Written by Julie Cloutier, Coach and Wealth Consciousness Mentor Julie Cloutier is a Wealth Consciousness Coach who mentors leaders, visionaries, and entrepreneurs in embodying effortless prosperity. Through her group programs and private mentorship, she guides clients to dissolve scarcity patterns, elevate their self-concept, and align with the frequency of true wealth and ease. Learn why investing in mentorship in energy, presence, and resources reshapes identity, activates wealth consciousness, and expands self-concept. Julie Cloutier explains how to choose a mentor who resonates with your highest potential and why the greatest returns come from stepping fully into your own power. Mentorship as a catalyst for transformation In a world overflowing with strategies, systems, and endless “how-to” content, mentorship stands apart as one of the most powerful catalysts for genuine evolution. A true mentor doesn’t simply hand you information, they hold the frequency of the identity you’re meant to grow into. When you step into mentorship, you’re not just gaining access to knowledge. You’re entering a new energetic field, one that mirrors back your untapped potential, elevates your self-concept, and activates a higher level of consciousness. Through that mirror, your inner world shifts and your external world inevitably follows. Because when your identity expands, everything in your life expands with it. Opportunity flows more easily. Clarity sharpens. Alignment becomes natural. You begin to receive more by being more. Mentorship is the space where that shift begins.   The energy of investment Every time you invest in yourself, you increase your capacity to circulate energy. Money is simply one expression of that circulation. Whether you are circulating hundreds, thousands, or millions, the principle is the same, you are not losing, you are expanding. "Lack is an illusion. You always have enough and a little more." When you understand this, “spending” becomes “circulating.” The more you circulate with trust, the more the universe mirrors that trust back to you in the form of abundance. This is why mentorship isn’t an expense, it’s a declaration of self-trust. "I trust myself to receive what I need from this container." And the universe responds in kind. Choosing the right mentor Choosing the right mentor is an energetic decision first, and a logical decision second. You’re looking for resonance, not just credentials. You want to feel expanded in their presence. You want someone who embodies the state you desire to live from because no one can lead you where they have not already gone. Integrity, alignment, and embodiment matter more than marketing, frameworks, or promises. When you invest in a mentor you trust deeply, that trust becomes the channel through which transformation occurs. The conviction you place in them becomes the conviction you activate within yourself.   Mentorship as a mirror A mentor in true integrity does not create dependence. They amplify your own power. They reflect back the version of you that is sovereign, worthy, and already whole until you begin to see it and embody it yourself. Growth requires stepping beyond the edges of comfort. A mentor holds the space for that expansion, helping you stretch into new levels without collapsing into self-doubt. " Evolution demands courage. You cannot call in the new while holding tightly to the old ." Release outdated identities, the pleaser, the perfectionist, the overthinker, and meet the aspects of you waiting to rise, the creator, the leader, the visionary, the sovereign. You are not a fixed identity. You are an unfolding expression of energy. A mentor helps you remember this truth. The ultimate purpose of mentorship The purpose of mentorship is not to turn you into a replica of your mentor but to guide you deeper into the fullest expression of yourself. When chosen wisely, mentorship becomes a sacred exchange of consciousness, trust, and expansion. It becomes a space where you reconnect to what you have always been: infinite, abundant, and profoundly capable.   The investment that expands you Choose a mentor whose presence feels like expansion, someone whose embodiment creates a spark of recognition within you. That inner “yes” is one of the most reliable indicators of alignment. Transformation isn’t determined by the length of the container. It is shaped by the energetics of the mentor, the resonance you feel with their state of being, and the depth of commitment you bring to the space. Investment is part of that commitment. Not because higher prices are inherently superior, but because investment reshapes identity. What you invest in, you rise to meet. What you commit to, you grow into. "Financial investment in mentorship accelerates results because it requires you to step into a new version of yourself, one rooted in trust, commitment, and expansion." Clients who have chosen higher-level private mentorship consistently experience the most profound breakthroughs. Not because of the price but because the moment they said yes, their old identity could no longer contain the new one. They rose to meet their own decision. I have yet to meet someone who regrets investing in themselves. Every step toward expansion returns tenfold in clarity, confidence, embodiment, and alignment. Because mentorship, at its core, isn’t about information. It’s about stepping into the version of yourself who is ready to lead, receive, and live from the highest expression of who you truly are. Related article: 9 Practical Principles to Receive Effortless Abundance Invitation If you’re ready to experience what happens when you stop chasing and start receiving, I invite you to watch The Wealth Coherence™ Masterclass . In just 12 minutes, you’ll discover the 4-part framework I developed to align with the flow of abundance itself. Get Your Free and Instant Access to the Wealth Coherence Masterclass Now: Click here . Or subscribe to Julie’s YouTube Channel  for more inspiration. Access the website . Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Julie Cloutier Julie Cloutier, Coach and Wealth Consciousness Mentor Julie Cloutier is a Wealth Consciousness Coach who guides leaders, visionaries, and creators to embody effortless prosperity. Through her groundbreaking work in wealth consciousness, self-concept, and energetic mastery, she helps dissolve scarcity patterns and activate deeper alignment with abundance. Julie’s approach blends spiritual insight with grounded clarity, inviting clients to return to their natural state of ease, where striving dissolves, and wealth becomes the natural reflection of being more of who they truly are.

Bruce Allen Craig is a fourth-generation Texan who has spent more than 40 years building businesses across two demanding industries. He began in real estate. Later, he moved into entertainment. Through each chapter, one theme stays constant. He focuses on people, place, and long-term value. “I never saw business as just transactions,” Craig says. “I saw it as building something that lasts.” That mindset has shaped a career marked by patience, adaptability, and steady leadership. Early career in real estate development Craig started his professional life in real estate during a period of rapid growth and sharp downturns in Texas. He worked on both residential and commercial developments. The work was slow by nature. Projects took years. Markets shifted without warning. “Real estate teaches you humility,” he explains. “You can do everything right and still have to wait.” Over time, Craig became known for looking beyond buildings. He focused on how people would live, work, and gather in the spaces he helped develop. That long view helped him weather market cycles and build a reputation for consistency. “You learn quickly that panic never helps,” he says. “Calm thinking does.” Lessons learned from market cycles After decades in property development, Craig had seen enough ups and downs to know one thing. No industry stays still. “When markets shift, you can’t freeze,” he says. “You either adapt or get left behind.” Those lessons would later guide his biggest career change. A strategic shift into entertainment In 2015, Craig made a deliberate pivot. He moved into the entertainment and hospitality sector. Today, he serves as CEO and President of Big Easy Entertainment. The company is not a single operation. It is a family of businesses. These include restaurants, bars, a music company, television and radio programmes, and a technology venture. “To outsiders it looked like a big jump,” Craig says. “To me, it made sense. Hospitality and real estate are cousins. Both are about creating spaces where people connect.” Leading a family of companies Craig describes Big Easy Entertainment as an ecosystem. Each business has its own identity. But all share common values. “People don’t come just for food or music,” he says. “They come for how a place makes them feel.” As a leader, Craig stays involved without micromanaging. He wants to understand what drives performance, culture, and consistency. “I don’t need to run everything day to day,” he says. “But I do need to know what makes it work.” That approach reflects habits formed during his real estate years, where details and patience often determined outcomes. Leadership style shaped by experience Craig’s leadership style is direct and steady. He values curiosity. He encourages accountability. And he expects people to keep moving forward during uncertainty. “I tell my teams the same thing I tell myself,” he says. “Show up. Stay flexible. Do the work.” His experience across industries has taught him that success rarely comes from bold promises. It comes from execution over time. Commitment beyond business Craig’s focus on community extends beyond his companies. He supports several Texas-based charities and advocacy efforts. One recent example is his participation in the 2025 Dancing with the Stars  event benefiting the Center for Child Protection. During the event, Craig visited and filmed inside the organisation’s “kids closet,” which provides clothing and essentials for children who have experienced abuse. “That room stays with you,” he says. “Every item represents a child who needs dignity and safety.” The Center for Child Protection publicly thanked Craig for his involvement, recognising his role in helping raise awareness for vulnerable children in Austin. “Success means very little if you’re not giving something back,” Craig adds. A career defined by adaptability Looking across his career, Craig does not frame his story as a straight line. He sees it as a series of adjustments guided by experience. “Reinvention isn’t failure,” he says. “It’s paying attention.” From real estate foundations to entertainment leadership, Craig has built a career by staying grounded, learning from change, and keeping people at the centre of his decisions. Looking ahead with purpose Today, Craig remains focused on growth, stewardship, and legacy. Big Easy Entertainment continues to evolve. His charitable work continues alongside it. “The work never really ends,” he says. “But that’s what keeps it meaningful.” Bruce Allen Craig’s career shows that leadership is not about chasing trends. It is about understanding cycles, adapting with discipline, and building businesses that bring people together.

