkedIn , Instagram , YouTube , and visit my website  for more info! Linda Grizely , Guest Writer Linda helps people build clarity and confidence with their money without lecture or judgment. With more than 20 years of experience across advisory, coaching, and leadership roles, she blends financial strategy with behavioral insight to help people understand the patterns driving their decisions and create a more grounded, realistic approach to money. She is the creator of the MeMoney™ Method , and host of the Real Money, Real Life™ podcast . Linda bridges financial strategy with behavioral insight and teaches individuals and organizations how to replace financial overwhelm with empowerment and real-world results.

Ben Jones is an educator, leadership practitioner, musician, and coach who helps individuals and organizations create meaningful change by separating problems from identity. Through his "Problems Not People” philosophy and ACE framework based on Acknowledgement, Curiosity, and Exploration, he guides clients away from blame and fixed narratives toward greater clarity, agency, and sustainable progress. Ben Jones, Leadership Educator What insights have you gained about the connection between mindset and the problems individuals face, and how can people use this understanding to transform their lives? One of the biggest insights I’ve gained is that people don’t struggle with problems, they struggle with how they relate to them. We tend to personalise problems in ourselves or others. We internalize and project them. We turn “this is difficult” into “I’m not capable” or “they are being difficult.” That shift is subtle, but it completely changes what becomes possible because it robs us of agency. When people begin to separate themselves and others from the problem, everything changes. The problem becomes something to explore, not something that defines them or their relationships. This is where transformation starts, not with motivation, but with perspective and clarity. How do you approach guiding clients to identify the root causes of their challenges, and why is this process essential for long-lasting change? I use a framework I developed called ACE, Acknowledgement, Curiosity, Exploration. Acknowledgement of what’s real, without judgement, and grounded where possible in observable behaviours Curiosity to understand what’s happening beneath the surface through targeted questioning Exploration through small, low-risk experiments that create new data and new outcomes Most people jump straight to solutions. But if you solve the wrong problem, you stay stuck. ACE forces a pause, and that pause is where better thinking begins. By slowing things down and asking better questions, we move from symptoms to systems. That’s where sustainable change lives. What specific strategies have you found most effective in helping individuals shift their perspective from seeing problems to recognizing solutions? The most effective shift is moving from certainty to curiosity. One of the most powerful things a person can say is, “I may be wrong about this.” When someone is stuck, they are often holding a fixed narrative shaped by past experiences, “I always mess this up” or “they are always shutting me down.” Rather than challenging that head-on, I use curiosity to explore alternative interpretations of what is happening. Questions like: “What does ‘messing up’ actually look like when it happens?” “What does ‘shutting you down’ look like in real terms?” My work is grounded in behavioural science, which tells us that all behavior serves a function and should be observable. Once you can name the visible behaviours and understand their function, you are in a much stronger position to change them. What role does self-awareness play in overcoming obstacles, and how do you help your clients cultivate this awareness to achieve meaningful growth? Self-awareness is the foundation because it creates agency, but not in the way people often think. Without self-awareness, we repeat patterns. With it, we can interrupt them. It is not just about understanding your thoughts. It is about recognizing your patterns and intervening early enough to change them. These patterns often show up in: How you respond under pressure The stories you default to The environments you thrive in, or do not I help clients build this awareness through reflection, feedback, and observation, but crucially, through experience. You do not build awareness by thinking more. You build it by noticing yourself in action and having alternative behaviours ready to break the pattern. What are some common misconceptions clients have about their challenges, and how do you help them reframe these to unlock their potential? We are all experts at predicting the worst possible outcomes. We build certainty around those predictions, often without real evidence. Sometimes, even when we have evidence that challenges our thinking, we ignore it. A common misconception is that the problem is them. “I’m not disciplined enough.” “I’m just not confident.” In reality, most challenges are contextual, not personal. When we shift from “what’s wrong with me?” to “what’s happening here?” we unlock options. That’s the core of my work, helping people move from self-blame to system awareness. Because when you change the system, behavior follows. Can you explain the “Problems Not People” philosophy and how it shapes your approach to leadership and coaching? “Problems Not People” is built on a simple idea, people are not the problem. The situation, system, or environment is. When leaders treat people as the problem, they create defensiveness. When they treat problems as external and solvable, they create agency. This philosophy shapes everything I do: How I coach individuals How I develop leaders How I design learning environments It shifts the focus from blame to possibility, and that is where real progress happens. CTA If this conversation resonates, I would encourage you to reflect on a simple idea. People are rarely the problem. The problem is how we understand, frame, and respond to what is happening. By shifting from blame to curiosity, and from certainty to exploration, we create space for better thinking and more effective action. You can explore more of this work through my Instagram page, where I share practical insights on leadership, behavior, and change. If you are interested in applying these ideas more directly to your own challenges or leadership context, you are welcome to get in touch to continue the conversation. Follow me on Instagram for more info! Read more from Ben Jones

