You Can't Fix Yourself By Breaking Someone Else
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 13, 2022
- 2 min read
Written by: Karin Glannstam, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
It's a lot easier to hurt others with our pain. That's why we hurt others with words and actions. Or we hurt ourselves. - Brene Brown
The majority of people do not intend to hurt or harm others.
However, many do cause harm, not because it's their intention, but because they are too stuck in their own pain and suffering to consider the needs of others.
Hurt people will often hurt others.
These people are not in a state of love.
They cannot love themselves and others. In others words, they cannot give away what they don't have.
"People who love themselves, don't hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer." - Dan Pearce
Some people can't love us.
And it's not because we are unlovable. It's because these people's capacity to love is impaired. Often these people are so scared to get hurt that they are constantly protecting themselves from further hurt by avoidance, neglect, rejection or trying to hurt others before they can hurt them. I have learned that some people we just have to learn to love from a distance.
It doesn't mean that we don't love them, but they are so unhealthy to be around and their lives are so filled with drama, and maybe even addiction that the only thing we can do is to let them go and love them from far away.
"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help others, at least don't hurt them." - Dalai Lama
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Karin Glannstam, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Karin Glannstam is a Personal Success Coach specializing in helping people successfully get back on track after life has knocked them down She has self-published 4 self-help books and she writes a weekly newsletter and blog. She is also very passionate about, fitness, health, and well-being and she runs a private Facebook group, Empower Yourself To Succeed. Born and raised in Sweden, Karin started out working as a nurse. In 1987 she moved to the US and today she spends her time between Texas and Sweden. Her mission is to inspire, empower and educate others to create a powerful vision for their life, develop a game plan and then take action on that plan to bridge the gap from where they are today to where they want to be in the future. Karin's motto is “Be Courageous, Take Action & Make It Happen!”
