Why You Are Getting Rejected In Your Relationships Over and Over Again?
Beatrice is a multi-award-winning Therapist, Hypnotherapist, CBT Therapist, Trainer, and Author! Beatrice has experience in working with people from all over the world. She is passionate about helping people transform their lives, heal, and manifest their ideal relationships.
One of the reasons why you are getting rejected in your relationships it’s because you are rejecting yourself. If you dive deep and you look at your relationship with yourself you will see that so many of you are not even able to stay five minutes and look in the mirror at yourself and say something nice to yourself.
You reject yourself
You put yourself down
You are criticising yourself most of the time and call yourself names.
Think about if you would do that to your best friend, how would be their reaction?
I’m sure if you would do that to your best friend they will leave your life very quickly.
So your Specific Person is mirroring the Relationship you have with yourself.So if you are doing all of these to yourself and you even say to yourself that you are not good enough.
Smart Enough
Pretty enough
Not important etc
Then they would believe these are their thoughts and they are doing it.
What you believe about yourself reflects out from you and they will believe it too.
How do you send your thoughts to your Partner?
You send them your thoughts through telepathy.
And they believe these are their thoughts and they are doing it.
They might reject you or staying in the same room with you but they are on their phone, or their friends are more important.
Anything else is more important than you.
Why do you Reject yourself and you don’t feel good enough?
One of the reasons why you may reject yourself it’s because when you were a child, you felt unloved, rejected, your parents were more busy working, even though that was for you to be able to offer you a better life and buy you everything they could.
When you are a child you are dependent by your parents to love you, to support you, be there for you, as a child you don’t need material things. You need love, attention, care, you need to feel you matter and you are important.
And if your parents were not so good at showing you that then you start rejecting yourself, you don’t believe you matter or you are important.
A child will never stop loving his parents but will stop loving himself, because they believe is their fault that their parents are not showing them love. They believe it’s something wrong with them. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with you! You matter and you are important and if the Universe put you on the planet, will support you 100% .
How can you attract your Specific Person and reignite that love and passion like in the beginning?
First of all there is no one to change but you. Everyone is you pushed out!
What I mean by that is everyone is you pushed out in your reality.
They are only mirroring back to you what you have inside, wounds, limiting beliefs, assumptions, convictions about you and about them.
They don’t even know they are doing that!
You need to change your assumptions about yourself, about them, about love, Relationships. After that you need to work and change limiting beliefs, and get to feel safe in giving and receiving love.
Develop a great relationship with yourself and forgive yourself for all the times you put yourself down, for all the times you thought you are not good enough.
For all the times you believed you are not worthy of love.
And I would recommend you to write a letter to yourself like this example and personalize it the way you want and add everything you want:
Exercise for healing Anxiety and Toxic Relationships!(Toxic relationship can be the one you have with yourself).
It is a Letter of Forgiveness to yourself that I invite you to write too.
You can do the one below, or you can write a personalization based on what you feel is appropriate to call your past versions.
Dear [your name],
Today I choose to look at myself with gentleness and love.
I choose to forgive myself for every wrong step, every moment when I did not put myself first, every moment when I forgot how valuable I am. I ask for forgiveness for all the moments when I judged myself too harshly, when I thought I was not good enough, beautiful enough, intelligent enough, or worthy of love.
I now know that merit is better in life, and my worth is not defined by the mistakes of the past, but by the light I carry within me.
I forgive myself for all the times I have ignored my intuition, chosen to settle for less than I deserve, put the needs of others before my own desires.
Today I release myself from guilt and regret.
I choose to look at myself with the eyes of my soul, to accept myself as I am, to love myself with all my being.
I deserve gentleness. I deserve joy. I deserve to live free from the past, with a heart open to a future full of love, abundance, and peace.
I forgive myself. I accept myself. I love myself. With gratitude and love,
[Your signature]
This is just an example. You can write whatever you want in your self-forgiveness letter.
The goal is to develop a gentler relationship with yourself.
Be more kind to yourself.
The. Longest Relationship you will ever have is with yourself!
You will gonna be with yourself until the day you are not going to be anymore on this earth!
You are loved in your Relationship the way you love yourself!
As I said earlier, you need to start accepting yourself, loving yourself.
Take yourself out on a Date sometimes. Buy yourself flowers, a little gift sometimes.
Praise yourself, there is nothing on this Earth that will boost your Self esteem more then your own praise.
When someone is praising you they might have an agenda, but when you are doing it yourself, your mind will accept it as being true.
Your specific person does not have free will in relation to you! He will do what you command him to do through your own thoughts, convictions.
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Beatrice Zamfir, Transformational Therapist, Hypnotherapist, Author
Beatrice is an expert in helping people who have been through toxic relationships. She is dedicated to her career, where she is learning different methods that will help people change their lives for the better!, Heal, and manifest the person they love back or a new relationship!