In the era of social media, it’s become hard to recognize achievements. The second you open any social media app, there’s always someone doing it better. They have better friends, better lifestyle, better grades, better everything. You can’t help thinking that everyone has it figured out but you. The intense feeling of missing out starts becoming a major part of your life, and you no longer can enjoy little moments or feel any reward after achieving your goals. Why? Because someone has it better, which can increase feelings of depression and anxiety .  The phenomenon known as the fear of missing out isn’t new. In fact, it’s been around for centuries. But today, with social media playing a huge role in our lives, it’s a widespread topic of discussion among psychologists and regular people. According to Cornell Chronicle , almost 69% of Americans say they’ve experienced FOMO.  Not many individuals, however, understand the whole truth behind it. While some people definitely have a good life, others mostly make up picture-perfect experiences to make their social media followers jealous and prove that their lives are perfect (which isn’t always true).  To better understand the concept of FOMO and learn how to deal with it, continue reading this article. Examples of FOMO situations Social life You see friends’ Instagram stories from a party you weren’t invited to, and suddenly feel left out, even though you were fine staying at home. You think that this experience is important and that spending time with those people will make your life more fulfilled. While it’s a natural human reaction to want to be closer to people, not all of them can actually be your friends.  You’re invited to an event you weren’t planning on going to, but eventually agree because you’ll miss out on things that everyone will talk about later. For you, it doesn’t matter whether you’re exhausted after work or just want to have some alone time, the thought of not going drives you nuts because feeling excluded is much worse. It’s Saturday night, and you’ve decided to stay at home. However, you feel a little uneasy and constantly check your phone, wondering if something fun is happening without you. What if there’s a party in the block you weren’t invited to? Or what if your friends went out but forgot about you? After you realize there’s nothing to worry about, you start feeling a little better. Work & career You’re doing great at your job, but all of a sudden you’re offered some extra projects you want to say no to but… you can’t. You see that your colleagues agree to additional tasks and don’t want to fall behind. What if somebody else gets a promotion because of this? You feel like you can’t risk it, even though you’ve got plans after work. The fear of missing out on career opportunities is unbearable, so you take up this extra work. You open LinkedIn and feel anxious about your peers getting promotions. And you’re not thinking about the fact that they’ve been in the industry for many years. In fact, you think that you want the same and feel like you’re missing out. You attend conferences or networking events “just in case,” scared of skipping out on potential opportunities. And even though deep down you realize that some events might not be as efficient, you still go because what if? Money & purchases You buy something during a “limited-time offer” even though you didn’t plan to. The thought of not having something that comes cheap makes you uneasy as you think others are now taking advantage of the price.  You upgrade your phone even though your current one works just fine. After you see a new iPhone is out, you can’t help but buy a new one so others can see that you’re doing well in life. With everyone bragging about their new devices on social media, you’re scared of feeling left behind. You open your friend’s Facebook profile and spot a post with their new car. And the worst thing is that…you’re using public transportation. You feel like you’re losing out and begin searching online, thinking, “Can I even afford the same vehicle?” You don’t think this person could take out a loan to buy this car. You only see the end goal and want to have the same. Quiet FOMO You’ve had a hard day at work and want to do nothing, but the thought of not doing anything can’t help you relax. “What if someone is achieving their goals right now, and I’m out here chilling?”  You meet a friend who’s telling you about their life and wonder, “Why don’t I have the same? What am I doing wrong?” But here, you’re not taking into account their childhood or the help they’ve been receiving from their parents or partner. You only compare the result, which doesn’t have the same starting point or the same support system. Whenever you go, you’re confident everyone knows what they’re doing. That office worker you see in the window? He’s probably on a high salary he can afford anything he wants with. That bride who’s getting married and looks happy? She probably found a perfect husband. Anyone you see seems perfect, but you don’t feel the same way about yourself.  How to get rid of the fear of missing out : Practical tips 1. Realize you’re a human Humans are hardwired to experience certain emotions, and FOMO is one of them. It’s a natural response rooted in our need for belonging and connection. Our brains are constantly scanning for signals that we might be missing out on something important. The main takeaway from this is that you don’t need to beat yourself up for wanting more. The only solution is to be realistic.  2. Define your “enough” FOMO thrives when success is undefined. It’s a good idea to get a journal and ask yourself, “What actually matters to me right now?” Clearly think about what would be “enough” in this season of life. That way, it’ll be easier for you to understand your actual desires. 3. Limit trigger exposure Some triggers, such as using social media too much, might make you feel on the sidelines. So the best solution is to avoid those triggers as much as you can. Mute accounts that spark comparison, avoid scrolling when in a bad mood, and set a time limit for using social media (e.g., 20 minutes a day). 4. Concentrate more on real life It’s effective to step outside and see what’s happening around you. Talking to the neighbor who lives across the street or spending some time with less fortunate people might give you a moment of realization that not everyone has it all figured out. While some people exaggerate their experiences, others are realistic about their struggles. 5. Remember: Wanting everything = enjoying nothing In a world that tells us that “we’re supposed to have it all,” it’s important to take a step back and enjoy what we already have. While it might be difficult at the beginning, you’ll eventually learn how rewarding it is.  Let’s reflect a little That anxious feeling that makes people feel bad about missing out on opportunities is known as the fear of missing out. Lately, it’s become a widely discussed topic, but a little more awareness never hurts.  There are ways that prove to be effective in managing this feeling, such as limiting trigger exposure and defining what’s enough, among others. Learning to recognize it, however, is the most important aspect that begins the process of overcoming it.

Written by Amritta Kaur Dhillon, Online Fitness Coach Reets is a leading voice in women’s fitness, mindset, and hormone health, and the host of the Get Buff with Reets podcast. As founder of Get Buff With Reets and creator of the Buff Rewire System, she helps ambitious women lose fat, build muscle, and reclaim confidence without sacrificing their careers or personal lives. Every day, women wake up wanting to feel more in control of their routine. They set alarms, plan their meals, and tell themselves that today will unfold differently. Yet by mid-afternoon, fatigue creeps in, cravings build, moods shift, and the body feels heavier or more strained than it did that morning. Many women quickly think, ‘Why can't I not stay consistent?', but the real question is why they are expected to maintain consistency in environments that push them toward burnout before the day has even begun. Women tend to internalise blame far too easily. In reality, high-performing women are not failing. They are tired, undernourished, overstressed, and trying to function within systems that were never built to support female physiology. The issue is not discipline, it is the structure surrounding them. The modern woman isn't inconsistent, she is overloaded Burnout is not a personal weakness. It is a biological and emotional response to the demands placed on women today. Unlike men, whose physiology is relatively linear, women move through shifting hormonal changes throughout the day and across the month. Despite this, women are still expected to produce the same level of output every day with the same emotional stability, energy, and motivation. Modern life demands that women manage careers, childcare, domestic responsibilities, social expectations, emotional labour, financial pressure, and digital overload while remaining available, connected, and composed. This creates an unrelenting pressure to operate like a machine instead of as a human being with fluctuating needs and rhythms. When a dynamic and cyclical body is forced into a linear framework, something gives. That something is usually her health, her energy, or her self-belief. The workplace is quietly breaking women’s bodies Corporate culture contributes massively to female burnout. Many workplaces run on chronic stress, rapid deadlines, and an always on expectation. Almost sixty per cent of the women I work with have experienced ongoing work-related stress, often for years, without recognising how profoundly it was affecting their bodies. This level of strain is not simply tiring, it is biologically disruptive. Chronic pressure floods the body with cortisol, affecting sleep, recovery, hunger, digestion, cravings, inflammation, and the body's ability to regulate weight. Women are expected to sit through extended meetings and juggle competing responsibilities, respond instantly, always be reachable, and remain calm and productive regardless of menstrual phase, menstrual symptoms, or hormonal migraines. Many also work outside of their contracted hours without pay, absorb the workloads of entire teams, and take responsibility for tasks they have not been trained or supported to manage, which perhaps reflects a wider issue within corporate culture itself. In 2023, Spain became the first European country to introduce paid menstrual leave, recognising that menstrual pain can be genuinely debilitating. Yet most workplaces across the UK and Europe still ignore these realities. Women are told to push through, perform, and stay consistent, even when their bodies are clearly signalling otherwise. Equality should not mean pretending women's physiology does not exist, but that is how many work environments continue to operate. Women experience their cycle differently, and that matters Women experience hormonal shifts not only throughout the month but throughout each day, and these changes influence energy, mood, appetite, stress responses, and overall emotional steadiness. Oestrogen typically rises in the morning and tapers off later, which is why many women feel more focused earlier on and more fatigued or sensitive by evening. Cortisol follows a similar pattern but becomes far more unpredictable under stress, affecting cravings and motivation. Testosterone, which women rely on for drive and confidence, also peaks early and gradually declines. Even blood sugar regulation and neurotransmitters fluctuate throughout the day, meaning a woman's internal landscape is constantly shifting. These daily movements sit on top of the monthly cycle, creating a hormonal rhythm that most workplaces and fitness plans overlook. By contrast, men experience a far steadier pattern, testosterone rises in the morning and gently declines in a consistent, predictable curve, while cortisol remains relatively stable. Their internal landscape is more like a straight road, making mood, energy, and performance easier to anticipate. Layered onto this, women also experience their monthly cycle very differently. Some move through it with almost no symptoms, while others see major changes in mood, appetite, and energy. Conditions such as PMDD, PCOS, and endometriosis can intensify symptoms, and stress or under-eating can make them worse. Two women can live similar lives yet experience entirely different cycles, reflecting how individual and complex the female body truly is. A quick example of how easily women are misdiagnosed Even in my own life, this showed up. As a teenager, I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder because my emotional symptoms did not resemble the typical menstrual issues people expected. Since I experienced no physical pain, already being on the pill, the mood swings were misread as something psychological rather than hormonal. It was not until my late twenties that someone finally recognised what it truly was PMDD. The recommended treatment was the correct form of the pill, one that is specifically known to ease symptoms. It was almost startling how such a debilitating condition could be stabilised by something so simple once it was properly identified. For nearly a decade, I managed the condition without medication, relying only on self-awareness, pattern tracking, and personal wellness techniques, without even having the correct diagnosis. This experience illustrates how easily female symptoms are misunderstood, minimised, or masked instead of being properly evaluated. Underfed, under-recovered, undervalued Women are often told to eat lightly while training intensely, a combination that almost guarantees burnout. Diet culture praises tiny meals, low calories, and constant restraint, especially among women who already push themselves in demanding environments. Many women start their day with a coffee and a protein bar or a single boiled egg, believing this is what being good looks like. But here is the truth. It is important to understand that a single egg (even two) does not provide sufficient nourishment to support the body throughout the day. Under-eating leads to cravings, disrupted sleep, worsened PMS, heightened stress responses, slower metabolism, mood instability, and low energy. Women are not failing their diets. The diets are failing them. The hidden spiral of burnout Burnout rarely arrives as a dramatic collapse. It builds quietly, showing up as skipped workouts, low motivation, emotional eating, irritability, late-night cravings, and the feeling of giving up by week three of any routine. A burnt-out nervous system prioritises survival above everything else, leaving no space for fat loss, motivation, or consistency. When the body is overwhelmed, it pushes back. What many women interpret as self-sabotage is often the nervous system shifting into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. In these states, decision-making becomes harder, cravings intensify, emotions feel sharper, and training feels increasingly difficult. Motivation does not disappear because women do not care, but because the body is trying to protect them from further stress. Discipline alone cannot override a dysregulated system, it must be supported, not pushed. This internal struggle creates a painful identity conflict. Many high-achieving women ask themselves, I am so capable at work, so why am I unable to stay consistent with my fitness, or I know what to do, so why do I struggle to follow through. This is not a matter of intelligence or effort. It is the collision between burnout, unrealistic expectations, and a lifestyle that does not align with the realities of female physiology. These pressures are made worse by the cultural forces surrounding women. Hustle culture demands constant productivity and perfection, while diet culture demands restraint and control. Together, they create an environment where women feel they must always be performing, either for their career or their body. This pressure feeds cycles of guilt and exhaustion. Over time, chronic stress, under-eating, and emotional strain cause women to disconnect from their bodies. Hunger cues blur, fullness becomes confusing, hormonal signals go unnoticed, emotional reactivity heightens, and fatigue becomes normal. Women stop trusting themselves, not because they lack willpower, but because they have been conditioned to ignore their own signals. What women truly need is reconnection. They need hormonal awareness, stress regulation, nourishment, realistic routines, boundaries, and lifestyle structures that honour their physiology. They need approaches grounded in how women actually live, not in an unrealistic ideal. A woman who is well supported, well nourished, and in tune with her body does not continually fall off track, she finally thrives.   Start your journey today Feeling out of sync is not a personal flaw. It is a sign that the approach you have been following was never aligned with your biology or the realities of your life. When your body is understood and supported, consistency stops feeling like a battle and starts becoming a natural rhythm. If you are ready to work with your physiology instead of fighting against it, I invite you to take the next step. Book a coaching call today here , and let us build a strategy that supports your energy, your lifestyle, and your long-term wellbeing. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and visit my LinkedIn for more info! Read more from Amritta Kaur Dhillon Amritta Kaur Dhillon, Online Fitness Coach Reets is a women’s fitness and mindset coach who began her journey trying to lose weight and feel confident again. After years of chasing every fad diet and extreme approach, she discovered that most fitness advice was male-led and didn’t account for hormones, mindset, or the realities of a busy life and the weight of holding it all together. That realisation led her to create the Buff Rewire System, a method that helps ambitious women get strong, lean, and confident without burning out. Blending strength training, hormone-informed coaching, and sustainable habit design, Reets now helps women around the world ditch all-or-nothing thinking and finally achieve results that last.