Written by Alicia Lewis, Entrepreneur, Educator, RDH, MFT Alicia Lewis is a registered dental hygienist, myofunctional therapist, and founder of Paradigm Dental Therapy in London, Ontario. With over 25 years of experience, she specializes in airway-focused care, breathing, and functional oral health to support lifelong wellness. Breathing is a fundamental physiological process that plays a critical role in overall health, yet the mode of breathing, nasal versus oral, is often overlooked in clinical practice. Nasal breathing supports optimal respiratory function through filtration, humidification, and the production of nitric oxide, which enhances oxygen uptake and immune defense. In contrast, chronic mouth breathing is associated with airway dysfunction, sleep-disordered breathing, and altered craniofacial development, particularly in children. Emerging evidence from sleep medicine, orthodontics, and respiratory physiology highlights the far-reaching implications of breathing patterns on sleep quality, cognitive development, and long-term health outcomes. This article reviews the physiological advantages of nasal breathing, the consequences of mouth breathing, and the role of myofunctional therapy in restoring optimal airway function. Breathing is an automatic and continuous function, occurring approximately 20,000 times per day. Despite its constancy, the quality and route of breathing significantly influence physiological health. Nasal breathing represents the body’s optimal mode of respiration, yet mouth breathing remains prevalent, particularly among children. Historically, breathing patterns have received limited attention in clinical practice. However, growing evidence across multiple disciplines, including sleep medicine, dentistry, and respiratory physiology, demonstrates that dysfunctional breathing patterns can contribute to impaired sleep, altered development, and systemic health concerns.[1] [2] The nose: A specialized organ for respiration The human nose is uniquely designed to optimize respiratory function. As air passes through the nasal cavity, it is filtered, warmed, and humidified before reaching the lower airway.[3] This conditioning process protects delicate lung tissues and improves gas exchange efficiency. A key physiological advantage of nasal breathing is the production of nitric oxide (NO) within the paranasal sinuses. Nitric oxide acts as a vasodilator and bronchodilator, enhancing pulmonary blood flow and oxygen uptake.[4] [5] Additionally, nitric oxide exhibits antimicrobial properties, contributing to immune defense within the respiratory tract. These mechanisms collectively support more efficient oxygen delivery compared to mouth breathing, which bypasses these critical processes.   Prevalence and causes of mouth breathing Despite the benefits of nasal respiration, chronic mouth breathing is common. Epidemiological data suggest that approximately 10-25% of children exhibit habitual mouth breathing patterns.[6] Common contributing factors include: Nasal obstruction Allergic rhinitis Adenotonsillar hypertrophy Chronic upper airway congestion While mouth breathing may initially arise as a compensatory response to obstruction, it can persist as a learned behavior even after the underlying issue resolves. Unlike nasal breathing, mouth breathing allows unfiltered, dry air to enter the airway, potentially contributing to irritation, inflammation, and increased susceptibility to respiratory conditions. Snoring and sleep-disordered breathing Snoring is often considered benign. However, it is increasingly recognized as an indicator of airway dysfunction. It results from turbulent airflow and vibration of soft tissues within a narrowed airway. In pediatric populations: 3-12% of children snore regularly 1-5% develop obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) OSA is characterized by repeated episodes of partial or complete airway obstruction during sleep, leading to intermittent hypoxia and sleep fragmentation. Children with sleep-disordered breathing frequently exhibit mouth breathing and altered orofacial muscle function, which can contribute to airway instability.[7] Impact of sleep disruption on cognitive and behavioral outcomes Sleep plays a vital role in physical and neurological development. Deep (slow wave) sleep is essential for growth hormone release and tissue repair, while rapid eye movement (REM) sleep supports learning, memory consolidation, and emotional regulation.[8] Disrupted breathing during sleep leads to repeated micro-arousals, fragmenting the sleep cycle and reducing time spent in restorative stages. Research indicates that children with sleep-disordered breathing are at increased risk for: Impaired attention and executive function Behavioral challenges Poor academic performance Additionally, intermittent hypoxia and sleep fragmentation may negatively impact brain development and neurocognitive outcomes.[9] Craniofacial development and breathing patterns Breathing patterns play a critical role in craniofacial growth. Nasal breathing promotes proper tongue posture against the palate, supporting normal development of the maxilla and dental arches. In contrast, chronic mouth breathing is associated with: Low tongue posture Narrow maxillary arch Increased lower facial height Dental crowding These structural changes may further compromise the airway, creating a cyclical relationship between airway dysfunction and craniofacial development. Myofunctional therapy and airway rehabilitation Myofunctional therapy has emerged as a valuable intervention for addressing dysfunctional breathing patterns. This therapy involves targeted exercises designed to improve the strength and coordination of the orofacial muscles. Key goals include: Establishing nasal breathing Promoting proper tongue posture Achieving lip seal Improving swallowing patterns A randomized controlled trial demonstrated that oropharyngeal exercises reduced the severity of obstructive sleep apnea by approximately 50% in adults.[10] Further evidence from a systematic review supports the role of myofunctional therapy in reducing apnea severity, improving oxygen saturation, and decreasing snoring.[11] These findings highlight the importance of addressing both structural and functional components of airway health. Clinical implications and early identification Early recognition of airway dysfunction is essential, particularly in pediatric populations. Common clinical signs include: Habitual snoring Mouth breathing Restless or fragmented sleep Bedwetting beyond expected age Daytime fatigue or hyperactivity Difficulty concentrating These symptoms are often overlooked or misattributed but may indicate underlying sleep-disordered breathing. Interdisciplinary collaboration among dental professionals, physicians, and sleep specialists is critical for early diagnosis and intervention. Conclusion Breathing is foundational to health, yet its functional quality is frequently underestimated. Nasal breathing supports optimal respiratory physiology, sleep quality, and craniofacial development, while chronic mouth breathing is associated with a range of adverse outcomes. Emerging research underscores the importance of recognizing breathing patterns as a key determinant of health across the lifespan. Clinicians are increasingly called to identify and address airway dysfunction early to support optimal development and long-term well-being. Although snoring and mouth breathing are common, they should not be considered normal. Early intervention has the potential to significantly improve health outcomes, particularly in growing children. Follow me on Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website for more info! 