Written by Martha Maria Smith, Bilingual Coach Martie Smith's journey as a Resilience Ambassador began in Colombia and highlights her steadfast strength and adaptability, from her service in the US Air Force to becoming a Radiation Therapist and a certified personal trainer at 62. An internationally acclaimed author and Poet Laureate, she mentors young individuals and shares her expertise. There comes a moment in life when many of us quietly look at the scattered pieces of our story and wonder whether something went wrong along the way. We replay disappointments. We revisit losses. We examine seasons that felt unfair, unfinished, or painfully uncertain. Sometimes we stand in the middle of emotional debris, questioning whether the dream, the purpose, the innocence, or even the person we once were can ever fully return. “I did not survive to grow bitter. I chose better.” – M. Smith What if the masterpiece was never truly destroyed? What if purpose never abandoned us at all? What if life’s deepest mission is not to create worth from nothing, but to courageously rediscover the original design hidden beneath the dust of survival, fear, pressure, and pain? That realization changes everything. Many people spend years trying to “fix” themselves while carrying the exhausting belief that they are broken beyond repair. Society often rewards performance over wholeness. We become experts at functioning while quietly disconnecting from ourselves. We smile while depleted. We achieve while emotionally exhausted. We carry responsibilities, titles, expectations, and burdens so heavy that we forget we were human beings before we became human doings. Yet even in those moments, something sacred remains untouched. The core of who we are still waits patiently beneath the noise. Resilience, I’ve learned, is not about becoming hard. It is about becoming honest enough to reconnect with what matters most. Sometimes the strongest people are not the loudest in the room. Sometimes strength looks like resting without guilt, asking for help, starting over after hatred, laughing again after heartbreak, trusting again after disappointment, and choosing gratitude while still healing. That is courage. Every human being carries pieces, pieces of joy, pieces of grief, pieces of dreams postponed, pieces of childhood wonder, pieces of unanswered prayers, pieces of victories nobody applauded, pieces of silent battles nobody saw. Somehow, through all of it, we are invited to become restorers instead of destroyers. Not restorers of perfection, but restorers of meaning. I believe the Master’s original plan for humanity was never properly centered on flawless performance. It was centered on connection. Compassion. Growth. Purpose. Love. Service. Wisdom. Community. Light. We were created to build, uplift, and contribute something meaningful to this world, even if our path toward that realization arrived through storms we never would have chosen. Ironically, many of life’s greatest teachers arrive disguised as interruptions. A setback teaches humility. A health scare teaches perspective. Grief teaches tenderness. Failure teaches innovation. Caregiving teaches sacrifice. Adversity teaches endurance. Seasons of uncertainty often uncover treasures hidden beneath layers of distraction and ego. Some of the most compassionate people you will ever meet did not become compassionate because life was easy. They became compassionate because they know what pain feels like, and they made the courageous decision not to spread that pain to others. That is emotional maturity. That is healing. That is legacy. There is also something deeply hopeful about realizing we do not have to carry every broken piece alone. Humanity was never designed to thrive in isolation. Healing accelerates in a healthy community. Hope multiplies when shared. Light expands when people choose encouragement over division. Sometimes, one conversation, one mentor, one prayer, one act of kindness, or one person believing in us during a difficult season can redirect the entire course of a life. That is why empathy matters. Empathy reminds people they are still seen while rebuilding. In a world filled with comparison, pressure, and endless noise, gratitude becomes revolutionary. Gratitude does not deny hardship, it simply refuses to let hardship become the only story. Gratitude notices the small victories others overlook, the breath we still carry, the lesson we survived, the wisdom we earned, the people who stayed, the mornings we rose again despite exhaustion, the ability to begin once more. Sometimes healing begins the moment we stop asking, “Why is this happening to me?” and start asking, “What strength, wisdom, or compassion is this season helping me develop?” That question transforms suffering into growth. It transforms wounds into wisdom. It transforms survival into purpose. The world does not need more people pretending to have perfect lives. It needs more people willing to become living reminders that restoration is possible. That joy can return. That faith can survive uncertainty. That peace can coexist with unfinished chapters. That purpose does not disappear because life has become difficult. A masterpiece is not valuable because it avoided pressure. Often, its beauty becomes visible because it has endured refinement. Perhaps that is true for us as well. Perhaps the scattered pieces were never proof that we failed. Perhaps they were invitations to participate more intentionally in the restoration of our own souls, our families, our communities, and our humanity. Maybe the greatest honor of all is to spend our lives helping others remember that their masterpiece was never actually lost either. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Martha Maria Smith Martha Maria Smith, Bilingual Coach Martie Smith's journey as a Resilience Ambassador began in Colombia and highlights her unwavering strength and adaptability. She exemplifies resilience from her service in the US Air Force to become a Radiation Therapist and certified personal trainer at 62. As an internationally acclaimed author and poet, Martie mentors young individuals, sharing her expertise and spreading messages of hope and resilience globally as a captivating speaker.

Written by Wolfe Lanier, Communication, Public Speaking, and Voice Coach Wolfe Lanier is a public speaking and communication coach with a Master’s in Voice Studies from the Royal Central School of Speech and Drama, specializing in performance anxiety, stage fright, and vocal confidence. He helps professionals and creatives communicate with clarity, confidence, and authenticity in high-pressure situations. When the stakes are high, most people don’t rise to the occasion. We lose the intention to communicate, and we start focusing on sounding polished, respectable, impressive, and in control. Before we even open our mouths, we’re already measuring ourselves against an internal standard. Sound smarter. Be clearer. Don’t mess this up. Sound familiar? The more we try to meet those expectations, the less of ourselves actually comes through. What we gain is an even greater need for control, because we start to leave ourselves behind. This article explores how the expectations you place on yourself, especially in high-stakes moments, are quietly reshaping your voice, your presence, and ultimately, how you’re received. What is communicative performance anxiety Communication performance anxiety refers to the fear, tension, and heightened self consciousness that arise when an individual is required to speak, particularly in situations where they feel evaluated. In psychological research, this is commonly identified as public speaking anxiety, a form of social anxiety experienced during the anticipation or delivery of speech (Bouchard et al., 2022). It is also closely related to communication apprehension, or the anxiety associated with real or anticipated communication with others. This experience is both physiological and cognitive, often involving increased arousal, fear of negative evaluation, and self doubt (Bouchard et al., 2022). At its core, communication performance anxiety emerges when speaking shifts from an act of expression to an act of self monitoring, in other words, when the speaker’s attention moves away from conveying meaning and toward meeting internal expectations of sounding “professional,” “correct,” or “impressive.” What causes communicative performance anxiety Communication performance anxiety is caused not by speaking itself, but by the psychological associations individuals attach to speaking situations. Research on communication apprehension shows that this anxiety is primarily driven by factors such as fear of failure, perceived evaluation by an audience, high stakes pressure, and the experience of being the center of attention (Lumen Learning, 2025). Individuals may anticipate negative outcomes, such as forgetting what to say, being judged, or appearing incompetent, which heightens self doubt and physiological arousal. This is often intensified when speakers compare themselves to others, perceive their audience as more knowledgeable, or believe that important outcomes, such as career advancement or social approval, depend on their performance. As a result, the anxiety emerges less from the act of communication itself and more from the internal expectations and perceived consequences surrounding it (Lumen Learning, 2025; McCroskey, as cited in ). Communicative performance anxiety symptoms Performance anxiety while speaking manifests in various forms, each with its own distinct characteristics. These types include: Your body is doing the most before you even speak. Shaking hands, sweating, that jittery “Why am I like this?” energy. This is your sympathetic nervous system on overdrive. Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Flop. Your heart is racing like you’re being chased. Rapid heartbeat isn’t drama, it’s your nervous system reading the situation as a threat. Your body is prepared to react. The heart is an indicator that it’s go time. Your mouth suddenly forgets how to be a mouth. Dryness, tightness, words not landing the way you planned. Your articulators, Tongue, Teeth, Lips, start to lose mobility. Your stomach drops like you missed a step on the stairs. “Butterflies” aren’t cute here. They’re your body diverting energy away from digestion into survival mode. Your voice betrays you mid sentence. It gets squeaky, tight, or unpredictable. Not because you “can’t speak,” but because your body is bracing. Holding on for dear life! Maybe you can relate to one of the above symptoms or experiences, or maybe you can contribute one of your own. The most important element here to consider is, "How have we identified with the situation that we are presenting in? Is it life or death? Is it exposing me? Is it the first time I get to be vulnerable in front of a large audience, boss, or team?" 7 tips on how to overcome communicative performance anxiety 1. Stop trying to eliminate anxiety, reduce the stakes instead Here's the counterintuitive truth. The goal was never to make anxiety disappear. Anxiety is your nervous system doing its job. The real problem is the story you're telling yourself about what this moment means. That everything is on the line, that this presentation defines your worth, that failure here is catastrophic. It isn't. Start recalibrating the stakes by taking stock of what you've already done. Reflect on your wins, however modest they appear. Look at it as a project completed, a conversation that landed, a skill you didn't have last year. These aren't consolation prizes. They are evidence. Evidence is the antidote to the catastrophizing mind. When you build a genuine record of your own competence, you stop needing the moment to be perfect because you already know you'll survive it either way. 2. Get out of your head and into your body Your body knows. Your body knows. One more time, your body knows. Before your next talk, give yourself five intentional minutes. Not to rehearse. Not to scroll. To check in. Ask your body, actually ask it, where the anxiety is living right now. Is it in your chest? Your jaw? That familiar knot below your ribs? This isn't mysticism. It's neuroscience. Though I will never discredit some mysticism. When the prefrontal cortex and the body's signaling system build a relationship, you stop being ambushed by physical symptoms mid sentence. Our bodies carry protective armor, or tension patterns built over years of feeling exposed or judged. Before you walk on stage, find that armor. Acknowledge it. Tell it, quietly but firmly, “We're safe here. You can stand down.” You may be surprised how much space opens up when you do. 3. Breathe like you’re not being chased You are not being chased by a tiger. You are not in physical danger. You are not going to fall off a cliff. Yet, your nervous system is convinced you might be. That's what performance anxiety is, a threat response triggered by a social situation. The antidote isn't willpower. It's breath. Before you speak, take one slow, deliberate breath. Not a shallow gasp, a real one, down into the belly. Then, silently or aloud, say the words, “I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.” We are establishing a direct signal to your autonomic nervous system that the threat has passed. Do it until it starts to feel true. 4. Stop rehearsing perfection, practice variation Every performance has variables. The room will be too warm. Someone's phone will ring. A baby will cry at exactly the wrong moment. Your throat will go dry on the sentence you practiced most. When you rehearse for a flawless, unchanging performance, you are preparing for a world that doesn't exist, and leaving yourself brittle when the real one shows up. Instead, rehearse adaptability. Give your talk the way you'd tell a story to a friend over coffee. Casual. Present. Connected. If your friend's phone rings mid conversation, do you unravel? No. You pause, you laugh, you continue. That same quality, ease in the face of interruption, is what great communicators have. It isn't talent. It's practice. Stop chasing the performance. Chase the conversation. 5. Name what’s actually happening Your inner critic is not a reliable narrator. It speaks with tremendous confidence, but it is not telling you the truth. It's telling you a story shaped by fear, past experiences, and the desperate need to feel safe. The first step to overcoming it is to name it. When the voice says you're going to bomb this or everyone will see through you, don't suppress it and don't surrender to it. Challenge it. Ask, “What's the actual evidence for this?” “What would I say to a friend who believed this about themselves?” Then, and this part matters, replace the thought with something honest rather than falsely cheerful. Not “I'm amazing and everyone will love this,” but “I've prepared. I know this material. I've done hard things before.” Grounded. Specific. True. That's the thought worth carrying into the room. 6. Slow down where you want to rush The instinct to speed up under pressure is nearly universal. If you speak faster, maybe you'll get through it faster. Maybe they won't notice you're nervous. Maybe momentum will carry you. It won't. What rushing actually does is signal anxiety to your audience, collapse your clarity, and turn precise language into a blur. Pacing is not a stylistic choice, it's a tool for connection. When you slow down at the moments that matter most, you give your listener time to receive what you're saying. You give yourself time to mean it. Slow down! I recommend taking a moment to notice where you feel the urge to accelerate. Those are almost always the places worth slowing into. Breathe. Land the thought. Then continue. Speed is not credibility. 7. Focus on impact, not impression The most exhausting thing about performance anxiety is that it makes the entire experience about you. If you’re thinking something along the lines of, “How am I coming across?”, “What are they thinking about me?”, “Do I look nervous?”, “Do I sound smart?” Flip the frame. Ask instead, “What do I want this person to walk away with?” “What do I want them to feel, know, or do differently because I spoke?” The moment your attention moves from your own image to your audience's experience, something shifts. You stop performing and start communicating. You stop managing perception and start creating connection. Take care of yourself in the lead up. Sleep, movement, space for quiet. Not as indulgence, but as preparation. A regulated body is a present communicator. A present communicator is always more compelling than a polished one. The goal was never to impress. It was always to reach. Start your journey today Communicative Performance Anxiety may feel overwhelming, but you don't have to face it alone. Take the first step toward reclaiming your voice by implementing these strategies. One conversation, one breath, one moment at a time. Whether you're a student, a professional, or someone navigating the vulnerability of being seen and heard, know that you have the power to rewrite your relationship with fear. If you're ready to embark on a journey of deeper self expression and confident communication, book a coaching call today. Let's work together to move past the anxiety and step into the communicator you already are. Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Wolfe Lanier Wolfe Lanier, Communication, Public Speaking, and Voice Coach Wolfe Lanier is a public speaking and communication coach with a background in musical theatre, specializing in performance anxiety, stage fright, and vocal confidence. He holds a Master’s in Voice Studies from the Royal Central School of Speech and Drama, where his work focused on the voice as the center of identity and communication. He has worked with clients including Google, Goldman Sachs, Zoom, and has supported TEDx speakers. He works with professionals, leaders, and creatives to help them speak with clarity, confidence, and authenticity in high-pressure situations. Reference: Bouchard, S., Dumoulin, S., Robillard, G., Guitard, T., Klinger, É., Forget, H., Loranger, C., Roucaut, F.-X. and Goulet, A. (2022) ‘Public speaking anxiety decreases within repeated virtual reality training sessions’, Frontiers in Psychology, 13, p. 915825. Available at:

In a digital landscape shaped by constant algorithm shifts and cultural nuance, marketing is no longer just about visibility but about understanding how people communicate across borders and platforms. Drawing from a multicultural journey between New York, the Dominican Republic, and Europe, this conversation explores how SEO, inclusivity, and human-centered strategy intersect in modern digital marketing. Rocio Sanchez, SEO-First Brand Strategist Can you share how your journey from New York City to Paris shaped your approach to digital marketing, particularly when it comes to cultural understanding and inclusivity? My journey didn’t simply start in New York and end in Paris. I grew up between New York City and the Dominican Republic, so multiculturalism was part of my everyday life long before I entered marketing. After studying Advertising and Marketing Communications at FIT in New York, I moved to Paris, later spent several years in Amsterdam, and eventually returned to France. Living across different countries reshaped how I see culture and how I understand communication itself. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that you can’t approach global marketing with a one size fits all mindset. Good marketing starts with curiosity and listening. Different cultures communicate differently, use different platforms, and even define trust differently online. In Europe, for example, platforms like WhatsApp play a much bigger role in business communication than they do in the United States. That experience shaped my “SEO first” and human centered approach to marketing. I’m interested not just in what people say, but how they communicate, where they communicate, and what makes them feel seen. Inclusivity, to me, starts with paying attention. You emphasize an "SEO first strategy" in all aspects of digital presence. Why do you believe SEO should be at the core of a business's online marketing? An “SEO first strategy” goes beyond Google rankings and tackles the very understanding of how the internet actually works. Today, nearly every digital platform is driven by an algorithm. Google is an algorithm. Instagram is an algorithm. LinkedIn, YouTube, TikTok, even the search function inside platforms like Gmail or Google Drive, all of them are systems designed to organize and surface information. Businesses often treat these platforms as isolated spaces, when in reality they all work together as part of a larger digital ecosystem. That’s why I believe SEO should sit at the center of a business’s online presence. It creates cohesion. Your website, your messaging, your content, your visual identity, and even the language you use across platforms should reinforce one another. For service based businesses especially, your website becomes the home base, the one digital asset you truly own long term. An SEO first mindset also helps business owners think beyond digital trends. Instead of chasing every new platform or algorithm update, you begin focusing on clarity, discoverability, and consistency. That creates a stronger foundation for sustainable visibility over time. In your work with queer, BIPOC, and values driven founders, how do you ensure their unique stories and perspectives shine through their digital strategies? One thing I’m very mindful of is that no community is a monolith. A queer founder is still an individual. An entrepreneur of color is still an individual. Their lived experiences matter, but so do their personality, communication style, goals, boundaries, and strengths. That’s why I always start with the person before the brand strategy. A big part of my work is helping founders figure out what actually feels sustainable and authentic for them instead of forcing them into whatever trend is dominating marketing conversations. For example, if someone feels deeply uncomfortable on video, I’m not going to push them into building a video first brand just because Instagram favors Reels. Strategy has to work with the human behind the business, not against them. From there, we explore how their lived experience naturally informs the way they communicate, build trust, and connect with community. Sometimes identity is front and center in the brand. Sometimes it’s simply part of the lens through which they operate. Both experiences can and do exist within my clientele. To me, inclusive marketing is less about performative representation and more about creating space for people to communicate honestly, clearly, and on their own terms. What’s the biggest shift you've seen in how businesses approach digital marketing, especially