Written by Rasha AlShaar, Mind-Body Coach, PCC Rasha AlShaar, PCC, is a Mind-Body Coach with an integrative approach to healing and self-development. By merging modalities that range from mindset and somatic tools, she's on a mission to facilitate full-body healing and head-to-toe awakenings to help people embody their authentic truth and innate power. Surrender. A word that haunted me for a while. I misunderstood it and honestly judged it for the longest time because I forgot how it felt to truly embody it. Look, for context, I’m a natural do-er. I thrive on planning, creating lists, and maximizing my time. But the past two years have taught me that true power lies not in being trapped in the extremes of doing everything I can or doing nothing at all, but rather in the sweet spot in between, where I can be and do in what can be called active surrender.   The true meaning of surrender In my world, surrender is the ultimate act of agency and trust, doing everything in my power, and giving in to the power beyond my control to God, Source, Spirit, Divine, or whatever else resonates. Maybe, like me not too long ago, a part of you judges surrender because you too have forgotten that living in the sweet spot is a balance between holding the responsibility to take action in one hand, and knowing that your personal power has a boundary in the other hand. I like to think of active surrender as a dance, a constant two-step if you will, a little bit of doing, and little bit of being.   The surrendered experience Embodying this version of surrender creates an amazing sense of liberation. It feels like a responsible free fall. Like the exhilarating rush of the drop while knowing you’re securely harnessed. That’s the dance, the paradox of doing absolutely everything you can, and deliberately letting go.   Actually, forget bungee jumping, let’s consider the less extravagant (and more relatable) analogy of driving a car. We do our part by fastening our seatbelts, following the speed limit, and putting our phones away. We do all we can to control our immediate safety, and then, well, we drive.   This is the sweet spot of surrender. It’s born from power, intentionality, and fundamental trust in oneself as well as something bigger. It involves being an active participant while letting go of control.   The problems: 2 patterns blocking active surrender This blend of action and trust sounds simple, but it’s much harder to embody because we usually default to one of two patterns that end up blocking us:   1. Doing too much: The gripper This pattern is marked by the individual who grips too tightly, does too much, and burns out. They attempt to control every variable, use sheer willpower as force, and see any setback as proof they didn't push hard enough. This relentless pursuit of individual control is their primary obstacle to peace. It’s buckling their seatbelt, buying all the gadgets, driving so slow it’s a hazard, and still not achieving the desired goal of safety.   2. Doing nothing: The give-upper This pattern is often mistaken for true surrender when it’s truly giving up rather than giving it up. They are driven by fear and helplessness, lack personal power, and still carry a quiet yet desperate desire to control the outcome passively. Their submission to the circumstance implies defeat or inferiority. It's refusing to buckle the seatbelt and blindly trusting that they will arrive safely. The solutions: 2 practices for the 2 patterns If you notice yourself leaning toward one of these two extremes, here are a few practical examples you can try (or adapt) to guide yourself toward a more balanced expression of surrender:   1. Doing too much: The gripper The 5% release: Identify the 5% of the project or outcome that is physically impossible for you to control (e.g., timing, another person's decision, market forces). Verbally state or write down that you are releasing that 5% to the Divine/Source/Flow. Focus only on the remaining 95% that is within your power. Schedule "empty time": Block 30 minutes in your calendar with the label "Non-Productive Existence." Use this time to sit, stare, walk aimlessly, or simply exist without a goal. This trains your system that rest does not equal failure.   2. Doing nothing: The give-upper The control commitment: When facing a goal or desire, write a list of the things that are actually in your control about it and select one thing at a time to tackle. By recognizing your part in it and focusing only on the immediate action, you build momentum without feeling overwhelmed by the final result. Affirm your agency: Before starting any task, literally affirm to yourself, "I have the power to influence this." This reminds you of your personal agency and consciously anchors action as a part of your day, and ultimately, your desires.   If you’re gripping too tightly or giving in too much, book a free consult call to explore how I can support you in finding your sweet spot of surrender through mindset and somatic work. Follow me on LinkedIn and visit my website for more info! Read more from Rasha AlShaar Rasha AlShaar, Mind-Body Coach, PCC With over a decade of experience in healing practices and self-growth tools, Rasha AlShaar founded her coaching practice in 2020, shaping her integrative approach through ongoing personal growth and rigorous training, blending subconscious, emotional, somatic, behavioral, and energetic modalities to best serve her clients. Rooted in her curiosity, driven by her commitment to service, and grounded in her PCC accreditation from the International Coaching Federation with 700+ hours of 1:1 coaching experience, Rasha is on a mission to help others on their transformative journeys as a Mind-Body Coach, guiding them to reconnect with their inherent wisdom and worth through insightful dialogue, embodied experience, and tangible action steps.

Written by Stephanie Smit, Visionary Artist & Reincarnation Researcher Stephanie Smit, also known as Giek, is a visionary artist and reincarnation researcher. She bridges art, mysticism, and esoteric science to uncover past lives, guide spiritual awakenings, and help others align with their soul purpose. In my first two Brainz articles, I explored  how karmic struggles from past lives shape your present challenges  and nine powerful ways to access past life memories beyond tarot and astrology.  But there’s another layer to reincarnation research that raises even bigger questions: what does it mean when multiple people sincerely remember being the same historical figure?  In my own research, over 250 past lives uncovered for clients and 22 of my own, the memories have mostly pointed toward a linear model: one soul moving lifetime by lifetime, sometimes with brief overlaps or walk-ins (a term used for when one soul departs a body mid-life and another soul steps in).  Yet in the wider reincarnation community, I’ve stumbled upon a curious phenomenon: dozens, sometimes hundreds, of people all claiming the same past identity. Figures like Cleopatra, Marilyn Monroe, and Jesus appear most often, but others, from Napoleon and Plato to Elvis Presley and Jim Morrison, are also repeatedly named.  These are people who carried powerful archetypes into history: the tragic beauty, the savior, the visionary, the rebel. And it’s often those mythic roles, as much as the individuals themselves, that echo most strongly through collective memory.  Beyond literal past lives: Four possibilities If we go beyond the idea that only one person can “be” someone, new perspectives emerge. Here are four ways I’ve seen this phenomenon unfold in my research: 1. Archetypal resonance You’re not remembering a literal life, but channeling the archetype that person embodied (e.g., the “rebel poet,” the “divine mother,” the “visionary scientist”).  2. Oversoul or soul family Some souls appear to “split” or echo across time, with different fragments incarnating simultaneously or sequentially. Several people may embody aspects of the same wider soul field.  3. Cultural memory Iconic figures enter the collective unconscious. Tuning into them may mean you’re picking up on a living cultural myth that resonates with your karmic path. 4. Karmic mirrors Sometimes we’re drawn to someone not because we were them, but because we’re processing the same karmic lessons, wounds, or creative sparks.  Of course, not every sense of “I was this person” needs to be taken literally. Sometimes these identifications arise from unresolved trauma or unmet needs surfacing through the imagination. But even then, they hold meaning, because every image your psyche presents is a doorway into healing. Even when a past life memory functions more like a symbolic story than a factual account, it can still serve as a mirror. By asking what the resonance is trying to reveal about your own soul journey, you can transform a fixation into a pathway for grounding, integration, and self-understanding.  Why this matters for your growth   Even if you’ve never thought you were Cleopatra or Jim Morrison, you’ve likely felt an unexplainable pull toward a certain person or era. This isn’t random, it’s part of how past-life memories and shared reincarnation experiences show up as mirrors for growth.  The key question isn’t “Was I them?” but “What is this resonance teaching me about my own soul?”  When approached this way, shared past life memories stop being a debate about identity and start becoming a tool for transformation. A practical reflection exercise  Here’s a way to explore shared soul resonances in your own life:  1. Notice your fascinations Which figures, eras, or archetypes captivate you most? Pay attention to the ones that feel strangely personal.  2. List their lessons Write down this figure’s main struggles, breakthroughs, and karmic themes. You can even use karmic astrology or AI-supported historical research (see my  earlier article on using these tools)  to gather deeper insight into their life patterns.  3. Find the parallels Where do those same themes show up in your current life? Look for repeating dynamics in relationships, career, or inner struggles.  4. Ask the deeper question What is this figure trying to teach you about who you are becoming now? Tarot, meditation, or intuitive channeling (or any of the other tools I recommend in my other article)  can help uncover hidden layers.  5. Integrate consciously Rather than clinging to the identity of “being them,” focus on embodying the lesson in a way that grounds and supports your present growth.  From ownership to embodiment  My  ongoing research,  including my newest project,  IWasJimMorrison.com,  exploring why so many people feel they were Jim Morrison, suggests that past lives aren’t always as simple as a straight line of ownership. They can also appear as archetypes, echoes, and mirrors. Yet in my direct client work, I’ve seen again and again that the soul also carries precise, traceable histories. With the right tools, karmic astrology, tarot, intuitive channeling, and even AI-supported historical research, it’s possible to uncover not just the themes but the specific names, places, and stories you’ve lived before. When you stop asking only “Was I them?” and begin asking “What does this resonance awaken in me?” you unlock growth. And when you’re ready to go further, tracing your soul’s exact footsteps through history can give you a clarity that transforms the way you see your struggles, gifts, and purpose. Because ultimately, the soul’s work is both: embodying the lessons and remembering the story. This combination of tools lets you cross-reference your insights. It turns remembering into intuitive research, mystical yet methodical. In this article, I’ll share 9 powerful ways to access your past life memories beyond tarot and astrology so you can deepen your journey even further. Learn how to get out of behaviours and patterns that are not serving you in my article ' Reprogramming the Subconscious – How Past Life Imprints Shape Your Mindset and Success '. Past life work as soul awakening  Uncovering past lives isn’t just about healing, it’s about remembering who you truly are. The clearer your soul history becomes, the more your mission unfolds.  If you’re ready to dive deeper into your soul’s journey, here are ways to connect and explore: Book a call  to uncover your specific past lives and break free from karmic restraints.  Follow my broader reincarnation research,  including IWasJimMorrison.com ,  exploring the mystery of shared soul memories.  Stay tuned for Past Life Podcast  and Reality Cult retreats and live events. Explore my artistic work,   testimonials  or subscribe to the  newsletter.   Explore my other Brainz articles for more tools on past life work and spiritual growth. Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more fr om Stephanie Smit Stephanie Smit, Visionary Artist & Reincarnation Researcher Stephanie Smit (Giek) is a visionary, multidisciplinary artist and independent reincarnation researcher. Through her work, she bridges experimental art, esoteric science, and intuitive guidance to help others uncover past lives and activate soul remembrance. She has uncovered over 250 past lives for clients using a unique method combining astrology, tarot, and Akashic insight. Her projects have been showcased at major museums and festivals across Europe, including the Van Gogh Museum and Harvard Divinity School. She also develops sacred performances, poetic lectures, and zero-waste fashion inspired by her visions. Giek's mission is to awaken spiritual sovereignty and co-create a New World rooted in divine creativity and karmic truth.

