Why New Year’s Resolutions Are Keeping You Stuck, and Alignment is the Real Comeup
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 12
- 4 min read
April ADionne "Your Dream Pusher" Williams- Known as a firestarter for transformation, soul alignment, & healing people to live life out loud. Author of (Visionary Dreamer 90‑Day Journal, Transform Your Life Workbook). Creator & host of Chronicles of Livin' Podcast, ADionne Your Dream Pusher TV & Founder of Regenerating Me, Crystal & Salt Lounge.
Let me say this upfront, so we don’t waste each other’s time. If New Year’s resolutions worked the way they’re sold, January wouldn’t feel like emotional whiplash for half the planet by week two. Gyms would still be packed. Vision boards wouldn’t feel loud and guilty. And people wouldn’t be quietly asking themselves, “Why do I already feel behind?” Yeah… I know. I’ve been gone for a minute, but I didn’t disappear. I was rebuilding, releasing, and realigning. And I came back with receipts. This year, I’m not setting New Year’s resolutions. I’m choosing alignment, and there’s a BIG difference.
Why New Year’s resolutions low-key gaslight you
Let’s call it what it is. Resolutions assume:
You’re broken
You need fixing
You should hurry up and become someone else
Alignment assumes:
You’re wise
You’ve lived
You’ve survived some things
And your body, spirit, and nervous system deserve a vote
Resolutions yell. Alignment listens. And after losing people, illusions, income streams, certainty, cutting access, and versions of myself outgrew… here’s what I know for sure, you don’t need another list of things to become. You need permission to be honest about where you are.
Alignment sounds way different than hustle culture
Alignment asks better questions. Not:
“What will make me look successful?” But:
What actually fits my life right now?
What feels supportive instead of impressive?
What am I forcing out of fear?
What am I holding onto because I’m scared to disappoint people who don’t even check on me?
Sometimes alignment looks like ambition. Sometimes it looks like rest. Sometimes it looks like saying, “I don’t want this version of success anymore.” All of it counts. I talk about this often on the Chronicles of Livin’ Podcast, how we chase goals that don’t match who we’re becoming, then beat ourselves up for feeling exhausted by dreams that were never ours to begin with.
Why this is the year you stop entering January like you’re late
Here’s the part nobody says out loud:
You don’t start a new year as a blank slate.
You start it as a continuation of everything you’ve learned and survived.
And that’s not baggage. That’s wisdom. So instead of ten resolutions you’ll resent by February, try this:
Choose one word, not ten goals: Peace. Ease. Stability. Clarity. Safety.
Build systems, not pressure: What supports you when motivation ghosts you?
Release one thing that drains you: A habit. A role. An expense. A relationship that costs too much.
Decide how you want to feel: Then let your choices answer to that, not other people’s expectations.
Let yourself become slowly: Real growth doesn’t sprint. It integrates.
An unspoken truth
If your goals don’t feel aligned, it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because your soul is done being bullied into performance. That’s why I’m back. That’s why the conversations are different now. And that’s why what I’m building next isn’t about doing more, it’s about doing what’s true. I’m not setting New Year’s resolutions. I’m choosing alignment. And trust me… when you do that? Clarity doesn’t chase you.
It meets you where you stand. And if this message hits something in you, don’t let it stop here. This work lives deeper on paper, too.
If you’re ready to move with more clarity, confidence, and alignment, explore the books that support this season of becoming:
Visionary Dreamer 90-Day Journal, for getting clear on what you want now, not who you used to be.
Transform Your Life Workbook, for doing the inner work that turns awareness into real change.
Lessons I Learned As an Entrepreneur, for navigating reinvention, setbacks, and growth with wisdom earned the hard way.
These aren’t quick reads. They’re companions for people who are done repeating cycles and ready to move differently.
(Click the Links above and below for those who feel the nudge.)
(And yeah… something new is coming for those ready to move differently. Stay close.)
Chronicles of Livin’ Podcast – where real life, realignment, and real talk live. With love and light.
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April ADionne Williams, Dream Pusher, Soulpreneur, Energy Alchemist
ADionne Williams, “Your Dream Pusher,” C.E.O. of Regenerating Me Essentials, Crystal and Salt Lounge, is a high-energy transformation wellness and life purpose coach. She survived losing loved ones to illness and violence, single motherhood, all in her 20s. Worked 30+ Jobs, experienced eviction, homelessness, car repo, 56 relocations, before breaking her self-sabotage cycle. In one pivotal moment, she lived for nearly a year at a yoga‑meditation retreat, and that turned out to be her soul’s GPS. There she rediscovered her purpose & has cracked the code on mental and emotional healing and resilience, and has made it her mission to share that blueprint with the world through her healing retreats, courses, workshops, books, podcasts, and TV show.
