You Are Not Your Avatar – 6 Steps To Always Remember That
- Sep 15, 2022
- 4 min read
Written by: Ilaria Storch, Senior Level Executive Contributor
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The more comfortable we will get with technology and “perfection and speed,” the more we will have to (re) practice being comfortable with our human “imperfections” – are we only going to live through holograms and avatars it seems? That is why I suggest we remember, daily, our human connections and skills, show them to the new generations – let us all be spontaneous, as well as tech savvy, and open space for a lot of conversations and feelings.
What does it mean?
1. Understand the tools, not succumb to them
Around and near me, I see kids who were born into all this new technology – they have all the tools and speed needed to study and work. I understand, use, and love technology, and it obviously depends on electricity too. And here is something for you to think and feel: you are already a body of energy! And tech screens seem to drink out your energy and doze your minds off – the more appliances and tech you use, the more your body, mind and soul will have the necessity to reach out to human and nature contact. Tools are here to serve you, not you succumbing to them.
2. Emotions and speed
Speeding up emotions, or emotional processes are not always advisable, and each person goes through highs and lows in their own time and way – it´s not upon a whim, or like calling in something from an app and having it delivered asap. Emotions need to be addressed and help must be asked, from a therapist, coach, or professional doctor, when things get tough. And even when things are going well, always invest in your growth and wisdom – you can help those near you too.
3. Can you blend meditation, real hugs, and Apps?
There are so many of these questions ‒ let´s not hurry and rush into the answers, let your mind and body dig deeper into what you feel are the answers for you. I love active meditations like occasionally washing some dishes by hand, or folding laundry – it´s a great centering exercise and stimulates contemplation.
Yet do you feel exhausted and tired some days? Here I think Apps totally nail it – just click and do your relaxing steps with it. Just be aware of the space around you, have you hugged your loved one today, or your pet, or even your favorite pillow?
4. A little drama and mess
Yes, the drama of personal relationships. It can be diminished and eased, with a lot of inner work, coaching, and a new mindset. And, hopefully, only tweaked, not eliminated, so that you always keep in touch with your emotions. People make us nervous sometimes, yes, just like technology, when it crashes, or you must learn a new program.
And what about the mess, the feelings, the unpredictability that real puppies, or old pups, bring? A bit of mess and drama is part of what keeps you grounded – with your hands on the world, feeling its pulse, close to your very real heart.
5. The real stuff
Taking care of your wellbeing is real, going out for dinner, or cooking in, is real, exercising and working is real, playing with your kids and pets is real, taking your aging parents to the doctor is real. I understand you have the urge to escape reality, maybe it´s painful right now, yet the true answers are in connecting and asking for help. Remember that, please.
6. You are, before your Avatar is
Spontaneity, higher intelligence, flow, and intuition are part of your sauce – I love some apps and some of them were created by loving people to truly help other people. Pay attention, like food labels, on what truly sounds real and true to you.
Your cute new little avatars may know how to pretend to love, smile, dress uniquely and all, because you designed them to be like this – because you know these feelings as the human being you are – yet they are a fictional world – you are real.
When walking both ways to the middle, it´s normal, and enlightening, to sometimes overdo it, towards one way or the other – this is an important reminder that you are a soulful human, not a machine, who has the power to think and decide. This need and power, to stop and decide, has been blurred and eroded, when you get addicted to technology, or other related collateral issues. Ask for help. Reach out to friends and colleagues. You are a beautiful being of light and are stronger than you think. Put distance and perspective from your Avatar – it´s a byproduct of how we all need to navigate in the media right now. You are the real deal.
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Ilaria Storch, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Ilaria Storch, a Life Coach Nomad, is the creator of Life Coach Nomads, where she shares her passion for travel and for inspiring people everywhere to access their true center and find more connection and energy on the way to more joy, fun, and fulfillment. She practices that following your emotions, wrapped up in a personal structure that can connect your goals, desires, and love, is the path to all real and true growth. Wherever you are, change is nomadic by essence, and it takes time, support and starts inside you when you absolutely desire to develop yourself and move on. She has a Bachelor´s Degree in Advertising, speaks many languages, won a Fashion Illustration Award during College, and loves coaching her clients towards their expressive life journey.