Written by Stephanie Smit, Visionary Artist & Reincarnation Researcher Stephanie Smit, also known as Giek, is a visionary artist and reincarnation researcher. She bridges art, mysticism, and esoteric science to uncover past lives, guide spiritual awakenings, and help others align with their soul purpose. In my first article, What If the Root of Your Struggles Began in a Past Life?, I explored the core tools I use to uncover past lives: tarot, astrology, intuitive resonance, and even AI-supported historical recognition. These helped me retrieve detailed stories, emotions, and karmic threads from past incarnations. But those aren’t the only portals.   In this follow-up, I’ll share subtler, equally powerful ways that past life memories can surface through the body, dreams, and spontaneous knowing. When you learn to listen, the soul speaks in many languages. Portals to past life memory 1. Meditation and stillness Meditation and silent retreats can dissolve ego boundaries and open the door to past life fragments. Over the years, I’ve learned to use meditation both as a gateway into early soul memories and as a way to deepen insight into known past lives. When I’m emotionally triggered in ways that feel karmic, I sit with the feeling instead of resisting it, gently exploring its root. This has helped me integrate past life trauma in real time. In a future article, I’ll share more about transmuting these deeper karmic patterns. 2. Ayahuasca and psychedelics Some of my past lives began to surface gradually while microdosing LSD. The insights came in gentle flashes of memory, emotion, and deep inner recognition that unfolded over time. Interestingly, I met my twin flame during this period, before any clear past life recall had fully emerged. That meeting became a catalyst in its own right, but more on that in a future article, where I’ll explore how the twin flame journey and soul memory intertwine. One of the most powerful integration experiences came later, during an ayahuasca ceremony. I wasn’t seeking more information, I was seeking embodiment. Within the first half hour, I began to merge viscerally with the energy of my past life as Jim. A raw, animalistic voice erupted from within, unfiltered, ancient. Later, I saw his face morph into mine. The boundaries dissolved. I wasn’t remembering him, I was reclaiming him as part of me. As the guides played live music, I began to improvise vocally. It wasn’t performative, it simply rose up from within. That sound became the bridge back to earth. My soul was reentering my body through my voice. In that moment, I wasn’t just singing, I was healing deep karmic voice wounds carried across lifetimes. Since that journey, I’ve been processing karmic trauma with more clarity. It helped me release addictive patterns and step more fully into my path. Ayahuasca didn’t just show me who I was, it helped me become who I am. 3. Hypnotherapy and regression work Past life regression, usually through guided hypnosis, helps access detailed memories and often brings healing by witnessing the root of patterns. This article on Quantum Healing Hypnosis offers a helpful introduction to what these sessions can open up. I haven’t done formal past life regression, but inner child regression deeply impacted me, years before I was even aware of being Jim. Healing early trauma helped release parts stuck in survival mode. I believe tending to childhood wounds is crucial, as they often echo unresolved past life themes. For me, healing my wounded child finally grounded me. Before that, I was dissociated, drifting between worlds and using substances to escape, much like my past life, disconnected and ungrounded. Regression work doesn’t just reveal the past; it anchors you in the present, making remembering safer and more healing. 4. Dreamwork Intentional dreaming, like lucid dreaming or dream journaling, can unlock past life memories. Some dreams aren’t just dreams; they’re soul memories rising in symbols or vivid scenes. I’ve received a lot of data through dreams. Once, I told a friend in a dream that he was Tchaikovsky. I knew little about him then, but the dream felt charged, so I researched. A portrait of Tchaikovsky shocked me, he looked and felt just like my friend, sharing the same energy and struggles (you can see examples of facial echoes like this on my reincarnation research page ). Dreams bypass logic and speak through emotion and imagery. With intention, they become maps full of insight, memory, and soul truth. 5. Philosophy and esoteric texts Philosophy, especially esoteric teachings, can open gateways to past life memories. Deep ideas about the soul, time, and consciousness can trigger intuitive recognition of lives once lived or lessons taught. For me, philosophy only opened fully around 2020. Earlier, drug use and my inner wounds made focused reading difficult. After my first past life reading in 2019, I felt drawn to Hermetic teachings. Then, The Kybalion appeared, inspiring me to write Kybalion the Musical . Writing that musical in 2021, alongside intuitive readings, became a portal. Characters in the show stood for soul energies I sensed. During an intense writing stretch, I had a breakthrough: a past life in Elizabethan England as John Dee, an astrologer with otherworldly access. That was my first past life name, marking a deeper unfolding. Philosophy and creativity became tools for soul remembrance. You can read more on my blog . 6. Symbolism and soul codes Symbols are the soul’s language. Before names or memories come through, we often get contacted by symbols, repeating numbers, animals, colors, or dreams charged with meaning. They’re spiritual breadcrumbs guiding us toward remembrance. For me, symbolism was one of the first ways my soul spoke. After getting sober in 2012, I started seeing double digits everywhere, 11:11 relentlessly, then 22:22. These felt like coded messages marking new beginnings. By 2017, as I was deep in healing, writing, and making music, 19:19 appeared constantly, so powerful I tattooed it on my neck. At the time, I felt its intensity but didn’t fully grasp it. Only later did I realize how deeply it was tied to my past lives, echoing themes of death, rebirth, and the soul missions I’ve carried across incarnations. That year, while struggling with health and purpose, I discovered my Sun sits exactly at 3°33'33", another cosmic wink. At a time when I felt broken, this synchronicity sparked clarity about my soul’s mission. The more I explored past lives, the clearer it became: I had been leaving myself clues all along. Symbols, numbers, music fragments, names, even tattoos woven through lifetimes like secret codes waiting to be remembered. You might notice the same: repeated numbers, meaningful names, or obsessions that only make sense later. These are not accidents, they’re your soul knocking before the door opens wide. 7. Sound and voice activation Chanting, toning, and intuitive singing bypass the conscious mind to access soul memory. Certain sounds unlock cellular memory and emotional release. As a singer, my voice has long been more than a performance, it’s a vessel for channeling unseen forces. Discovering my past lives deepened this: voice was a portal I mastered before and still use now. When stuck or triggered, I turn to chanting, humming, or toning. It grounds me, reconnecting me to something primal and wise. Voice has become a powerful tool in my healing, shifting energy, processing emotion, and reprogramming karmic patterns. I’ll share more on sound as a transformational and healing tool in future articles. 8. Sacred movement and dance Sometimes the body remembers what the mind cannot. Intuitive dance and somatic movement can awaken embodied memories from past lives. Movement can unlock ancient soul energy and help integrate past life experiences. When we let go of control and move freely, it can bring up emotions and memories stored in the body. Dance becomes more than just movement; it becomes a ceremony for healing, reclamation, and integration. The body holds deep wisdom and can be a powerful key to past life remembrance. 9. Art Art is a powerful tool for past life integration. It bypasses the analytical mind and connects with the intuitive, emotional, and somatic layers where soul memory resides. Whether through painting, drawing, fashion, writing, or performance, art acts as a sacred mirror, revealing archetypes, symbols, and energetic imprints from other lifetimes. Creation becomes a ritual, a living dialogue with the soul. Through artistic expression, past lives can be felt deeply, awakening sensations, images, and emotions that help integrate those memories. Art transforms past life remembrance into something tangible and empowering, turning creative spaces into places of healing and alchemy. Everyone has creativity within them, no need to hold back or wait for permission. Embracing your creative spark can open doors to your soul’s deeper memories and support your healing journey. For example, my show A Soul’s Journey is a way I bring this process to life, healing old wounds and stepping fully into my purpose through performance and storytelling. Your creative path can be just as transformative, whatever form it takes. Let your path unfold naturally. Not every tool is for everyone. But when the soul is ready, the right portal appears. This combination of tools lets you cross-reference your insights. It turns remembering into intuitive research, mystical yet methodical. In this article, I’ll share 9 powerful ways to access your past life memories beyond tarot and astrology so you can deepen your journey even further. Learn how to get out of behaviours and patterns that are not serving you in my article ' Reprogramming the Subconscious – How Past Life Imprints Shape Your Mindset and Success '. Past life work as soul awakening Uncovering past lives isn’t just about healing, it’s about remembering who you truly are. The clearer my soul history became, the more my mission unfolded. Past lives are keys, not chains tempered through time to unlock a multidimensional self who lives boldly, loves freely, and serves from the soul. While my journey began intuitively with tarot and access to the Akashic records, I’ve expanded my practice to include methods combining it with karmic astrology, facial resemblance, and AI tools that help reveal karmic signatures echoing through lifetimes. Soon, I’ll be exploring this topic further through these themes. If you’re ready to dive deeper into your soul’s journey, here are ways to connect, explore, and continue your past life work: Book a call  to begin breaking free from karmic restraints and step into your full potential. Follow my broader reincarnation research , including the upcoming project IWasJimMorrison.com . Listen to the Past Life Podcast , where I interview guests about their soul journeys and how past lives shape the present. Stay tuned for upcoming Reality Cult retreats and live events , where I’ll be playing, speaking, and giving readings to support your soul’s remembering and integration.. Explore my artistic work , where past life memory fuels creative expression. See what others Say About Reality Cult Past Life Readings and Spiritual Coaching. Follow me on YouTube  or subscribe to my newsletter  to get updates and new offerings. Check out my other articles on Brainz Magazine. Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more fr om Stephanie Smit Stephanie Smit, Visionary Artist & Reincarnation Researcher Stephanie Smit (Giek) is a visionary, multidisciplinary artist and independent reincarnation researcher. Through her work, she bridges experimental art, esoteric science, and intuitive guidance to help others uncover past lives and activate soul remembrance. She has uncovered over 250 past lives for clients using a unique method combining astrology, tarot, and Akashic insight. Her projects have been showcased at major museums and festivals across Europe, including the Van Gogh Museum and Harvard Divinity School. She also develops sacred performances, poetic lectures, and zero-waste fashion inspired by her visions. Giek's mission is to awaken spiritual sovereignty and co-create a New World rooted in divine creativity and karmic truth.