with the rise of AI and evolving algorithms? The biggest shift I’ve seen is businesses scrambling to adapt to AI, often without fully understanding how dramatically it’s already reshaping online behavior, content creation, and digital strategy. Whether people love it or hate it, AI tools like ChatGPT are already changing how consumers search for information, how businesses create content, and how professionals structure their services. I’ve seen some business owners become more empowered because AI helps them organize ideas and move faster. At the same time, I’ve also seen professionals, especially copywriters and creatives, lose work because many companies assume AI can fully replace expertise. In reality, AI is only as useful as the context and strategy behind it. That’s where experienced marketers still matter. Tools can generate content, but they can’t automatically understand nuance, audience behavior, business goals, or cultural context. AI can accelerate execution, but it doesn’t replace critical thinking or human judgment. I also think we’re entering an era of digital overwhelm. There are now endless AI tools, platforms, and systems promising instant results. Ironically, that makes strategy even more valuable. Content is still king, of course, but businesses still need clear direction and informed discernment. How do you help entrepreneurs balance the technical aspects of SEO with the more human centered approach to marketing that you advocate? SEO is both technical and deeply human. On one hand, there are the structural foundations, site architecture, metadata, search intent, indexing, analytics, and all the technical systems that help people discover a business online. On the other hand, there’s the human side, how a business communicates, what it stands for, and how it wants people to feel when interacting with the brand. A lot of entrepreneurs start by trying to do everything themselves, and I support that. But eventually many hit a point of diminishing returns where the technical side becomes overwhelming or too time consuming to manage strategically. That’s usually where I step in. My role is not only to strengthen the technical SEO foundation, but also to help founders clarify how they want to present themselves online. We talk about brand voice, communication style, boundaries, audience trust, and long term visibility, not just rankings. To me, human centered marketing means remembering there are real people on both sides of the screen. The technical strategy should support the human experience, not overpower it. Many service based businesses struggle to differentiate themselves online. What is the most common mistake you see, and how do you help them correct it? One of the biggest mistakes I see is businesses treating platforms like Instagram or TikTok as mandatory “do or die” marketing strategies without fully considering the long term energy, consistency, and resources those platforms demand. Social media can absolutely work, but many founders underestimate how time intensive it is to constantly create content, stay visible, and “feed the algorithm.” I often work with entrepreneurs who feel immense pressure to perform online even when the process is actively burning them out or pulling them away from the work they actually enjoy doing. A big part of my approach is helping people step back and look at the bigger picture of their digital ecosystem. Instead of building a business entirely around short term visibility, I encourage clients to strengthen more sustainable foundations like SEO, website content, brand messaging, and long term discoverability. In the end, strong marketing comes from understanding your strengths, your audience, your capacity, and creating a marketing strategy that you can realistically sustain over time. As a queer person of color, you often discuss the importance of setting boundaries in the digital space. How do you recommend professionals, especially in marginalized communities, protect their mental health while maintaining a strong online presence? One of the most important things people can do is stop treating constant online visibility as a requirement for success. Social media platforms are designed to reward urgency, consistency, and emotional reaction, and over time that can become incredibly draining, especially for people from marginalized communities who already navigate higher levels of scrutiny online. For me, protecting your mental health starts with having a clear sense of direction and values. When you know why you’re showing up online, who you want to reach, and what role a platform actually plays in your business, it becomes much easier to set boundaries around it. I also believe sustainable marketing is slower than many people want it to be. A lot of online culture pushes instant gratification and constant output, but long term visibility is usually built through consistency, clarity, and trust over time. Sometimes there will be seasons where you’re more visible online, and other times where you need to step back. That’s normal. I don’t think people should feel pressured to organize their entire lives around feeding an algorithm. How do you define "curious confidence," and how can business owners cultivate this mindset as they grow their digital presence? To me, curious confidence is the balance between openness and self trust. Curiosity is what pushes you to learn, experiment, ask questions, collaborate, and stay adaptable. Confidence is what allows you to make decisions, take action, and accept that not every choice will immediately succeed. I think a lot of business owners struggle because they believe confidence means having all the answers before making a move. In reality, growth often comes from being willing to try something new, evaluate the results honestly, and adjust along the way. That mindset is especially important in digital marketing because the landscape changes constantly. Algorithms evolve, platforms shift, and consumer behavior changes over time. If you approach everything with fear or perfectionism, you end up frozen. Curious confidence creates room for experimentation without losing your sense of direction. It’s also how I approach client relationships. I see clients as collaborators, not just customers. I want people to feel informed and involved in the process, even when the technical side of SEO or digital strategy feels overwhelming. I think trust goes a long way when people feel comfortable enough to ask questions and learn as they go. Looking ahead, what do you think will be the most important factor for businesses to stay visible and relevant in the digital space over the next five years? I think the businesses that remain visible over the next five years will be the ones that continue investing in strong digital foundations instead of relying entirely on trends or automation. Even now, I’m still surprised by how many service based businesses either don’t have a website or treat it as an afterthought. In an era shaped by AI generated content and rapidly changing platforms, having a clear, well structured, search friendly website becomes even more important, not less. A website is one of the few digital assets a business truly owns long term. It gives people a central place to understand who you are, what you offer, and why they should trust you. From there, strong SEO foundations, clear messaging, accessible design, and cohesive branding all work together to support long term visibility. I also think businesses will need to become more intentional about quality over quantity. As the internet becomes increasingly saturated with automated content, originality, clarity, trust, and human perspective will stand out even more. Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn and visit my website for more info! Read more from Rocio Sanchez

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Written by David Fisher, Global Public Speaker and Communication Coach David Fisher is an award-winning international speaker, executive communication coach, actor and author. Named one of LA Weekly’s “Top 30 Entrepreneurs to Watch” and a Top 10 Speaking Coach by Yahoo Finance, David brings over two decades of experience helping teams communicate and lead with passion, clarity, and intention. Deeyah Khan calls it extreme listening and it’s an appropriate phrase. It is not easy to do, especially when tensions or disagreements are deeply rooted in emotions and belief systems. Extreme listening is extremely powerful. One of the greatest gifts we can give another is the gift of feeling heard. Feeling heard creates understanding and connection. We let the other person know they are important when we hear them on a deep level. Behavioural psychologist and professor at Cornell, Vanessa Bohns, states in her book “You Are More Influential Than You Think” that there is a law of reciprocity. Although this can go beyond communication, if you give the gift of someone feeling heard by you, they in turn will have the desire to also truly hear you. There are narcissistic individuals in the world who may not recognize this, but for most people, when you allow someone else to feel heard, they are more likely to hear you too. Deeyah Khan does this with white supremacists. Deeyah Khan, a child of Pakistani and Afghani parents, is clearly an outsider amongst right wing hate groups. Yet she says this “Hate is a disease that can only be cured through love and understanding.” and “The path to peace begins with understanding and dialogue, not violence and hatred.” In her podcast interview with Simon Sinek, “I've never had a conversation like this.” He, a Neo Nazi leader, said, “I've done so many interviews and I get to be the big, bad Nazi in all of those interviews, which are considered very successful interviews for me. Typically, they go two ways. One is either I get to dominate the interviewer and so I win, or the interviewer basically puts me in a corner and so then I get to continue with my victim story. So I went either way, ‘I win.’” He said this went somewhere else. He said nobody has been willing to listen and nobody has shared with me how they feel. He said, “I don't quite know why, but I would like to continue talking.” How do we make an impact? We listen more than we talk. What Deeyah does is brilliant. By deeply listening, she gains trust. But she also does not let them off the hook. She is clear that she disagrees with them, and she calls them out on their hate. Watching a white supremacist squirm at a difficult question confronting their beliefs and not get defensive or angry only comes from first building trust and connection. More than one hate group leader has turned toward peace by talking with her because they realize they cannot like her and stay in their belief system of oppression. Here is a good way to do it that is born from my communication experience and my time spent in improv and acting classes. Introducing The Seven Layers of Questions A conversation I had while doing a workshop recently went like this. A brave volunteer came up to join me on stage in front of several hundred people to answer my questions. A brave soul for sure. I will call her Maria. Me: Nice to meet you. Maria: Nice to meet you too. Me: May I ask you some questions? Good to ask permission. Maria: Yes. Me: What do you hope to learn from this workshop today? Maria: I want to communicate with others better at home and work. Sometimes I get nervous in