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A resilience advocate and wellness practitioner, Fabio is dedicated to helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater self-awareness, compassion, and adaptability. Through holistic practices and storytelling, his work empowers people to build emotional strength, embrace uncertainty, and transform adversity into meaningful personal growth. Fabio da Silva Fernandes, Resilience, Mindfulness and Reiki Enthusiast What inspired you to focus on resilience cultivation as your main area of expertise, and how do you believe it transforms people's lives? When I initially started my wellness business, I primarily focused on mindfulness and Reiki, but I soon recognized in my clients that these holistic practices, along with many others, help people build resilience. So when I decided to create a podcast, I knew the theme needed to focus on resilience cultivation. Over the years, I have interviewed many guests who have offered varying perspectives on resilience, and I have learned a great deal through my own research on this topic. I align more closely with being an enthusiast of resilience than an expert because I am continually learning. That said, I am certainly demystifying resilience for the masses and challenging the standard definition. In terms of its transformational impact, resilience is fundamental in navigating life with clarity and adaptability when problems arise. Without resilience, we would be incapable of interpreting our inner compass and discerning which direction to take to best support our well-being. In other words, resilience is closely linked to self-awareness, as well as embodying certain qualities and undertaking actions that help us move closer to overcoming adversity. To me, the transformation happens in the process, not the outcome. How do you define true resilience, and what are the most common misconceptions people have about it? In my current awareness and understanding, resilience is a combination of characteristics and actions that support our well-being and our desire to overcome undesirable circumstances and achieve favorable outcomes. It is also the drive to continue trying when we fall short or do not succeed. Courage and humility are essential characteristics that go hand in hand with actions like mindfulness and doing something every day that moves us forward. The biggest misconception about resilience is that if we do not overcome adversity, we are not resilient. That is completely untrue. The reality is that there are no guarantees that we will overcome everything in life. From my standpoint, the most important work happens before a breakthrough, in that sticky period or liminal space of uncertainty, anxiety, and hard work that gets us to the next stage, whatever that might be. What specific strategies or practices do you recommend to those looking to build emotional strength during tough times? The first step is to acknowledge our emotions with an attitude of self-compassion. I think the tendency is to avoid difficult emotions and push them down. The irony is that when we ignore them, these emotions become compounded and can manifest as an outburst of anger. Many people are angry right now, but beneath that anger there is often hurt, pain, suffering, and fear. Step one is acknowledgement. Step two is sitting with these difficult emotions in a mindful way to understand where they come from and their root causes. Step three is finding ways to channel this energy in a healthy way through physical activity and holistic practices like mindfulness, Reiki, and somatic work that focuses on releasing stored tension within the body. You might also consider contacting a therapist for guidance if deeper work is needed. How does your podcast contribute to reshaping the narrative around personal challenges, and what impact do you hope to create with each episode? I recently did a talk on the wisdom of resilience through storytelling. In simple terms, this is what my podcast is about. When we listen to stories from family, friends, and people in the broader community, it helps us build resilience because of the life lessons we learn. It does not necessarily mean that we are going to take the exact same approach that someone else took, but what we might gain from a story are the attitudes and principled approaches used to navigate adversity. Stories are also inspirational and can ignite a desire within us to do something different for the betterment of our lives. It is also a powerful way to increase empathy and compassion for people with different lived experiences. What role does self-compassion play in cultivating resilience, and how can individuals practice it effectively? It can be very easy to be hard on ourselves when life gets tough or when there is a high degree of uncertainty. Self-compassion is an effective strategy for supporting resilience because it invites us to be kinder to ourselves and ease our own suffering. As I mentioned earlier, acknowledgement of our current state is very important, along with exploring practices that can improve our overall wellness. In this case, I would suggest a loving-kindness meditation that affirms your self-worth and interconnectedness with all living things. Another recommendation is partnering with someone to share daily gratitudes . I do this regularly with a friend, where we share a list of things we are grateful for. This is an excellent way to shift our internal dialogue from critical and negative to supportive and positive. This approach can make navigating adversity much easier. To broaden your self-compassion toolkit, you might consider taking the respected research-based Mindful Self-Compassion program in your local area or online. What is one powerful transformation you've witnessed in a client or listener who applied your teachings to their journey? My heart is always full when clients report a decrease in stress and anxiety, along with an improved overall mood. At a recent conference, attendees described my talk on resilience cultivation as “powerful”, “beautiful”, and “touching”. Beyond the positive feedback on the material itself, several delegates noted that the presence of the delivery left a lasting impression. I have also spoken in educational settings. In one testimonial, a professor wrote that I exceeded all expectations and that my preparation and expertise were evident throughout my resilience cultivation session. They also described it as profound and accessible, and mentioned that I brought an engaging, kind, and approachable energy to the classroom. In general, listeners of my podcast have commented on the inspirational nature of the show. That is my intention, to share transformative stories that help people navigate life’s most turbulent moments. One listener emailed me saying, “It’s that kind of depth that makes The Stumbling Spirit so captivating.” How do you tailor your consulting services to ensure each individual or organization feels empowered to embrace their unique resilience? On the consulting page of my website, there are downloadable proposals that outline the essence of my offerings, which are customizable to the needs of each organization. While I no longer advertise services for individuals, I still work one-to-one with clients on an ad hoc basis. For anyone interested in learning more about my services, they can submit an inquiry via the contact form on my website or email me directly at info@restingbellwellness.com Follow me on Instagram , LinkedIn and visit my website for more info! Read more from Fabio da Silva Fernandes