Written by Stephanie Smit, Visionary Artist & Reincarnation Researcher Stephanie Smit, also known as Giek, is a visionary artist and reincarnation researcher. She bridges art, mysticism, and esoteric science to uncover past lives, guide spiritual awakenings, and help others align with their soul purpose. And what if healing them is the key to unlocking your soul mission in this one? Imagine the emotional blocks, addictions, or hidden genius you carry as echoes of a past life. Past life integration isn’t spiritual fluff, it’s a practical way to reclaim your full self. For a broader perspective on how reincarnation works and why it matters, this article on the reality of reincarnation offers a great foundation . My journey began after a decade of self-destruction. By 25, burned out and broken, I faced a choice: change or die. Healing came through art, music, theater, spiritual practice, and an unexpected reunion with my soul’s forgotten history. The chaos I’d lived felt familiar, not from this life, but as an echo of another. The poetry, the raw hunger, the boundary-breaking impulse, it was remembered, not new. Years later, through deep spiritual work and the Akashic Records, I realized I’d been running on a frequency from another lifetime, one that explained so much and held the key to transformation. Why past life integration matters Ignoring past life imprints means living only part of your potential. Our souls carry memories, gifts, traumas, and contracts beyond this lifetime, showing up as fears, health struggles, phobias, or repeating relationship patterns. These blocks often run deeper than childhood wounds. The fear of being seen, self-sabotage before success, the pull toward toxic lovers, or burnout, what if they began long ago? What if your soul left clues, waiting to be remembered? Integrating past life material isn’t about reliving trauma. It’s about witnessing, honoring, and choosing new beliefs that support your growth. This is personal evolution on a soul level. Through this work, a golden thread often appears, your soul mission unfolding across lifetimes. Remembering it brings clarity, purpose, and the power to contribute to collective evolution. Awareness: The first portal Before seeking past lives, you start with a feeling something familiar, uncanny, or emotionally charged. A recurring dream. A pull toward a place. A strange recognition in someone’s eyes. These are soul echoes, surfacing to be seen. For me, it began with emotion. I felt an overwhelming connection to The Doors. Seeing Jim Morrison stirred waves of grief, love, and recognition I couldn’t explain. Renaissance music brought tears and a wordless homesickness. I had no memories, just deep feelings. Only later, through past life readings and a deep astrological analysis, did it all begin to make sense . Awareness starts by listening. Trust your intuition. Follow what stirs you. Often, the remembering begins long before the mind understands. When you’re ready, the tools come in, but first, just notice. Tools to discover your past lives There’s no single right way to remember. Your soul will speak to you in symbols, emotions, and synchronicities. Here are some tools that have been powerful on my path: 1. Sketching a character with tarot as a mirror Tarot is my favorite tool for exploring the psyche of a past life. I use it to uncover personality traits, emotional themes, relationships, and key events. Sometimes a single card, like the Tower or Eight of Swords, can unlock an entire story. If you're curious about how I began using tarot for past life work, you’ll find more on my blog . 2. Follow the energetic pull Noticing what draws you in places, music, time periods, or people, is a powerful practice. These emotional pulls aren’t random; they’re portals. Maybe you’ve always felt at home in a certain landscape or “known” a city before visiting. Music from before your birth or a strong reaction to a historical figure can signal soul memory. Pay attention this is valuable data. 3. AI-based historical recognition Once I’ve sketched a past life character, I often use AI to match their energy, era, or traits with known historical figures. If the tarot hints they were somewhat known or even famous, I enter key details and let the AI suggest profiles. Viewing old portraits can trigger a deep soul recognition, a quiet, intuitive "yes." It’s not about proof, but resonance. AI becomes a tool to activate memory, not define it. You can explore how someone's face echoes that of their past lives in more depth on my research page . 4. Astrology as the karmic blueprint After intuitively sketching a past life, I turn to astrology to confirm the karmic patterns. Your natal chart is your soul’s blueprint, revealing what you’ve carried in and what you’re here to evolve. Astrology can also stand alone as a structured way to explore past lives. If you prefer logic, symbols, and clarity over names and images, it offers a grounded path. Some karmic placements worth exploring: Th e North Node: Growing into who you truly are: In karmic astrology, the North Node reveals your soul’s growth path, what you’re here to embody, even if it feels foreign. A North Node in Taurus might be learning to ground and trust life’s pace after lifetimes of chaos. In the 7th house, the soul may be learning partnership after lifetimes of solitude. In Leo, the call is to shine after hiding in the crowd. The South Node shows where you’re fluent, but stuck. My North Node is in Aries in the 10th house: bold, visible leadership. In my past life as Jim Morrison, that energy was distorted. I gave my power to the myth, the machine, and to love. I became a symbol, not a self. Now, with Pluto and Neptune triggering that Node, old fears resurface of being seen or swallowed. But a rare quintile to Mercury reminds me why I came back: to use my voice as medicine. Not to be defined but to define. That’s the essence of the North Node: scary, liberating, real. Chiron: The wound that heals: Chiron marks the soul’s deepest wound, an old, often karmic pain. It’s where something vital was once silenced or shamed. Yet it’s also where healing begins, not just for you, but for others. Chiron in Cancer may ache for belonging. In Capricorn, it might fear rejection tied to success. In the 3rd house, it can signal wounds around communication or being heard. Wherever it falls, it reveals where your pain can become wisdom. In my chart, Chiron sits in Gemini in the 12th house: the wound of being unseen or misunderstood for speaking spiritual truth. In my past life, I used art and poetry to share radical insights, but what the world received was the surface symbol. The deeper message was distorted, consumed, or ignored. That fear still lingers: a tension around speaking what’s mystical or taboo. But healing doesn’t come through silence. It comes by giving voice to what was once buried. That’s my quiet revolution, writing, teaching, performing anyway. Because Chiron isn’t just where we break. It’s where we begin to alchemize. Pluto: The karmic engine of transformation: Pluto in the birth chart reveals where the soul has known power, intensity, and transformation, often over many lifetimes. It marks your inner underworld: the part of you that’s been broken down, burned through, and reborn. Someone with Pluto in the 7th house may carry karmic echoes of obsessive or traumatic relationships. In the 2nd, there may be old wounds around survival, worth, or loss. Wherever Pluto sits, it doesn’t let you play small. It demands evolution, ruthless, honest, and deep. In my chart, Pluto is in Scorpio in the 5th house: the realm of art, passion, and performance. This speaks of a soul shaped by creative fire and creative destruction. As Jim, I danced that line: channeling mythic, erotic, and shadowy truths through art, only to be devoured by them. In this life, that same Plutonian current runs strong. It brings emotional intensity, especially in love and self-expression. But it’s also a source of vision, magnetism, and spiritual fuel. The work now is to create without burning out. To let art be alchemy, not annihilation. Because Pluto isn’t just the place you fall apart, it’s the place you rise transformed, pulsing with raw truth and soul power. Aspects & karmic placements: From Saturn and Pluto aspects to South Node conjunctions, the chart is full of signatures that reveal your soul story. By studying these patterns, you begin to understand what holds you back and why. I’m not going into all the astrological details here, but if you're curious about the full comparative chart analysis and how these echoes show up with striking clarity, check out my Reincarnation Research . This combination of tools lets you cross-reference your insights. It turns remembering into intuitive research, mystical yet methodical. In this article, I’ll share 9 powerful ways to access your past life memories beyond tarot and astrology so you can deepen your journey even further. Learn how to get out of behaviours and patterns that are not serving you in my article ' Reprogramming the Subconscious – How Past Life Imprints Shape Your Mindset and Success '. Past life work is purpose work Uncovering past lives isn’t just about healing; it’s about remembering who you truly are. The more I recalled, the more my mission crystallized: I wasn’t just here to recover; I was here to teach, perform, and guide others toward radical authenticity and karmic liberation. Our past lives aren’t chains. They’re keys, forged through fire and time. When we integrate them, we awaken the multidimensional self: one who lives boldly, loves freely, and serves from the soul. While much of my journey has been intuitive, I’ve recently deepened my path by using astrology as a logical system to validate past life memories. I’m currently researching reincarnation patterns, seeking karmic signatures that echo across timelines. Soon, I’ll be writing more about this under the theme “When More Than One Person Remembers the Same Past Life.” If you’re ready to dive deeper into your soul’s journey, here are ways to connect, explore, and continue your past life work: Book a call to begin breaking free from karmic restraints and step into your full potential. Follow my broader reincarnation research , including the upcoming project IWasJimMorrison. Listen to the Past Life Podcast , where I interview guests about their soul journeys and how past lives shape the present. Stay tuned for upcoming Reality Cult retreats and live events , where I’ll be playing, speaking, and giving readings to support your soul’s remembering and integration. Explore my artistic work , where past life memory fuels creative expression. See what others say about Reality Cult Past Life Readings and Spiritual Coaching . Follow me on  Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more fr om Stephanie Smit Stephanie Smit, Visionary Artist & Reincarnation Researcher Stephanie Smit (Giek) is a visionary, multidisciplinary artist and independent reincarnation researcher. Through her work, she bridges experimental art, esoteric science, and intuitive guidance to help others uncover past lives and activate soul remembrance. She has uncovered over 250 past lives for clients using a unique method combining astrology, tarot, and Akashic insight. Her projects have been showcased at major museums and festivals across Europe, including the Van Gogh Museum and Harvard Divinity School. She also develops sacred performances, poetic lectures, and zero-waste fashion inspired by her visions. Giek's mission is to awaken spiritual sovereignty and co-create a New World rooted in divine creativity and karmic truth.