meetings or difficult conversations. Me: So there is some anxiety when conversations go deeper or become complicated? Maria Yes. I find I get nervous and clam up. Me: Tell me more about that. Maria: Well, I have teenage kids, and you know, sometimes they talk back, and then I just react rather than really listen and that usually ends in an argument. Me: So your emotions get heightened. What does that feel like for you? Maria: I feel my heart racing, and my brain gets foggy. What I am learning here so far is really helping. Me: Tell me about your kids. It is grammatically a sentence, but it really is a question. Maria She tells me about her kids. Me: Thank you for sharing that. I smile. I can see that your emotions with your kids also transfer to feelings at work. Can you tell me more about that? The conversation keeps going for seven questions. At any question, I could jump in and share my experiences, but I do not. I ask another question. One true moment that could have derailed me from asking more questions was when Maria brought up her teenagers. It would be very tempting for me to say, “Oh, I have teenagers too and let me tell you about mine.” If I do that, I will steal her story. I take away her energy. I take away the gift I give her of feeling heard. So instead of sharing my story, I ask about hers. If this were a casual conversation that went longer, I would have circled back when her story seemed complete and brought up my kids, but for now, this is her moment to shine and feel heard. Eventually, she will ask about my kids, or there will be a pause to reflect and return to share other stories, but for now, the spotlight is on her. Maria is feeling heard. There is also a commonality and connection point I can come back to later. The difference is that this now feels like a connection and not a competition. Instead of saying, “Oh, your kids let me tell you about my kids,” I went deeper with her. Three points of wisdom here If it starts feeling like an interview or an interrogation, stop asking. Share a common story or go another direction. If they are asking you many questions too, that is great. Make sure you stay balanced. Allow them to ask some questions, but circle back and go deeper. “Hey, I know you mentioned a minute ago about your teens, tell me more about them.” If they never ask you a question, decide if the exchange of energy is worth it. It is okay to politely end the conversation. I was at a Frank Turner concert by myself when a man about my age came up to me and struck up a conversation. I appreciate that, as I am sometimes too shy to connect with strangers, even though I teach this stuff. After about ten minutes of asking him questions and him sharing stories, I realized he had never asked me one question about me. Not one. As an experiment, I wanted to see how long it would take. I started to tease out information to see if I could pique his curiosity. “I was a film actor.” “I travel the world doing public speaking.” “I tried to play guitar once.” More often than not, these provoke questions from others because people want to know more. He never bit. Twenty five minutes later, the concert started, he left, and he had never asked one single question about me. For me, this was a fun experiment, but not a collaborative conversation. All my energy was focused on him and nothing was reciprocated. However, when there is balance, it is a profound experience between two people. You will continue to go deeper and connect more strongly with each other. It is a dance where both of you are leading. Although there is an occasional stepping on the toes, a grace and elegance synergize the hearts and minds of two people. I have seen and experienced humans of different ages, religions, political beliefs, cultures and even language barriers begin to form strong bonds with each other. At the heart of it all, most of us have the same fears, hopes, joys, and passions. We all want the world to be a better, cleaner, safer place. It is significant how deep these feelings can take you. Vanessa Van Edwards, founder of The Science of People, has numerous studies and tips on having great conversations. If you want to know how to start a conversation, ask good questions, and just as importantly, how to end a conversation, look at her work. Reflection time Write down some good conversation questions. You cannot ask “What do you do for a living” or “How are you.” Get creative. Follow me on LinkedIn for more info! Read more from David Fisher David Fisher, Global Public Speaker and Communication Coach Through A Culture of Us™ David Fisher teaches companies, institutions, and everyday leaders how to work with passion, communicate with clarity, and lead with intention, all toward strengthening their connections to create positive change, while having fun along the way. His keynotes, workshops, coaching sessions, and trainings are not just about bettering communication and leadership, they are about genuine transformation. His approach is simple: A Culture of Us™ helps each of us tap into the hero within, and use that power toward working with others and leading with vulnerability and strength.

Written by Sophie Anderson, Burnout Prevention Specialist | Creator of AMBP™ | Coach, Speaker, Author Sophie Anderson is an ICF-certified coach, speaker, and writer. After 25 years working in high-pressure corporate roles, Sophie knows exactly what it feels like to juggle huge workloads, constant pressure, and burnout creeping up. She now helps busy professionals worldwide protect their energy, manage their workload better, and avoid burning out. You don’t have time for burnout, and you probably don’t have time to prevent it either. If you’re a high achiever running non-stop and telling yourself it’s just a busy patch, this one’s for you. These five simple swaps don’t take time; they simply trade what’s draining you for what actually fuels you. Most people don’t have time for burnout, and they don’t have time to prevent it either. They hope things will settle once this project is over, once this person leaves, once the kids are older. We keep trying to solve an energy and time crisis by doing more, and it’s not working. We lose track of time, we can’t find the time to do the things that we love, and our relationships are deteriorating. Yet, the to-do list is real, and there’s no way to slow down right now. Don’t worry, I’ve got you. People don’t always realise how much power they have, and how much small changes compound. This article introduces five swaps that don’t take time. Rather, they trade what drains us for what fuels us. Are you already there? If you are familiar with the Anderson Model of Burnout Prevention, you will find that you are likely in the activation zone or in the over-functioning zone. Tension, fatigue, brain fog, being productive non-stop, and using coping strategies just to keep going. You could be thinking it’s “just a busy patch.” The real problem The reality is that even when this workload or this project is out of the way, something will take its place. And if you are a hard worker and a high achiever, chances are your to-do list is endless, and people add to it consistently. You don’t need more time, and it won’t get better magically. You need to swap what depletes you for what replenishes you throughout the day. Below are the most powerful shifts to get you started. Why your go-to coping strategies aren’t actually rest Scrolling, TV, working on mindless projects and tasks, planning, drinking alcohol, and other coping strategies can feel restorative, but they actually trigger anxiety and deplete the nervous system. The reason they feel like rest is often simply that you are still for a while, not because of the activity itself. In fact, you are still thinking, and you are still emotionally involved. This is not rest; it’s escape. Your nervous system stays activated, and your body and mind become depleted, which can lead to burnout. 5 new ways to spend your time Implementing these powerful swaps can change your days, weeks, and eventually, your life. Swap 1: Morning scroll to a more energising and positive start to your day Try a few minutes sitting outside with your morning drink, a light stretch, a meditation, prepping a healthy snack, pulling an oracle card, or intention-setting. Don’t let the external world enter your energy for at least the first hour of your day. Swap 2: Coffee all day and alcohol all night to nervous system-friendly alternatives that work too Instead of coffee to stay awake, try beverages that don’t affect your nervous system as much but still give you a boost: soda water with ice and fresh citrus, ceremonial good-quality cacao, or hot or cold green tea. Then, instead of alcohol to relax and fall asleep, try a herbal tea, a mocktail or alcohol-free beer or wine, or a low-caffeine cacao. Swap 3: Mindless TV or scrolling to genuine rest that truly restores you When we’re exhausted, it’s tempting to throw ourselves on the couch and scroll or watch TV. I do it too. Try yoga, stretching, calling a friend, a gentle walk, reading a book, listening to an inspiring podcast, or simply sitting outside and looking at the stars. Light a fire if you can, recreate a camping or holiday mood to signal to your nervous system that it’s safe to rest. Swap 4: Podcasts on your commute to a transition that doesn’t add to your mental load Mental clutter is real. Your brain needs rest. It needs to sit with existing ideas sometimes. Try a mindful ride home. Focus on what you’re seeing around you, what you can hear and feel. Tune into your body and senses as you’re transitioning home. Take deep breaths. Look around you without thinking about anything specific, just observing. Swap 5: Working more to stay afloat to the real positivity hack, recover, reflect, and plan Replace pushing through, even when you’re exhausted, with taking real, restorative breaks between tasks. Then use the time you would usually spend working after hours to reflect on what you’ve achieved that day, check in with your goals, and plan for the next day. A clear plan reduces mental fatigue. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People calls it “sharpening the saw,” and it has been demonstrated many times over that more work does not equal more output. The right preparation and planning do. The transition is tricky Is it easy? No. Is it impossible? Also no. I won’t lie, when we start implementing these swaps, it can feel very uncomfortable, hard, even boring at the start. But don’t give up until you notice the positive changes; then it becomes easier. Small shifts compound. Every single swap creates a ripple effect on health, energy, focus, and time. Try one thing at a time and watch the ripple effect it creates. “It’s not about doing more. It’s about doing differently.” Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Sophie Anderson Sophie Anderson, Burnout Prevention Specialist | Creator of AMBP™ | Coach, Speaker, Author Sophie Anderson is a burnout prevention specialist and the creator of the Anderson Model of Burnout Prevention (AMBP™) - a practical framework that maps how burnout accumulates across three zones: Activation, Over-functioning and Depletion, and identifies the intervention points that stop professionals from crossing the threshold into burnout. She works with professionals, leaders and organisations across Australia and worldwide through personal coaching, keynotes and workplace wellbeing programs.