Written by Dr. Alex Kokkonen, Peak Performance Mentor and Life & Leadership Coach Distinguished Technologist, model (100+ covers), athlete & fitness pro with a PhD, a DBA, three Master's & CIMA Fellow. 35 years of global leadership across over fifty countries. Passionate coach & mentor, inspiring others to achieve strength, resilience & their best self. In today’s fast-paced, chaotic world, the absence of a comprehensive life plan is a growing issue. Rapid technological change and constant social shifts create complexity that overwhelms many, leading to fragmented short-term goals disconnected from long-term aspirations. Fear of making decisions or failing often paralyzes action, leaving people reactive rather than proactive. Without integration across key life areas, career, relationships, health, and personal growth progress stagnates. Life’s continuous movement demands adaptability, experimentation, and resilience. To thrive, individuals must embrace a mindset that balances planning with flexibility, viewing failure as learning, and recognizing that inaction is the most significant risk of all. Adaptive planning: Navigating chaos with purpose Effective planning in a chaotic, tech-driven world means creating a flexible, adaptive roadmap rather than a rigid blueprint. It involves setting clear short, medium, and long-term goals across all key life areas, career, health, relationships, and personal growth, while remaining open to change and experimentation. Technology enables unprecedented capabilities, so plans should leverage these tools to enhance learning, productivity, and connection. True planning balances ambition with resilience, anticipating setbacks and allowing iterative adjustment. It requires self-awareness, decisive action, and continuous reflection. Ultimately, effective planning is not about controlling the world, but navigating it strategically, learning from failures, and moving forward with purpose.   Related article: Living on the Edge of Chaos – Where Leaders Become Undone   The engines of effective planning Effective planning is enabled by clarity, self-awareness, and a deep understanding of one’s values, goals, and priorities. It requires the ability to break complex ambitions into actionable steps while maintaining flexibility to adapt as circumstances shift. Time management, disciplined focus, and consistent reflection create the structure for progress, while leveraging technology can enhance tracking, insights, and decision-making. Emotional resilience and a willingness to experiment empower learning from setbacks rather than being derailed by them. Collaboration, feedback, and perspective from trusted advisors or networks further strengthen plans. Ultimately, effective planning combines insight, adaptability, and deliberate action to turn vision into reality.   Signs of smart planning in action Effective planning manifests in observable behaviors and outcomes that distinguish those who are proactive from those who are reactive.   1. Clarity of Purpose Individuals with effective plans clearly understand what they want to achieve across all life areas. Their decisions align with long-term goals, reducing wasted effort and distractions.   Related article: The Cost of Deciding Before the Brain Is Ready   2. Prioritization and focus Effective planners can identify what matters most and allocate time and resources accordingly. They avoid spreading themselves too thin, focusing on high-impact actions that drive meaningful progress.   3. Adaptability Plans are not rigid, they allow for flexibility and adjustment in response to unexpected changes. Those who plan well pivot without losing sight of their overarching objectives.   Related article: Building a Future-Focused Mindset | Psychreg . Articles on cultivating a future-focused mindset emphasize adaptability, long-term vision, and proactive anticipation as foundations for effective planning.    4. Consistent progress Effective planning shows up as measurable, incremental achievements. Regular reflection, tracking, and course correction ensure momentum continues even amid uncertainty.   5. Resilience in setbacks When challenges arise, planners treat failures as learning opportunities rather than insurmountable obstacles. They maintain confidence, adjust strategies, and persist toward their goals.   Ultimately, effective planning is visible in the alignment between intentions and actions. It creates a sense of purpose, direction, and control, even in a rapidly changing, technology-driven world. Those who plan effectively navigate chaos with focus, flexibility, and resilience, turning ambition into tangible outcomes. The hidden costs of poor planning Ineffective planning reveals itself through confusion, indecision, and constant reactive behavior. People struggle to prioritize, often juggling too many tasks with little progress, creating stress and frustration. Goals are short-term, disconnected, or unclear, leading to wasted effort and missed opportunities. A lack of reflection or adjustment results in repeated mistakes, while fear of failure or perfectionism stalls action. Ineffective planning also shows as inconsistency, starting initiatives enthusiastically but abandoning them prematurely. Emotional strain, overwhelm, and a sense of stagnation often accompany poor planning, as individuals feel pulled in multiple directions without a clear path. Ultimately, ineffective planning keeps people stuck, reactive, and misaligned with their long-term aspirations.   Reclaiming your drive: 12 steps to move beyond unauthentic motivation In a fast-paced, chaotic, and technology-driven world, effective planning is not just a skill, it’s a necessity. Without clear direction, individuals, teams, and organizations risk stagnation, missed opportunities, and reactive decision-making. Driving effective planning requires a structured approach, combining clarity, flexibility, resilience, and execution. Here are twelve practical steps to create a planning framework that enables progress, adaptability, and sustainable success.   1. Define your vision and purpose The foundation of any effective plan is clarity of purpose. Take time to articulate what truly matters in your life or organization. Vision provides a long-term destination, while purpose gives meaning to the journey. This step aligns short and medium-term actions with overarching goals, ensuring that every decision contributes to a larger objective. Ask yourself: “What do I want to create, achieve, or become?” A compelling vision inspires commitment and provides a reference point when uncertainty arises.   2. Conduct a reality check Before setting goals, assess your current situation. Identify strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats (SWOT analysis). Understanding your starting point ensures that plans are grounded in reality rather than wishful thinking. This step also highlights potential constraints, gaps, and resource needs, enabling more informed, achievable planning. Honest self-assessment, or organizational audits in a business context, prevents overcommitment and unrealistic expectations.   