Written by Vikki St Leger, Voice Coach & Transformational Mentor Vikki St Leger is a highly respected Vocal Coach and Mentor, renowned for her expertise, extensive knowledge and unique style. She has coached a diverse range of clients including Olympic Medalists, Royal Choreographers and winners of prestigious TV shows such as The Voice Uk, BGT and The XFactor. Most people think confidence lives in the words they speak, yet it lives in the body long before the voice ever opens, in the breath, the posture, and the hidden micro-signals that tell an entire room what you truly believe about yourself before you have even said hello. The silent epidemic in boardrooms and conference halls Performance nerves are not limited to stages or music studios, they show up everywhere people feel exposed, from boardrooms to team meetings, conferences to client pitches, and interviews to virtual calls. And the moment the attention turns to you, your body begins speaking its own language. As a voice coach who has trained performers, executives, consultant surgeons, and high-achievers, I see the same pattern daily, the voice gives you away before your mind even catches up. It exposes fear in the smallest crack of tone, it broadcasts confidence the moment your breath deepens and your posture settles. Your voice tells the truth long before your words finish. And people feel it,in your tone, your rhythm, your expression, and the micro-gestures you do not realise you are making. Performance anxiety is not about competence, it cuts across all levels of seniority and personality types, and it impacts people who are exceptional at what they do yet suddenly feel stripped bare when they have to speak. Why performance nerves hit harder than you expect Speaking is exposure, the kind of exposure that makes the nervous system react as if something important is at stake because it is. Your reputation, your credibility, your place in the hierarchy, and your sense of belonging are all being quietly evaluated. The brain interprets scrutiny as potential danger, and the body responds instantly, firing adrenaline, tightening the throat, lifting the breath, interrupting thought, and giving the inner critic a microphone. This is not weakness, this is biology, and you cannot out-think a body that believes you may be unsafe. The root cause nobody mentions Performance anxiety is rarely about the material itself, it is about the fear of losing control, control over your breath, control over your voice, control over your face, control over your gestures, and control over how you assume others are reading you. The moment that internal grip loosens, even slightly, the body contracts. Gestures shrink, the face tightens, the voice compresses, and the posture retreats. People sense this shift long before they consciously register your words. What happens when your voice shakes Your voice is directly connected to your nervous system, and when the nervous system enters a defensive state, the voice follows. It becomes thinner or tighter, breathy or rushed. The breath rises, the jaw stiffens, the hands lose fluidity, and the posture folds inward. Human beings are hardwired to read these signs in each other, a flicker around the eyes, a twitch at the corner of the mouth, a shallow inhale, a frozen moment in the breath, or a lifted shoulder that betrays tension. These cues are not analysed consciously, they are felt. And they shape how your message lands. If your body retreats, your message retreats with it. But when your body stands firm, your message carries weight, clarity, and presence. This is embodiment, your physical state shapes your delivery, and your delivery shapes how the world responds to you. The vicious cycle Most people prepare obsessively for what they want to say, but forget to prepare themselves. They practise scripts without preparing their breath, their voice, their presence, or their internal state. Then, when the pressure rises, the body reveals everything it hoped to hide, and the performance unravels, not because the content was wrong, but because the state delivering it was not steady enough to hold it. Self-belief: The element that changes everything Self-belief is not optional when you are communicating under pressure. It is the foundation that holds the entire delivery together. As a voice coach, I can hear self-doubt instantly, it sits between the words, in the split-second pauses, in the slight tightening of tone, and in the breath that catches at the wrong moment. Audiences feel it in your eyes, your hands, and your smallest hesitation. One intrusive thought, such as “Am I doing this right?”, “They can hear my nerves,” or “I am not delivering this well enough,” can shift your entire physiology. The tone tightens, the face hardens, the gestures lose purpose, and your message softens. This is why I train performers to suspend doubt, to step out of the fearful self, and into a steadier identity, allowing the body to lead the mind into a confident state. When self-belief deepens, the voice changes, the breath drops, the gestures stabilise, and the presence grows. Conviction is not a personality trait, it is a trained physiological state. Embodying the performer: Stepping into absolute conviction When my clients step onto a stage, whether that stage is a conference hall, a boardroom, a virtual call, or a theatre, they leave the non-performing part of themselves behind. They step out of the version of themselves that doubts, hesitates, or questions, and they step into a state of total embodiment. Their body becomes the message. Their gestures carry intention. Their micro-gestures speak certainty. Their voice holds strength and conviction. They suspend self-doubt in the same way a performer steps into a role, except this role is not a disguise, it is the fullest, fiercest, clearest version of who they truly are. When that state clicks into place, their delivery hits the listener right between the ears and the eyes because conviction is felt before it is heard, and when someone speaks from embodied self-belief, the whole room leans in. The fix: Rewiring your performance response These methods work because they train the nervous system, the voice, and the embodied state simultaneously, allowing you to deliver with steadiness, authenticity, and real authority. Break the adrenaline loop: Slow your breath intentionally, inhale for four, exhale for eight, allowing the exhale to soften your physiology and settle the system. The jaw loosens, the shoulders drop, the voice steadies, and the internal tension begins to melt. Reclaim your voice physically: Relax the jaw. Drop the shoulders. Let the breath sink lower. As the breath deepens, the tone becomes richer, the rhythm steadier, and the delivery more grounded. Anchor confidence: Touch your thumb and forefinger together while recalling a moment of real strength, training your body to associate that gesture with power and calm. Then, use it discreetly to stabilise your state before speaking. Replace the old script: Speak clearly to your nervous system, "I am safe. I can do this. I belong here." These are not affirmations, they are instructions. Neutralise the inner critic: When the familiar inner voice appears, respond internally with “Thank you, but I have got this,” cutting the spiral before it takes hold and returning your focus to the moment. Use directed imagery: Visualise yourself speaking with clarity and presence. The body rehearses what the mind imagines, grounding you long before you enter the room. Deep trance identification: Step into exceptional performance Choose someone whose presence you admire. Observe how they breathe, move, hold themselves, and use their voice, then step into their identity in your imagination and borrow their steadiness, certainty, and command. Anchor it by touching your thumb and forefinger together so your body remembers the state. DTI works. One of my clients, stuck earning low fees for years, stepped into the identity of someone who commands high-value work after a single session. Days later, he landed a £25,000 job for an afternoon’s work. That is the power of embodied identity. Final thought: Your voice is your advantage Your voice is one of the most powerful psychological tools you possess. Your body amplifies it, your micro-gestures reveal it, and your presence shapes it. Train your breath, your voice, your body, and your internal state, and you transform your influence from the inside out. Call to action If you want to transform your voice, your presence, and your internal state so you can speak with real conviction and powerful influence, connect with me. Follow me on Facebook , Instagram , and visit my website for more info! Read more from Vikki St Leger Vikki St Leger, Voice Coach & Transformational Mentor Renowned Vocal Coach and Transformational Mentor, Vikki St Leger has spent over 35 years empowering thousands of individuals, including Olympic Medalists and clients who have had the honor of working on high profile events such as The Kings Coronation, The Queen's Jubilee and the opening and closing ceromonies of The Olympic Games. Her impressive expertise has also led her to coach the winner of The Voice Uk and contestants on BGT and The XFactor. Vikki has been personally recruited by two of the music industry's most esteemed music mangers and industry leaders to provide exclusive coaching services.