Sophie Anderson is a burnout prevention specialist. She is an ICF-certified coach, speaker, and writer who helps professionals explore new ways to work and live so they can wake up energized about the day ahead and go to bed satisfied with what they have achieved. After 25 years in high-pressure corporate roles, Sophie understands firsthand what it feels like to juggle demanding workloads, constant pressure, and the slow creep toward burnout. Today, she supports busy professionals around the world to protect their energy, manage their workload more effectively, and build resilience in ways that are practical and sustainable. Sophie Anderson, Burnout Prevention Specialist and Certified Coach How does your approach to burnout prevention empower individuals to achieve sustainable results in both personal and professional areas? Burnout prevention starts with a realistic to-do list and gathering the resources we need to complete those tasks and achieve our goals. I help people see clearly what they can control, and what they can let go of to achieve this. Clients make small yet impactful changes like setting boundaries, delegating, or taking breaks, and I support them to stay on track. How do your evidence-based coaching programs specifically tackle burnout prevention? Burnout is created by chronic stress caused by an imbalance between the demands and resources in our life. My programs help them recognise the elements of this imbalance and what they can influence, and control. They start to prioritise effectively, manage energy, and build small habits that make a big difference. I also use my Anderson Model of Burnout Prevention™ (AMBP™), so people can see where they are and what to do next. What unique strategies do you use to help organizations foster a culture of wellbeing that extends beyond traditional workplace programs? I combine education, self-awareness, and self-leadership. I teach how the brain works under stress, how resilience develops, and what science says about burnout. Coaching helps people understand patterns and take practical steps to stay well, engaged and productive. Unlike generic programs, my approach is tailored and teaches employees how to make meaningful, sustainable changes. What role does self-awareness play in your coaching methodology, and how does it lead to long-term transformational change for clients? Self-awareness is the ability to understand ourselves, and it makes behaviours and thinking patterns visible. The AMBP™ is a self-awareness tool that shows which zone people are in – activation, over-functioning, or depletion – and what they can do next. How do you tailor your coaching programs to address the specific challenges faced by high-performing individuals in the corporate environment? High performers often overcommit, struggle to delegate, and tie their value to outcomes. Coaching focuses on prioritisation, boundaries, and leadership mindset so they perform at their best without exhaustion. If you’re an employer wanting to support your team’s wellbeing, or an individual seeking burnout prevention and resilience support, I’d love to connect. I offer keynotes, workshops, and one-on-one coaching. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Sophie Anderson

Written by Alice Patterson, Holistic Health Practitioner Alice Patterson is a holistic health practitioner, mindfulness and meditation guide, and creator of the RISE method, blending reflexology, Reiki, and energy healing helping people reconnect with their natural state of well-being for over two decades. From the kitchen table to the ceremony circle, from the midnight phone call to the treatment room: The quality of the space we hold for one another has the power to shift the collective experience of being alive. Quietly, the ripples extend into the invisible fabric of how we move through the world, together. The most ordinary extraordinary thing You don’t need a platform to change the world. You don’t need a movement, a microphone, or a mandate. You don’t need letters after your name or years of training or the perfect words at the perfect moment. You need the willingness to be truly present with another human being. This is not a small thing dressed up in humble language. It is genuinely one of the most radical acts available to us. Most of us were never taught how to do it. Not because it wasn’t important, but because the people who raised us weren’t taught either. We were taught to fix. To advise. To silver-line and solution-find our way through someone else’s pain as quickly and tidily as possible. We were taught that discomfort (theirs or ours) was a problem to be solved, not an experience to be witnessed. So, we all show up for the people we love armed with the best intentions while lacking the tools. The subtle ways we miss each other There is something most of us sense, even if we have never had the words for it. A quiet knowing that people deserve more than we were taught to give. (Remember, you are a person too.) Not more effort, we are already giving everything we have. More presence. More willingness to simply be with someone in their experience, without needing to change it. That sense humming quietly below the surface is a compass leading us all to better understand how we can connect with each other. It shows up everywhere, once you start to see it. In the partner who jumps to reassurance before the sentence is even finished. In the parent who, desperate to shield their child from pain, accidentally teaches them that their feelings are too much, too messy, too inconvenient to sit with. In the friend who changes the subject just a beat too soon. In the colleague who wraps your struggle in a motivational quote and calls it support. None of these people are failing out of indifference. They are failing out of a deep, inherited discomfort with not being able to make it better. We have been missing the mark. Holding space for someone is not about making it better. It is about making it safe enough to be real. Nowhere is that mark more quietly off track than in the relationships we hold closest. The loneliness of being loved but not met There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes not from being alone, but from being with someone who cannot quite meet you where you are. A partner who loves you deeply but disappears or knee-jerk reacts when your discomfort surfaces. A parent who does their absolute best, who never learned that presence is sometimes more powerful than “answers.” A child who stops bringing you the hard things, not because they stopped having them, but because somewhere along the way, they learned that it made you uncomfortable. This is not a blame story. It’s a repeated pattern story. We pass these patterns down like heirlooms, not out of carelessness, but because we were never shown another way. Most of the people who raised us were never shown either. So, generation after generation, we love each other as fully as we know how, while quietly missing each other in the places that matter most. The good news is, the act of holding space is an art. Holding space is not a personality trait you either have or you don’t. It is a practice. Like any practice, it begins with a single moment of awareness. A world that has forgotten how to sit still We live in a world that is increasingly loud, fast, and uncomfortable with stillness. We scroll past each other’s pain, rush through checkout lines without making eye contact, sit across from a struggling coworker, and stare at our screens because we simply don’t know what to do with what we’re sensing. But human beings are wired for connection. Beneath all that noise, we are quietly, constantly, reaching for it. So, we stumble along. Doing our very best. Reaching for connection while not having much of a clue as to what we are doing. Trying so hard, and often feeling defeated when that connection feels just out of reach. It doesn’t have to be this way. It doesn’t have to be hard or complicated. It starts with learning how to hold your own space and then sitting with others. Imagine if you could simply sit still and allow the noise around you to swirl on by. What’s left? That’s where space holding begins, and where it finds fertile ground to grow. Once it has its roots and begins to bloom, it spreads like wildflower. Every time someone chooses presence over comfort, in the grocery store, in the school pickup line, in the office, in the home, something shifts. Imperceptibly, perhaps. But it shifts. Those shifts accumulate. They ripple. They reach people and places we will never see or know. This is how the world changes quietly. It becomes even more profound when we step into roles where people are actively seeking us out for support. Those who have chosen to walk alongside others The therapists and counselors. The coaches and mentors. The yoga teachers and bodyworkers. The grief companions and community elders. The nurses and doctors. The acupuncturists and TCM doctors. The holistic health practitioners and energy workers. If you are in any of these roles, you already know that what you are offering goes far beyond technique or training. They come to you in pain. They need somewhere safe enough to fall apart and someone steady enough to remain present while they do. Because holding space for another person’s pain, fear, grief, their unraveling requires that you have done significant work in your own interior world. Not that you have it all figured out or that you are without your own tender places. But that you have learned to sit with discomfort. Your own first, and then others’. Without needing to escape it. An unexamined wound in the space holder does not disappear. It participates. The deeper the healing work being offered, the truer this becomes. Which raises something that too few in the healing world are asking (and they really should be). How can I hold space for others without taking it on, and without creating an invisible forcefield? When the work flows through you instead of into you There is an experience that many space holders and healers know intimately. Where you leave a person carrying something that wasn’t yours when you arrived. Where the emotional residue of someone else’s process lingers long after they have gone. Where, over time, the weight of it accumulates in ways that are hard to name but impossible to ignore. Often people are told to create “forcefields” or boundaries between themselves and the person they are caring for. This is a way. But from a lifetime of experience, believe me, it is exhausting for the one creating it and builds barriers for vulnerability and healing to surface for the one being cared for. This is not an inevitability of healing work or holding space. It is an indication that the container (meaning your inner space) needs tending. When space holding becomes conscious and you learn to be the grounded container rather than the absorber, everything shifts. You are no longer in the experience with the other person. You are the ground beneath it. Steady, present, and fundamentally unmoved because you are rooted deeply enough that everything can move through freely. Their grief, their fear, their breakthrough, their silence flows through the space and out, without attaching