3. Set clear, measurable goals Goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART). Clear goals translate vision into actionable steps, providing focus and accountability. Without measurable outcomes, progress is hard to track, and motivation wanes. Goals should span short, medium, and long-term horizons, integrating personal, professional, and developmental dimensions to ensure balance and coherence.   4. Break goals into actionable steps Large goals can feel overwhelming, creating paralysis. Breaking them into smaller, manageable tasks transforms ambition into actionable steps. Each step should include clear responsibilities, timelines, and success criteria. This incremental approach builds momentum, fosters confidence, and allows for continuous progress. Technology tools such as task managers and project management software can help track and coordinate these actions effectively.   5. Prioritize what matters most Effective planning requires discerning between urgency and importance. Identify high-impact tasks that drive the most significant outcomes. Avoid spreading effort too thin or succumbing to distractions. Prioritization ensures resources, time, and energy are focused where they matter most, reducing stress and improving efficiency. Tools like the Eisenhower Matrix or Pareto Principle (80/20 rule) are practical aids in this process.   6. Build flexibility into your plan Chaos and rapid change are constants in today’s world. Plans must be flexible enough to accommodate unexpected events, technological shifts, or new opportunities. Flexibility does not mean indecision, it means having contingency strategies, adaptable timelines, and a willingness to pivot when necessary. This mindset transforms challenges into opportunities rather than obstacles.   7. Use technology wisely Technology can amplify planning effectiveness. Tools for scheduling, project management, data analysis, collaboration, and personal productivity enhance visibility, tracking, and execution. AI-driven insights, automation, and cloud-based platforms allow for real-time adjustments and more intelligent decision-making. However, technology should serve the plan, not distract from it. Avoid over-reliance or unnecessary complexity that slows progress.   8. Monitor and measure progress Plans are living documents, requiring continuous monitoring. Establish metrics to track progress toward goals and review regularly. This step provides feedback on what is working, what needs adjustment, and where resources may be reallocated. Monitoring transforms planning from static aspiration into dynamic action, creating accountability and maintaining momentum.   9. Embrace experimentation and learning No plan is perfect. Accepting that mistakes will occur is crucial to moving forward. Treat failures as data points for learning rather than reasons to stop. Experiment with different approaches, iterate, and refine strategies based on real-world feedback. A culture of learning strengthens resilience, adaptability, and innovation, turning challenges into opportunities for growth.   10. Maintain accountability Accountability is a powerful driver of progress. Share your plan with trusted peers, mentors, or team members who can provide guidance, support, and honest feedback. For organizations, formal accountability structures like progress reviews or performance metrics are essential. Personal accountability involves self-discipline, reflection, and commitment to follow through, even when motivation fluctuates.   11. Cultivate resilience and emotional intelligence Effective planning is not just strategic, it’s psychological. Resilience allows you to navigate setbacks without losing focus or morale. Emotional intelligence helps manage stress, maintain perspective, and make rational decisions under pressure. Both qualities are essential for sustaining momentum amid uncertainty and complexity. Practices like mindfulness, reflection, or coaching can strengthen these capacities.   12. Review, reflect, and reset Planning is cyclical, not linear. Regular reflection on progress, challenges, and lessons learned allows for course correction and continuous improvement. At defined intervals, review whether goals remain relevant, adjust priorities, and reset strategies as needed. This step ensures the plan evolves alongside personal growth, organizational changes, or external shifts, keeping it aligned with long-term vision and purpose.   Driving effective planning in today’s chaotic, tech-enabled world is both an art and a discipline. It requires clarity of vision, realistic assessment, structured action, and adaptability. By following these twelve steps, defining purpose, assessing reality, setting SMART goals, breaking them into actionable steps, prioritizing, building flexibility, leveraging technology, monitoring progress, embracing learning, maintaining accountability, cultivating resilience, and reflecting regularly, individuals and organizations can navigate uncertainty with confidence. Effective planning transforms overwhelm into focus, fear into action, and ambition into tangible outcomes, ensuring forward momentum even in the most unpredictable environments.   Act now: Turn plans into progress The call to action is simple: start now. Don’t wait for perfect conditions or fear of failure to pass. Take stock of your vision, define clear goals, and break them into actionable steps. Embrace flexibility, leverage technology, and commit to regular reflection and adjustment. Seek accountability, learn from setbacks, and keep moving forward. Effective planning is an active, ongoing process, inaction guarantees stagnation, while deliberate planning transforms uncertainty into momentum, turning ambition into meaningful results.   Related article: Relationships between general self-efficacy, planning for the future, and life satisfaction - ScienceDirect . Research highlights that planning for the future and considering long-term consequences are associated with higher self-efficacy and greater life satisfaction.   Ready to move from inaction to impact? Book a coaching session today and start transforming distraction and overwhelm into focused, value-adding action. Let’s unlock your potential and turn clarity into measurable results.   Follow me on Instagram, and visit my LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Dr. Alex Kokkonen Dr. Alex Kokkonen, Peak Performance Mentor and Life & Leadership Coach At 55, Alex is a rare blend of technologist, athlete, and global leader. A Distinguished Technologist with a PhD in IT, a DBA in Business, and a Fellow of CIMA, she also holds three master’s degrees. Her 35-year career spans leadership and consulting roles across four continents and over fifty countries. Beyond her corporate life, she is a published model with over 100 magazine covers, an award-winning fitness professional, and a competitive bodybuilder. Today, she channels her unique mix of intellect, resilience, and discipline into coaching and mentoring, helping others achieve their best in life, career, and wellbeing.