Written by Ranya AlHusaini, Mindset Transformation Guru Ranya Alhusaini is a mindset transformation guru. Besides, she is a Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformation Therapy Practitioner, and NLP. Ranya dug her way through self-discovery, curiosity, and knowledge. Somewhere between the noise of expectation, you forget who you really are. You are constantly tackling an endless pile of expectations, roles, objectives, tasks, or your daily chores. In fact, you feel stuck in what the world demands you to be. However, what hides behind the façade of your deepened energy is an intentional connective neuron toward your inner world. The deeper you can touch, the more you find peace, self-love, and worth. This intentional space of relaxation is called hypnosis , a technique that conditions your mind to deeply attune to your senses. Deep relaxation can work gently into every tension in your body, induce more calmness in your nervous system, and dust off stress that has buried your self-worth . In today’s article, you will discover how relaxation paves the path toward mindset transformation by increasing clarity, confidence, and restoring your mindset to what you were meant to mind. 1. What is behind the science of hypnosis Hypnosis is the science of deep relaxation. There are an immense number of misconceptions growing around hypnosis. In reality, hypnosis is a fertile ground of focused attention and deep relaxation. When hypnotized, your mind becomes highly receptive to positive suggestions. When you relax, your brain waves shift from fast problem solving beta waves into slower alpha and theta waves. These slower waves are the same wavelengths you reach when you meditate or before sleeping. In that hypnotic state, your conscious mind, when you are wide awake and more into calculating, evaluating, analysing, and alert, gently steps back. Your subconscious mind, the part of your mind that stores beliefs, memories, and stories from yesterday, becomes sensitively aware, awake, and receptive to newer ways of conduction, creation, or execution. Clinical studies illustrate the validity of hypnosis, as per the below: Reduce pain perception: Hypnotic suggestions can transform your brain’s experience of pain into something manageable. In return, hypnosis can be used widely before medical procedures or during chronic discomfort. Lower stress and anxiety: By calming the nervous system, it helps regulate heart rate, blood pressure, and cortisol levels. Support mindset transformation: Repeating empowering suggestions in a receptive state strengthens neural pathways by reinforcing confidence, self-worth, and resilience. Realistically, hypnosis cannot force change, but it creates a fertile ground for growth, expansion, and creation. Hypnosis can harness the body into a relaxation response and flex the brain’s elasticity to gently rewrite limiting beliefs and unlock your true potential. In conclusion, hypnosis is paving a path to ground your peaceful state of mind and flex your creative approaches into another dimension of possibilities. 2. Mindset transformation through hypnosis When we speak about hypnosis, we speak into the depth of your own senses, a place where you can revisit, reclaim your peace, and mingle with an old story with zero bias. It is deep work of diving, relaxing, and tuning into your inner world. You dive into the realm of your subconscious beliefs, a library-like system where all your old history, stories, and beliefs have been stored throughout the years. Diving into your subconscious mind can open the door to your truth. Your truth is your authentic identity, the only face you were born with, without any label attached to it. Your mindset is how you face life based on what you have been believing and keeping in the subconscious. Mindset transformation is a solo journey toward your true self. It happens the moment you open the same door you have touched while in a hypnotic phase. In that moment, you manifest a visualized image of where and what you want to work toward in personal and mindset development. What you visualize through words and images can make up a new reality of improvement. 3. Your self-worth through hypnosis Your self-worth is what you feel about your true identity, self, and being. With all three, you are aware of your worth, no matter what you attach before your ethnicity, label, category, or place. When you are worthy, you do not need to justify, appease, or expect external validation and reassurance. For many, years of living unconsciously have piled layers of overwhelming chaos, burying your true identity under comparison, criticism, unmet needs and expectations, peer pressure, cultural standards, and emotional responsibility. These layers form the bed of your subconscious, the place storing your conditioned identity. When you are hypnotized, you are not only relaxed, but flexible enough to investigate, reframe, and recategorize your memory with possibility, freeing you from harsh standards, labels, or criticism. Relaxation allows you to create a different pathway, which helps the mind build new roads of realization. Realization can help you reset your nervous system and reframe old meanings you attached to past incidents, creating a new version of your inner landscape with clarity, freedom, and more compassion toward yourself. When you are attuned peacefully to your inner landscape, your mind becomes a guiding light to your originality, confirming you were born worthy. During hypnosis, your mind falls into a gentle space of relaxation, leading you into the depth of your inner landscape and giving you permission to revisit old labels and beliefs, inner critical voices, and the harsh registry of memories you hold from painful incidents. This freedom gives you space to rewrite your history while empowering your worth. With repetition, your body reclaims clarity and creates new pathways recognized clearly with self-love, compassion, trust, empowerment, and peace. Your mind confirms another possibility of shifting your mindset from austere living into flexible thriving. 4. Three misconceptions about hypnosis You will lose control over your mind : The greatest misconception about hypnosis is believing you lose control over your mind to the hypnotherapist. In real terms, when you are hypnotized, you return back to your senses, deepening your relaxation and falling into the realm of your own realization. You are not losing control. You are detaching from stress, negative labels, and conditioning that has been attached to you. You remain fully aware, present, and in charge of your mind and body. No one can make you feel, do, say, or reveal anything you are not comfortable sharing. When deeply hypnotized, you are simply comfortable in the corner of your own mind, finding clarity, peace, and safety again. You will get stuck in hypnosis : One common misconception is losing yourself within the maze of your mind. When you are hypnotized, you fall into the depths of your own silence, diving into the details of your subconscious mind and leading yourself into the realization of your own thinking patterns. Hypnosis is a natural rhythm of your mind. You fall into a hypnotic state many times a day without realizing it, in moments like: When you stare at the sunset When your thoughts wander during silence When you arrive home without remembering the last minutes of driving Remember, hypnosis is guided relaxation. If the hypnotherapist stops guiding you, you will automatically open your eyes. Hypnosis is your ability to release your mind and body from the tension of awakened power. Anchor hypnosis with the moment you start falling asleep, when you are relaxed, attuned, and stress-free. You will reveal all your secrets during a session : One of the deepest fears is that hypnosis makes people susceptible to sharing secrets or vulnerable stories. During hypnosis, you are relaxed, less tense, and more focused on your inner world. You will be able to share, discuss, and dissect your feelings, raising your awareness of how and when these feelings built a fort inside your body. Remember, your feeling is a meaning categorized by your mind for a situation. A hypnotic phase allows you to navigate, understand, and recall them. You will never be forced to reveal information you are not comfortable sharing. You simply understand the feelings attached to your experiences. 5. Through an introspective lens: Self-worth, mindset transformation, and hypnosis Hypnosis has been overshadowed by misconceptions, yet modern neuroscience tells a different story. Hypnosis is one of the most effective and evidence-based methods for rebuilding emotional safety and restoring self-worth. Far from mind control, hypnosis quietens your inner critic and strengthens the neural pathways responsible for focus, self-regulation, and identity. Backed by research studies and decades of clinical validation , hypnosis is not a luxury. It is a necessity for modern societies navigating relentless demands. It does not erase the past, it rewrites what the past means about and to you. In that shift, self-worth becomes something you no longer chase, but something you finally find within. 6. Right now, you deserve to relax If you are ready to quieten the noise, lessen the pressure, and reconnect to your inner world, this section will speak well to your nervous system and subconscious mind. I have created a 12-minute guided relaxing audio [ Listen to Your 12 Minutes Self-Worth Reset ], but before that, follow the guidance below for better results: Find a quiet, comfortable space where you can lie down without interruptions for the next 12 minutes. Use headphones if possible, to help you sink deeper into the calming rhythm of the guidance. Remember to breathe deeply, as it helps relax the body, reconnect the dots, and deepen your relaxation experience. Allow yourself to dive deep within your inner world. If thoughts appear, let them pass like clouds, because you are safe in your space. Listen when relaxed, winding down, hitting your bed at night, or right when you wake up in the morning, when your mind is most receptive. Most importantly: Avoid listening to the audio while driving, operating a machine, or working on projects. This audio is meant to train your mind to loosen tension from your body and fill you with vivid, positive, imaginative pictures.   Follow me on LinkedIn , and visit my website  for more info! Read more from Ranya Alhusaini Ranya AlHusaini, Mindset Transformation Guru This is Ranya AlHusaini, a mindset transformation guru. My mission is to motivate professional women to unlock their self-worth and live a balanced life. With so much curiosity and self-awareness, I have developed my way with strength and determination. My expertise was well maintained as I took years to understand and develop my own through different modalities, and from there, I understood human nature and reaction. The modalities I use and consult throughout the session are NLP, Rapid Transformation Therapy technique, and Hypnosis. So, if you want a switch or a makeover in your life, hop in for a mindset transformation session! I have attached a photo of myself as well!

Miami, FL – November 2025 – Adriana Rivas, retail technology executive and award-winning author, has been selected as a Finalist in the Women in Tech Global Awards 2025, in the category Chief in Tech Leader of the Year. Organized by WomenTech Network, the awards honor leaders whose contributions shape the future of technology through innovation, inclusion, and global impact. Rivas was recognized for her work advancing human-centered retail technology and helping organizations modernize the in-store experience across the United States and Latin America. She has played a leading role in conceptualizing and scaling Biwitech, a next-generation retail technology brand designed to make innovation usable and practical in real store environments. Her leadership has influenced the adoption of self-service ecosystems, POS modernization, digital communication systems, and connected retail infrastructures built for agility and long-term growth. A defining strength of Rivas's work is her ability to connect technology with operational realities. Rather than viewing automation as a replacement for people, she advocates models that use digital tools to enhance accuracy, speed, and customer service while keeping the human experience at the center. This philosophy has guided the design and expansion of solutions that support retailers navigating new consumer behaviors, modernization demands, and the shift toward intelligent store operations. Beyond her executive impact, Rivas is the author of How to Implement Self-Service Without Failing, a practical guide for retail and technology leaders deploying automation in complex, high-traffic environments. The book debuted as an Amazon #1 Hot New Release in Retailing. It later earned a Silver Award from the Nonfiction Book Awards, reinforcing its value as an accessible resource for decision-makers leading digital transformation. Her voice extends across media and industry channels. She has been featured in outlets such as Brainz Magazine, JRivasa, Hudson Weekly, and Authority Magazine, amplifying her insights on retail innovation, leadership, and the future of in-store technology. She also publishes regularly on Medium and her personal blog, contributing thought leadership that bridges technical strategy with human-centric design. Rivas is an active advocate for women in technology. As a Global Ambassador and Circle Leader at WomenTech Network, she founded the Women in Retail Tech circle to foster mentorship, visibility, and community for women leading in hardware, retail systems, and tech-driven operations. "Being selected as a finalist is an honor that reflects the collective work behind every innovation," said Adriana Rivas. "I believe technology has an impact only when it respects people; it improves real experiences for businesses, teams, and customers. I'm grateful to WomenTech Network for recognizing leaders who are building the future with both vision and responsibility." The Women in Tech Global Awards celebrate excellence across executive leadership, digital transformation, product innovation, AI, cybersecurity, and emerging technologies. Finalists represent diverse sectors and regions, highlighting WomenTech Network's mission to elevate visibility, opportunity, and influence for women in STEM worldwide. Winners will be announced during the virtual global ceremony on December 4, 2025. About Adriana Rivas Adriana Rivas is a retail technology innovator. She specializes in self-service, POS modernization, digital signage, and store technology infrastructure across the Americas. She is an award-winning author and an active mentor in the WomenTech Network, advocating for inclusive innovation and advancing women leaders in technology more at adrianarivas.tech. Media contact press@adrianarivas.tech www.adrianarivas.tech