to you on the way. This is an art. An art that can be learned. You do not need to carry others’ experiences when holding space. You simply need to learn how to ground properly. Your loved ones/clients feel it too, often before they can articulate it. There is a quality of safety in a truly held space that cannot be faked or manufactured. It is felt in the body before it is understood by the mind. It is that felt sense of being genuinely held that allows vulnerability to feel safe enough to surface. When people feel truly safe, truly met, truly held… their shifted experience extends far beyond the held space. It goes home with them. It changes how they show up for the people in their lives. It moves through families, friendships, communities. This is how the world changes. Quietly. One held space at a time. Nowhere is that more sacred or more consequential than in the deepest transformational work available to us. The reverence required for sacred ground We are living in a time of remarkable awakening around the power of transformational modalities, including somatic practices, breathwork, ceremonial healing, and among the most profound and ancient of these, plant medicine ceremonies. These are not casual spaces. They are not wellness trends dressed up in ritual clothing. They are sacred containers and some of the oldest healing technologies known to humanity. They demand something from the people who hold them that goes beyond certification, beyond training, beyond even years of experience. They demand presence. Real, embodied, unshakeable presence. When someone enters into deep, transformational healing, they are not signing up for a fun vacation experience. They are surrendering. They are placing something extraordinarily precious into the hands of the person holding that space. Their psyche, their nervous system, their trust, their very sense of self. They may encounter grief carried for decades. They may face things they have never been able to face before. They may go to places within themselves that are completely beyond words. What they need in those moments is not someone who is managing the room. They need someone who has learned to be unafraid of the depths and is capable of being the grounded container. The reverence required to hold deep healing experiences, especially plant medicine ceremonial space, is not something that can be manufactured. It is cultivated. Slowly, humbly, and with enormous respect for the intelligence of the medicine itself and the profound vulnerability of the person in its care. This is the gap that is rarely spoken about openly in these communities. Training in the modality is not the same as training in how to hold the human being within it. That distinction matters enormously. Because the healing that happens in these spaces doesn’t stay there. It travels home. It reshapes lives. It moves through generations. One thread, running through all of it Whether you are a parent sitting with a child who cannot find the words, a friend holding the phone at midnight, a therapist navigating the tender architecture of someone’s pain, or a ceremonialist tending a sacred container through the long hours of the night, you are doing the same essential thing. You are saying with your presence: this is a safe place to be vulnerable. The scale differs. The setting differs. The depth and the stakes differ, but the root of it remains constant. The willingness to remain present without agenda, to witness without flinching, to hold without fixing. That’s the thread that runs from the kitchen table to the ceremony circle, from the ordinary to the profound. Every one of us is a space holder. Not just the healers. Not just the trained professionals. All of us, in the moments we choose presence over comfort, are participating in something that quietly changes the world. The question is not whether you will hold space for the people in your life. You already are. The question is, are you a safe space holder? A signal worth following Imagine if holding space was something we understood as a collective basic language of being human together. A way of moving through the world that says, "I see you, I hear you, and I’m not afraid to sit with you." If you have read this far, something in you already understands what safe space holding is because some part of you is longing for it. Either to receive it more fully, or to offer it more consciously. Or both. That longing is not accidental. It is a signal. The world is shifting. People are waking up to the need for something more real, present, and honest in the way we show up for each other. That shift begins in the quiet decision to learn how to truly be with each other. If you feel called to explore this more deeply, whether you are navigating your everyday relationships, currently in or stepping further into a healing role, or holding some of the most sacred work there is, I would love to continue this conversation with you. On June 22nd, 2026, I will be holding a free webinar talking more in-depth about the art of safe space holding. Click here to register. And if you are looking for more one-on-one attention, my online guidance sessions are always available. Visit my website for more info! Read more from Alice Patterson Alice Patterson, Holistic Health Practitioner Alice Patterson calls herself a Peace Insurgent, and after two decades of holistic health practice, mindfulness teaching, and helping people find the quiet beneath the chaos, she has earned the title. She is the creator of the RISE healing method, the Allow Peace framework, the Safe Space Holding practitioner training, and a mindfulness workbook series called The Space Within Us. She is also an emerging speaker, a storyteller, and your all-natural pain reliever. No prescription required.

Written by Catherine Divaris, Mental Health Occupational Therapist Catherine Divaris is a mental health Occupational Therapist, Emotional Regulation Coach, and Founder of Mind/Mom Potential. She empowers individuals & organizations to build mental resilience, master emotional and nervous system regulation & perform effectively in high-demand environments, with a focus on high-functioning women and mothers. Someone asks you what you do for fun, and you pause. Not a short pause. A long, searching one. The answer that comes out is something like, "I spend time with my kids," or "I take them to the beach." Which is beautiful. But it is not an answer to the question that was asked. Nobody took your hobbies away. There was not a single moment you can point to. It just happened. Slowly. The yoga class you kept meaning to go back to. The book you were reading before the baby came. The friendship you kept saying you would nurture once things slowed down. One by one, they quietly left the building, and life just kept moving. Here you are. High functioning. Showing up. You have done the parenting courses, read the books, know the research on secure attachment and emotional regulation. You are good at this. But you look in the mirror, and the woman looking back at you is a mother. Just a mother. Somewhere underneath all of that, you have a feeling you cannot quite name. That this is not the whole of who you are. Here is what nobody says out loud, especially in circles where women have fought hard for their children. Gone through IVF. Loss. Years of trying. The shame of saying, "I need more than this." The unspoken rule that if you wanted this badly enough, you should be satisfied. That needing your own life somehow takes something away from them. You can love your children so completely that it reshapes your whole world and still need something that belongs only to you. These two things are not in conflict. In fact, research in psychology consistently shows that a mother with her own sense of identity, her own interests, and her own inner life raises children who feel more secure. Your wholeness does not threaten your children. It protects them. So how do you come back to yourself when you have been away so long you have forgotten the address? This is where I use the CALM Container Framework with my clients. Four steps, not to fix you, but to bring you back to yourself. C – Connect Before anything else, come back to your body. Not your to-do list. Not your thoughts about your thoughts. Your body. Put one hand on your chest and breathe. Notice what is actually there. Your body is the most honest information you have access to, and most of us have learned to bypass it completely. A – Accept Look at where you are without judgment. Not "I should have done this sooner" or "What is wrong with me?" Just: this is where I am. Radical acceptance, as Tara Brach and Jon Kabat-Zinn teach it, is not resignation. It is the only honest starting point. You cannot move from a place you refuse to acknowledge. L – Lead From that grounded, accepted place, ask yourself what the wisest next step is. Not the most dramatic overhaul. Not a complete life restructure. One small, effective move. DBT calls this the wise mind, that place where your emotional self and your rational self meet. What actually works here, right now, for you? M – Move Not metaphorically. Literally. Move your body. Walk, stretch, dance in your kitchen. Energy that has been compressed into the role of caretaker needs somewhere to go. Movement is how you remind yourself that this body belongs to you, not only to the people who need things from it. This is not a self-improvement project. It is a homecoming. You are not a bad mother for wanting to come back to yourself. You are not selfish for needing a life that is yours. You are, in fact, a better mother for it. More than that, you deserve it simply because you are a person, not because of what it does for anyone else. The woman in the mirror has not disappeared. She has just been waiting for you to come looking. If right now, even looking at that reflection feels like too much, that is okay. You do not have to have it all figured out before you begin. What I do with my clients is not about going back to the woman you were before children. That woman was wonderful, and she is also gone. What we are doing is something more exciting than that. We are shaping the version of you that exists inside motherhood. Someone new. Someone who holds all of it. If you are ready to start that conversation, I would love to connect. Book a call, and let’s begin. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Catherine Divaris Catherine Divaris, Mental Health Occupational Therapist Catherine Divaris is a mental health OT, Emotional Regulation Coach, and founder of Mind/Mom Potential. After over a decade working in mental health and corporate settings, she began to see a consistent gap. While there is no shortage of advice on what to do, there is far less support for how we regulate ourselves to actually do it. Following her own journey into motherhood after IVF, Catherine expanded her work to support high-functioning but overwhelmed women navigating the mental load of modern life. Through her CALM Container framework, she empowers individuals and organizations to build mental resilience and master emotional and nervous system regulation. Her mission: Mental health is the foundation for how we live, lead, and parent.