Written by Paul Lister, Agile Coach Certified Scrum Trainer and former physicist with a PhD in Theoretical Physics from Cambridge, Paul Lister brings over 20 years of fintech experience to help teams minimise risk and embrace Agility. He is passionate about making work better, sharing knowledge through training, coaching, writing, and community building. “You just can’t see it!” she said, pulling a frustrated face that is strictly reserved for children to pull at adults when they don’t seem to understand the patently obvious. Lily is a little girl who lives with the family upstairs. I got talking to them when her dad and I crossed paths picking up the post in the morning, and we were both wearing the same geeky t-shirt (Miracleman, one of the few superhero comics not looted for streaming…). I was having a clear-out and gave him a few graphic novels that I was going to give to charity, as well as some nature books that I thought Lily might like. They were nature books, like Frozen Planet, that sort of thing (one of those things that you’ve picked up over the years and don’t really remember how). So, from then on, I became ‘Paul, my animal friend,’ as Lily had named me. During lockdown, with little choice, she would play in the corridor outside my door and occasionally knock on it with important questions that she needed answering. Questions such as, ‘Are there more than a million leaves on a tree?’ or ‘Why aren’t forks noisy?’ Since I could do with the break from all matters agile, I’d sit on the stairs with Lily and try to get to the bottom of these important questions, normally making up stories or doing silly drawings to explain things. Which leads us to Truffles. Lily, through logic only understandable by people of her height, was convinced I had a dog in the flat. In a vain attempt to tell her that I had no such pet, Lily pulled her frustrated face and explained that Truffles (the dog had a name now) was invisible. She then asked me to draw a picture of it. There was a devilish temptation to pretend for a couple of minutes and then hand her a blank sheet of paper. But I had learned that Lily could be somewhat particular when it came to unsatisfactory answers. For instance, I now know there are not a million leaves on a tree, but a child doesn’t get bored with counting until you’ve reached over three hundred. So, I drew the invisible dog: It took me somewhere around five minutes, maybe a bit more as I was a bit fussy about the nose. I was pretty pleased with it, especially as I wasn’t an artist (understatement). Of course, Lily had become more interested in hair twirling than my scribbling, so it took some goading to get her to look at the picture. “That’s not Truffles,” she said and promptly snatched the pens from me, working on her own masterpiece, which she completed in less than thirty seconds. Lily, in a no doubt unmeant passive-aggressive action, put her drawing on top of mine so I could look at it and then went back to training for the hair twirling Olympics. It was tempting to enter into an artistic debate on the relative merits of the two pictures with Lily, but I knew I was on a hiding to nothing. Technically, my dog looked more like, well, a dog. I suppose it could be argued that my effort did not contain legs, a body, or a tail, and hence triangle legs and pig tail Truffles had one up on me there. But it did not really matter. In the girl’s mind, the invisible dog was green and yellow and had a body like a King Edward potato. The head was simpler. I had taken longer to draw my dog’s face, to get it right. At least what I thought was right. I even tried to make it look like it was smiling. She had trumped me there too, doing it in less than a second with a single line. There’s a certain amount of shame in retrospect, especially being an Agilist, that I didn’t interact better in the creation of Truffles. For a start, I created a component of the desired product rather than a simple holistic whole. I did not consult the client on what they wanted, and I suspected if I did, then I would have talked to them in a way I understood a dog to work, not the way they understood it. I took time to add a level of detail to the nose that the customer did not care about at all (in fact, Lily said it looked stupid. Lily can be harsh). I wonder if I could take my picture apart, find the elements that I could simplify, maybe the entire design was flawed. Maybe I didn’t understand the brief at all. But would I have learned something from this deconstruction? Or was I too set in my ways and cynical to change the process in order to see things from someone else’s point of view? Would my own ego of knowing what was right stop me from producing what was needed? Could ‘I’ get out of the way so that I ‘could just see it’ as someone else does? I hope so. I hope we all can. Follow me on Facebook , LinkedIn ,  and visit my website for more info! Read more from Paul Lister Paul Lister, Agile Coach Paul Lister is a Certified Scrum Trainer with the Scrum Alliance, one of only around 250 worldwide, with a PhD in Theoretical Physics from Cambridge University and a background as a physicist. He has over 20 years in fintech as a developer, manager, Scrum Master, and Agile Coach. Drawing on experience in both Waterfall and Agile, he helps teams minimise risk, embrace Agility, and achieve their goals. Beyond coaching and training, Paul writes novels, directs short films, and founded the Surrey & Sussex Agile meetup. Passionate about making work better, he loves connecting with others to share ideas on Agile, creativity, and collaboration.

Written by Sheila Marina, Energy Healer Sheila Marina is an Energy Healer and the founder of Planet of Peace Energy Healing. Her work centers on emotional safety, somatic stillness, and energetic coherence, supporting clear subconscious communication and meaningful emotional release through carefully hosted sessions. Some people become so skilled at carrying responsibility that very few notice how much effort it takes. They meet deadlines, respond thoughtfully, care for others, and remain dependable even during demanding seasons. They are often described as calm, capable, and resilient because they continue to function well under pressure. From the outside, their lives may appear organized and steady. Yet beneath that outward steadiness, many are living with a form of nervous system fatigue that rarely receives attention because it does not always interrupt performance. A person can be highly capable while still carrying internal activation. The body may remain in subtle readiness even when no immediate challenge is present. Breathing may stay shallow, shoulders may remain slightly tense, sleep may feel light rather than deeply restorative, and moments of rest may never fully reach the level of internal settling the body needs. Because daily life continues to be managed successfully, these signals are often dismissed as normal. Many people associate nervous system dysregulation with visible overwhelm, yet the nervous system can remain strained beneath a polished exterior. In fact, some of the most competent individuals have learned how to function exceptionally well while quietly carrying patterns of internal vigilance. Their strength is real, but so is the effort required to maintain it. High-functioning does not always mean regulated What often looks like resilience from the outside can sometimes be long-practiced internal compensation. The body learns how to continue, how to override fatigue, and how to stay responsive even when internal reserves are low. Over time, this can feel so familiar that many no longer recognize the difference between functioning well and feeling deeply regulated. A person may continue meeting responsibilities with remarkable consistency while carrying subtle internal signs that the nervous system is working harder than it appears. This can include shallow breathing, muscular tension, a racing mind during quiet moments, or difficulty fully settling even when there is time to rest. Because nothing appears outwardly wrong, these signs are often interpreted as ordinary parts of modern life rather than signals that deserve attention. Many highly capable people are deeply practiced at staying composed. They know how to manage pressure, respond thoughtfully, and continue moving forward. Yet internal steadiness and external competence are not always the same experience. A person may look calm while the body remains quietly alert beneath the surface. In many cases, highly functioning individuals have learned to trust performance more easily than restoration. Completing tasks offers visible evidence that things are under control, while internal fatigue remains easy to postpone. Because competence is often rewarded socially and professionally, many people continue strengthening outward capacity long before asking whether their body may be carrying more effort than necessary. Modern conversations about achievement increasingly explore how internal comparison and perfectionism quietly drive this pressure. As explored in the Brainz article, In the End, the Race Is Only Ever Against Yourself  many people are quietly competing against internal standards shaped