Deonesea La Fey is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach whose work blends feminine wisdom teachings with psychology, shamanism, and archetypal work to guide women into their feminine embodiment. Deonesea’s own personal journey from living in chronic inner turmoil and disconnection from her body, to living from the relaxation and radiance of her body’s wisdom led her to become devoted to helping other women do the same. Deonesea’s work speaks to the universality in women’s hearts and psyche while her intuitive gifts provide insight into each woman’s unique needs and desires. A beloved mentor and potent ceremonialist, she is known for supporting women to reach into the depths of their inner world. Deonesea’s passion for ecstatic dance forms, initiatory rites, and the study of spiritual traditions from around the world informs her work and lends itself to the transformational journeys she provides for her clients. Deonesea La Fey, Relationship and Intimacy Coach What inspired you to become a relationship, intimacy, and feminine-embodiment coach? My healing path began in my early twenties. I realized pretty early on that I had quite some things to clear up from my upbringing that were holding me back in my life. The thing that was most painful for me, that I most wanted to heal through, was intimate relationships. I had very painful experiences with dating and relating as a young woman such that I didn't feel that I was equipped to handle intimacy, and I wanted more than anything for that to change. So, I set out on a search for what would shift that for me and pretty quickly found women’s studies and tantra. That combination set me on a clear path and from there I went on to work with shamans and priestesses and energy healers, and to study sexuality with the Human Awareness Institute, tantra teachers, and Taoist sexuality teachers. I got very interested in human sexuality and what those teachings mean for our personal well-being and the well-being of our relationships. Ultimately, all of this led into an understanding of the world of psyche and how impacted our psyche is by what happens to us as children and how that then informs the templates of our adult relationships. In the time in my life when I was learning all of that for my own personal development, I began teaching belly dance classes and I discovered that I was actually a natural teacher. It was easy for me to teach movement and that expanded into adding sexuality teachings into dance classes, which morphed into a tantric dance practice that became the embodiment of those sexuality teachings. About ten years into that, a friend invited me to be the sexuality and intimacy mentor for her online school for women and that gave me a really natural segue into coaching and teaching in the online world. That was over a decade ago now. All of it really was born out of my own need to heal but then also my own need to share what I was learning. Watching it make such a positive impact on other women's lives made it clear to me that this was my path. What does “embodying your femininity” truly mean to you – and why do you believe it matters for women today? Embodying your femininity means learning how to take the concepts that you learn about femininity and bring them down into your body. In many ways women walk around feeling disconnected from their bodies. They're not in their sensate experience, they're not enjoying their sensual pleasures. Instead, they're in their heads mentally writing to-do lists and thinking about the next thing that has to be done. Most women are rarely actually present in the moment and while there are many kinds of meditation practices that bring us into the present moment, so much of what's available in the meditation space is actually male oriented. It's very mind focused. And while it is true that we as women want to tend to our mind - our thoughts and our beliefs - what's also true is that our power and well-being reside in our bodies. Most meditation forms, especially if they're specifically based in a male spiritual tradition, are about transcending the body to reach heightened states of awareness or enlightenment. For women, from the perspective of feminine wisdom teachings, we are meant to bring our awareness down into our bodies. Our power center is in our belly, in our womb and pelvic bowl. Embodiment is about learning practices that are based in universal principles of womanhood to come to know the truth of your own unique feminine energy, which is different from woman to woman. Feminine wisdom teachings are about learning to come down into the fullness of the belly, coming to understand what the alchemical vessel of the womb actually is on a physical level, surely, but also on an energetic level. Feminine embodiment is about bringing all of the principles we learn about feminine energy into a lived experience through our bodies. It's how we move, it's how we inhabit our senses, it's how we come to feel the sway in our hips when we walk. By and large, women are disconnected from that. This is why they're ticking things off of their to-do list in their heads instead of feeling the sensations in their bodies when they’re with their lover. Lovership is one of the places that we can most easily pinpoint the lack of feminine embodiment, but we experience it in other ways too. When a woman inhabits her body and her feminine energy, she feels more centered, more confident, more capable… she feels more anchored in herself. She readily feels her own connection to her body, her senses and her emotions.  What are the most common struggles or frustrations your clients come to you with? The majority of my clients begin working with me because they're frustrated in their relationships or in their lack of a relationship. They often come to me to try to understand the patterns that have played out throughout all of their relationships and why they keep surfacing again and again. Other women come to me because they've never enjoyed sex or never had an orgasm, or they long to have truly great sex but they just don't know how to get there. And others come because they just have this feeling that there's something more they could be experiencing, but they don't even know how to name what that is, nevertheless how to get to it.  With nearly all of my clients, we end up working on their history with their past relationships, with their upbringing, and with their own relationship to their bodies. The majority of women I work with struggle with not liking or loving their bodies and not really understanding how to inhabit their bodies in a natural way. How do your coaching sessions or courses help women transform their relationships and self-worth? The transformational work I do with women is rooted in offering guiding principles that help them understand their relational world. Addressing painful points from the past through trauma-informed work, helping women with insecure attachment styles heal that attachment wound, and teaching women to come down out of their heads into their bodies are the biggest parts of the work that I do. When a woman is connected with her womb space and the body wisdom that is held there, she comes to understand her worth in a new kind of way. Since lack of self-worth stems from having formed a false belief about yourself, my work is about guiding a woman to unravel those false beliefs and find the truth of who she really is. From there, she can develop new beliefs and new patterns of behavior towards herself that then inform how she chooses and creates relationships with others. Can you describe one of your most powerful success stories (client transformation) that illustrates what you do best? I once worked with a physically very beautiful woman who had extreme body dysmorphia. She couldn't see that she was beautiful at all and the trauma of her background had convinced her that this was in no way possible. That trauma, paired with the relationships she had had before she started working with me, had also convinced her that there was no way any man was ever really going to love her and, in fact, that good men who treat women well don't exist. In our work together we helped her move into really relishing her own sexual pleasure and getting to know her body differently, as well as starting to date in a new way such that she came to a point of dating several men who were great guys. With coaching, she chose one who was a really good partner for her. She was able to choose based on his character and his consistency so that her attachment system could settle down, she could learn to trust him, and she could allow him to love her and soothe the abandonment wounds from her past. They went on to have a really beautiful relationship. There came a point where she said to me, “I just never could have believed this was possible.” What makes your approach different from other relationship or intimacy coaches out there? Like many relationship coaches I am well versed in attachment theory and feminine and masculine polarity principles, and like many sexuality teachers I'm familiar with tantra and also with Taoist sexual teachings. What's different about my work is that it's informed by feminine wisdom teachings. My training has ranged from sitting with the most well-known leaders in the world at the forefront of the Goddess movement, to studying with dating coaches who specialize in recovery from narcissistic abuse and narcissistic relationships, to sitting with grandmother elders of tribes who teach about how relationships work in a tribal society. Those feminine wisdom teachings on understanding our personal archetypal world, connecting with the spiritual, fully inhabiting our bodies, and understanding sexuality as part of a holistic system rather than something separate from the rest of our lives, are a huge part of the work that I do. My own personal interests in the fields of psychology, neuroscience and shamanism, and in the way those fields intersect, also informs my work. For a woman who feels burnt out, disconnected, or overwhelmed – what’s the first change she can expect from working with you? When a woman comes to me with burnout and overwhelm, the very first thing I always say is, “Before we do anything else, let's get you out of overwhelm.” So, we’re first going to pinpoint the source of the overwhelm and address it head-on. After we’ve down-regulated her nervous system and created a sense of safety and stability, we’ll create a sensate pattern for her with a morning practice and daily touch points that will support her to begin her day from her feminine energy and circle back around to it consistently throughout her day. When those foundational pieces are firmly established, we can start to build on them with practices for opening her sexuality and addressing what's happening in her relationships. What are the types of women who benefit most from your programs (mindset, life stage, challenges)? Many women in my clientele are in their midlife, what I call the Queen stage of their lives. Usually, they're perimenopausal or into menopause already, and they're questioning where they are in life and where they're going next. That said, I do have many younger women in their 20s and 30s and many older women in their 70s and 80s. So, my clientele actually spans quite a large gamut of life stages. What the women in my programs tend to have in common regardless of what life stage they're in, is that they've achieved some level of accomplishment in some other area of their life like their career or their creative expression or their business or their parenting, but they're frustrated with their intimate relationships either because the one that they're in is unsatisfying or because they're single and would like to be partnered. A lot of these women are very smart women who already know a lot about communication styles and feminine and masculine polarity. They've read the books, and they've learned a lot, and the piece they’re missing is that feminine embodiment, that feminine wisdom teaching component. And that’s where I come in. How we understand our body as an energy system, how we learn to trace and track places in our psyche that need our attention, how we go back and get our inner child, how we free the wild maiden, how we unravel the patterns that are responsible for how we keep experiencing the same things in our intimate relationships… these are the missing pieces. I help women learn how to track their own feeling waves of emotion, learn how to come down into their body and inhabit their womb space, recapitulate all of the aspects that are splintered, connect to the cycles of nature, and understand what their archetypes are and what those are trying to express through them. When these pieces are reincorporated, the holistic system comes into play, and the internal world shifts. And then their relationships shift. What would you like to say to a woman who’s hesitating to invest in herself or in coaching – why should she take the step now? When a woman is hesitant about stepping into coaching, it’s often because fear is present… and this is actually a good thing. Fear is an indicator that it's her right next step. Fear shows up as a guardian that's trying to keep us safe, and it means that we're turning towards something or putting our attention on something inside of ourselves that's feeling unsafe or threatened. In coaching, we can address that feeling and help find the part that's needing to feel safe and give it actual safety rather than keeping it hidden behind hesitation or indecision. This is the path to growth. Sometimes women hesitate because they don't actually understand what the coaching process is or what it could bring to them. Every coach I know has her own coaches, myself included, because we're meant to help each other along the path. As humans, we are built to bond. But many women function in hyper-independence, which actually is a trauma response. That hyper-independence prevents them from reaching towards the help that could actually move them forward, and coaching is exactly that. It's one of the best ways to move forward and move forward quickly. The coaching relationship builds a sense of interconnectedness, which ultimately creates a safe place for the parts that feel unsafe to come forward. Then they can actually start to heal. The more we heal, the more we build interdependence with other humans rather than living our lives in burnout, overstimulation, and overdrive that comes from hyper-independence. Patterns tend to harden over time. They don't get better on their own. When we have a skilled facilitator who can help us unravel those patterns and find the gems inside of them, we can really move forward on our path in beautiful and unexpected ways. Deonesea La Fey’s decades-long immersion in the fields of feminine wisdom teachings and relationship teachings lends depth and insight to her coaching. She brings both a breadth of knowledge and highly honed intuitive gifts to women who wish to improve the quality of their intimate relationships and to enhance their pleasure in their day-to-day lives. As a result of 20 years of teaching women how to restore their natural femininity, Deonesea has developed a unique approach that combines practical principles and embodiment techniques to guide her clients through a transformational journey of restoration and reconnection to themselves and to their intimate others. To see how her teachings can benefit you, see her website . Follow me on Facebook and Instagram for more info! Read more from Deonesea La Fey