Written by Joshua Bennett-Johnson, Licensed Counselor & Owner of JBJ Counseling For nearly 14 years, I've helped individuals navigate the complex landscape of addiction in order to achieve recovery. Nicknamed "The Casual Counselor", my approach is unconventional but undeniably effective. Ahhhhh, “therapy”, what does that word make you think and feel? For most of us, it conjures a peaceful sanctuary in which a beautiful, plush velvet couch sits, a box of tissues on the side table, and a soft-spoken, gentle, kind helper asking, "How does that make you feel?" And that tracks. It does. But is the therapeutic sanctuary always and exclusively empathetic, sympathetic, and perpetually warm? While those elements are the building blocks, or bricks, of the foundation of the therapeutic alliance, the answer is, “Hell no! Not on your life!” Sanctuary is great. Our own cozy respite, a place where we feel lovingly heard, seen, known, and, well, loved. Those cannot serve as the all the time catalysts for change. If you’re in the business of helping people heal within the wholeness of themselves, you need to honor all of it, and “all of it” can be some pretty gritty shit sometimes. It’s because we helpers are human looking glasses. “I’ll be your mirror,” Nico, may she rest in peace, reminding us that real therapy is a vivid reflection of the real world, which can get real serious sometimes. Worlds. The world out there, and the world within. Real therapy is getting a really good look at it, and sometimes we’re going to get really pissed off at what the mirror is reflecting back. Mirrors don’t lie to make a client feel better, especially when that client is in need of a nudge, challenged to examine forever-held beliefs and coping strategies, patterns that, objectively, we would definitely describe as toxic and unhealthy, or inconsistent patterns of practicing “dos”, new action steps they’ve never tried before. The list is too long to list, but you always lead these efforts with love if you want a shot at being a good enough helper. I’ve been on the receiving end of anger, defensiveness, an impulsive urge to flee therapy, or sometimes fight. Hopefully with words, but I once had a chair thrown at me while I ran a group because “I skipped him” after he had already shared two times. Other people had stuff to share. Sometimes things break. But I also knew that he didn’t launch the chair because I didn’t call on him. It was a trauma response. He missed me by about eight feet, by the way. Industry speak calls these moments “therapeutic ruptures”, and they’re actually where the most profound work happens. Can’t get a handle on a rupture with a person who truly believes in you, supports you, and loves you, loves you more than you even know? Good luck on the jagged, sharp edges of a serious and often callous world that doesn't give an atom of a damn about your triggers. Buckle up. Therapy must not be a vacuum, an always-biased echo chamber. It’s more similar to an organic psychological ecosystem that grows within a society that’s commonly indifferent, systemic, and cruel. A broken world in many ways. Lots of breaks. We go see a helper, and with us, we bring hope along with myriad traumas born from things like violence, systemic oppression, betrayal, resentment, self-hatred, despair, and desperation. Grief. Sometimes, suicidality is from incomprehensible hopelessness. Things are going to break in the world: death, possible societal collapse, divorce, and job loss. When disaster strikes, those aren’t lighthearted “tea party” sessions. When disaster strikes, our job is to acknowledge, honor, and reflect back these moments because they’re real. They are really happening. If therapy’s goal is helping our people learn how to live again, we need to reconcile that it’s going to be predicated on survival mode, true grit, and some cold, hard work. It. Is. Going. To. Suck. It is. Then it gets awesome. Many people pull the ripcord before that shift because the shift to awesome can take a long freaking time. Compassionate and tender, in that place that most often serves as our sanctuary of peace and refuge, you’ll sometimes hear raised voices, brutal honesty, loud silence, and harsh criticism aimed at the helper. Some people, even some professional helpers, might call this “a violation”. I call them signs of life. It gets hot when the volcano blows. Feelings suppressed for literal decades. Deep wounds. Secrets draped in shame that have never been spoken aloud. Getting called out for feedback you offered or an observation you noticed. It isn't pretty. Neither is life sometimes. If you’re going to help people in the most effective way, depending on where they are coming from, gentle and loving might provide them a disservice. The wholeness. The full spectrum of the human experience. You don’t extinguish the fire from the volcano. You lean in. Yeah, you get burned. But burns heal. Those sessions? I always ask myself, “I wonder how they’re feeling?” Because those sessions have me feeling shook. We forget so often: therapy isn’t intended to be a luxury. It’s a model built on high-stakes necessity. Picture a swimming pool. There’s the shallow end, and the deep end. You’ll always find more people in the shallow end because it’s safe. Even fun. We can feel the floor beneath our feet. We know we’re not in danger. It’s an easier and more optimistic place. Therapy, real therapy, that’s the deep end. A couple of people, maybe. But no one is holding hands or tossing a beach ball. The deep end takes work. It’s also only safe if we’re taking action to tread water or dive under. There are also many more interesting things to be found in deep places. But we need to be cautious. Cautious because people get lost in the deep end. They can drown. Once, during an assessment in my small office, a burly guy suddenly became convinced I was an undercover policeman. He was experiencing psychosis mixed with alcohol. If I hadn't been able to de-escalate the situation and steer him from my suite, well, I would have had a hard time if he had gotten violent with me. That’s life sometimes. Things get serious without a moment’s notice. Life is not always gentle, and therapy, at its most honest, is a reflection of the ecosystem of life. All of life. It’s not only going to be the glory of kindness or the ascension to self-love. It’s not really up to us anyway. But the willingness to confront what’s happening in the room when things get ugly, that’s the ultimate empathy. That’s an act of love. Don’t turn away. Not from the good, the bad, or the ugly. Confront it. Just always remember to lead with love, the love of the vast wholeness of you, me, and everyone you see. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Joshua Bennett-Johnson Joshua Bennett-Johnson, Licensed Counselor & Owner of JBJ Counseling After working for 7 years in an amazing clinic, I launched into private practice in 2018. I love my job. I can say that without reservation. Watching people rebuild their lives is something that is worth more than any dollar amount.

Written by Rebecca Emery, Founder & Managing Director Rebecca Emery is the founder of Not Born Yesterday, a London-based PR agency specialising in founder-led businesses. With over 10 years of experience building and protecting the reputations of high-profile founders and leaders at some of the world's biggest brands, she now helps tomorrow's biggest brands do the same. In my daily interactions with founders, ranging from early-stage startups to established scale-ups, I am frequently asked how to effectively communicate major business milestones. A recurring topic is the funding announcement, often framed around the singular question: "I have a press release, so who should I send it to?" However, personal passion for a business does not guarantee media interest. What feels like monumental news internally for a day may not necessarily resonate with the press. Then we come to the most common issue I address. Most founders think of a funding announcement as a single moment, the day the press release goes out. Let me tell you right now, it isn’t. It is a sequence of moments. Each stage builds on the last, and skipping any of them is what makes good news land badly. So let me break down the four steps I recommend to our clients at Not Born Yesterday when it comes to announcing a fundraise. Get your story right early on Before you go anywhere near a journalist or a draft press release, you need your messaging straight. That starts with a one-liner, a single jargon-free sentence that says what you do, for whom, and why it matters. If you cannot deliver it in under 12 seconds and have a non-specialist repeat it back to you, keep working. From there, build out the rest of the messaging document: a 50-word boilerplate covering the problem, solution, why you, and traction; three to five key messages; and concrete proof points underneath each, including your customer numbers, technical milestones, market data, and team credentials. This document is the spine of everything that follows. Share it with your co-founders and team so everyone tells the same story. Inconsistency is what makes founders sound forgettable. While you are at it, make sure your messaging actually answers the questions you will be asked: What do you do? What problem are you solving? Where did the idea come from? What traction can you show? Why are you relevant now? Who are your competitors, and how are you different? How do you, or will you, make money? The runway to success This is the stage most founders compress, and it is the stage that hurts most when you do. Map your media targets. Focus on three to five journalists or titles where your ideal investors, customers, and hires read, not just every outlet you can think of. Then start building relationships with them before you need them. Speak to your clients and partners early about whether you can use their names externally. Permissions take longer than you think, and chasing logos, headshots, and quotes in the final week is where good announcements quietly fall apart. Activate your LinkedIn. Founders at this stage should be posting opinions, insight, and milestones, not just announcements. By the time the funding news lands, your profile should already feel like a place where people pay attention. And do not leave it to the week before to bring in external support. Good comms need a runway. The announcement itself and telling the story Media interest is driven by the specific problem your business addresses and its current relevance. Journalists prioritise the “why now” and “what’s new.” To secure coverage, your narrative must be insightful, disruptive, timely, or entirely new. You should clearly articulate the destination of the capital, whether it is intended for hiring, entering new markets, or transitioning a concept into a functional product. Most importantly, if budgets allow, you can bolster your pitch significantly by providing fresh, unique data that ties into your wider story on launch day. Working with a third-party data provider is always recommended. This enhances both your credibility and the overall strength of your argument. Effective stories often centre on fresh funding, products, markets, or data. A few things not to do at this stage. Do not believe the adage that all PR is good PR; the internet does not forget. Do not lie or provide numbers you do not want to be held to later. Do not underestimate how interesting your own insights and trend data can be. The pattern you think is obvious is often the most quotable part of the story. The afterlife where the value of PR compounds A fundraise announcement is a moment, but the work that follows is what builds your reputation. Consistency across channels creates a cumulative impression that no single piece of coverage can achieve on its own. Think in three categories. Earned, such as press, podcasts, awards, and analyst mentions, creates social proof for the people you have never met. Owned, including LinkedIn, blogs, newsletters, investor updates, and long-form thought leadership that you control, compounds over time and is increasingly essential for being found at all. Shared, including speaking slots, ecosystem partnerships, industry bodies, and peer reputation, builds the warm networks where the next round of investors and hires actually come from. Keep showing up across all three, and the next announcement, whether it is more funding, a product launch, or a milestone, lands on much warmer ground. A single funding round will get you a day of headlines. The communications discipline around it is what gets you the next one. Follow me on Instagram and visit my website for more info! Read more from Rebecca Emery Rebecca Emery, Founder & Managing Director Rebecca Emery is the founder of Not Born Yesterday, a London-based PR agency specialising in founder-led businesses. With over 10 years of experience building and protecting the reputations of high-profile founders and leaders at some of the world's biggest brands, she now puts that expertise behind the brands of tomorrow. Rebecca works hands-on with ambitious startups and scale-ups across sectors, helping founders build the kind of media presence that drives real results. Not Born Yesterday goes beyond your traditional PR agency, acting as a true communications partner that combines honest counsel, impactful storytelling, and agile strategy to deliver the outcomes today's brands actually need and want.