by culture, comparison, and expectation. Why capable people often miss their own fatigue High-functioning people often miss their own fatigue because responsibility has become part of how they move through life. They are accustomed to completing what needs to be done before checking in with how they feel. Their attention naturally goes outward toward tasks, people, schedules, and obligations, often long before it turns inward toward their own internal state. Because they continue to perform well, fatigue is often interpreted as ordinary adulthood rather than an important signal. A person may assume that feeling mentally busy, physically tight, or emotionally depleted is simply what life requires. They may not realize how much internal effort has become constant because they have adapted so well to carrying it. Many capable people also feel most uncomfortable when life becomes quiet. Stillness can reveal what activity has helped conceal. When there is no immediate task, the mind may continue planning, reviewing, anticipating, or mentally preparing for what comes next. Rest becomes physically available but internally difficult. Capability can also create a subtle blind spot. When someone has spent years being the dependable person in a family, workplace, or relationship, others often continue relating to them through that role. As a result, their internal strain may go unnoticed not only by others, but gradually by themselves. The body adapts quietly while identity continues reinforcing the idea that they are simply managing well. This is why some individuals say they do not know how to fully switch off. Their nervous system has become accustomed to ongoing engagement, and slowing down can initially feel unfamiliar rather than relieving. The body has learned movement, readiness, and responsiveness so thoroughly that fatigue is often not noticed until it becomes impossible to ignore. Signs of invisible nervous system fatigue Invisible nervous system fatigue often appears in subtle ways rather than dramatic ones. A person may wake tired even after sleeping through the night. They may sit down to relax but feel restless within minutes. Their thoughts may remain active even when there is nothing urgent requiring attention. Physical signs often present long before people identify them as nervous system strain. Jaw tension, tight shoulders, digestive discomfort, shallow breathing, headaches, and a sense of internal tightness can all become so familiar that they no longer stand out as unusual. The body adapts quietly, often without clear complaint. Emotionally, invisible fatigue can look like reduced patience, emotional flatness, difficulty feeling fully present, or needing more recovery after ordinary interactions. A person may still be kind, thoughtful, and engaged, yet privately feel as though their internal energy never fully replenishes. Some people also notice that their mind becomes most active precisely when the day becomes quiet. Thoughts that seemed manageable during activity can become louder in stillness because the nervous system has fewer external anchors competing for attention. This often leads people to assume they need distraction, when what they may actually need is gradual support as the body learns to tolerate quiet more comfortably. Another common sign is that productivity continues while restoration remains absent. Tasks are completed, responsibilities are met, and life appears intact, yet underneath there is little sense of spaciousness. The person is functioning, but the nervous system rarely experiences enough internal softness to restore itself fully. Early family roles often shape adult functioning For many people, these patterns began long before adulthood. A child who learned early to be aware of emotional tone often becomes an adult who notices everything quickly. They learn how to anticipate needs, avoid adding burden, and remain steady in environments where steadiness felt important. These early roles often create admirable qualities. Such individuals become reliable, perceptive, and deeply competent. They often succeed professionally because they read situations well, respond quickly, and maintain composure under pressure. Yet the nervous system may still be carrying the imprint of early adaptation. When safety becomes associated with awareness and competence, the body can remain quietly alert even in adulthood. The person may not consciously feel anxious, yet internally there is often a subtle readiness that never fully turns off. The nervous system stays prepared because that pattern once served an important purpose. These early adaptations are rarely conscious in adulthood. Many people simply describe themselves as naturally responsible, highly aware, or someone who likes things handled well. Yet underneath those traits there is often a nervous system that learned early how much stability could depend on awareness. What once protected connection can later become a pattern of carrying more internal responsibility than is immediately visible. This is why many highly capable adults later realize that their strength developed alongside an internal habit of staying prepared. They know how to manage pressure beautifully, yet may have had fewer experiences of simply being without internal monitoring. Why rest alone does not always solve it Many people assume fatigue will disappear once life becomes less busy. Yet high-functioning individuals often discover that rest does not automatically create restoration. They may take time off, sleep more, or reduce responsibilities and still feel internally active. This happens because fatigue is not always caused by workload alone. Sometimes it reflects a nervous system that has learned prolonged vigilance. Even when external demands pause, internal readiness continues. Thoughts remain active, muscles remain slightly guarded, and the body does not immediately recognize that it can soften. Some people notice that during vacations or quiet weekends they initially feel more restless rather than more relaxed. This can feel confusing because externally the conditions for rest are present. Internally, however, the body has not yet learned how to trust stillness. This explains why some people feel unexpectedly emotional when life finally slows down. Once activity decreases, the body may begin releasing what constant movement helped contain. Fatigue can then feel more noticeable, not because rest is failing, but because the nervous system is finally becoming quiet enough to reveal what has long been present. True restoration often requires more than time away from activity alone. It involves helping the nervous system experience moments of genuine internal safety, where nothing needs to be managed, anticipated, or held together for a period of time. What regulation actually begins to look like Nervous system regulation is often quieter than people expect. It does not usually arrive as a dramatic shift. More often, it begins through small internal changes that gradually become noticeable in daily life. A person may notice their breathing deepening without effort. They may feel less urgency around ordinary tasks. Conversations become easier to stay present in. Rest begins to feel more natural rather than something that must be forced. The body slowly learns that steadiness does not require constant internal preparation. Regulation also allows capability to remain without the same physiological cost. A person still meets responsibilities, still contributes, still cares deeply, yet their internal experience changes. There is less rushing beneath the surface and more space between demands. Regulation often brings a surprising realization, many people do not lose their effectiveness when internal pressure decreases. In fact, clarity often improves. Decisions become less rushed, conversations feel more spacious, and energy becomes available for presence rather than constant internal management. What changes is not who they are, but how much effort the body has been contributing behind the scenes. At Planet of Peace Energy Healing , I often work with individuals who have spent years functioning well while quietly carrying internal patterns their body learned long ago. As those patterns begin to soften, many describe feeling clearer, steadier, and more connected to themselves without losing the strengths that have always served them. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Sheila Marina Sheila Marina, Energy Healer Sheila Marina is an Energy Healer with over three decades of experience guiding others toward emotional freedom and inner peace. With 35 years of service in child and family support, she founded Planet of Peace Energy Healing, a sanctuary for healing, release, and renewal. Blending The Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code, and Reiki, Sheila offers a path to transformation that honors both the wisdom of the body and the whispers of the soul. A former Area Director with Toastmasters and Group Facilitator with Sashbear.org , she brings a compassionate presence to every step of the healing journey. Her mission is to help others reconnect with their truth and move forward with clarity, peace, and purpose.

