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Why Loving Yourself Is Hard?

  • Jun 9, 2022
  • 2 min read

Written by: Tajana Velikinac, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

I often hear from other people I love myself; I know I look good and am ok with myself. Are you really?!

What loving yourself really mean


It is acceptance, but this is not the most important.

Loving yourself means putting yourself in the first place. How we can help anyone else if we don’t help ourselves first. Do you live the life as you wanted or how other people wanted you to live? Do you know how to say “No” when you feel it that way? Do you have the right people around you?


“You Cannot Heal in The Same Environment That Made You Sick”


If you try to be yourself but you interact with people from your past who were stopping you to be You, or with people you know are not good for you, they are not giving you to grow in the way you want. How do you think that you can ever succeed?! It doesn’t matter who they are, you can still love them, keep in touch, help them, and appreciate their existence but don’t give them to keep you in their limiting beliefs, in their fear. We all deserve a better life, love and support and we will get that as soon as we decide what we want to be. This first decision is sometimes the hardest one because this decision is making you break this barrier between who you are now and who you want to become. This decision would break your habits of being yourself.


The second lesson that I learn is to be patient. Meaning of being a patient, it took me a long to understand that. Is not about knowing how to wait, it means being fully aware of what you want and what you deserve. To be patient means to do the best you can and trust life. Trust that everything is coming your way exactly as you need and when you are ready. We can create our future, but we are not choosing when. We have to be ready for our dreams to come true. We have to prepare ourselves for living that life. That means work on yourself, be patient and trust in life.


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Tajana Velikinac, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Tajana is an international Empowerment Coach and motivational teacher. Teaches people about awareness and supports them in their life challenges. To be aware of yourself means to know yourself, not what others have taught you. It is a process of rewriting your unconscious mind. Love yourself means to accept yourself as you are.

 
 

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