Written by Aura E. Martinez, Self-Discovery & Empowerment Coach Aura E. Martinez is a Self-Discovery and Empowerment Coach helping women reconnect with themselves, gain clarity in their purpose, and create lives rooted in fulfillment, confidence, and emotional well-being. Many women spend years searching for fulfillment through external change while quietly feeling disconnected from themselves. This article explores the hidden emotional toll of self-disconnection, why external success does not always create inner peace, and how reconnecting with yourself can transform the way you live, feel, and heal. The self-disconnection epidemic nobody is talking about There are women everywhere quietly convincing themselves that what they need is a different life. A different relationship, a different career, a different city, a different routine, or a completely different version of themselves. While external change can sometimes be necessary, many women are not truly craving a new life. What they are truly craving is reconnection with themselves. They are emotionally exhausted, disconnected, uninspired, overwhelmed, numb, or silently unfulfilled, yet they keep searching outside of themselves for the answer. They tell themselves that once they finally move, heal, achieve more, earn more, lose weight, become more productive, or start over somewhere else, they will finally feel alive again. But what happens when you change the environment and still feel empty inside it? That is the part many people do not talk about. We live in a world that constantly teaches women to perform while slowly disconnecting from themselves in the process. Women learn how to survive, adapt, achieve, give, accommodate, nurture, and continue functioning no matter how emotionally drained they feel internally. Many become experts at appearing “fine” while privately feeling disconnected from who they really are. The dangerous thing about self-disconnection is that it rarely happens overnight. It happens slowly and quietly over time, often without women even realising it is happening. How women slowly disconnect from themselves Self-disconnection happens every time you ignore your intuition because you do not want to disappoint someone else. It happens when you continue tolerating situations that no longer feel aligned because familiarity feels safer than change. It happens when you become so consumed with responsibilities, expectations, deadlines, relationships, and survival that you stop checking in with yourself emotionally. Many women become so focused on who they think they need to be for everyone else that they eventually lose connection with who they truly are for themselves. After a while, the body begins expressing what the soul has been trying to say for years. When the body speaks what the soul has been holding Sometimes self-disconnection looks like emotional exhaustion that rest cannot fix. Sometimes it looks like constant overthinking because you no longer trust yourself. Sometimes it looks like irritability, heaviness, anxiety, numbness, lack of motivation, emotional burnout, or the quiet feeling that something inside you no longer feels fully alive. Many women misinterpret these feelings as personal failure. They think they are lazy, dramatic, unmotivated, ungrateful, or incapable of happiness. But often, what they are truly experiencing is the emotional consequence of living disconnected from themselves for too long. Why external change alone is not enough One of the biggest misconceptions about fulfillment is the belief that clarity arrives through pressure. Women pressure themselves constantly to figure everything out immediately. They want certainty about their future, relationships, purpose, next step, identity, or career path. But clarity rarely arrives through force. More often, clarity arrives through reconnection. It arrives when you finally slow down enough to hear yourself again. It arrives when you stop abandoning your emotions simply to maintain comfort, approval, or peace with others. It arrives when you stop asking yourself what looks good externally and begin asking yourself what actually feels aligned internally. So many women have built lives that appear successful from the outside while internally feeling emotionally disconnected and deeply unfulfilled. They continue functioning because they have become highly skilled at surviving. But survival and fulfillment are not the same thing. A woman can be productive and disconnected. She can be accomplished and disconnected. She can be admired and disconnected. She can even be surrounded by people and still feel profoundly disconnected from herself. Therefore, external change alone is not always enough. You can change jobs and still feel lost. You can enter a new relationship and still feel emotionally empty. You can move somewhere beautiful and still carry heaviness with you. Because when disconnection exists internally, it eventually follows you everywhere externally. Reconnecting with yourself again The truth is that many women are not actually lost. They are disconnected from their own voice, intuition, needs, desires, emotions, and truth. Somewhere along the way, they learned to prioritize everyone and everything else while emotionally leaving themselves behind. The beautiful thing is that self-reconnection is possible, but reconnecting with yourself requires honesty. It requires creating enough stillness to notice what is truly happening inside of you instead of constantly distracting yourself from it. One of the first ways to reconnect with yourself is to begin paying attention to how your body feels around certain people, situations, and environments. Your body is constantly communicating with you, but many women ignore tension, heaviness, exhaustion, anxiety, or emotional discomfort because they have normalized surviving in spaces that no longer feel aligned. Your body often recognizes misalignment before your mind fully admits it. Learning to listen to yourself again is one of the most powerful forms of self-trust a woman can develop. Another important step in reconnecting with yourself is learning how to spend time with yourself without immediately trying to escape through distractions. Many people stay constantly busy because stillness forces them to confront emotions they have avoided for years. But self-reconnection requires presence. Sometimes reconnecting with yourself looks like sitting quietly with your thoughts instead of immediately reaching for your phone. Sometimes it looks like journaling honestly about how you truly feel. Sometimes it looks like taking a walk without noise simply to hear yourself think again. These moments may seem small, but they create space for clarity, awareness, and emotional reconnection. Asking yourself the questions you’ve been avoiding Self-reconnection also requires asking yourself difficult but necessary questions. What no longer feels aligned in my life? What am I tolerating that is emotionally draining me? Where have I abandoned myself for approval, comfort, or familiarity? What do I truly want beneath all the expectations placed on me? Many women spend years living according to what they believe they “should” want without ever asking themselves what they genuinely desire. Over time, that creates deep emotional disconnection because a woman cannot feel fulfilled while continuously betraying her own truth. Rebuilding self-trust Reconnecting with yourself also means rebuilding self-trust. So many women no longer trust themselves because they have spent years dismissing their intuition. They second-guess their feelings, minimize their emotional needs, and convince themselves that what they feel is not valid. But healing often begins when a woman finally starts listening to herself again instead of constantly overriding what she knows internally. Self-trust is rebuilt every time you stop ignoring what you feel. It is rebuilt every time you set a boundary instead of betraying yourself to keep others comfortable. It is rebuilt every time you choose honesty over performance and alignment over fear. Growth changes people. Awareness changes people. Healing changes people. The version of you that once tolerated certain things may no longer be willing to tolerate them now. The version of you that once stayed silent may now desire authenticity. The version of you that once settled may now crave purpose, alignment, depth, fulfillment, and peace. That is not failure. That is evolution. Coming home to yourself Self-discovery is often misunderstood as becoming someone completely new. In reality, self-discovery is frequently about returning to the parts of yourself you abandoned while trying to survive, belong, please others, or be enough for everyone around you. It is about reconnecting with your truth beneath the noise and remembering who you are underneath the pressure to constantly perform. Sometimes, the most life-changing thing a woman can do is not completely reinvent her life overnight. Sometimes, the most transformative thing she can do is finally reconnect with herself and realize that the clarity, peace, fulfillment, and certainty she has been searching for externally were always waiting for her internally all along. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and visit my website for more info! Read more from Aura E. Martinez Aura E. Martinez, Self-Discovery & Empowerment Coach Aura E. Martinez is a Self-Discovery and Empowerment Coach, author, and founder of Live to the Max™/Viva al máximo™. Through her work, she helps women reconnect with themselves, gain clarity in their purpose, and create lives filled with fulfillment and certainty. After traveling the world as a Flight Attendant, Aura discovered powerful insights about emotional well-being, self-awareness, and personal growth that now shape her coaching approach. She is the author of Creating a Lifetime of Wellness and Creating a Lifetime of Wellness Journal. Her work has been featured in Spirituality & Health, Psychology Today, and Natural Awakenings NYC Edition.