Written by Elizabeth Tsekouras, Education and Career Coach Liz Tsekouras is a successful education and careers coach with a background in Sociology and Psychology. Her specialism is in neurodiverse coaching, where she provides tailored guidance to clients to improve their academic/career performance, confidence, and wellbeing. Affirmations have become the foundation of personal development. Scroll through social media or open almost any mindset book, and you’ll find a familiar list. “I am confident.” “I am successful.” “I am wealthy.” Yet for many people, repeating “I am” affirmations can feel strangely uncomfortable, sometimes even fake. Instead of creating empowerment, they often trigger inner resistance. If someone who feels deeply insecure repeats the affirmation “I am confident,” their mind may instantly respond with counterevidence: “No, you’re not.” “Remember when you froze in that meeting?” “If you were confident, you wouldn’t feel like this.” What if the problem isn’t the affirmations themselves, but the language we’re using? The mind doesn’t change identity through declaration alone. It changes through decisions, actions, and repeated evidence. A simple shift from “I am” to “I choose” can transform affirmations from statements that your mind argues with into decisions your brain can align with. Why “I choose” works better When you replace “I am” with “I choose,” something subtle but important happens: the statement moves from identity to agency. Your brain doesn’t need to argue with a choice. Consider the difference: “I am confident.” “I choose to show up with confidence today.” The second statement feels more believable because it focuses on behaviour and intention, not a fixed identity that your mind might reject. “I choose” acknowledges where you are while empowering you to move forward. It places the focus on what you are actively deciding, rather than what you are claiming to already be. Choice activates personal responsibility Language shapes perception. When we say, “I am,” we often frame identity as something static. But “I choose” highlights something far more powerful: control. Every day, we make hundreds of decisions about how we think, respond, and behave. By framing affirmations as choices, we remind ourselves that our mindset is not something that happens to us, it’s something we participate in. For example: “I choose to respond calmly.” “I choose to trust my abilities.” “I choose to prioritise my wellbeing.” These statements strengthen the psychological link between decision and action, which is where real change happens. It reduces cognitive dissonance Psychologists describe the discomfort we feel when our beliefs and actions conflict as cognitive dissonance. “I am” affirmations can intensify this feeling if they clash with how we currently see ourselves. “I choose,” on the other hand, reduces that tension. You don’t need to believe you are already confident, successful, or fearless. You only need to accept that you can choose behaviours that move you in that direction. This small shift makes affirmations easier for the brain to accept and integrate. It encourages growth rather than perfection Another hidden downside of “I am” affirmations is that they imply a finished state. “I am successful.” “I am fearless.” “I am perfectly confident.” But growth is rarely a fixed destination. “I choose” supports a growth mindset, where development is ongoing. It reinforces the idea that progress is created through repeated decisions, not instant transformation. For example: “I choose to take the next step.” “I choose progress over perfection.” “I choose courage even when I feel uncertain.” These affirmations allow space for imperfection while still directing your mind toward growth. Turning affirmations into daily decisions If you want to experiment with this shift, start by transforming traditional affirmations into choice-based statements. Instead of: “I am confident.” “I am successful.” “I am disciplined.” Try: “I choose to act with confidence.” “I choose actions that support my success.” “I choose to follow through on what matters.” This subtle language change does something powerful: it turns affirmations from wishful thinking into intentional living. The real power of language Words shape our internal world. “I am” can sometimes lock us into identities we struggle to believe. “I choose” reminds us that our mindset is built moment by moment through decisions. Confidence, resilience, and success are not identities we suddenly become, they are patterns we practise, and every day gives us a new opportunity to decide. So instead of asking yourself who you are, try asking a more empowering question, "What will I choose today?" Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and LinkedIn  for more info! Read more from Elizabeth Tsekouras Elizabeth Tsekouras, Education and Career Coach Liz Tsekouras is a dedicated coach and specialist neurodiverse educator who draws on over a decade of experience to help individuals build confidence, strengthen their learning skills, and navigate challenges with clarity and purpose. She provides personalised coaching that empowers clients to harness their abilities, develop effective strategies, and achieve meaningful academic, professional, and personal growth.